Brewing September 2014 beauties

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New thread for the chattiest bunch of mummies to be I've ever known!!

Actually tell a lie I did watch Educating Yorkshire and quite liked it actually. The documentary style programs aren't so bad. It's ones like Waterloo Road and that other one based in a primary school, forget it's name, that bore me a bit.

Talking about school, it's back to work for me tomorrow and I'm going to tell the head my good news. Why oh why am I sooo nervous? More nervous even than when I told my Dad! I don't understand how my mind works sometimes

First episode of the new OBEM tomorrow!

oh, just scrolled back and seen I'm not the first one to mention it

I think the mw said at the booking appt that we have a mw lead dept in the hospital which has pools in every room but the actual delivery ward has one pool for 12 rooms so I think I will have to opt for mw lead unit if I want any chance of starting in a pool.. Have started the process of moving doctors, although dh booked the new patients appt on the one day I can't take off work. He feels like he can't do anything right atm. It's just my hormones making me slightly snappy I think. Anyways, then I can ring up the new mw team. Think I want to see if I can meet them b4 my 16 week appt, as I feel that's ages away and I want to feel comfortable contacting them if there is a problem.

Hope it goes well telling the head top.

Absolutely no chance of me having a water birth. They don't allow them before 37 weeks, and I've had all 3 at 35 so almost zero chance of me going full term. I had pethidine with DS which made me feel quite spaced out, then two wonderful births with my DDs with just gas and air and hypnobirthing. I'll also be hooked up to the monitors unfortunately.

I understand, top, I was the same when I had to tell my boss when I was pregnant with dd. I was so nervous! She isn't the most compassionate or trustworthy of people so I waited til the scan as I knew everyone would know otherwise (it's quite an incestuous business, top of their game, a very well known brand in the childcare sector but very gossipy and bitchy so no way I wanted to tell her early). She was actually very nice and gave me a full run down of what I could expect in terms of support from the business. I went back after a full year of maternity leave.....hated it and handed my notice in within a month! Now I'm my own boss and never looked back!

Due to a previous section I'm consultant led care, but the mw told me they have a water pool for CLC mums now (as well as the midwife led care) at the hospital!

I have watched all the other series of obem and have this season on record but I'm not sure if ill watch it, I'm hoping to have a hypnobirth so not sure if I want the memory of the challenging births they show.

I planned a water birth last time but ended up going to labour ward as I had meconium in my waters. Can't fault the care I was given but not sure what to do with DC2! Quite fancy giving the water birth a go this time I think.

Got my 12 week scan tomorrow at my hospital and also my Harmony results, starting to brick it a bit. Really hope everything is ok with bean! We get the gender results tomorrow too but still haven't decided if I actually want to know or not... May just ask the dr to put results in an envelope and we can find out later.

Hope the MS is starting to ease off now for everyone - I know some of you have had an awful time of it.

Has anyone else totally lost interest in work? I just couldn't care less and normally I'm first in and one of the last to leave...love my job normally...oh well

And also can't wait for OBEM!!

Lucidlady, I can so empathise with you about work. I used to live and breathe my job pretty much but now I feel it is just like a really annoying itch that's distracting me from important things like decorating the baby's room and choosing what I'm going to eat today!

I wish the MS was easing . It's triggered by motion and smells, any slight exercise (eg, walking upstairs to go to the loo=vomit).

I'm with you on the work thing though, been signed off for four weeks and off for the next one as well, work feels like a distant irrelevance... Which isn't good as I should be panicking about my poor exam classes having to put up with a replacement teacher (a part timer in my dept has kindly gone FT so we are at least covering it with subject specialists internally, but still....)

Love all this chat about obem, I can't wait for it to start tomorrow. I've obviously never watched it as a mummy to be, but I'm really not sure it'll scare me. I just love the programme.

I would love a waterbirth, but aren't many pools at the hospital I've chosen so depends on whether I get lucky I guess. Hoping so as I find water really soothing and relaxing. Plus I think it'll be a bit cleaner haha.

I couldn't personally give birth on my own because I'm a cow and think if I have to go through the pain of birth then DH should be there for me to crush his fingers as and when I feel appropriate. However, kudos for thinking about it. It's a very private moment so I totally get where you're coming from. Last thing you want to be worrying about is DH passing out and doctors and nurses etc having to step over him lol. I couldn't think of anything worse than my mum being there, purely for the same reason as someone else said - I become an absolute wimp when my mum is around and I think I will cope much more if she's not in the business room.

Just catching up on posts after a crazy but fun half term week. Will be glad to ship my two off to school/nursery in the morning so I can have a rest!

Found out one of my best friends (who alas doesn't live nr me) is also upduffed and we have the same EDD! It's made me smile for the last few days, we were both so excited when we found out each others news.

Bex - was troubled to hear of your family stress, are there some crossed wires at work? I can't believe anyone would make up such personal stuff! If I were you I'd have it out with your SIL as I think it may eat away at you further if you don't. Also, she is letting her own parenting experiences get in the way of being happy for you which is really sad. I'd be concerned that once your baby is born (and a bit of sleep deprivation is thrown into the mix) you might find her heartless parenting comments harder to bear unless you say something now.

