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October 2013: The Fourth Trimester - the bit no one warns you about!

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roxvox · 27/10/2013 16:24

Stats sheet here

New arrivals here

Key:
SC - still cooking (pre EDD)
SFW - still f*ing waiting (post EDD)
OWT - on way to theatre (CS)
IP - induction in progress
SWIL - somewhere in labour
LIT - lost in transition

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Pinkforboys · 29/10/2013 11:15

Oh clapham at least it must have been a good sign that your body is starting the eviction process. Or perhaps just that it was a good curry last night Grin

dontworryjustpanic · 29/10/2013 11:18

I'm sure they'll get started again soon Clapham - get massaging those pressure points. These precious little babies just have no idea how they torment us! (Or do they just have a sick sense of humour?)

Bronzemoth · 29/10/2013 11:47

clapham oh no, they can stop and start. Mine ground to a halt for a little bit, at the very least it sounds like things are moving in the right direction.

smitten our nct lady who is also a doula recommended to use the tens from early on as it works best if you build up the intensity levels as the contractions intensify. I found it helped but there was a limit to how much I liked the sensation so never made it close to the max.

Doing the counting/timing was hard we just went in when I realised if they got any worse that I wouldn't be able to handle the car trip.

claphammama · 29/10/2013 11:47

I know orange Sad and have been bouncing on the ball for the last two hours Sad

pink this is my worry exactly... as I definitely gave birth last night but not to a baby (sorry to lower the tone again!) perhaps same curry again tonight?

dontworry this is my DP's baby after all so sick sense of humour is not excluded... genes are genes after all

Smitten1981 · 29/10/2013 11:58

Bronze, that might have to be my plan of action. Hospital is 45 mins away so a bit worried about the journey again today.

The pains I'm getting aren't really hurting enough to convince me anything will happen soon to be honest.

Sending a share of contractions your way Clapham.

Haylebop12 · 29/10/2013 13:03

Afternoon ladies, pleased to hear some SWIL stauses and hoping things progress for you soon clapham cant imagine how fustrating it it.

roofio Isaac's skin comes and goes, well the redness does. its fairly dry but going to give it until the end of the week to improve before possibly going docs to ensure it its eczema. I'm pretty sure it isnt though as he only has it face and neck.

Things are alright here. I think im coping ok and with dd being on half term Ive really enjoyed lazing about in bed until 9ish even though Im awake from 6/7. Its lovely not to have to rush about all morning.

Sorry to hear A is being troublesome flyer but so pleased you got your reassurance. All these babies causing worry and stress.

I'm part way through writing my borth story but will have to go through anf cut out bits so people dont get bored Grin

Sending dilating thoughts to those that need them.

ImpOfDarkness · 29/10/2013 14:51

No wifi at the hospital so updating sporadically... fergus arrived by emergency CS on Sunday night. I had to have a general anaesthetic because it was so quick, waters broke at 5.30 and kick-started a super-intense labour. He was in a very awkward position, so they had to hoik him out quick. Still, he's here and fine, which is the main thing. I'm choked I missed it though.

Smitten1981 · 29/10/2013 15:16

Congrats Imp, sounds a bit on the traumatic side though with the general anaesthetic. Scary.

Contractions have stopped here. Just got out of bed to see if that kick starts them again.

roofio87 · 29/10/2013 15:39

congrats imp sorry it wasn't an ideal birth, but so plased he arrived safely!

I decided to be brave and and went round to a toddler group that goes on in a church hall round the corner from my house. Thought well I've Nothing to loose, if no one spoke to me I could always leave. but it was great. dp's 2nd cousin's wife (tenious link!) was there with her daughter so she had to talk to me. haha. she's lovely though and so I chatted to her and her friend as well as a few other mums, they were all very friendly. and Hunter's 3rd cousin (!?!) liked him very much!! it was great and I'll defo go again. I don't really have any friends round here and no mum friends so that was perfect for me. amazing how much its helped my state of mind!

Flyer747 · 29/10/2013 16:06

Roofio we shall have to meet up I have a car so can come to you. Once I crack this feeding dilemma Smile

roofio87 · 29/10/2013 16:14

flyer definitely. as soon as u feel up to it! Smile

GeorgieJo · 29/10/2013 16:40

Congrats imp and good luck clapham, smitten, and sparkleigh.

MrsHN my LO hates being over the shoulder too. Have heard that "Tiger in a Tree" pose is another good option for winding but makes me a little nervous to put him face down after a feed (works brilliantly when he is fussing though).

pinkbuttons amazing that your baby arrived on 12th as well! Did you have a DS or a DD? Really hope you are both doing well.

I am feeling a little stressed because just seen a paediatrician who told me that my baby was "over-thriving" but also has silent reflux. WTF???!!!

Apparently he is in danger of gaining too much weight - born 7lbs 4oz, at two and a half weeks he is now 8lbs 9oz. (I am six foot and was over 9lbs when I was born).

He is exclusively breastfed apart from last three days, when he has cluster fed in the evening and drained me dry. However the formula top-ups have only been 10, 30 or 50ml (per day). Other than two hours of cluster feeding in the evening he goes three, and often four, hours between feeds.

Paed said his hiccups (which he had frequently in the womb), congested nose and cluster feeding were signs of silent reflux. And he was gaining too much weight. Suggested I a) cut all dairy from my diet (fine but I am vegetarian already), b) feed him less!

