August 2014: growing bumps and 20 week scans!!!

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New thread!!!

Ahhhh havnt posted in ages (waves) and hope everyone is ok?!

Just read back re palpitations, I have them in every pregnancy and Im kind of 'used' to them now. The GP said its normal and so Im not worried. I would say though they are more noticable when I try to relax and it dosent help!!!

We had the 20 week scan today and its a healthy baby boy I'm so glad hes ok...although hes kicking hard now its good to see everything looking like it should.

Hi! Have not been around as on holiday but hope everyone is doing well! We arrived back early hours Tues and had scan in the afternoon! It was really good - we got such a good view of baby and all is well! Placenta in right place too and due date staying at 14th (I must update that) Stuck with our decision not to find out sex although I was trying to sneak a peek! I'v got a feeling it's another boy (this is no 2) which means we really have to try to find a name we both like as we are stalemate on boys names again!
Flymo - will give that some thought and write some things down soon! I think you learn a lot as you go along, which isn't v helpful I know but true!

sleepy and friend I know how you feel with worrying - sometimes I am fine but other times I am absolutely convinced that something terrible will happen or has already happened. I worry I haven't felt movement, then I feel something, then I second guess myself and decide it wasn't really movement at all just gas or something else. Then I worry more!

Welcome to parenthood! I'm not sure it gets easier when they get out either, although you learn to manage the anxiety eventually.

It does get a lil easier as you can see your dc. But it gets harder as theres more to worry about lol.

now you all have me worrying that im not worrying enough! lol. I've never been a worrier and the more others worry the less I do! it's probably just as well cause hubby worries himself sick over anything and everything.

To be fair I do have some existing issues with anxiety, or at least I have had in the past. I do largely have them under control but the predisposition towards anxiety is always there, lurking. The trouble with anxiety disorders is that it can be really hard to figure out what is normal and what isn't - it's not like having an irrational fear of something, it's an irrational response to a rational fear. Worrying is normal and indeed useful to a certain extent. But there's definitely a point where it becomes harmful. Those of us with issues just have to be extra vigilant and watch that we stay on the right side of worrying.

Couldn't have said that better meme.
Ive had really bad anxiety and still do. I try and tell myself that its stupid and dont let yourself go down that road. Easier said than done. I have a good few months where im ok and then something will set me off. Last time it was I was at mums and brother rang from another country. His gf was trying to kill him. Knife to his throat amd everything. That just made me really jumpy and kinda think something was going to happen
then it was finding out I was pg (now) as I had really bad birth last time.
but have to be strong for the dc

Yikes, that's very scary about your brother. That's the thing though isn't it, because we know bad things do happen sometimes it's no comfort when people say "don't worry, it'll be fine!". Because, really, it might not be. But on the other hand, you can't let fear of what is realistically quite unlikely to happen control your life - you've got to enjoy it or what's the point? That's how I try to think, but as you say, it's easier said than done!

Definitely!

I thought my scan was next week and its the week after sooo impatient!

No-one has posted all day on Saturday? Unheard of!

Lol.
hope everyone is well.

Had driving lesson yesterday and instructor said
Book your test eeeeekk!!

Isitme, def get liscence asap so you can get as much practice driving by yourself and gain confidence before you have a baby in the car! Hope you are all feeling well and those that have not had scans yet, doesn't time go slowly but don't worry it will come around very soon. I am now 24 weeks and yesterday realised I can now see belly move when little man kicks me, its so exciting I seem to spend hours staring at my belly, which sounds weired but its not really.

I've done turn in the road with kids in the car when dh said right get in and turn the car
I need to pass before baby is here as ds1 is always ill and I need to be able to take 3 kids from a to b. Dh works long hours and his employers are horrible. Him getting time off is hard.
When I had ds2, I was ill for a while after having him. He had to take 2 weeks off instead of 1 and they gave him a hard time when he went back

Hiya everyone I haven't been on for such a long time hope everyone is well. I have scan on Tuesday can't wait to find out whether its a boy or girl. I find the further into the pregnancy I get the more stressed I feel. I am totally obsessed with feeling movement and how big my bump is, need to chill out and relax.
Ps indigestion is crap

Hi, I haven't posted for ages either but have been reading! Good luck with your scan mumtoacub

I have a question for those who already have kids: when did your DC stop having bottles at bedtime, and how did you get them to stop (or did they just give up themselves)? DD is 18 months and last night I started trying to get her off the bedtime bottles (two of them, every night) by giving her a beaker with a lid. Once DC2 is here I really don't see how it will be possible to feed both of them at bedtime so I really want DD to be drinking milk from a cup by August!

Anyway, DD screamed for about an hour and a half last night, slightly better tonight, but still didn't go to sleep for ages. And MIL is staying, and she thinks I'm being stupid as DH had a bottle until he went to school . And DH also can't see the point in stopping. So it's going to be difficult unless and until DD gets used to not having a bottle!

Du cant help there as ds1 was poor feeder and is tube fed. Ds2 is 9months and has 4-6 a day
when I was younger I used to make lil bro some full fat milk in a bottle amd he was around 6 at the time!

If they can take it and you supervise that might be easier

My ds is 2.4 and still takes one nighttime bottle I took it off him for a week and he asked for it every night dh and family encouraged me to give him it back and I did, he likes it and I'm quite relaxed about it now I realise he's a bit old for it but he's doing great developmentally and I don't see the harm he drinks it down, (he hates milk in a cup) and heads up to bed I don't have the heart to deny him it he's still a baby himself. I was thinking he might give it up himself when the dc2 arrives but if it takes longer fine, it will stop when the times right.

I can't remember when dd stopped the nighttime bottle, but it was after the dummies and that was just over 2. She liked me giving it to her for a while but then we changed so she'd give it to herself in bed while I held he hand or rubbed her face or something. I guess you could do that whilst feeding another if you had to.

Another question to those who have had one.... When so the kicks become strong enough to feel on the outside. Baby is really moving now and I'd love dh& dd to be able to feel it.

2beornot, I had to wait until I was nearly 23 weeks before I felt movement due to anterior placenta but by time I felt first kicks they were quite strong and unmistakable. My dh was able to feel them the following day which was really special that we could share a new experience together

Hmm, maybe I should give her back the bottle then...we'll see how it goes tonight.

2be I'm 21 weeks and have had some kicks where I can feel it on the outside, and DH has felt it a couple of times too. But I think it can be later. If you're really feeling it though, then your DH and DD might be able to soon as well!

I think my MIL just told her eldest that she would have to stop taking a bottle at night as only babies had bottles and she was a big girl now and did she want her little brother or sister thinking she was a baby? That could have been with the dummy though I'm not sure.

I still haven't felt movement, I'm 19+4. Part of me is preparing for having the scan next week and getting bad news. Hopefully it's just an anterior placenta which seems quite common on here

Disney, please don't think its bad news you will only worry yourself, I felt the same as you and was told that if you have not had a major bleed ie a mc then you are still pregnant, your baby may well be kicking,just not to the front where you will feel it most.

Yy to what weeza said.
Babys at this gestation are still a little small. Give it another few weeks and they won't let you sleep lol.
Ds2 would always wake when I was falling asleep doing all the weird somersaults and twisting and turning. At 30 weeks when ds would move my lil sis who had just had her baby would say it looked soo awkward to see another baby move like that. Would randomly see limbs poking out!