Martians 2014 Thread 14: on intra-uterine discos and knocking stuff over with your bump.

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That's very annoying Lumpy

The 24 week thing... It hadn't really crossed my mind! This pregnancy has flown by. I'm 26+4 so I guess it's a baby in there now and not a semi formed foetus. Wow. A big part of me is in denial - not about having a baby but about how soon it will be happening. My friend had a 31 week preemie - that would be about a month from now. Wow.

same here I see this whole thing as a series of milestones, u almost end up wishing ur life away.

Boooo our boiler has given up today got a chap here trying to fix it and is on 3rd phone a friend! Eeek!
looks like we may be lighting the log burner tonight!

I've put on just over a stone, but it's all boobs and bump - you can't see it in my face or thighs. And I don't think the bump is huge either, in a baggy jumper I could still conceal it altogether fairly well.

24 weeks is viable - that means they will progress to neonatal care if the baby comes early - it still only has a slim chance of survival/survival without issues. The odds only really go up once you get past 30 weeks.

Yes Mrskay but prior to 24 weeks then it's still merely classed as a miscarriage, not acknowledged as losing a baby despite the fact that you have spent almost 6 months getting to know them, feeling them kick etc. There's not even any rights to time off work other than sick leave prior to this. After 24 weeks they will do what they can to save the baby, if it was all in vain then at least your loss is acknowledged. As I said, for you it may not be a big deal but for others it is!!

It's a big milestone, but something I would rather privately acknowledge IYSWIM?

We were supposed to be going to see friends this afternoon with their several week old baby boy. However, DH, who has been telling me all week we were going to see them on Sunday, hadn't actually contacted them and dropped them a text half an hour beforehand - they weren't in. Why are men so flippin useless!

Was a bit gutted so decided I would live vicariously through the December 2013 thread, with the excitement of labours starting and imminent arrivals. Had forgotten how miserable late pregnancy is - beginning to question why I said I would work up until 39 weeks.

pain I went out with 3 friends, one of whom didn't know I was pregnant so it was a bit weird telling her so late on. One of the friends that came has breast cancer and her husband is being a total arse, says she looks horrid with no hair and and scars, he is flirting with other women and being generally nasty. I couldn't believe it and was almost in years for her!

Oh mummypig what a prat. I guess the best thing to do is just be there for your friend (as much as possible when pg and a mum to small ones!)

Mummy that is unbelievable! I bet u feel outraged

Update on the boiler, not fixed, so no heating or hot water tonight, so have got a fire going with the doors open and hoping the -4oC tonight stays out of the house a bit at least

Mummy that is truly shocking. I just can't believe he would act like that - what a truly selfish bastard. I would find it hard to forgive that kind of behaviour - I'm afraid marriage would be over because he has exposed the fact that he is only in it for what he can take and is completely ignoring the 'for better, for worse' bit - either that or he is not coping with the shock of the news. Very sad.

mummypig I hope your friend makes a full recovery in spite of her jerk of a husband....and then when she has her strength back flirts outrageously with other men.

Just saying hi. Been quite the roller coaster week fir thread

Want to send lots of hugs, good wishes and happy thoughts to all. (Yes feeling lovwy from hormones)
Hope you are all well and if not ,there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Promise, this too shall pass.. Very grateful to have you guys

Morning fellas! Or ladies, whatever.

That weekend went toooo quick. Saturday was all housework and Sunday was all running around doing errands.

Trying to decide whether to take mat leave at 37 or 38 weeks. Hmmm. Maybe 37 so I can catch up on all the millions of things I'm forever putting off.

I'm in the camp of 'excited about reaching 24 weeks'. I get there on Friday and was planning on telling anyone who would listen about the viable thing.

Bathroom update: still not in. Probably going to be another 2 weeks. Bugger.

Morning! Hope everyone had a good weekend.

I'm tired! And DH has the whole week off and was still in bed when I left :(
He was offered a new job on Saturday that will cover my pay when maternity money stops, so that's going to make life so much easier! - I'm so proud of him, head hunted and everything :)

I spent the whole weekend at the yard so am feeling so much happier that I'm not missing out on my 'old' life.

fox that's ages with the bathroom! (Hope you have more than one!)

mummy that's just awful! my friends mum is being treated for cancer and the thourght of her boyfriend doing that is just horrible.

diz eek I'm cold just thinking of having no boiler! Hope it gets fixed soon.

I didn't even know about the 24 weeks, it sounds so early! But it is comferting I suppose, but seeing all the problems my client is having after she had her little girl at 30 weeks, I still wouldn't count on it too much. :(

Well done to your DH Block! That's fab.

Only got the one (tiny) bathroom, but it is still functional it's just really not nice to use. The tiles have been ripped off, there is plaster splashes all over everything and it was pretty skanky to start with.

That's a relief fox I'm sure not being able to pee when you want, makes you want to pee even more! Getting up in the morning and not having a pee first thing would result in a lot of wet patches in our house! Lol - hope they finish it soon.

Oh yeah, I couldn't go long without a toilet. Or a shower for that matter. The new stuff is going in the same day as the old stuff comes out. Or so I am promised. I'm wondering whether I should go visit family for a few days anyway when it (finally) happens.

Can I do a quick survey: what are you all planning regarding sleeping arrangements for the baby? I.e. co-sleeping, bedside crib, Moses basket, normal cot etc. I've not worked this one out yet. It's all too abstract a concept.

Fox We are planning a moses basket right by the side of the bed to start with and then cot at the foot of our bed.

Eventually baby will move into it's own room around 6 months-ish.

I like the idea of co-sleeping with a newborn but our bed isn't big enough - we only have a standard double, there's no space between us for a little one.

Moses basket next to my side of the bed to start with (mil just ordered it apparently). I would be too scared to fall asleep if I had the baby next to me, although I'm a pretty still and light sleeper. DH has almost squished the cat on many occasions so no way would baby be allowed to sleep next to him. DH also sleep walks, so he is doubly not trusted!

My mother works in A&E and in the past told us of a father that sufficed his child by mistake while sleeping, the guilt he would have to live with forever is unbearable, That has always stayed with me.

I'm sure we will have lots of in bed snuggles and feeds, but just not the actual sleeping.

I think my sister is giving me a Moses basket. She didn't use it much because she felt the stand was too rickety, so maybe I won't like it either!

I quite like the idea of a co-sleeping cot, but they're crazy money. Maybe we will adapt a normal one.

mrsKay you're not meant to have the baby between you anyway.

Fox we're being given a Moses basket so going to start off with that and see how we get on! Probably just cot in our room after that and then own room after about six months or so.

similar here, moses basket to about 5-6months, then cot in own room next to ours.

We have heating and hot water again! So nice to be warm again, mind u I am so glad we invested in 1 of those oil fired radiators last Xmas. It was a life saver!

Bedside sleeping thing I think. I would love a co-sleeper cot but they are soooo expensive. The one recomended to me is like £300 and at 6 months I want the baby in a cot in its own room. Its a big pay out for a relitivly short period of time but I suppose it can go in the atic for the next one (should I be lucky enough to have one and if I want one after the first)