Told me to try to limit feeds to 25mins, not to offer the other breast and try to make sure he goes four hours between feeds.

Sounds absolutely bonkers to me - but this is my first child and so now I am terrified I am doing something wrong and that he is in pain...

Any advice?!

OrangeBlossom2 · 29/10/2013 17:05

Over thriving is a ridiculous phrase! I thought you weren't meant to be able to over feed a breastfed baby? Did he lose much weight to start with? Maybe of he didn't lose much and then gained at the normal rate it looks likes faster than average? Get a second opinion if you aren't happy cutting feeds short etc. I am vegetarian and lactose intolerant so don't eat any milk, pm me if you need any help with that. My sister was told to cut out dairy when breastfeeding her refluxy baby.

Health visitor just been and Thomas has exceeded his birth weight at 12 days old woohoo! He has had a mega growth spurt the last couple of days. Still have to show the midwife what he has done at the weekend but very pleased.

We wanted to go for a walk this afternoon but waited around for HV for ages then Thomas has had a mad feed poo feed poo feed poo feed cycle and now it is dark Sad

TheFalconsmistress · 29/10/2013 17:06

good luck to those SWIL!!

Clapham thanks!!

Confession time I have started smoking again although only smoked 10 since friday I think thats ok 20 a week is not a horrendous amount still not good but by god has it helped me get by without tearing my hair our, still feel guilty a little

OrangeBlossom2 · 29/10/2013 17:07

Imp congratulations Thanks sorry you didn't have the birth wanted but so glad they got him out quickly enough and he is safe and well.

pinkbuttons · 29/10/2013 17:08

Congratulations imp sounds all quite scary bit so glad he is hear safe x

Good Luck to all those SWIL or on the brink of being!!

roofio glad you had a good time at toddler group, that os my mission for next week to get out the house.

Georgie I had a DD she was 7lb2oz a pound smaller han my DS was surprised considering she was late.
im sorry your having worries about silent reflux, sounds ridiculous to tell you to not feed him if hes hungry! Midwide told me last week that you cant overfeed a breastfed baby, seems mad the differing opinions everyone is getting! Isla had put on 1lb at 13 days. I was going to ask health visitor on Thursday because she is so sick but id never heard of the worry about over thriving, always assumed it was just a babys way of balancing out and getting to their natural weight.
Are they seeing you again? x

Shootingstarsandcomets · 29/10/2013 17:38

I've never heard of over thriving! I asked the midwife as we are mix feeding and she said feed on demand as even with ff you can't overfeed them as newborns.
Little B is over his birthweight on day 11 so we are free of the midwives care- yay! They are lovely midwives but I do find the unannounced visits annoying so am glad we have been cut loose.
Also the mamaroo chair arrived today so finally I have somewhere to put little b down although ds1 thinks it highly amusing to turn it on and off constantly Hmm

Natalieand · 29/10/2013 17:51

I will catch up properly a little later but just wanted to say re: over feeding we are purely formula feeding and i asked the midwife if if was possible too over feed she said if I was over feeding he would just be sick but generally they won't let u over feed them

roofio87 · 29/10/2013 17:55

nat thanks for that. H "should" be having 4oz every 4 hours apparently, about 24oz over 24hrs but he's having 4oz every 3 hours so far more. but he ends up screaming for food if I try and leave him!! oh well, we'll see what next weeks weigh in says!!!

Natalieand · 29/10/2013 18:03

Roofio I think your ahead of me my H is on day 13 today and is having 3 oz every 3 hours, I tried upping him to 4oz with little success the midwife said to me 'has he gone up from 3 oz now?' She saw me on day 5 and 12 and when I said no she didn't seem concerned, I had health visitor today and she didn't even ask how many oz's he had just asked if he was feeding well?

Flyer747 · 29/10/2013 18:32

So breast feeding saga continues in the flyer household. We have been to see the infant feeding team at Liverpool women's hospital . Alexandra showed off her bf technique and they agreed we have a problem! They then proceeded to top her up with formula and she projectile vomited the whole lot straight up all over dp....

We have been referred to Alder Hey hospital for possible tongue tie , however the wait is quite long so we are told.

Good luck smitten, Clapham I hope those contractions restart, it's these lazy boys who don't fancy showing themselves to the world.

Roofio I could do with getting out soon. I'm going to check with my insurance company about driving after a c section. I feel fine to drive now but not sure if I'm insured!
We can introduce Alexandra and Hunter who knows it may be the start of a beautiful romance Grin

Natalieand · 29/10/2013 18:37

flyer did they say why she might have projectile vomited after the top up? Sorry they don't seem to have been able to help u much today, what's their idea if quite a long wait? Surely they can't just leave u having such a hard time for god knows how long. Xx sending lots of sympathy

OrangeBlossom2 · 29/10/2013 18:40

Flyer is there anywhere you can get tongue tie done privately more quickly?

Pinkforboys · 29/10/2013 19:06

Oh Flyer- I guess the upside is that they've identified a problem that they can help you with. Damn annoying that you have to wait. Surely they can't make you wait long if it's preventing A from feeding??

PseudoBadger · 29/10/2013 19:11

Definitely try and get it done privately Flyer if you can. This thread has the name of someone in Huddersfield? www.mumsnet.com/Talk/breast_and_bottle_feeding/a1893929-Myths-about-tongue-tie-and-how-to-get-one-diagnosed#42580480