August 2014: growing bumps and 20 week scans!!!

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Yhh its upto company. Dhs work is specialised and only him his manager and1 other person can do it. But I come first lol.
Bunny it was me complaining about dh and his paternity leave.

I am nearly 20 weeks and felt movement for weeks but no proper kicks yet. I think because I've done this before I know the movement is from the baby. Don't worry if you aren't feeling much yet it will come soon.

The kicks for me have gone up to 'ouch' levels since the weekend. DD was a seriously strong baby, so I'm thinking that DC2 will be too.

There's so many factors which influence whether you feel kicks, position being the main one, that it's really not a surprise that people aren't feeling much / anything yet.

Sleepy Let them know you are pregnant when you arrive they might be able to give you an alternative menu. I wouldn't worry about eating undercooked meat such as beef, I don't eat well cooked meat so I haven't given that up and have even had practically raw beef with no problems so far (our favourite restaurant is a Brazilian churrasco - that's BBQ to you and me). If it's a fancy restaurant all the meat should be good quality and the source will have been tested for bacteria being in safe limits, so for a one off it's probably ok. I'd maybe avoid anything raw though...

Sleepy - just be warned, different countries apply different limits for advised pregnancy diets. I believe in France women are not told to limit soft and unpastereurised cheeses and pates, and have more of the view that, if you were ok eating these things before, you should be ok in pregnancy, and just apply the common sense approach of whether the restaurant is well regarded, looks clean etc. So there is a chance you could tell them that you are pregnant and they would still serve you things seen as OK for pregnant French women, but would be off limits for us.

I have taken the approach of avoiding raw shellfish, salmon etc. But am happy for pink beef, unpasteurised and soft cheeses as I've always been ok with them before being pregnant.

Trust what your gut feeling tells you

Hey everyone.
Just wondering if I can jump in here! I've only just joined Mumsnet. I'm 23+4 weeks pregnant, due 1st August, first baby! We don't know what gender we are having, looking forward to the surprise! As you can guess by my username I am a RAF wife, hubby currently on tour - hoping to be home on R&R when baby arrives, but he only gets 2 weeks so chances are slim.
Just wanting to chat to some other mum's to be due around the same time!

Welcome raf!
Due to circumstances could you ask to be induced? That way baby and dad have more bonding time plus you have help for when you actually need it?
You could go overdue and his 2weeks would seem a little ' wasted'

I will be moving from Peterborough down to East Sussex for my last month, not had a chance to speak to midwives in Sussex about being induced. Hoping that's a possibility, but my midwife in Peterborough was not very positive about the idea! I don't want to go overdue and end up having to be induced anyway when DH has gone away again.
I will have help, I'll be staying with my parents until end of DH's tour. Not the same as DH being home, but at least I won't be alone.

Anybody else with a scan on Thursday? I think we're not going to find out the gender (I'm undecided and my husband wants a surprise).

Don't think I've felt any movement yet though the last few days I've occasionally thought I was feeling something, but when I've paused to check there's nothing to feel. Hard to tell because I have pregnancy digestion so lots of rumbling to confuse me! Hoping it will be soon though (I'm 19+3 today).

I was just reading a few pages back about someone's question about dropping the night bottle? Our 18 month still has one, and I'm in no rush to give it up. It's not "for comfort"- he drinks 210-240 Mls then wants it out. Rest of the day has a cup. One of my friends who is a health visitor still gives her 3 year old a bottle going to bed! I'm sure they will give it up when they are good and ready. It made me really sad when I read that someone's MIL had told the older one that they didn't need it as they were not a baby :-( I don't know how old that little one was, but to me my 18month old is still very young and will have his bottle as long as he wants it (unless he gets to over 3!!!)

Has anyone had any inappropriate comments at work? We have a 45 minute morning corridor meeting- standing up. Recently I've taken to subtly pulling up a chair. On Friday a male colleague accused me of "milking being pregnant"- in front of 10 other staff. So I gave him a mouthful, and will be speaking to his boss's when back from leave!!!

Go polka, sounds like he deserves it. I thought stand ups were supposed to be quick, 45 mins sounds like a long time to be standing irrespective of whether you're pregnant or not! Everyone has been really nice since they found out but I'm sure there will be a point when something unsupportive is said

polka that's horrible!