Thought MS had gone away but alas it reared it's ugly head again last night, not actually sick but much retching and went to bed clutching sick bowl...boo!

Feeling really really down this morning. This pain (although it's not really a pain, more like an uncomfortable chill), low down on my left side is still niggling away at me. I thought it could be a cyst as it's where my ovary should be (I think) but then read that most people don't even feel a tinge of discomfort with cysts, it's a surprise when they get diagnosed, so I'm now back to my original thinking of six weeks ago that it's ectopic after all. I thought I'd gone past the point of ectopic (11+3) but apparently they can be discovered up to 14 weeks. Will be so devastated...

broody have you met your MW yet? Could be worth giving her a call for some reassurance.

Sorry some of you are still experiencing sickness, mine has eased off a lot now.

Water births are amazing I had one with my youngest xx

I'm struggling to eat, feel really sick and everything tastes metallic lol :(

livid im the same, have no interest in work, all of ye may notice that i post most of my post mid week (while at work) and not at the weekends, i think its made worse by the fact that i work away from home to only get to see DH on friday night, sat and sun. so dread work on a monday morning!!

good luck to those who have there scans today!!!

Hi folks - long time no post, mainly due to horrendous MS (anybody up for starting a campaign with me to properly rename this, since it lasts all bloody day?!) I'm getting it in bouts of 3-4 days about every 10 days, which is probably the most annoying pattern to manage with work - feel like if I were at least signed off for a block of time someone would organise proper cover instead of just expecting me to deal with a backlog every few days! Really hoping it's going to ease off into the second trimester - am 12 weeks tomorrow and with scan next week. Ended up at the out of hours GP early yesterday morning just to get some reassurance that I would keep some food down eventually!

It's really hard to be excited when you feel so grim. We've ended up having to tell far more people than we wanted to because it's been getting so hard to make excuses for why I can't go and do stuff, go on planned trips to visit friends etc. DH is being amazing but it's clearly taking its toll on him too!

Rant over :) how are we all today?!

broody do you have an EPAU near you? You should ring them as they would definitely want to investigate a possible ectopic. Hope you are ok xx

cenadi I hear you! I'll join the campaign. Morning bloody sickness, well yes but it's far worse in the evening. Oh and the bloody nausea...

Hello all! Sorry not posted for a bit!

I have absolutely no interest in work at the moment. I still love the patients; but the ward is so busy, and I'm on my feet for hours, often without getting a chance for a break, and struggling to get through so much paperwork and phone-chasing, and then dealing with people who are annoyed that paperwork hasn't been done (largely patient relatives) because all the ward staff are so behind on their paperwork that even with skipping breaks and staying on late there's no time to catch up on everything. Sigh. Just want to be at home and doing nice things like reading my Mothercare catalogue whilst putting my feet up.

My plan is to have a years maternity leave (although financially it's going to be a tight year) and although I am anxious about some aspects of it, (especially being without 'adult company' much for a year) a year away from work sounds nice. I know that sounds awful but I'll probably use the time a bit to work out if I want to stay in nursing long-term, and if I don't what I'd rather do instead. Either that will happen or I'll miss the job after a year away from it. It's a shame after only 5 years being qualified feeling like this but just feel the job isn't what I want any more. The only real patient contact I get is to give some medicine to someone before dashing off to do the next patients meds or answer the phone.

Have scan on 13th March. Bit anxious now about the possibility of missed miscarriage. Think it's not helped in a strange way by the nausea largely being gone now so apart from being a bit more tired than usual, I don't 'feel' as pregnant as I did a few weeks ago. Saying that, I still get twinges and 'butterflies' in my abdomen every day, so something is going on in there.

Assuming all is well however, me and DH are having our belated honeymoon at the end of the month (got married last summer but couldn't afford a big honeymoon at the time so we postponed it to this year). Off to Florida! So excited! Never been before. Will be flying out at 15 weeks and returning at 17 weeks. Only thing I'm a bit anxious about is the 9 hour flight each way. Does anyone have any tips for flying when pregnant?

Hope everyone else is well. I do pop in and read everyone's posts even if I don't post myself that often. :) xxx

Sorry that should say we are flying out end of NEXT month (i.e, end of March), not end of this month. xxx

Don't worry KitKat we are off on delayed honeymoon at the beginning of April, to Canada, and have been assured it will be absolutely fine, just get up and walk around a lot and wear flight socks!

Ahh that's cool cenadi - we're both flying long-haul at near enough the same time. Just read the x-posts, really hope your MS eases off soon. It is as you say so hard to be excited and enthusiastic when you just feel so ill everyday.

We've purposefully timed the trip to be in the second trimester as most information I've read seems to suggest it's the best time to go, in that most people will largely be over the worst of any MS and exhaustion, and risk of MC is pretty low by this point; but without being so far along that travelling is really uncomfortable and being at risk of early labour. Also timed it so that we fly out before the dreaded Easter holiday price-hike. I think it's appalling how much extra holiday companies charge to fly out in the holidays. It completely prices a lot of poorer families out of being able to travel at all. [Sorry, rant over].