June 2014: New Year, new trimester, new thread! June bugs no 7!!

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Ding dong!

Sorry to read about all the migraines
I am also a sufferer but have not had one for a while I was recommend one of those sticks that you rub on your forehead which did help a bit .

Can I be nosey - are people going for private gender scans as their NHS trust won't tell them the gender?

Hey ladies can I join? Due 3rd June seen this link on another post. Baby number two after 1.5 years of trying. Daughter is 5. Very excited

Welcome MrsLadyL!

We went for a private sex scan as the 20 week scan is still a month away and we were not sure if our NHS trust would tell us anyway.

We aren't planning any other private scans but for us it was worth the £75. It was a lovely independent sonographer who had lots of time to spend with us, rather than a Babybond scan, which I have heard can be a bit rushed and generic.

My DH is teasing friends and relatives with having to donate £5 for us to reveal the sex, which I think is actually quite a good way of recouping the cost if anyone is struggling to justify it :)

Has or is anyone experiencing Braxton hicks?

Welcome LadyL, the more the merrier!

No Braxton Hicks for me, I've heard it can happen quite early on though.

Still undecided about finding out the gender, I would go private if needed though. I think private scans are worth the money, I went at 9weeks and it was very reassuring.

Welcome MrsLadyL and congratulations.

I've just been reading another thread all morning about what people consider to be an older mum. Really interesting reading everyone's views and especially views of people from 20, 30 odd years ago.

I feel old at 35 but don't know of that's because I had my 1st at 21 so it's all relative how you feel.
After reading this thread it's making me think we should just try for another once this baby comes along. Said to my dh and he looked at me like I'd lost leave of my senses!

I had my first at 28 and was the youngest by nearly 8 years in my NCT group! I think for London "professionals" I was very young. This time I feel old, but will only be 34. I am definitely one of the younger mums at DD's school.

LadyL welcome! My DD is also 5 and so excited about a sibling She desperately wants a brother though, so hopefully things will work out for her We aren't going to find out.

Definitely think where you stay and the age of other first time mothers influences how you feel.
My ds is 4 and is convinced we're having a boy and wants to call him Filip! My dd says she would rather we had a girl.
One will be happy, we're not finding out either.

congratulations Sussex a little girl how exciting. I have been resisting a private scan. My 20 weeks scan will be on 23rd... and I'll be 19+4.

mrsLadyL I had loads with Ds and they started very early. I have been experiencing some tightening and my tummy can get hard. I asked the mw on Friday if it was too early for bh and she kind of said yes. She asked if I had had any abnormal discharged or blood. She didn't seem concerned but wrote it on my notes.

I never had them with first baby but had some tightening last night.... Il ask MW next visit but I did read that they start as early as 8 weeks but most never feel them at all and if they do it can be felt from 14 weeks?

Redcliff At the NHS 20 week scan tomorrow they won't tell us, it's policy not to tell. The gender scan is only £40 and it'll also give us a chance to have another look at the end of the month to check things are alright.

clutter I posted on that thread, and I think it also really depends on your background and your own expectations. I'm 32 and I could've happily waited another few years, I never would've had a child before 30 and hadn't really planned on having one before 35. Just no urge. In fact, I think I'm one of the first from my class getting married and having children.

Makes sense about the scan - we had one at 11 weeks and it was lovely - lots of time and attention and a video link as well. We didn't find out last time but will this time.

Welcome Lady - hope all is going well.

summerbaby I am with you on the DIY front. Have a whole new kitchen and flooring commencing in a couple of weeks and we're also getting a whole new bathroom at some point before the baby arrives (I'll be going away for that one though). That's before we even start the nursery! Lots to get done. The nursery is actually acting as a dressing room for me at the moment so I've got to do a massive clear out and get rid of loads to make room for him/her.

Hmm, I feel just about the right age, really. I wasn't ready when I was younger, and this is our first and due 4 days before my 30th. I'm the youngest of my siblings in terms of having children, though. My sister had her first at 35, my borer his first at 30, and my other brother at 39. I think a big part of us deciding to have children now is because our siblings all have young children as well and we want our kids to have cousins close in age . My sister feels old having her 2nd now at 37, and I'm sure my brother feels old to have a 14 wk old at 40, but his wife is 32, so she feels just about the right age.

