December 2013 - creeping closer but no more hospital stays please god!

[LadyMedea]

We are a chatty lot!

Glad you went for it alyssa lol
Hope u feel better soon lady

I've been really bad and craved coke all the way through. I've tried to limit myself to one a day lol

I have a dilemma. tomorrow afternoon I have a scan because of reduced movement. we haven't been able to find out the sex of the baby as it kept its legs crossed at the 20 week scan. do we try and find out tomorrow or keep it a suprise? I can't decide. I hate not knowing because I'm nosy but I also have accepted the fact we wouldn't find out until it was born. arghhhh what do I dooooo. that is of course if the little one is willing to show us

whisper I think there is a fair chance that you'll find out by accident as I'm expecting it will be pretty obvious by now. so if you want to know go for it. We've got our scan on Tues and will be looking away unless told safe to look, as we really don't want to know.

mrsellsmorr thus was from our NCT breastfeeding counsellor so it will be interesting to see what yours sense though. Makes sense to me in timing up you drink just before or while feeding!

Whisper it's got to be a personal choice so go with your heart (and obviously take into account whether your DP wants to find out or not!) If you originally wanted to find out though then I'd say go for it.
Knowing whether you can look forward to having a little boy or a little girl might help spur you on through these last few weeks as well

Doesn't look like I'll be getting much sleep tonight - I can't lie on my left as my arm has swollen up and gone all red and blotchy after having the whooping cough jab on Thursday I can't lie on my back because I'm not supposed to and although I'd normally be ok on my right, little man has decided he'd rather have a party on that side than let me get comfortable tonight! Sigh...

whisper you have made it this far without knowing, but go with your gut.

we/I have decided not to find ot as I want to hear the words "congratulations, it's a beautiful healthy boy/girl" (delete as appropriate) as a surprise and reward after the hard work that will be labour.

So for each of my scans I make my preference clear and they keep that information and pics away from me.

whisper as others have said it's totally up to you.

I had the choice abs found out. But you've come this far without knowing it's only a few more weeks and the surprise will be amazing at the end!

Urgh. I can't sleep. I was sleepy abdomen do had fallen asleep through the film so I got ready for bed turned everything off etc and now wide awake.

Also feel like pregnancy has turned me into a bitch lol I'm hating everyone at the moment lol.

So we've been given 2 Moses baskets. One it's like solid wicker thing that is the sorta thing where it stays in one place so that will be in the bedroom. Then I've got another which is like the normal ones. My thinking is one upstairs in our room and the other in the lounge for dd naps during the day etc? Is that an ok idea or is it bad having 2 Moses baskets? It just saves moving one up and down all the time x

Morning all, just waiting for DS to fall fully asleep after his feed before I put him down. I'm sure I'm forming bad habits, but he's 8 days old and at the moment it's about survival!
Thank you so much for your good wishes everyone. It's so nice to have such a great support network.

stom that's brill that you have two Moses baskets. I have a big wicker one too and it's too heavy for me to lift after my emcs. DH moves it from room to room for me so DS can be in it during the day. I'd love to have a second lighter one for ease of movement. It's genuinely practical to have two if one is a heavy wicker one.

taking thanks :) it's 22 years old the dp gran made it for his sister when she was born and it's been handed down to us for us to use then we will give it back to his sister. I just don't what it to get broken and I won't be able to keep taking it up and down the stairs. I have got a stand for the other but in sure I could find one easy enough.
I wasn't sure whether it would disrupt dd sleeping having 2 different ones - it'll make like so much easier though lol.

I hope lil one isn't causing you too much mischief I bed it's lovely having him home though!!
Very jealous!

Our wicker Moses basket has been passed down too. My DF was in it when he was a baby, and then my siblings and I and now DS It's so nice to have something like that in the family.

It is WONDERFUL having DS home. The cuddles are amazing!! You're going to love it

stom I've always had 2 Moses baskets Hun, one stays in our room and the other downstairs its never affected the sleeping and it is so much easier than constantly carrying another one up stairs all the time.
My second Moses basket is my sisters and this will be baby number 5 to have slept in it.

