October 2014 - am I the first one here...?

[makesamesswhenstressed]

Just got 2 very very (very very very) faint lines. The magical due date doo-dah says 3rd Oct is the magic number. Who knows? It could all go tits up still, but if you, like me, suspect you might be in the early stages it would be nice to chat.

I'll start the list shall I?

MakesAMessWhenStressed DC2, EDD 3rd Oct

Morning all! One more day ticked off - I'm 5 weeks now.

I haven't told anyone yet but my parents are coming over for dinner next weekend so if all is still well I'll tell them then.

Hello! I got 2 bfp's yesterday! So coming to join the October thread. And as if my magic or the gods of stereotype, I've already been sick once this morning! Lol! Other than that, pretty bad cramps which keep waking me during the night. The test of you having this? Happy Friday!

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Congrats bingo and welcome! Yep another day ladies!! I'm thinking of telling my mum and dad this weekend - will be 6.5 weeks and am likely to tell my sister (she told me at 5 wks) but think that will be it. DH has even said not to tell his Mum as she will not be able to keep it to herself!

Morning all! Wow everyone seems to have told loads of people, we have told noone. I am really tempted to start telling people now, started feeling quite down last night about not being able to talk to anyone about how I feel. My sister even txt me saying my mum was asking her if I was trying for a baby, I think she knows (my mum has a way of knowing everything even if I don't see her or talk to her). Feeling okay, just a bit down, slightly queasy and generally feel like I'm coming down with something :-(.

Bump - I've not told anyone yet either, it's quite nice having a little secret! Awww sorry you're feeling down. Just think of the lovely little one you are carrying - will definitely be worth the queasiness! Plus you wouldn't want to trade places with any of the ttc ladies as that's not a nice feeling.

I'm feeling like I am getting a bump already!! I am quite slim and play netball and have a fast metabolism anyway but am convinced I am starting to look pregnant - eek! Might have to start skipping the puddings!!

Hope your alright bump. Tell someone if it's getting you down. I think I'm going to tell my mum today because I'm feeling really paranoid and worried about everything and it's good to talk to someone in rl sometimes.

Thanks guys I am okay just so many emotions to deal with, so excited but have to suppress that for now, anxiety, tiredness, feeling ill, but no I wouldn't change this for the world!

Think I will tell my best friend this weekend, just unsure how she will react she doesn't like babies and her mum died last year so she is not feeling great at moment.

Off to GP this morning so hopefully I will feel better after that once had a chat with her and got details for midwife appointment.

Exciting about your bump mrsF2510, I certainly don't because I am constantly bloated due to bowel condition. Carebear good luck telling your mum I'm sure she will be over the moon!

Hmmmm GP has referred me to midwife now so have to wait for them to contact me, is that the same for everyone else? Heard bad things about my local hospital maternity unit so not holding out hope to get the appointments anytime soon :-( boooooo

How fo other people take the news?

I'm loving having a secret, I don't have many so this is nice. I'm away on my own with my parents this weekend, and bf has his parents down to stay. We're like little kids on the "teehee, we've got a secret..."

I bet they've all guessed or something. People at work keep saying stuff like "40th birthday, ofsted and a house move all in a week... haha, just as well you're not pregnant as well, imagine the stress..." or "haha, all you need now is a baby and a wedding.."

Bump thats normal, they usually say if you haven't heard from them by the time you 8-10 weeks then to call them and say who you are and that your so many wks pregnant, any news on an appointment yet?

Thanks TroubleAndFyfe.
We talked this morning about how focussing on the worry is preventing us enjoying the yippee aspects. We can't ignore the worry and I understand it is different for Mrsthedog but I want to feel free to start imagining what we need to do in the house, I want for us to prioritise a bit of time for us whilst we have and and really celebrate it. Won't tell everyone but think the secret is more unhelpful than good at this stage.

Every day further on the odds get even more in all of our favour.

ps I really like the lovely warm congratulatory response from people, it's affirming.

Bingo congrats nice to see you over here!

