June 2014: Thread 6! The 2nd trimester and Christmas shenanigans!

[GillyBillyWilly]

Boom!

Haven't posted for ages and not at all in this thread - hope all is well with everyone. :)

Anyone else having aching hips in bed? Really getting on my nerves now as it's really difficult to get comfortable. The only positive is it stops me lazing around in bed all day!

Second lanisoh and latching. Also be careful expressing early on if you have sore nipples. It can make things very sore!

I was another who really enjoyed breast feeding, and was sad when I weaned DS at 8 months. Funny as I think a few comments here and there were the triggers to me thinking DS was big enough to be weaned but I regretted it the moment we went on to bottles, they were such a faff and formula certainly did not help him sleep better, if anything it made the nights worse and I had terrible insomnia post breast feeding as after mucking around with formula and water in the middle of the night I couldn't get back to sleep, boobs any day for me!

We did have a dummy from day 2, as DS was a really sucker and was feeding for comfort for hours. - so even though they are not recommended till 6 weeks for DS they were a dream from pretty early on.

Oh and I'm after some top tips for maternity jeans. Who's got some that are working well? My ones from DS are bootleg and I want skinny's!

I'm average height and slightly plump around that middle most of the time, more so at the moment, definite apple body shape!

Any tips?

TMI ALERT

does anyone else get travel sick when pg? I feel horrible threw up in mouth yesterday nearly happened again today was sitting in the back (which I have to do due to logistics of our car/family) on a 15m journey but I don't want to follow family in own car coz that'd be madness and a waste of petrol! sniffing a lemon helps but I forgot it today....also think I've got cystitis, only symptom is 'after pain' when I wee so I bought a remedy just now....
for those worried about HVs; they are nice enuf IME not always that helpful but they will want to see 'where baby sleeps' on their first visit so that's giving you lots of warning lol
(this was started somewhere between '08 and '12 or at least in my area) x

beewitched I'd be interested to hear how they react when you say you don't want an HV! I don't suppose they can 'make' you have a home visit, so I suppose you can go to the doc's instead.

Question! Can you eat salami on pizza?

hedgehog, omg that sounds amazing! Unfortunately I'm in London...

Re bf: not tried that obviously but my mum breast fed all of us so it sort of sounds like a natural thing to do. I hope she'll help at the start, although I'm a little worried too because she can be very pushy.. Apparently she weaned us off night feeds within the first month which, as far as I know, isn't advisable nowadays. Imagine an argument there! :)

hackney They can't force you to accept HV visits so we'll see.

I was going to go yay, got all Christmas food from M&S, boo, the glamour of buying maternity incontinence pads , but I had another effing smear bleed discharge episode so spent the afternoon in bed. Grrr!

purple I get aching hips too, try something soft underneath your sheet, like a thick towel double folded.

panic you can have any cured meat I think if its been cooked through and piping hot as it kills any harmful bacteria.

we've just had pepperoni pizza too; what the others said x

Just arrived to my inlaws. We had a really early start. Our flight was at 6am. arrived at the inlaws around 1pm with a grumpy child and there were about 12 people waiting for ys for lunch. Had forgotten how portuguese families can be looking forward to go to bed soon.

I really enjoyed breastfeeding despite the tiredness of feeding every 3 hours. But the beginning was hard and I understood why so many people don't pursue it. It took us a good couple of weeks for it to feel natural.

Liquid, where in Portugal are you? I was with a Portuguese guy for 5 years before meeting DH so have lots of fond memories of Portuguese dinner parties and Christmas that meant 5 types of cake!! Enjoy!

that's funny sleep :-) I'm north of lisbon near the coast: about an hour and half hours driving.

Christmas in Portugal and pregnancy are not a good combination I won't dare check my weight.

My HV never stayed long was always friendly & never asked to see where baby slept or anything (2012) so maybe they vary a lot person to person but by area also.

