RM OCTOBER 2014 thread - Today we are pregnant

[TinyTear]

Hi
This is a thread for people due in October with past miscarriage issues, so we don't scare the 'regular' October people and we don't annoy the RM thread with our pregnancy talk...

TinyTear MC May 2010, MC June 2010, MC November 2010, DD Jan 2012, MC October 2013 ADD 6th October

Catty :( Oh how awful that ERPC experience must have been on top of everything. I think it would be a 'one off' - when had mine (NHS) it was day surgery and fairly straightforward. Drove home by 7pm that night.

I've had natural losses except that so cannot comment on the medical route but I think it's like an intense natural loss - personally I found the 'go to sleep, wake up it's all over' route quite a relief.

catty how are you doing now?

I have my 16 week appointment this afternoon and am terrified. I used to look forward to these appointments so much with ds but now am just filled with dread

Milly hope everything was ok at the scan xx

nearly and milly Hope both your appointments went well...x

I had my booking in yesterday too. I still feel nervous having things booked in for the future like a consultant appt on 14 may to talk about delivery route after last time. My 12 week scan is 4 April when will be 12+3. It makes my EDD def 14 oct (at this stage) which is Ds birthday so am dreading something going wrong for obvious reasons.

Good to be booked in fedup and bugger its another step on what can seem like a very long journey.
I think I just met the worlds most horrible midwife. Didn't say hello, introduce herself, ask how I was. Spent 5 min running at top speed through blood test results and next appointments. And that was that. I asked if they checked for a hb, she said no. I explained about my previous mmc at 17 weeks. She relented, tried with one doppler, couldn't find it, tried with another doppler, found something but couldn't say if it was mine or the babies. Said you will just have to wait for some movement and left the room. We were stunned.

Oh nearly that MW sounds horrible. Mine in contrast was really understanding re my panic but I know they are not all like that, I have met some awful ones too. That doesn't make it any easier for you. Can you ring up and request another Doppler effort in a week or two?
Don't know if I was just lucky but the MW said to me once after 16 wks and if I feel stressed or worried, to ring up and ask to be seem to listen to baby. Actually getting an appointment is prob another story but am not there yet! Can't believe how different everywhere is.

nearly Wow, that sounds just absolutely awful! Is she your regular midwife? If so, I would seriously consider changing to someone else, that behaviour does not give any confidence! Sorry that you had to experience this, really not what you need.
I had the same as fedup - my midwife said that she's happy to see me on top of the regular appointment, if I feel anxious and want to.

nearly that's dreadful. If I were you, ring the 'supervisor of midwives' and explain you'd rather see someone else, explain your anxiety and say you don't think her manner helped.

Christ nearly that would finish me off. In my pregnancy after late MC I saw the same midwife every time and she knew I was a wreck so looked after me. You should be receiving extra good care not wholly fecking inadequate.

I'm having shared care so will see a mix of doctor, hospital midwife and community midwife. I'm going to try on Monday to see the community midwife next week. I don't know if they will see me before my allocated appointment at 24 weeks. In the meantime I've booked a private scan for tomorrow. My next official appointment is the abnormality scan and then community midwife at 24 weeks. I'm hoping if I get to 24 weeks I can start to relax until then I don't think its too much to ask for some reassurance.

Nearly a private scan will be nice and reassuring but for you that you have to pay to get the reassurance she could have given you for free!

Sorry not been on. Have been busy finally telling everyone that I am pregnant. Have made quite a few people cry!
The scan was great. Baby was actually chilled out for once. 2 weeks then I find out the sex, get reassured again (hopefully) and then jet off on holiday for a week. Am starting to look pregnant now. I don't know where the belly has come from. It just appeared. Still looking fat though.
I am spending a week with the hubby in an adults only hotel. Am going to read, chill, relax and actually enjoy being married. My first year of marriage was all about the miscarriages so it's time we enjoyed each other again.
As you might be able to tell- am on cloud 9 at the moment. I know it won't last but for now I am enjoying it.

Hope everyone else is doing well. Not had chance to catch up on all the messages but will tomorrow xxx

Millys exciting times! :)

That's really great news milly! And I think it is great when u can tell a few people and start to feel excited and positive! Fab to have hols in a few weeks too.

nearly best of luck tomorrow. It will have to be a much better experience than the last day with the terrible and incompetent midwife.

I have my dating scan tomorrow and nuchal test. Hope all looks good then I will head down to st marys next week for cervical stitch.. Would like these few weeks behind me.

Hope all are keeping well, and that we have an uneventful week ahead!

Good luck tomorrow nearly and tayto

And milly glad scan was good news and well done for telling people! Some people can be so daft not reading it all properly!

Felt hideous last few days and slightly better today. I should be 10 + 5 now and starting to wonder when the tiredness and sickness might let up. But as soon as it does I panic. I was almost throwing up at my son dipping his fish fingers in his juice. Was so foul!!

Felt bad as we had some friends round for dinner last night who are getting married abroad in September but didn't mention I might not be going. We have booked flights (going without DS for 5 days) and hotel. But thing is if this preg works out I'm not sure it's good idea for me to go. Will be anxious as I will be between 34 and 35 wks pregnant. I want DH to go whatever but poss not me. What would you do? Obviously pregnancy might not work out so won't be an issue anyway but I can't not think about what we might do about it.

rainy I would most likely not go. But if you are feeling well, you could ask your midwife/ dr for advice nearer the time. And ur friends would surely understand. But no harm in keeping ur options open for another while if you feel you might be up to it. It would be good to check airline policies and insurance issues in advance to see what the options are. Worst case It should be fine for ur husband to go, and hopefully you might still be able to avail of a night or two of babysitting.

Ooooh I only just found this thread and it's about to go pop! I am allegedly 11.5 weeks pregnant, and have my 12 week scan on Thursday.

Back story is that I had my son through fertility treatment in 2010, had a miracle natural pregnancy 18 months ago which ended in miscarriage (ERPC), and nothing else until more fertility treatment in Jan. Had a scan at 7 weeks where baby measured behind but had heartbeat. Docs released me but since then I've had no symptoms. Still can't feel uterus. Just feel normal. Sure that scan will show nothing on Thursday but also have moments of hope.

Hopefully see you all on the next thread if Thurs goes well, if not good luck for the rest of you in your pregnancies.

Hi Buggerlugs - I was 6.6 but measuring 6.3 which is apparently in the realms of normal. I'm not so convinced and kinda wish I'd had another private scan since doing it, but I was too scared to have one!

Thank you, I'm having a moment of real panic after a few days of being relatively okay and calm. I think it's knowing my 12 week scan is this week - one minute I think chances are all is fine, then I am SO sure it isn't! Madness. Ta for reassurance :)