Oh, choccy that sounds so awful, your poor friend. To lose both babies that way, I cannot imagine it. 22 weeks is so early but just when you start to relax & think it's all going to be ok. I do'nt think I'd know what to say either, maybe she will find it hard seeing you get bigger. But I guess all you can do is express your sorrow at what's happened and offer support or whatever she needs. Perhaps at a later point, find some mumsnet threads of those who have lost children this way? Sharing that grief seems to help a lot of people.
Loulou, sorry everything's not going so well, the house thing must be driving you crazy. House hunting is bad enough without the pressure of a deadline & wanting to get settled before you're due. Hope you find something soon. Have you looked at local NHS (Parentcraft) classes, I didn't manage to get to NCT but Parentcraft answered some of the questions & got to meet some people whom I'm still friends with! Does your midwife clinic have any drop-in times, most do or you can make an extra appointment to see a midwife. Exactly what they're employed for! I totally agree about ineptness as I've seen a stand-in once & don't have another appt until 29 weeks. I'd be climbing the walls if this was my first. What do you have questions about, could you start a thread & ask some of them that way? Can this group help? Or the Mums on Pregnancy book looks really good, I would have loved something like that first time round. Mums on Babies is excellent, if I could just steal it back from my friend! Like taking mumsnet to bed...hee hee. The others are right, though, it is easy to get it all bought in hours, nothing stopping you from researching it to death in the meantime. You could plan exactly what you want in the nursery & buy the little things like a mobile, grobags, that kind of thing? Are you feeling calmer now after your lunch?
Dublindee, that's fab, a lovely little boy, you must be really chuffed! Were you expecting one? I'm so thinking I'm having a boy (find out Fri, hopefully) and would be v.happy to have a whole tribe of them. They're gorgeous! Thought of some names yet?