These days it's all so different.

My 20 week scan is booked in for 17th. I'm really exciting as they didn't do this with my first pregnancy. We are going for the surprise don't want to know sex as didn't with my daughter and I was over the moon Regaurdless of the sex. Defo no prefrence this time round either just a healthy baby as my daughter was born spontaneously at 29+2.... X

Congratulations sussex on your girl and to everyone having migraines, i truly sympathise. I have my gender scan on Sunday. Im beyond excited and it's also the day before my dh birthday so it's extra special. I think it's a boy, no idea why and Im probably wrong but I'll let you all know next weekend. Back to work tomorrow for me. No idea how Im going to manage as at the moment if i get up before 10am i feel dreadful. Hope everyone is ok x

Congratulations sussex on your girl and to everyone having migraines, i truly sympathise. I have my gender scan on Sunday. Im beyond excited and it's also the day before my dh birthday so it's extra special. I think it's a boy, no idea why and Im probably wrong but I'll let you all know next weekend. Back to work tomorrow for me. No idea how Im going to manage as at the moment if i get up before 10am i feel dreadful. Hope everyone is ok x

Hi, I will be 37 when I have my baby, my first. I asked the midwifes if they thought I was old and they laughed and said I was young they see ladies a lot older than me and not too worry. My friend is 40 and pregnant.

MrsLadyL my Ds was also a preem, but born at 35 week. You mentioned it was spontaneous labour, but did they suggest any reason. Mine was spontaneous as well and we only had to stay in hospital for 10 days.
How are you feeling this time around? I am seeing the consultant at 24 weeks. It is very likely that I will be seen by a junior doctor but I would like to see my previous consultant who was involved in my case at the time when I was admitted in hospital. I have done an extensive review of some scientific articles and I am preparing a list of questions. I hope the doctor doesn't find me arrogant, but I felt I was never given an explanation. I agree that sometimes nature knows it way , but I would have liked a little bit more support.

Re migraines. I have been waking up every day with a headache. I think it is related with rubbish sleep. I am having a weak coffee first thing in the morning, and it is helping me to shift it.

Back at work tomorrow at 8am I am thinking: "yeah! only 4 months to go" but then I have a panic attack: "how on earth am I going to do everything I am supposed to do in 4 months??"

Hi ladies can I join you? I'm 17 + 4 with my first. Due 10th June. Been lucky with no sickness but can sympathise on the migraines..had one pretty much every weekend until week 13/14. Hope that will be the last of them. Hope those of you working are looking forward to going back tomorrow as much as me !

Hi ladies. Still in pain over here. Over 48 hours and going strong... I think I will have to book an appointment with Gp to discuss stronger pain relief as I'm going nuts over here :((

Re tightening of uterus - I have been feeling it few weeks back - I read somewhere that it might be caused by dehydration so increased my water intake and they stopped. Might be a coincidence but worth a try?

My Mum was 30 with no 4 & was labelled 'geriatric' mother for being so old!!
I was 25 when I got pregnant with my 1st & there was 1 younger than me and 5 much older in NCT group (all 1st timers) up to 40.
Things have changed a lot & we've got better at the baby making - I think they don't worry about older mums in same way any more your age is just another one of those risk factor things. If you are 50, obese, a heavy smoker & carrying triplets I think they might panic but lots of people are 'risky' in one way or another

My sickness has pretty much gone which is great - but my god the headaches. They're pretty much 24/7 now which is hard :(

Welcome!

I'm in two minds about finding out the sex... We'd agreed not to but now I find I'm changing my mind. I kind of want to know because I feel like it'll make it feel more real iyswim? Not feeling very pregnant at the moment - bump no bigger and no other symptoms so can't help worrying.

I've been suffering from more headaches than normal- but really sympathise with the migraine sufferers.

I'm 40 and have been feeling really self concious about being pregnant at my age. I never intended to have them so late but I've had a couple of miscarriages and didn't always get pg straight away when trying, so it just took longer.

A friend of mine had her daughter at 43 (took her a long time to meet mr right) and another woman I know had her first at 41 and second at 45! I don't why so late as she is a work colleague and don't know her well enough to ask.

In my NCT group I was one of the oldest when I had DS at 36 - only one other was my age. All the others ranged from 29-35.

I do think I get tired more easily than younger mums.