I don't work, im a sahm and ds1 carer too
so has everyone from the fb group come here today? Theres more of us here than usual not complaining though

I should never have joined the FB group. I do half the work now that I used to and even that wasn't very much... And all I want now is sweets and chocolates, I was doing so well today with my fruit and salad too.

It was my MIL Polka that asked her eldest if she wanted the baby to think she was a baby too, but she would have been 3 at the time and it might have been over the dummy and not the bottle which she never had out of the cot anyway. It worked for her though whatever it was so she was probably ready to give it up.

My work has been really supportive but then my line manger's wife is over 30 weeks pregnant at the minute and has high blood pressure and been put on bed rest so he is very understanding. The only comments I've had are just light hearted jokes regarding "baby brain" and the like, mostly from the cake crew (we meet every Friday at 10.30 and someone brings cake!). If you are getting inappropriate comments at work (that's any comments that make you feel uncomfortable or uneasy) make sure you at least tell your own line manager if not the manager for the person who made the comment. It's a shame you're having to put up with it Polka

Yes, polka don't let people get away with treating you like that at work - I'd definitely have a word with someone about that. I am lucky work-wise because I do most of my work at home so don't really come into contact with many people. I do teach at university too but today was the last day of teaching (hooray!). Honestly I am not sure my students even cottoned on that I was pregnant - it's only really become super obvious in the last few weeks. I casually mentioned it today in one of my classes though and they didn't seem surprised, so maybe they did notice.

Thanks guys. I was pretty mad! I will have a word with the boss and say the comment was noted, and I'll let it go, but won't if it happens again. I work so hard, and have not had a day off sick or any special treatment in this or my previous pregnancy, worked til 36 weeks etc... Hence why it made me so mad! One of my friends was off sick until she was 17 weeks pregnant, and then came back on full pay, but saying she couldn't do any out of hours work as it was an IVF baby. I'm not crit icing her, as we all have different experiences of this whole thing... But have definitely NEV er milked being preggers! Can you tell it made me mad! Grrrr!

Polka- make sure to use the word discriminated when explaining. And for goodness sake log it and your discussion with the boss as you never know when you may need it! There are anti discrimination laws in place for pregnant women which I wish I had been more aware of last time.

What on earth is a corridor meeting?!

Hey had scan today and alls well baby growing beautifully and alls well and .....she's a girl!!! Can't believe it!! Ds knew he would always say "girl" when asked. Feel exactly the same as you bunny baby nice balance to the house now. Apparently the edge of the placenta is touching the top of my cervix so getting rescanned in a couple of months booked a holiday abroad recently does anyone know if the placenta will present a problem for doctor allowing flying or the flight company?
Oh mssleepyhead I don't know!!! To be honest I would probably cancel and book somewhere else I wouldn't be able to relax and enjoy it.

I also had my scan today and found out we are having a girl too! My placenta is also touching the cervix so have got another scan booked too!! She said they usually move as the pregnancy goes on! Congratulations on your baby girl mumtoacub! Xx

Great news on all the scans today! Congrats everyone : )

In the end - I went for it. It was a special chef's surprise meal and I ended up giving DH the foie gras, which I never eat anyway, but then enjoyed the rest. The only thing that could have caused a problem perhaps was some rare pigeon, but I've never eaten that before and just couldn't turn it down! It was delicious though and I'm confident the meat was good.

It was actually a special shopping trip to Paris really. We ended up spending a lot of time (and money!) buying books and clothes for our little French boy, which was really exciting and lovely. Our twenty week scan is tomorrow (at 20+4) and I'm nervous but glad to have gotten away; it really took my mind off it. Just one sleepless night to go now!

Hey all, do you mind if I join?

Im due August 10th and am having a little boy :)

Also RAFwife a hello to you I'm also the partner of serving soldier and like you he will be away on tour when baby is due.

Hi to RAF and Boudica :-) It must be hard without your DP / DH around during pregnancy.

Yay to all the good scans. Such great news.

The meal sounds lovely, mssleepyhead. :-)

Hope everyone is OK.

Hello hungry yes it can be a tad testing at times, I also wish DP wasn't front line and no communication when away :(

Glad everyone's scans parenting well, mine was a nightmare baby boy wouldn't uncurl from his little ball of comfort so we had a repeat and it still was not great but we just about managed to see everything haha.

Good luck with your scan misssleepy

Nice to hear all good scan news.
How did yours go sleepy? Hope all is well

Any watched obem? I watched Mondays last night....