The maybies are keeping a close eye on their fruit - due May 14

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Will this do? I bet someone's beat me to it now!

Wow elastigrrl that is a powerful comment, she must be a smashing mum. I did feel like my gut had been wrenched from me when I saw the fear in her eyes. Im sleeping in her bed with her tonight as I can't handle the guilt of making her sleep alone.

My DP is never really interested until the baby is here. I can usually coerce a baby name discussion out of him every 3 months. He'll look a scan pics and sigh and moan about the expense of another mouth to feed but when they arrive he's fab! completely besotted by them.

My dh is very interested he's having a party with himself that next week we are 4 months gone!!!

Today is the first day I've been on bp meds and it's the first day in weeks I haven't had headache !!!

UGGGGGHH I'm having a lot of trouble with work risk assessment. I'm a teacher,working in special needs so deal with a lot of very lively, very strong and sometimes very aggressive children, as well as hoists, chairs etc. Today I raised concerns that there was no mention of the risks of the playground or procedure for infectious diseases ( especially slap cheek) or the increasingly challenging and aggressive behaviour of a kid in my class. My risk assessment was meant to be updated in October! They told me that first time mums always worry and that nothing needed to be done! DH furious (he's a teacher too but not special needs) wants to call the school, go down there himself etc. Trouble is I know that if I do complain or get union involved they'll make my life hell til mat leave. Ugh, sorry to vent just feeling really vulnerable and fed up with the school!

Thanks moo and elasti :)

I told him about the 20 week scan date and he pulled a face and said he had a class that morning. I said it's important and he asked if I could ask my mum to go with me instead

He's 10 years older than me, he's the one who insisted all along that he was ready for kids, and then when it happens accidentally, he's stuck his head in the sand and is trying to be this cool young student while my student life seems to have gone down the drain and I'm struggling to walk to and from lectures even

I know how lucky I am to be pregnant and how many people struggle and I do feel bad about complaining, I just feel constantly down lately. At times I've felt like there isn't any good outcome to this, like everything's going to go wrong and everyone's judging me constantly and waiting for me to fail and it's horrible, and I told my boyfriend and he said it's just hormones, and I know he's right but it doesn't mean it's not upsetting :(

Sorry... think I need to get it off my chest.

irish I'm suprised at their reaction my BF is a TA in a special needs residential school and the first thing they do (for teachers too) is put to put them on soft duties and minimise her time with children who were known to be violent. Their attitude was if she or her baby came to harm while inside the school they could be held responsible.

moomin I'm going to be blunt he doesn't sound committed to you or the baby from what you have said previously. Do you have a plan B?
The main thing is you focus on securing you and the babies future, if he changes the attitude for the better then wonderful but at least you won't be vulnerable later to a change in circumstances.

His dismissing it as hormones because then he can deny all responsibility for his own actions and attitude.

Is anyone else doing the BuMP blood pressure study? It's getting on my nerves already, I've only been doing it 3 weeks.

moomin being hormonal does not mean your feeling aren't valid. Try at some point to have a decent chat without getting upset/angry (something I'm struggling with at the mo..) and explain what you want from him. It's not fair that you feel alone in your relationship. I've been there and it's miserable - I will say that while I hope everything goes as you want it to, being alone with a baby is not the end of the world lovely. Some of my fondest memories of motherhood are of after exp left and it was just me and the big two.

Elastigrrrl Rebecca & hobbjobb Amazing news on your scans today, congratulations!

moobaloo Good luck with yours x

I've got a very excited DP here (his first child), he's rearranging work to come to the midwives with me! It's quite refreshing really as my ex was completely the other way with my DS.

In other news; I heard the baby's heartbeat today with my home doppler! I was on my own and just sat there sobbing, totally wonderful!

Sweet dreams everyone x x x
13+5

xav not doing study

vikks such lovely news

moomin I agree with littlebairn's and xavielli's advice re: your other half... Let us know how you get on

Hoping everyone feeling well, and once again lovely to have had the influx of scan news hobbjobb , rebecca , elastigrrrl

Ouch! The sneeze pain is getting worse. Used to be a sharp pain over immediately, just sneezed now and the pain was much worse and lasted about 10 seconds after I'd sneezed. Will need to brace myself for further sneezes.

Congratulations on all the great scans news yesterday

Lovely to hear all the scan news!

moomin I have been reading your blog and it's really good. Well done! Sorry to hear your dp is not being as supportive as he should. Maybe reality will catch up with him and he'll realise time to pull himself together? I hope so anyway.

Hello all, just back from my 16 week appointment so thought I'd fill you in. I was in and out in 15 mins, much shorter than last time giving me time to go to M&S before going back to work

Blood pressure taken, urine checked (took first morning pee, thank goodness for hubby who reminded me!) and bump felt to see if it was the right size, position. All good but she didn't listen for heartbeat so wee bit disappointed but glad all went well. Also got number for physio for sore hip, got appt for next Tues.

Next visit is 20 week scan on 10th Dec, can't wait! Hope all others appt go well today/tomorrow

Same with the sneeze pain here impatiently plus I'm sneezing alllll the time. Especially when I eat which is so random!

moomin the way he is behaving is not on. What he is feeling may well be valid and there are probably reasons for it, feeling his life is changing and not wanting it to because he didn't choose for it to happen at this moment. That's ok, but what's not is taking it out on you and not talking about it. I second littlebairn in making sure you focus on yourself and your baby. None of us know him and you and how it will work out. He may come round, or just get it once LO is here, but if he doesn't all you need to know is you have your baby. That's the good that comes out of it, a little person who will always be with you. I always feel so grateful I can't be properly lonely as I have DS and he always wants me.