All of mine have had a bedtime from birth too though, if their last feed is 7 for example then I put them in their upstairs Moses basket and continue any feeds from there, they go up awake and still do now
They've all slept through the night from 10 weeks old so I'm not changing my routine now lol. Dp was always trying to leave them downstairs until we went up but no way can they get into a routine that way but its each to their own and everyone's routines work best for them.

just realised no one asked lol

taking I am so jealous of your newborn snuggles x

whisper its got to be your and your dp choice, but if you don't want to know definately tell them and look away as jelly babies boy bits were very obvious at my last growth scan. Like itsliz says if you originally wanted to know, then why not?

alyssa sounds good ! Lol. I want to get dd into a routine ASAP Bath bottle bed etc. I do worry about leaving someone so small upstairs alone. I've hot a baby monitor etc. But I suppose it's my first so I'm going to worry about everything. I've grown up around babies it doesn't phase me but I'm still worried about the first nappy Chang and first bath etc lol I don't want to hurt her lol but I know babies aren't as fragile as they seem!

dp and me are both changing our minds every 5 minutes haha. I think we have decided to go with the flow. if we see anything then awesome, if not the surprise is good. does anyone know what they look for at a scan thats because of reduced movement?

stom thanks for the paint suggestion tho we don't have a Range near here so think I'll just look in b&q but can't be arsed with tester pots so hope I get it right first time!

alyssa that's really good to put them upstairs from day 1. I found mine didn't really settle that well between 7 and 9/10 O clock till they were around 8-10 weeks old so had them in the lounge in the Moses basket so I could sooth them then took them up with us later (only so crying wouldn't disturb other dc) but they were sleeping through from 10 weeks too- combination of routine and formula me thinks! ( not sure if a bf baby would go through from so early on?)

No I don't think so either mum lol
I think this one is gonna be more trouble formula fed babies always sleep longer i find.

I'm not sure what they would look for whisper for reduced movement, maybe fluid depth and placenta function etc but I'm not sure Hun. Let us know how you get on.
I've got a consultant appt today but I don't think she will let me bribe her for a sweep

stom I still worry now Hun but I was quite lucky last time as we had one of those heart beat detection monitors so it made me relax a bit with ds2 upstairs and this one. But I was forever checking ds1 as I couldn't afford anything like that.
You will be fine with baths etc honestly. Xx

Ooh just realised I'm 37 weeks today that's full term right?

37 week appointment with midwife this afternoon. I thought I had convinced DH to meet me there (partly to listen to heartbeat and discuss birth plan, mainly to watch DD who is 3 and has changed daycare since I am on maternity leave, so only goes 15 hours a week now) but he has decided that he has too much work to do. He is trying to get everything ready for 2 weeks worth of paternity leave, we work together so 2 out of 5 in the department will be off at the same time, neither of us covered by qualified people. Unfortunately I am getting rather pissed off about it, he worked late every day last week (well, he stayed late to play sport twice) and he can't come today because he is already popping out in the morning to get the tyres changed (given that they had to grit the roads this morning and we live in the middle of nowhere 20 minutes drive from hospital I guess changing to the winter tyres is a good excuse)

Morning all

Nothing wrong with having 2 moses baskets Stom, makes life much easier IMO. I have a moses basket and should have a cot atthe side of the bed by the time baby is here. I say should as I am having my nephews cot and he won't get out of it just yet lol.

He is 12 months old (almost) and needs to be in his nursery in his cotbed which I gave dsis. It was passed onto me by a friend but was a bit big for the side of our bed so swapped it with sister for cot. Really want to go and get the cot so I can get it sorted and buy the mattress and stuff but everytime I mention it sister just says not yet.

Stressing me out slightly I must admit and going to ring her mid week and arrange to go and collect it. If not I have to either ask for the cotbed back or go and buy a cot. Either one will cause problems. Her little boy must be nearly falling out of the cot when he stands up now as well, its only one of those small ones a bit bigger than a crib!

I've got a scan too later Whispers but mines a growth one. Hoping he has grown quite a bit since the last one and is sloshing around in lots of fluid as well! Have decided that I am going to decline a trainee scanning me this time as well. I know they have to learn but am not sure she got all the measurements last time as when the consultant did 1/4 of it she got different numbers. Plus she paniced me with the conversations she was having and pressed on really hard to the point it hurt and I had to ask if it should. So going to be a meany and say no lol.

Taking I don't think you can spoil a newborn. I had DD with me until she was 2 lol but that was circumstances as much as anything. At night time I used to get her to sleep on the end of the sofa when she was out of the moses basket at 7.30-8pm, then watch TV or read until I wanted to go to bed and then carry her up with me. Will probably do similar with this baby but we are up very early in a morning (DP up at 5am ish) so go to bed about 8pm and watch TV up there. So will take him up then, do whatever I need to do then he can go in cot at side of bed.

