June 2014 -Thread 8- 20 week scans, gender reveals... Halfway through!

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Jump in the new thread ladies!!!!

Congrats Mimi and Hannah
SarahAnderson you've described what happens to me exactly
Redcliff I felt like that with my previous two, so much so both times I was not prepared and we had to get some stuff in post birth!
This time I've bought a pram and a rocker (jan sales), but all of a sudden I just think it's too early and am returning the pram and hiding the rocker. Maybe after my 20 week scan I won't feel so anxious and start to relax a bit.

sareva I keep thinking I will feel less concerned after each scan, midwife appointment etc but I think the worry never goes away.

Sarvea - I would be just the same with any big purchase - I saw a nice discounted carry cot in John Lewis yesterday but couldn't even think about it.

Servana - I keep on thinking each scan I will feel better but it only lasts for a few days. I know its irrational and wish I could more like those that are planning ahead and getting everything ready!

Sorry I need a moan. We have a six year age gap because I stupidly thought insomniac DD would be sleeping by now. Two nights in three she has now started the day at 4. I am losing the will to live. I won't cope with a 6 year old doing that and a newborn and DH's solution is to shout at her and give her the iPad.

Stacks - I'd agree with Mitchell that it is probably scar tissue - don't think it stretches well. Worth asking GP or MW though. I've been putting the stitch-type pain I keep getting in lower right abdomen when sneeze/walk more than a few mins down to scar tissue as is the site of one of keyhole scars from appendicectomy - mine is nowhere near as bad as yours sounds but proper surgery and more scar tissue could explain it. Hope you get some relief from it.

Re. buying stuff - I've been pretty wary of getting anything too and have only allowed myself to in the last week or so. Have got car seats and buggy as they were in the sales but they can all be returned if necessary and 20wk scan is tomorrow... it's just so hard not to worry - in all likelihood everything will be fine and the way bump is expanding someone is definitely growing in there, but it's still hard not to fret!

Sorry to hear about your DDs sleep problems Marlena. Is there anyone you can speak to about it/have you spoken to someone? Can't offer any advice, just sympathy

Super, really?! I've never ever been so furry! I swear it grows everywhere now! Thanks, son :))

Off topic, I'm puzzled why these private scans are called 'gender scans' . Surely, a baby in the womb doesnt have a gender, only sex?

preggo rage moment.

Actually feeling great this morning (but don't want to jinx it!!!) so was in at 8am as have loads to do. Not unheard of pre preg but def since October 9.30 - 10am (we start at 9.30) is the time I have been rocking up - meh, Im the boss they can deal with it and furthermore I stay much later than the rest of my staff in the evening, often work at home on weekends.

In walks in one of my staff at 8am - and he started giving me shit and making a big deal about me being early. Told him to 'stop fucking being rude' and it wasn't like that I made a deal when he worked later than 5.30 (he slopes off on time every day) and that he should be pleased for me and the fact I don't like feeling like I want to hurl this morning Twunt.

sorry he sloped in at 9.30 and I had been her since 8am.... grrr

Marlena my 19 month old is up at 4 every morning & it is killing me. Is there something you can persuade her to do at 4am to keep her amused?

Sleepy that's a good point although I reckon they prob just didn't like the sound of 'sex scans' :)

Mitchell I hope you said you don't make a big deal when he leaves on time every day? People always see the early risers as harder working. Where I trained we had flexi time those who did 8-4 were somehow super hard working but those who rocked up at 10 but stayed well past 6 somehow didn't get same look. It's odd really.

Yup not that it made a difference. I am a lot more senior than him and often am on conference calls in the evenings, international travel which involves 4.30am starts and midnight finishes and work on weekends which he seems to conveniently forget about.

Furthermore a) he works for me. So I don't understand why he thinks its acceptable in the first place b) he makes sure he has an hour lunch every day c) he leaves on time every night and d) I have already pulled him up about 10 times this year for the fact he hasn't done things he was supposed to and if he put in a few extra hours (which at his level and pay he is expected to) then he wouldn't be so behind.

Taking the piss.

I have his performance review tomorrow (which he has not done his bit yet despite the fact he was supposed to by the end of the year!) Not going to be positive. I think he forgets its ME who decides is comp and bonus?!

end of rant!

Mitchell - that guy sounds like an idiot. I don't understand why he cares that you got to work at 8? Was he saying pregnant people can't start early? And the day before his review as well - clearly has no sense . Bet he is all surprised at his review when you don't shower him with praise .

Mitchell at least you have the review tomorrow and can constructively tell him he's a snidey little xxxx, in the most professional manner of course!

Worked out that with all my holidays I have 58 days at work - not that I'm counting or anything....

Good for you Mitchell! What use is pregnancy rage if you can't put it to a good purpose!

Just walking home from work to get ready for my 20 week scan. Hoping to find out the gender! Had an achy belly for a couple of days now. Assuming it is some sort of growth spurt but will be nice to have the reassurance of a scan.

mitchell
I hate the idea that number of hours spent at your desk reflects anything! I have colleagues who are here for hours longer than me but it can take them hours to write an email. Efficiency is the name of the game!

Clever - how exciting ! Hope you get to find out.

Ooh another scan! Wonder if it will be boy number 200 or girl number 3?!

Mitchell I've seen loads of blokes make that sort of comment to senior female members of staff he's prob a sexist prick. Just remember a) you're more senior than him & b) you're more senior than him :)

Marlena haha that made me laugh - we do seem to be growing a lot of willies between us ! :)

Thanks guys - lets just hope the rage stays tomorrow and I don't revert to a blubbering mess!

Clever, good luck with your scan!

Mitchell2, no blubbering, get your inner drill sergeant out! (ahem, I'm the most teary person ever!)

I have my hospital appointment with the nutritionist tonight and I'm really scared - the midwife was banging on SO MUCH about how all participants didn't put any weight on during pregnancy, I'm terrified about being told off. Between my anxiety and being cooped up at home for months and Christmas in the middle of course I have put weight on!

I also pulled a muscle last night and can't move my left shoulder all that much, so I'm not looking forward to the 40 minute drive to hospital. Esp. in the dark, with the bad weather we're having yet again. Ah well.

superlambanana do you know what you're having yet? (sorry have lost track of who has found out!) the myths have it that more hairy = a boy so perhaps less hairy = a girl?!

The day is over and I can go to fitness once DD is in bed!

Thanks for the empathy this morning. bumble it is a killer. She used to only do it rarely but it is happening often at the moment. I wonder if it is the baby causing her to worry. I think she is a lot more sensitive than she lets on!

clever how was it?
mitchell nothing worse than crying at work! I burst into tears with my boss last year on DD's birthday. I was having an OMG my baby is 5 moment and he told me off for something he thought I had done (I hadn't) but I burst into tears. The shame!

Knew I forgot someone! Good luck at nutritionist BEE and hope the drive is ok!

Scan generally good. All fine, nothing unusual but baby was very uncooperative - lots of wriggling and lying on its front so I have to go back in 3 weeks for a rescan as they couldn't view all the heart chambers properly.

I asked about the gender at the end. The sonographer was rather grumpy as she'd spent 10 minutes trying to get a good angle on the heart so just said I doubt we'll see anything with this baby. However there definitely was something between its legs, even she agreed! So we are almost certain we're joining the blue team!

Told ds when he got home. After two months of "girls are stinky" we didn't expect him to burst into tears and say I didn't want a brother! Apparently he's realised a boy might want to share his toys (!) Oh well! He'll love him in the end!