Lovely scan news all.

Small thing that's making me happier, DH was away and I would normally be uber stressed but me and DS just got on with it and it was a nice relax on our own :) only thing that did worry me... How the HELL do you put two seperate babies to bed on your own? I have my hands full getting DS down never mind juggling another when DH goes away. Eep.

ham the wonderful thing about having a toddler and newborn is that the newborn will stay where you put them then as they get older they've watched your routines with the elder child and IME they are very good at just following along most of the time. By the time the baby is born you'll just be so glad you're not heavily pregnant and chasing a toddler that it's all a relief

impatient I get sneeze pain too when I feel a sneeze come on I imediently put my knees together and sort of straighten up that seems to help dull the pain.

ham juggling little ones at bedtime can be difficult but you will find your own routine that suits you all. In my experience putting the older ones to bed first is usually the easiest way to do it. Read bedtime story while feeling the little one or if its ok with not being held out down in baby chair or Moses basket in the same room so baby hears your voice but you can give more focus to your DS.

minions I would be interested to hear how your appointment goes with the physio.
After having SPD like pain for a few days last night I had awful pain in just one of my hip joints felt a bit arthartic stiff and uncomfortable all night.

During my last pregancy and for a long time after I had hip pain I was rayed amd told it was just inflamation caused by pregancy. Problem is I can't take anti inflammatories.

Hey hope everyone is okay!
Is anyone showing much? Dh says I'm really showing now. I stood this morning trying to suck tummy in and nope. It wasn't budging! Ds is amazed how hard my tummy is. I'm struggling to get used to it. I'd better get used to it quick because it's only going to get bigger!
16 week midwife appointment next week

Dobe I feel like I'm showing loads. It's so hard finding something to wear whenever I go out for a meal or with friends.

But I'm going to a wedding in 3 weeks so bought an Isabella Oliver dress from eBay and it's just arrived. Tried it on and I think I look slimmer and less pregnant than I have in anything else. I guess it's cos all my clothes are too tight and everything is bulging out of them. So weird to think that in 3 weeks the dress could look totally different as I could have popped even more by then.

So have bid for 2 more IO dresses and a top on eBay as I may have become a convert.

Heard the baby's heartbeat on the doppler again today, so much louder than when I first started finding it. I can find it straight away now.

Gender scan on Saturday then midwife app next thurs when I'll be 17 weeks. Can not wait to find out if it's a boy or girl, even though I'm already convinced its a boy as nub theory said it was, as well as every old wives tale.

Thanks xav and little and I guess I am forgetting I have the wonderful sling in my armoury so if all else fails I can get the newborn in there. Its crazy to think of how I just plonked DS down and he wouldn't move! Now he never ever stops, even in his sleep he flip flops all over the cot. Getting him into a toddler bed to free up the cot is going to be the next trial but I don't know whether to try before may so he's all settled or to wait til a few months after LO is here and actually needs the cot. He would be 21 months in may or 2 once LO grows out of Moses basket. Dilemmas.

Has anyone started eating more?
I had some toast and cereal for breakfast I'm ravenous again had some fruit and going to make so e cheese toasties.
Last night I had a large meal too.

Little I've been the opposite! My appetite is rubbish. Yesterday I had breakfast (sausage bap!) and I was full all day, I only had a petit filous and a slice of ds's garlic bread at dinner after that. Today a work colleague brought some lovely spag bol and I could barely eat any as I got heartburn after the first mouthful.
Mind you, I'm not complaining. My BMI is already quite high and I could definitely stand to lose a couple of stone (or four!)

With ds though I was ravenous throughout the whole pregnancy. I put on 4 stone!

I'm really enjoying not having to eat every 15 mins anymore.

Hi littlebairn will let you know how it goes. Sorry you're having a rough time with it. I'm ok during the day but it wakes me up at night. I'm sure I caused it by forcing myself to sleep on my left hand side convinced that the right would be bad for baby. Feel bit of a numpty now

I've more of an appetite now but I don't really feel hungry often. Did fall for garlic dough balls today though, can't get enough carbs. I'm definitely showing but I'm sure the bump is full of bread and pasta...

Hey all! Wonderful scan news from many...it's exciting times at the moment! sorry to those who are not feeling so good still - really hope it passes.

ham good luck with your homeopath appointment and I hope you're feeling more upbeat soon, and well done coping with your DH away... must be harder when you're feeling a bit low.

thistle glad to hear the bp meds are having the desired effect, thats great!

I'm with you littlebairn eating like a horse (though in all honesty thats not that different than normal!!)

Quite jealous of all you showing - I keep feeling like a fraud as still nothing resembling a bump yet!

Flying back to Harare tomorrow morning, it's been great being in Nairobi but I'm SOOOOOO looking forward to getting home, to my own bed and the hounds, cats and allsorted fowl! will check in soon!

Have a good evening everyone

minions did you ask how bad it is to lie on your right side? I try and lie on my left but sometimes I wake up on my right or on my back. Also my ear (!) and hip is getting sore from trying to stay in the same position. The dream genie pillow helps but in the middle of the night I get pissed off with it and launch it to the other side of the room!