The PESH are waddling their way to Christmas & trying not to freak out!

[FrankelInFoal]

The ante-natal fred for BESH graduates.

Recent Grads (aka CRESH)

blonderthanred, boy, born 26th October 2012
FriendofDorothy, boy, born 14th December 2012
QueenRollo, boy, born 21st January 2013
LazyMachine (38) boy EDD 9/2/13 - need an actual arrival date!
CamelKnees (34) EDD 22/04/2013 - need actual arrival date!
HaveALittleFaith (31), Faithlet arrived 14th April 2013
fertilityFTW (34) arrival date needed!
pinkr, (33), girl born 25th August 2013
Jethro (36) boy born 23rd September 2013

Waiting to lay:
Noks - EDD 28/12/2013
Frankel - EDD 4/3/2014
Sinky - EDD 18/3/2014
Ginfox - EDD end April 2014
Kat - EDD needed
Drizz - EDD 7/6/2014
Draf - EDD 19/6/2014
Winks - EDD 29/6/2014

Apologies for any misinformation or omissions!

Shaving once or month or shagging once a month? :D

It gradually gets easier pinks. It's crept up on me. Suddenly Faitlet is down to 4 day time feeds and one overnight. The sechs is happening more often and I am trying to shave my legs at least once a week (usually on the weekend when MSB is around to supervise little miss crawly).

Funny with names isn't it? I refused to name Faithlet until we'd seen her in case she didn't suit the name we'd pick.

It's tough with the BESH fred isn't it? It's ace that this Fred is so busy. I think it's tricky because those who are still BESHing are at quite complicated points so not wanting to post as much. Really hoping it turns around for them soon.

Yeah, exactly, faif - people having hard times, and been posting less over the last six months anyway, coupled with a huge cluster diff thinning the herd. I think four of us became PESH in the space of three weeks or so

Having a rough time sleep wise...longest stretch between waking just under three hours, shortest forty min and hour and half average...all night. The gaps gets progressively shorter as the morning approaches. I have actual dark circles and can't hold a conversation. On the plus side little pink is getting really funny and smiles tons. We're a week into the sleep pattern so far and I may never have sex again till she's a teen haha

Morning hags!

Agree draf about the guilt with the BESHthread. I just don't want to put anyone out or post too much now. And there are few left. Not only did we have a cluster-diff, there have been some less advertised drop outs at the same time... I just really hope the next lot of IVF attempts brings everyone over here.

The one thing I am very grateful about is that our cluster seems to have survived the first trimester intact. I remember how difficult it is when others move forward and you're thrown back into TTC-land...

Sechsing, can someone tell me if I'll ever feel like it again? I used to have a more than average appetite for it. But the bleeding in early diffment put me off and I haven't really felt like it since. We've done some other stuff but I am so overly sensitive that I really can't cope with much.

Sorry about the lack of sleep pink, she does sound adorable though!

You will drizz, but it might be a while....I lost my sechs drive when diffed, what with the puking and the reflux and the irritable uterus. Definitely wasn't interested post birth! But in the last couple of months it's kicked back in.

My sympathies pink. All I can say is it's got easier for us. I'm guessing you're in growth spurt territory!

My sechs drive is still here. We've done it twice since September - the time I got diffed, and last week. It isn't likely to improve either :(

Morning all!
driz hope you are right about this cluster diff getting through the first trimester. 12 week scan a week Monday for me. Am getting very anxious but trying to persuade myself i have no need to worry. A few late drop outs on the June Fred recently after bad scans have scared me.

i CBA with sechsing. I am so tired i need to go to bed at 9 most evenings. Good job we had honeymoon the week before bfp!

know what you mean about the BESH fred. I feel guilty for going back and then instadiffing. I lurk there but i only know bugs, hester and euro from my own besh days and i so badly want to see them get a win after all they have been through. Just seems so unfair.

But kat none of the people with bad scans on the June fred had any earlier scans. All of us have had good ones, and we would need to be horrifically unlucky for the 12 week scan to be bad. The odds are well in our favour.

(Can you tell I've had to reason this out with myself?)