Only thing that I didn't like was her writing in my notes I was teary when bf - yes I was in absolute agony - weird seeing yourself written about. Bee they probably won't mind but it's not really just for you they're also checking their other patient is ok & I'm not sure how well it would go down you deciding baby doesn't need checks. It would probably be fine because I'm assuming you're in a nice area & house etc but missed & refusal of appts can be a trigger for a social services visit. But I'm sure if you make sure you explain reasons politely you have a very good chance of them taking you at your word that baby is ok

CJ - I got car sick last time round. The two things that helped were insisting I sat in the front (which I realise might not be possible for you) and travel bands that go round your wrists from boots .

My HV never asked where DS was sleeping - probably a good thing as he was sleeping in my bad and I don't know what she would have said about that. The ones that came to the house were ok - it was the first one I saw at the weigh in clinic that was no good. Looking back I don't know that she was a HV but perhaps a health assistant.

Bee - last time the HV just turned up with no warning so you might have to say no on the doorstep - you could say your just going out if that happens I guess

Redcliff - but they are supposed to make an appointment and not just turn up, as far as I'm aware there not allowed to do that.

I don't get why you have to have a HV around but the kid doesn't get to see a paediatrician. But then I'm also not happy about having to go to the GP with my pregnancy problems, I'm used to seeing an OB-Gyn for anything foof related, even smear tests.

Generally, the health system here is very different and I don't always feel at ease with aspects of it. (and please don't say something stupid like 'well, why don't you move back home' then, grrr)

I just feel very alone at the moment but I'll just have to get used to it and carry on.

miss I have Gap skinny jeans on at the moment. They are under bump ones and very comfortable. I had to wear mine unbuttoned yesterday as no way I was getting them done up. Bloody second baby belly explosion.

I had a pair someone gave me from new look last time that were quite comfy but 6 years ago!

Interestingly I also stopped at 9 months due to pressure from my mum (she will sleep better and she is old enough blah blah, to be honest she tried to stop me from the start as I think she felt guilty for only doing a few weeks as was recommended in the 80s!) and regretted it so much. DD was dairy intolerant and hated her hypo-formula and also went from healthy to snotty pretty quickly too. And she didn't sleep any better until she was 2.

Re car sickness, I got it really badly last time (some messy incidents!) and it never really went away. I found the only thing that worked was sleeping.

Bee I'd never say move back home - my husband lived abroad for 6 years & there are always things you'll love and always aspects you'll hate - it's a shame for you that the bits you don't like are quite intrusive.

After birth I had midwife for certain number days - it would annoy me that she couldn't give a time id have to wait all day & then HV a few times afterwards but they always made appts.

To be honest the main issue with refusing is they will worry about you & whether you have post natal depression. However there are lots of drop in centres & clinics. I used to attend a lovely baby group that had a health visitor there to do weighing etc & write in your notes. You could say you're very busy & having baby seen at x clinic / centre if that's ok - it might be more successful / cause less alarm for them?

Bee I'd never say move back home - my husband lived abroad for 6 years & there are always things you'll love and always aspects you'll hate - it's a shame for you that the bits you don't like are quite intrusive.

After birth I had midwife for certain number days - it would annoy me that she couldn't give a time id have to wait all day & then HV a few times afterwards but they always made appts.

To be honest the main issue with refusing is they will worry about you & whether you have post natal depression. However there are lots of drop in centres & clinics. I used to attend a lovely baby group that had a health visitor there to do weighing etc & write in your notes. You could say you're very busy & having baby seen at x clinic / centre if that's ok - it might be more successful / cause less alarm for them?

Sorry everyone not sure what I did wrong there!!

Also please don't feel alone Bee - many of us will share your frustrations - I just haven't experienced anything different to compare to but definitely don't think you're being odd or anything & you can always vent here

Thanks - I think I'm just still stressed out (well, FFS, I've been off work for 8 weeks now for 'stress' so I guess that goes without saying) by the random bleeds I'm still having and by how little the GP seems interested in them.

I'm thinking of giving the midwives a ring tomorrow, just to find out whether they recommend I do anything different and how to handle it should it get worse over Christmas while we're at MiL's - MUST remember to take my maternity notes along with me!

My mom just had an operation on her foot and is in a wheelchair, we're on the phone constantly but it's just a bit hard at the moment. Thanks for letting me vent.