June 2014 thread 5: 12-wk scans and leaving the 1st tri behind!

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Thought I'd get us started

Day #3 ms free - fingers crossed!

Still stupidly tired and lazy. Still in pjs on sofa just staring at my marking pile but choosing to watch re-runs of Friends instead. With a big bottle of chocolate milk of course!

Hope everyone is feeling ok today - weekends are definitely healthier than weekdays!

Despite looking about 47 today, shopping with my 5YO and 36 YO dh I have just been IDed in Sainburys. I am 33. I should be flattered but instead feel concern for the till operator's eye sight.

I always feel ok at the weekend as I can spend all Sunday sprawled on the sofa! I am very achy today though. Sainsbury's was a stupid idea.

Ha ha Marlena - take the compliment!!!

When I was about 7 months pregnant last time, I was with my hubby in Morrisons and he was buying some beer. The jobsworth there refused to sell it to him despite his id (we were both 30) because I didn't have id. I tried to explain that at 7 months pregnant, it really wasn't for me! He proceeded to tell me he knew a woman who drank gin all through her pregnancy(!) Like that justified his refusal to sell my husband the beer. And it was real ale - what 17 year old goes with his pregnant wife to Morrisons to buy real ale?!

Bee sorry about your mum's reaction. They sometimes don't even think about what they say. I called my father after the scan. I wasn't going to call him (especially after after his bad reaction to this pregnancy) but I was feeling guilty. He simply said "okay. Now you are more confident". didn't ask anything else....

clever Horray for 3 days without ms
I remember how hot I felt last pregnancy but I have been okay so far. My hair and skin are much oily though. I'm feeling sooo tired. Haven't been sleeping very well. plus work ft and a 3 year old is not making my life any easier.

Hope everyone is enjoying the weekend.

Ha clever it was also one bottle of real ale dh was buying and I said the same thing!

What if you're out shopping with your teenagers, are you not allowed your bottle of wine then? Seems really silly!

I've had a migrainey headache all day, first time I actually took some paracetamol as I didn't want to miss out on visiting DH's granny. Really knackered now but it was nice to see her.

My mom and I usually really get on well, we're on the phone for an hour a time at least 3-4 times a week, but she can be horridly unsentimental. She's mostly just interested in how much weight I've gained because she was hoping I'd lose some while pregnant. Ack.

My goodness BEE - have we got the same mother?! Mine is exactly the same - i was telling her how sick I'd been and struggling to eat, and losing weight and she just lectured me on how I was overweight anyway and must only eat healthy things - I was trying to explain eating anything was a bonus and she told me off!! Gotta love your mum though...and they'll be so happy once they have the grandchild!!!

Clever, her mom/my gran is a pretty hard case (well, she was a single mother in the 50ies, she had to be!) and while my mom is mostly lovely, she just can't express some things or see why they're a big deal.

But then, she didn't tell my gran she was pregnant until she was 6 months along (and they've lived in the same house all their lives!).

I'm miles behind most of you but it's my scan tomorrow! We have no one to look after our 18month old & letter says no kids so will be going alone. A little nervous!

Bumblebeesmum hope everything goes well with your scan tomorrow

Mine is still a week away (16th) and feels like FOREVER to wait! I'm so impatient at the moment!

Just popping on to recommend a book! My SIL suggested via skype the other day that I read "Expecting Better," because I was annoyed at the pregnancy rules being thrown at us without evidence to back it up. Basically it's a book written by a woman who decided to look up all the studies behind the various rules during pregnancy and outlines which studies are good and why and which things we are told end up actually being myths. It was an interesting read, really helped me suss out which rules are worth breaking. For example, I will not feel bad for enjoying a glass of wine or as many as 4 (small) cups of coffee a day now.

I heard that book was really good - apparently lots of studies that they base pregnancy advice on are tiny and not as well researched as you might be led to believe .

Had a lovely day yesterday seeing pal and hanging with our boys . She is very excited for me and gave me a ton of maternity clothes. I am also very hot these days - at night my tummy is like a hot water bottle and I don't even mind DP warming his cold hands on me. Good luck for scans all those that have theirs tomorrow.

Very jealous that you have been given a big stash of maternity clothes Red. A colleague at work did this to me with ds and it was fab. I gave these to my sis-in-law who gave to other sis-in-law who is due in january, so hoping to get back soon.
Good luck for those with scans tomorrow.
I've had a good and busy weekend but dh has been out of house at 7 and not back til 9 and same again tonight. So tired out with children.
Almost ds's bedtime

I wouldn't worry too much about taking your DC along to your scan, Bumble, we took our 23mo and there was another little boy in the waiting room too, and it didn't seem to be a problem. Hope it all goes well. X

Tomorrow I'm planning on telling work that I'm due in June. Gosh.... never thought this would be so difficult.
I was reading this article on the Guardian and got furious about the last part of the article "Be sensitive to your audience", especially "If you are planning to come back, then make sure that you continue to work hard and perform well for as long as you can" . How patronising!!

I'm planning on telling everyone at work if my 13 week scan goes ok on Weds. I'm really not sure how I'm going to do it. I work in a small office/warehouse of about 20 people.

...do I just stand up, announce "so, I'm pregnant!" (really not my style), go round and tell each person quietly and individually (seems a bit like asking for attention and will have the whole office trying to overhear before their turn), or just send an email (very impersonal). What a quandary.

Any ideas? I was wondering maybe about writing a little note in everyone's Christmas cards and leaving them on desks first thing so to at least stagger the "oh my gods" a bit.

How are you all planning on doing it?

Oh, forgot to say, I have already told my manager and will be taking the management team aside to let them know first, for diplomacy's sake.

I'll tell my personnel manager, followed by my current manager (this changes often, so they are not the same person as in most jobs). After I'm allowed by my manager - I'll tell my direct reports (which are both internal and external to my employer hence the need to wait for approval) and then wait for the gossip to spread!

Sussex - last time round I sent an email to my office 'just to let you know the good news etc etc' which is pretty much the done thing in my office. This time round, as it's my second I just came back from scan and told a few people on my desk and then the other people in the office were like 'why is everyone hugging' and then got involved in it all. I preferred the second time but work in quite a small office!

I just went into work and said " I have some exciting news - I'm having a baby" I work in a pretty big place so then popped and told a few other people that I get on with particularly well.

Should add - I told my manager a few weeks before (as I thought I was having a mc ) and she blabbed to a couple others which I was hacked off at the time as I had to un tell iyswim but all worked out in the end as one of them forced me to take it easy!

I work in a very small department. My plan is to tell my line manager first, and then tell personally to everyone else.
My concern at the moment is how my line manager will react. When I got the job I was asked about my commitment. I am afraid my line manager might see my pregnancy as a lack of commitment :(

As I only started my job at the beginning of October, I'm pretty nervous about breaking the news. I think I will tell my manager on Wednesday as she's not in tomorrow and Wednesday we are with a film crew all day (likely tobe an 11 hour day, euh). There's just 3 people in my department and I'm still just getting to know everyone so I think I'll just let it filter out gradually. I'm still on probation for another four months - I know by law they can't fire me for pregnancy, I just hope I've made a big enough impression to make them think I'm worth the inconvenience and hassle after so little time to prove myself. ..

Just a quick question - I've been feeling flutterings... Is it remotely possible this might be the baby or is it something else? (And if so what could it be?!) I'm 11 weeks today... It just feels so weird!