Hoping we will be moving next year sometime. This is only a 2 bedroomed but they are 2 big rooms so when we looked at a couple of 3 bedroomed we decided it was more practical (and cheaper!) to stay where we are until he is ready for his own room.

frouby is this your last growth scan?

Still in hosp i have a scan later to find out size of baby. Still only 2cm dilated so frustrating if im not in actual labour send me home :'(

Big hugs chelsea hopefully you will get some answers today.

I have another scan in 2 weeks when I will be 36 weeks. Hopefully that one will just be a formality. And hopefully he will be in the right position lol.

Had a phone call from DP earlier on. He has fallen over something at work and fucked his ankle up. He is in casualty waiting for an xray. Trouble is he is about 100 miles away from home. And has his car. The other bloke with him doesn't drive so fuck knows what he is going to do. Hopefully someone else is from our way on and will be able to drive the car home or something.

Just hope he hasn't completely trashed his ankle. He is a self employed builder so if he doesn't work we don't get paid.

Ffs. He starts a new contract on Thursday too so we really need him to be match fit.

Finger crosses for you DH frouby

chelsea hang in there! Enjoy saying baby! :)

Chelsea, hope everything goes ok, thinking of you.

Frouby, hope your DP is ok - keeping fingers crossed.

and for both of you

Hi all - have been 'enjoying' my first day of maternity leave. It's not been particularly enjoyable to be honest as I had a totally shit night's sleep mainly thanks to DD who is obviously coming down with something (think it's just a cold) and so she was in with me. Added to that DH and I had a horrid sort of row / discussion thing last night which meant we were both miserable when we went to bed and didn't sleep well regardless of DD's coughing and spluttering. Thankfully DH and I have reconciled our differences and I think things will be happier from now on, but it has meant I have felt like a zombie all day!

Had my appt with the anaethetist this morning - was very straightforward and was more related to my previous back surgery than anything specifically c-section related, but the consultant I saw was lovely, and reassured me that they're not all a-holes, like the last one I saw! I have the one with the Obs consultant next week so am steeling myself for that one and am going to go in armed with facts about NICE guidelines etc so he doesn't bully me.

So, now I am on maternity leave I am slowly making steps to pack the bags - have done pretty much naff all so far though! Going to wash all the stuff we have from dd tonight and then hopefully it'll be dry and ready to pack by tomorrow evening.

I have a ridiculous moses basket question... We will be using a second hand one which is different to the one we used for DD. The one we're using this time comes with a mattress, but we also have the mattress leftover from DD - we no longer have that moses basket though. I would prefer to use DD's mattress but it's slightly bigger than the one that comes with the basket; it won't fit right in the bottom of the 'new' basket, but it will fit if I lay it on top of the other mattress. Will that be OK, or against all sorts of guidelines? I was thinking of laying the moses basket cover thing over the old mattress, then putting DD's mattress on top, with its fitted sheet on, so really it just means it has a reinforced 'base'.

I can't believe I am worrying over this - typing it out makes me sound like a mad woman! Maybe it's all part of pregnancy neurosis / hormones / sleep deprivation?!! Any thoughts?

Well baby growing nicely. Within the normal range and just following a slightly lower line than originally so that is all good.

I was right about him turning though. He isn't sideways on anymore. Nope. He is properly breech now lol. Norty baby. So at 36 week scan if he is still like that a c section will be booked.

DPs ankle fucked too. Sigh. Is huge and black and blue. And he drove 100 miles on it too.

He is in bed after I have found some tramadol and put an ice pack on it. He is having a couple of days off then hopefully back on Thursday.

Whispers how did your scan go?

And chelsea what have they said to you?

Lisb glad your appointments went well. Think advice with moses basket and cots is new mattress for each child but can understand why you would use DDs.

frouby glad scan went well. Hope he/she will turn before your next scan!!
Sorry to hear about DH foot is it broken? Makes sure he keeps it elevated to keep the swelling down!

Hope he will be back on his feet soon! At least he manage to get home to you!

scan went fine. everything is perfectly healthy with baby and it's perfect size. still kept its legs crossed though and kept its hand infront of its face so we couldn't even get a sneaky peak at what its face looks like on a 4D scan. It's determined to give us a surprise

I am fed up though. getting loads of braxton hicks, crampy pains and feel sick all the time. I haven't felt this rotten in a while. I'm done with being pregnant now

glad all was well with your scan frouby hope your little one turns around soon.