Santa's bringing us a baby! Due December 2014! First time mummies!

[EmilyPinkOrBlue]

Hi ladies here's our special December thread for our special Xmas bundles of joy for us first time mummy's!
This is where we can worry about symptoms, how our first child is going to change our lives, what are we going to do about work, how has our partners reacted to our pregnancy, how long have you been trying to concieve, is your car big enough and all other dilemmas!!
Look forward to sharing this special journey with you!
Emily Ttc no 1 cycle 2 edd 4th dec!!

I did! I spoke to my mil before and she said it will be fine, I had it medium rare - I'm sure one won't hurt I haven't been eating properly so was full after my starter and then during the middle of my main meal had to stop for a while to stop myself from urging during each mouthful! Very classy

Good for you - I'm sure you'll be fine too. My sis-in-law certainly enjoyed the rare steaks while she was preggers and she's now got the most perfect baby girl :) ....iron is good for the baby I'm sure!!

Glad you enjoyed your night somerset :)

I think it's all just hitting me now. I'm telling my headteacher at work monday... getting quite nervous!

Peace Your desire for steak is basically your body craving iron and B12. I've no doubt that you can be a healthy pregnant vegetarian but it will take a lot of planning. You need to make sure that you get enough iron from leafy and root vegetables every day but B12 is your main issue as it's only found in animal products, yeast extract and fortified cereals. I only eat fish and chicken and have a history of anaemia so it's a battle at the mo to make sure I get all I need every day and I find my desire for chicken has increased alarmingly in response to the need for iron. If you don't have a big issue eating the steak then you might want to go for red meat during your pregnancy. I haven't eaten red meat for nearly 30 years and the idea makes me sick but I'm not sure if the craving will kick in for me later on.

Good luck telling your thread teacher treacle! I haven't told my mum yet... Need to get on and do that really

Thanks somerset :)
Haha, we told our parents last weekend. I needed to be able to talk to them.

I'm vegan, and taking a pregnancy multivitamin, and also supplementing with Engevita with added B12 - manly because it's something I've eaten for years though! I'm not too worried about iron levels etc as veggies pre pregnancy are almost always aware of their iron intake and tend to not have to worry as much as non veggies (who usually have to increase their iron intake!).

Definitely having a reassurance scan - mainly because I can't get any kind of appointment at my GP in the next two weeks and they're not booking yet for week 3!

It's booked in for 17 may when I'll be 7 1/2 weeks.... Can't wait. The baby is due NYE which will be some party! Hoping it might be a little later than that although I suspect I won't be saying that nearer the time!

So back to waiting... Need to try and put it out of my head which is difficult when my boobs are killing me and unhappily nausea is already hitting ...I should have another 2 weeks being nausea free surely?!

Hi, sorry I haven't really been posting. I'm more of a reader than a poster.

We told my mum on Friday. I started to notice a little brown blood and I was in a right panic so phoned my mum to tell her and speak to her. I phoned nhs24 and they said it's quite common and doesn't mean anything bad. So far there's still little there but a lot less than Friday and it's really only when I pee/wipe to check so I've calmed down a lot. But now seriously considering paying for an early scan to ease our minds/see what the situation is.

I had no idea I'd be worrying while I was so early in my pregnancy. Thought the worrying wouldn't start until the baby was born.

It's constant isn't it mrsmac! I never thought it would be this stressful, and times going so slowly! Just want to know everything will be ok I check for blood everytime I wipe, and i haven't had any spotting or anything so can't imagine how paranoid id be if I had! I wore some new red Jammie's then other day though and the fluff had all come off (sorry tmi) but everytime I wiped I had a complete panic thinking I was bleeding bright red blood wont be wearing those until they've been through the wash a few times!!

Had such a fright yesterday! Fresh red bleeding on wiping at 6pm so we went straight to A&E at hospital where there was a four hour wait! Anyway was sent to the gynae ward to be seen there sooner.

At first the nurse told me they wouldn't scan me as out of hours but when I seen the doctor she said she would do it as next appt not until Wednesday. Firstly though I had a speculum exam and although my cervix was closed they noticed a ectropion on it which bleeding could have come from.

Had to have a transvaginal scan and after a bit of looking about they were able to locate the sac with teeny tiny embryo inside and a small heartbeat. She didn't date me as could not get good measurements but thought I was nearer 5 weeks than the almost 6 Weeks I previously thought.

Got to go back in 10 days time for follow up scan so hopefully all will still be ok then and we will see a bit more. Keeping fingers crossed

Really sorry to hear you had such a scare cooperbug and glad that the scan showed all was okay. Must have been lovely to hear the heartbeat even if it was a real scare. Hope the follow up goes well for you.

Welcome mrsmac, when' your EDD?!

I'm going to book a reassurance scan later in the week after I've been to the GP I think... will see what she says, hopefully that'll go ok. Just exhausted today, and feel like my boobs weigh ton! Seem to be avoiding the nausea for the time being though, fingers crossed it lasts! I think it'll be really hard to hide from people if I can't eat and am feeling pukey!

I thought the 23rd but the GP said 25th December. Don't mind either date to be honest. X

Had midwife appointment today. She’s adjusted my date from 11th to the 10th so I am 7+5 today but has said the date I receive at the scan is the date they will then work from. Apparently if these dates are correct the latest I’ll have the baby is 22nd

She’s made me feel completely at ease with regards to the cramps and the symptoms which disappear one day and appear the next. Haven’t had nausea for a few days now so naturally worried a bit!

I asked her about early scans and she said there were pros and cons so I’m still undecided on this.