We have told more people than last time but it was difficult not to after ttc for 14 months. Everyone knew we were trying, therefore when I was suddenly quiet about bitching about AF turning up most of my friends guessed. The first time round I told hardly anyone til after the scan.
I'm showing already and worried random people are going to guess soon! With dc1 I didn't show til 12 weeks, this time my stomach is bloated already. Oops.

Another very small update (won't believe this is happening until a successful scan , so I am mostly in the RM thread)

Talked to the GP yesterday and my bloods show slightly hyper thyroid, instead of hypo or normal, so reducing my thyroxine dose...

Hvae a scan on tuesday when I should be 7+2 so will see how things are going or if it's MC number 5...

I hope it's good news Tiny.

We haven't told anyone yet either so does feel like our (not so) little secret! I just want to wait until after the 12 week scan - then we'll tell the world!! With DC1 I told family at 12 weeks then work at 14 weeks and then the rest of the (Facebook) peeps at 20 weeks. It was really good, had loads of positive responses and by waiting to tell some people, it meant the wait for the actual baby didn't seem as long!
Though this time I am starting to show already so not sure I will be able to hide it that long???!!

Hey all, room for another one in here? Got my BFP for dc3 last week, by my reckoning EDD will be 17/10 so likely to be born 10/10 by ELCS as now had 2 CS's. 5 weeks today and hoping I don't blow up like a balloon too quickly, have heard lots of horror stories about 3rd pregnancies!

Wow I cant beliwve how many of you have managed to keep it a secret. I was so shocked and excited all family and some friends know but they are sensible enough to know the risks.

Was pleased I had told work yesterday. Really helped and its great having support

Totally understand though if you want to wait. I do keeping getting scared we told too many people!

Buggerlugs-that's exactly what I'm having! Only found out I was preggers yesterday but waking up in the night with pretty bad period like cramps. I've scoured dr google and think its nothing to worry about-but still, makes me a tad anxious x

Buggerlugs there is an October thread for people with miscarriage history, and don't want to be actively active in this one in case of jinxing...

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1982977-RM-OCTOBER-2014-thread-Today-we-are-pregnant?

Buggerlugs I've had very similar cramping-got my BFP last Friday and the first few nights the night time cramps were really quite uncomfortable, seem to have settled down now and im finding I get cramping for about 20 mins or so in an evening, it soon passes though so try not to worry and congrats on your BFP!

Buggerlugs firstly, congrats on your BFP! cramps are normal but they sound more painful than I'd expect. Drink lots of water and call your clinic for advice. Ohss needs to be ruled out! DS was an IVF/ICSI (2 blasts transferred on day 5 resulted in him!). Definitely call your clinic for proper advice.

Tiny good luck for Tues, will be thinking of you xx

Telling/not telling is totally up to the individual/couple. DS felt like the longest pregnancy ever (IVF so my boss and close friends and close family knew before he was even conceived!).

My boss knew about my MC as it happened during my first week back after maternity leave.

Kept quiet about DD til after the 12 week scan and enjoyed having some time when people weren't in the know.

This time, living in the US, I don't have my close friends to hand so have only told one via email. I did tell my original antenatal thread via our Facebook group as soon as I got my bfp (had to tell someone!). Dh would prefer not to tell his parents but we may tell them Sunday if tomorrow's scan is good. I've told my mum and sister but they'd know if I had a mc. Haven't told my other sister and 3 brothers though. Or any of the in-laws.

I'm not telling my Nct friends yet (via email) as one has just split up from her dp and another died of breast cancer just before Christmas. I don't want to add to the gloom by telling them and then telling them bad news if that happens.

So basically, I'm only telling people I'd tell if I miscarry (and making sure those who know know not to tell anyone else!).

But telling/not telling has no impact on whether a pregnancy is successful or not so if you want to shout it from the rooftops then do!

I would caution against early FB announcements though. I have had people share crazy early (like sharing pictures of the bfp!) and I think that's a bit much for anyone struggling to conceive or suffering from miscarriage(s). That's just my opinion though!

Cramping in early pregnancy is normal, your uterus needs to do a lot of stretching, and i found it worse in my first pregnancy, I think it never quite shrinks back after birth so subsequent pregnancies it doesn't need to do quite as much stretching!