The PESH are waddling their way to Christmas & trying not to freak out!

[FrankelInFoal]

The ante-natal fred for BESH graduates.

Recent Grads (aka CRESH)

blonderthanred, boy, born 26th October 2012
FriendofDorothy, boy, born 14th December 2012
QueenRollo, boy, born 21st January 2013
LazyMachine (38) boy EDD 9/2/13 - need an actual arrival date!
CamelKnees (34) EDD 22/04/2013 - need actual arrival date!
HaveALittleFaith (31), Faithlet arrived 14th April 2013
fertilityFTW (34) arrival date needed!
pinkr, (33), girl born 25th August 2013
Jethro (36) boy born 23rd September 2013

Waiting to lay:
Noks - EDD 28/12/2013
Frankel - EDD 4/3/2014
Sinky - EDD 18/3/2014
Ginfox - EDD end April 2014
Kat - EDD needed
Drizz - EDD 7/6/2014
Draf - EDD 19/6/2014
Winks - EDD 29/6/2014

Apologies for any misinformation or omissions!

PESH hags, can I come in for a handhold (despite what I said yesterday )? There are too many new people on the BESH fred for me to feel entirely comfortable there at the moment. I woke up for a wee in the night and found lots of brown blood (I know brown is better than red, but still). It's easing off now, but I have some mild cramps. I've decided against going to the EPU as there is nothing they can do anyway. I'm going to try to hang on for ny second scan next Tuesday, but thatt seems like a long way off at the moment.

(BTW, I love the idea of hippobirthing.)

Ah euro, it's scary and horrible. I've had a few bleeds this time too, including a bright red one. Doctor told me it's just the womble stretching and expanding and dropping some gunk, hopefully it'll be the same for you.

Thanks Winky. That's comforting.

euro I had bleeding too last time around. Hang in there. I am desperately hoping not to have a repeat episode this time.

How many weeks are you now?

Another who had bleeding signing in for a handhold. Mine was at 7 weeks and scared the bejesus out of me. Keep an eye on it, if it gets any heavier then call your clinic, mine were very reassuring and told me exactly how to handle it.

Faith I know I probably sound all wafty about the birth but I wanted to reassure you that I'm not totally in de nile about how it could all go wrong!

Euro

Like Faith I had loads of ideas about the birth, got the hippobirth book & various woo CDs. Then the MiniJeff was breech & it all got taken out of my hands. I wish I'd focused more on how I was going to get through the first few weeks.

Dor I'm 6+5 now. Next scan is booked for a week today at what should be 7+5.

How about you?

Frank what advice did the clinic give you?

euro although I didn't know I was diffed at the time (cos it was right after the ivf) I had two lots of bleeding, one week apart. Ring the EPU and get some advice -please don't sit there worrying yourself sick. Xx

franks the anchor thing with Lazy Daisy is also to get you back on track with your breathing if you feel like things are getting a bit out of control. A bit of re-focusing if you are going a batshit crazy.

Eeep, euo, that is scary :( Odds are everything is fine, though. Keep an eye on it and see how you go.

A friend of mind said exactly the same thing, jeff - she'd been all worried and preparing for the birth, but it was the first month of having a newborn that really knocked her for six.

I quite like the idea of hippobirthing though - generally a feeling of self-confidence and as faif says, trusting my body to do it right is what I'm aiming for. Not sure I need to build a nest to achieve that, but I assume it helps other people. I suppose it doesn't really matter (so long as I'm not told off for being a bit nest-sceptical).

noks I really can't be bothered to call the EPU. They can't do anything if it is going wrong, so I might as well wait for the next scan. And if I never see another hospital again, it'll be too soon. I'd rather be at work, trying to keep busy! It's reassuring that you had bleeds and all was fine though.

Interesting chat about focusing on the birth rather than the newborn!

Maybe Single Guy From Sheffield will keep you busy? (Sorry if the link's deleted already, you missed a gem if it is)

Back on topic - I think I might be dangerously blase about the whole newborn thing. I stayed with my sister for 3 weeks after she had her older child and it was blissful - I've checked, she remembers it like that too - he was the best sleeping, eating cute thing and we had a lovely time going for lunch, chilling at home and admiring the baby. This is how I'm picturing my time off, which could be disastrous.

As for the birth, I don't have any expectations, other than it'll hurt. A lot. If its long it hurts because its drawn out, if its quick then its more intense and scary, and I have an enormous head so I'm pretty terrified this baby will too.

Oh, euro! So sorry about the bleeding! I bled both this diffment as the mc one and it freaked me out massively. I called the clinic in tears several times, I bled from about 5 weeks right until 7+5 the day before my first scan. The clinic says it happens all the time w IVF diffments, cos you've been meddled w a lot! Big huge hug, tho. It's scary shit!

I am fully in de nile, both about birthand achual baybee! Might change a little after the next scan!

Brilliant Winks. I guess you can't blame a guy for trying!

I booked pregnancy pilates to start tonight. I was up at 5.15 for work, had to take HWCA to minor injuries after work because he bust his leg chasing someone, and now I just want to sleep. Poo.

norks - just noticed you were here - sweep didn't do much to shift the baybee then? You climbing the walls yet or doing ok?

Ouch, poor HWCA

Euro the clinic's advice was basically the same as the advice on here:

Monitor bleeding, remember that it always looks like there is more blood than there actually is
If blood becomes bright red and is accompanied by cramps call the EPU
If you are worried at any stage call the EPU, even if it us just to chat to someone

Euro just nipped in to grip your toe again for support. I had tonnes of brown sludge early after my bfp and a bright red bleed at 11 weeks. As somebody said, there's lots going on in there so lots of genuine reasons for some blood to make an appearance. Remember how tough it was/is though just waiting it out and not knowing.

Winks I was so far on the other end of the scale from your sister. Think sleep deprived, unable to feed, stressed out mess. We did manage to go out for lunch though

Thanks merk. I had a gush of reddish blood this afternoon. If that keeps up I might have to visit the EPU. YY for the pregnancy sunroof!

I too had bleeding - mine was at 12 weeks. Stopped after about 5 hours (only really there when I wiped). I was diagnosed with a UTI which they thought caused the bleeding so it might be worth being checked out euro

Don't get me wrong. It's good to have positive thoughts about birth. It's just that I didn't really get time to utilise anything like that! The tens machine was good though :)

Euro I'm keeping everything crossed for you. Have you more red bleeding since this arvo? Don't forget the crampy feeling can also be womble stretches as it makes more room for baybee, it's very hard to tell the difference.

I don't want to be all sunshine and light and "la la everything will be fine" as I know how patronising that can be, but equally I don't want you to over worry yourself.

Jeff is spot on, there is not that much you can actually do with regards to the birth,either it is sneezy and you are lucky or it is more complicated. I had an induction and what helped me was getting off my tits on pethidine. The first three months are much more worth thinking about how to cope than the birth. You may get an angelic baby or you could be like mine and have three months of colic. To be fair he is angelic now! There is a book called life after birth which is good.

Is it normal to feel 'periody' when my period would next be due?

Just popping in to see how Euro is...