Loads of info to read so that’ll keep me busy tonight! Had a blood test and have the form to fill in for my free prescriptions. Scan should be booked in for 4-5 weeks time and then it’s back to the midwife at 16 weeks with a urine sample and we'll listen to the heartbeat then as well. She’s given me details of the antenatal classes and told me to book on to the September/October one as early as poss as it books up quickly.

She was absolutely fantastic and had a fantastic sense of humour. I have her mobile number, the local birthing centre number and the number for the maternity unit at the hospital.

I didn’t ask loads of questions as I’d mainly forgotten them but I came away feeling pretty positive and it definitely feels more real. I can’t wait to go home, curl up on the sofa with a hot chocolate and read through the info

Chilli chicken my due date is the 10th as well :-) I don't have my appointment until the 13th of May but I've just got all excited reading you saying the latest date you'll have your baby is the 22nd as it'll be the same for me!

MrsW I think that what made it feel all so real for me I was a bit concerned she'd say the 24th or something but I get the feeling they avoid inductions over Christmas! I can't wait to get my scan date through now!

Ha ha, yes I would prefer not to be going through an induction on Christmas Day me too, it is my birthday at the beginning of June and would love to have had the scan by then so that I can tell everyone!

I am tired!!!
First day back at work and the kids have run me ragged.

Hey Ho! Glad you had a good day chilly :)

Glad it all went well for you today chilly, makes me feel excited!!

I've been having horrid stomach cramps today, which really concerned me, but the research I've done online all seems to indicate it's only normal - stretching womb adapting etc.. I've had no bleeding, so hope it's alright, but I don't know when I should worry. Also really bloated and think I blooming look pregnant already, when it's only just over 5 weeks. Anyone else the same....?! Oh the joys of pregnancy!

Off to see the GP on Weds anyway, so hopefully she'll reassure me about what's normal and I can ask all my questions - think I need to start writing them down :) xx

I'm the same kate so try not to worry :)

Yeah definitely make a list for the gp :)
Im off to the doctors tomorrow hopefully to be reffered and discuss next steps. Eek!

I'm feeling extremely bloated katej28. My sister keeps telling me I'm having twins as I'm only 7 weeks and got a growing belly. Am going to the midwife on Friday and hopefully will get a early scan. Am also feeling extremely tired. Hope everyone else is well

Warning, rant ahead.....

Honestly, what makes men think that women still have to do everything?! I've been feeling crap (as we almost all have) for the last few weeks, and yet dh still expects me to do everything I did before with no help! Of course I'm not up for cooking when smells are driving me insane and I don't want to eat! No, I don't want to wash up for the same reason! I'm not going to do a billion loads of washing because that's up and down the stairs repeatedly and I'm shattered just trying to stay awake as it is!! No, I won't iron but that's just because I hate ironing. Tried explaining to him, but he thinks because he works full time he should be excused from these jobs. I take him to and from work every day and go to work myself in between, but because of travel time I only work part time. He can't be bothered to fix his bike so I have to keep taking him and therefore I can't increase my hours (even if I wanted to!). I supported both of us for 3 and a half years while I was at university and working 12 hours a week at a supermarket, while still doing all the bloody housework. I love him to pieces but he drives me insane! Most times he defaults to the argument that it's my fault because I made him get a job, or that he wants to follow his dream of making money live streaming games and that work is getting in the way so any other times he has to be streaming.

Just frustrated and needed somewhere to vent, sorry ladies. Going bonkers!!

Oh dear Sasseh sounds like a your dh needs to pull his socks up! Rant totally justified

I sent this to my dh the other day:

www.whattoexpect.com/pregnancy/ask-heidi/pregnant-mood-swings.aspx

Highlighting the section...

"Remember, it's the hormones talking — and yelling, and crying, and attacking you for no apparent reason (so when you say blue and she says pink — go with pink). If you respond in kind to her anger and frustration, you'll only provoke more of the same. Instead, indulge her mood swings with some tenderness (yes, it will be hard) and understanding (sometimes close to impossible). The rewards — a relatively calmer and more grateful spouse (who, incidentally, won't always let you know that she's grateful…so don't expect that pat on the back for your efforts) will be well worth all the teeth gritting you'll have to do to get through the next few months."

Might be useful to highlight to him. Not that I think you don't have any reason to be annoyed, but the general principle that men should agree with you whether you're right or wrong is probably a useful one during pregnancy!!

Wow Sasseh (and I'm super sorry everyone if I'm intruding as I'm not pregnant but just read the threads here from time to time because the hope and joy and loveliness makes me all warm inside. I do have two children, though, so I've been there and done it).

I felt compelled to write to first of all say sorry that you're having to rant about this. It shouldn't be necessary for you to do so. I hope you start to feel better soon.

But also to say, please, for your own sake and that of your coming family, make sure you nip this attitude in the bud right now. He needs to step up. If it doesn't get sorted now you won't be able to rely on him as a father later on and it will get worse and worse. No more selfish and unreasonable expectations of being served on hand and foot by you -Taking care of the home and children is both parents' responsibility regardless of who does more paid work and he's got some growing up to do if he hasn't already worked that out.

All the very best to you and your little one. And to the rest of the mums and babies on this thread. Please excuse me if i have spoken out of turn.

Sounds like sage advice to be Holger. Best to get issues sorted as soon as possible to try and prevent them growing when you'll no doubt both be tired and stressed with a newborn...

Treacle I hope you appt goes well today - fingers crossed you get referred and your GP is better this time around