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Evaporated milk

Exactly mitchell apparently standard advice in the 80s where I am from!

Sarah lots of ppl believe that babies wake up in night hungry & formula is heavier takes longer to digest so can mean babies sleep longer. It depends why your baby is waking though & formula can cause opposite problem as can cause more tummy problems aches etc. When mine went on to formula at 6 months it made absolutely 0 difference whatsoever to his sleep.

Mitchell 'breast feeding for a few weeks' is medically Breastfeeding and people who make you feel otherwise are wrong. My mum is a Consultant and whn she goes on courses they talk about the 'magic 7 days' which is colostrum, lining the gut, certain important immunities passed on etc so if you even make 7 days you have done a fabulous thing for your baby, you are as much a breast feeder as someone who lasts 2 years. But if you choose not to again it's your choice & your mental health & happiness is equally important to a baby. Babies don't just feed off milk it has been scientifically proven that tjey feed of smiles & interaction & develop better the more they get. So miserable Breastfeeding isn't necessarily better than happy formula feeding!

Sleepy 99% of women in the world Breastfeed. The chances of you 'not being able to' are minuscule. 3rd world countries simply don't get a choice the baby learns to latch etc. However it can be extremely difficult especially in first few weeks. For me it was extremely painful & upsetting but you can have real difficulties if you had transfusion and are left v weak etc or baby is in hospital & you're forced to try & express which is v tough. If it's a really important thing to you read up as much as you can & find some local Breastfeeding groups to go to after the birth where they often have specialists to help you. Midwifes in hospitals health visitors etc are v v hit and miss. When in hospital demand assistance from a mw with bf if you're struggling.

But for me personally - Breastfeeding was unpleasant I was embarrassed in public in agony for weeks often cried through feeding & it was not good for me. This time my intention is to fight through a fortnight even if it's hell - longer if baby is born low birth weight or something but other than that that is well and truly my lot if I have to endure that hell again. Ideally I'd like to make it to at least 4 months whn their digestion is almost done but I'm not going to beat myself up to do it.

Whatever you choose or end up doing ppl can be horrendous. If bf is important to you try & get someone to show you bf positions in advance (NCT do a whole session on it) & make sure partner is clued up on how to support & what they should be looking for. If it is not something you want to do choose baby groups that are not quite so 1 sided & consider not feeding in front of judgemental MILs etc in early weeks if you feel you might be sensitive to comments.

Bee your '8 months that's my lot' is funny as that is far far longer than the majority of breastfeeders. NCT & similar types will have you believing everyone breastfeeds to 2 & the minority give up. Actually in the UK it is completely the opposite.

Whatever option you choose & however long that lasts you are far from alone!

www.unicef.org.uk/BabyFriendly/About-Baby-Friendly/Breastfeeding-in-the-UK/UK-Breastfeeding-rates/

Thanks - I knew about the importance of colostrum only be cause my mother is a cattle farmer and she was always banging on about it being vital for the calves Without her farming knowledge I would honestly be clueless!

Even if I don't BF I will definitely put myself through the pain of expressing for at least two weeks to get that goodness and then who knows.

And yes 8 months is a HUGE amount of time and really something to be super chuffed with personally

I think 8 months is fab, too, but I'm afraid I had a peep at the breastfeeding boards and, well.... scary place.

La Leche League meats at a local cafe, but tbh sitting around with a bunch of other women in a public place and getting our tits out doesn't really appeal under these circumstances.

Only for orgies and hippy revolutions, please!

Call me a hippy but I'm totally going to breastfeed in public :P It's going to be summer so parks, cafes, etc - really want to make the most of it! :)

I've bought a few scarves for that purpose. I don't like it if someone plonks themselves down next to me at a party and gets their boobs out, either - I would never dispute their right to do it, at the same time I often see people deriding those of us for not being comfortable with it, and that's not on, either!

Hiya Ladies, I am new to this group. I am due on June 18th.

Adding myself to the list, but not sure if that's the right way to do it?!

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Its funny, one of my friends is still Bf'ing and she was so self conscious when it was one of our first girly catch ups with the wider group and her baby needed to be fed and kept apologizing.

We all thought it was hilarious and pointed out to her that out of everyone in the group we all had probably seen her breasts over the years than anyone's and then proceeded to reminisce over all the good times her boobs had made an unexpected appearance

Mitchell, that's fab - but I guess it illustrates what I mean, it just seems like something very intimate to me and if the thought of having a HCP look at it closely makes me shudder I'm sure I don't want to do it in public view!