That is true winks that is what i am telling myself multiple times a day. My problem is that my scan was 8+2 and my first miscarriage was 10 weeks. The statistics say that if you get scanned at 12 weeks and have had no bleeding then odds are less than 2%. I am just finding it tough to engage emotionally with the pregnancy till i have another scan. Last time i had two scans by 9 weeks. I am wanting to compare buggies and cots and so on and think about getting our home ready and make plans and all that.

How long until your 12 week scan? I don't blame you for being anxious in the slightest. For me, my mmc was found at around 9 weeks by lmp, so I've managed to pass that milestone this time.

9 days! I think draf has hers on the same day too

MAY THE ODDS BE EVER IN OUR FAVOUR

Yep, Kat, we are scan-date buddies! Here's hoping everything is okay - I too am terrified. I've had so few symptoms, there's nothing to suggest I was ever diffed in the first place aside from test and scan. What time is yours? Ours is 11.30, timed for maximum inconvenience for HOTB at work. Maybe he'll work from home in the morning.

Sechs drive is somewhat diminished but definitely still present here, we've just carried on once-twice every week since I stopped the pessaries. But then I've had no bleeding to scare us, so I can definitely understand that making you cautious :)

I am convinced by stats on other people's behalf, even if I was still shocked to see bean developing to proper something on our scan. Keeping everything crossed for all of us. Will keep an eye on the Fred from the work loos on Monday! Cos I dropped out of our clusterdiff by 8 weeks, I was just so relieved it's still four of us at or near 12 weeks!

If I mention might take til past birth to SB he'll cry! So I am hoping for a second trimester resurgence :)

Btw I find the June Thread quite scary in the way they think about prams etc and have done for weeks! Sometimes I lurk, but I feel like an alien!

Yes I think second trinester was better in retrospect! :)

I daren't even go and lurk on the June thread

In better and MORE AWESOME news: dates for Sherlock series three have been confirmed! New Year's Day for episode one, the 5th and 12th January for the others. I am beyond excited

Hooray for Sherlock!

draf I'm on the June fred and not too sure why, tbh. I also noticed that people on it believe bfp = getting a baybee, no question. Lots of pram talk and maternity clothes early on. I'm not criticising at all, it just isn't me.

I have to go out shortly. Its my friends birthday, but it will take me an hour to get there, the only people I know are her and her boyfriend, and I obviously can't drink. I'm also bloody tired. Can't be arsed! But its too late to cancel, so off I go.

I've ended up leaving the March thread, there was too much hunning and lols for my liking

I was exactly the same with the October thread - found it hard to join in early on as I was so worried then later on I felt like it was too late iyswim.

It's bloody lovely to have so many PESH.

I luff my April 13ers but to be fair we have mostly decamped to a secret FB group. There were a few hunners who aren't on FB still posting on mn but I don't go there any more.

I wish I hadn't gone out. Plan was for dinner at 6, except it wasn't booked. Try getting a table for 8 in London at Christmas time the Saturday after pay day. I've given up, I feel sick and exhausted. They're drinking and still queuing for a table.

And hunners and lollers can fuck off.

Oh winks that sounds like an early differ's nightmare! Get yourself home and tucked up in bed.

twonks get back on the Essex express and get tucked-up in bed. If you are obliged to stay, don't get stiffed for drinks like I did last night (second time this particular group of friends have drunk their own body weight in wine and just split the bill without any concessions for the fact that I only had a small glass of red and drank water the rest of the time - what a martyr ). Hunners, baby dusters and lollies can indeed be rounded up, popped on a bus and driven over the edge of a large cliff.

jeff lovely to see you. How are things in Jeff Towers ? Are they getting better ?

Sechsing ? Woss that then ? Peter Penis has not come to visit Virginia Vagina in a long while in my house.

I'll make a confession here, HWHNN and I haven't had sechs since we found out I was diffed . For the first trimester I just felt too sick/bloated and we now just seem to be out of the habit. It doesn't help with HWHNN only being here at weekends, and I've been so tired I usually end up going to bed before him. Our relationship is absolutely great, it's just never been one with huge amounts of sechs.