One of my NCT group is Swedish and I was at a party at her house with lots of babies and one mum whipped them out to feed her baby and then realised I wasn't Swedish and blushed and apologised! I was very confused but my friend explained that I was breastfeeding DD too! I think in Britain it is rare for breastfeeding to be done for any length of time and almost never in public. For me my mental healer needed me to get out the house daily and as DD couldn't have formula I fed everywhere and anywhere. Mostly discretely but I have quite large breasts and when DD went through the staring around while feeding stage I am afraid a few people got flashed. Oh well!

Marlena If breastfeeding works out for me I probably won't be able to always do it discreetly, my breasts are just too big - to be honest, despite my feelings now I might very well get REALLY fed up with faffing about with scarfs and whatnot and in the end just really blase about whipping them out. I just can't imagine it right now!

John Lewis does some fab bf cover ups. I'll try to work out how to link. They are a little expensive at just under £ 30 but Ioved mine. I had a tiny baby and he would disappear under it to the point someone once actually asked where my baby was while he was feeding underneath!

This is an example

m.johnlewis.com/mt/www.johnlewis.com/bebe-au-lait-breastfeeding-cover-yoko/p231024501?un_jtt_v_pdp=yes&un_jtt_v_from_product=un_product_2

Sorry it's probably not clickable as on my phone.

Very true BEE I couldn't imagine it before I tried it. I actually am looking forward to it so much this time. Really lucky as DD is old enough to understand and so I should be ok to feed for years if I need to. I am going dairy free just in case again so formula isn't going to be an option.

I loved breastfeeding. It was one of the few things I feel I did 'well'. I managed to feed for two yeArs which was my goal and I was definitely whipping 'em out in a fairly blase fashion. But I was lucky,I had no thrush, no tongue tie, no blocked ducts, very little pain and in general I just found it sooo easy. I doubt it will be so straightforward this time and I'll have to go back to work earlier which almost certainly means it will stop sooner. Which makes me feel sad.

I'm definitely going to breastfeed (it's each woman's individual choice though - I'm not going to berate anyone who doesn't want to). My mum breastfed me and both my siblings and I've just always imagined that I would. She was quite politically active when I was a baby and still boasts to this day that she used to take me to meetings and breastfeed me without anyone even realising what she was doing (this was before anyone used breastfeeding covers) - she says it's all about wearing the right type of clothing and you acquire a 'knack'! I'd like to think she's right but I'll wait and see how that works out for me!

One of my SILs used the breastfeeding cover and more than once, I asked her where the baby was when he was actually under it feeding! My other SIL was the complete opposite and whapped her boobs out without a care in the world. I'd like to think I'll be somewhere between the two - I don't feel the need to 'hide' that I'm breastfeeding but equally, I agree with Bee, I'd like to be able to do it discreetly

Hi Ms Bon and welcome. Just jump in whenever you like.

I managed 7 months bf and did mornings and evenings for the next 5 months as I was back at work. I found it hard at first but once I got going it was good. Not sure how its going to work this time - last time I just fed on demand and fitted dinner, bath times and so on around it. This time I will have a 7 year old to consider so how is that going to work? I am not a big routine fan but may have consider becoming one.

I am sure I flashed people at some point - might have to check those cover things out .

Welcome Ms Bon

I didn't really mind feeding in public except for the fact that I have rather large boobs and it was logistically quite difficult! The only way I seemed to be able to feed is if DS was on a pillow which isn't always practical when out and about!

20 week scan all went well today and we found out that we are having a...................girl! I feel so so lucky as we won't have any more after this (not planned anyway!) and will have a DS and a DD. I would have been very happy with another DS though as I adore the one I've got! DP has two boys from a previous marriage so a girl in the household will be something quite different and as one of my friends pointed out if it had been another boy I would have been outnumbered 5-1!

Congratulations nosey number 3 girl!

I breastfed both of mine despite no one in our family breastfeeding. The first I fed until 2.5 years and the second self-weaned herself at about 9 months. I was lucky in that beyond the first few says or sore nipples etc I had no issues at all and enjoyed the convenience. Had no qualms at all about feeding in public - I like to think I developed a knack of being pretty discrete even without a special nursing cover. Would just wear the right clothes - wearing two vests is brilliant as you can pull one up and one down and very little is exposed. And you can always drape a muslin over the area too.

Hopefully it will all work out again this time as cannot be arsed to faff with bottles full time. But nobody should be beating themselves or others up about their feeding choices, as long as you are actually feeding the baby!

Sad fact of child rearing is that somebody has always got a bloody opinion about everything and are not shy of sharing it with you . The amount of shit and "hilarious" bitty jokes I got off people for breastfeeding until 2. Just master the nod, smile, ignore manoevre early on.