July 2014!!!! Hop on board and join the fun!!!

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I got my bfp this morning and calculator says due July 4th!!!

Wow, that seems ages away!!

Feeling quite scared....can't wait for this bus to fill up, can't party on my own!! xxx

Not at all. I feel guilty too. It's not right that woman have all these pressures!

July Due Dates

Pencilsandprams - (26th June)
Rainbowweaver - (27th June)
LadyGoneGaga - (29th June)
MrsB2013 - 1st
AhoyMcCoy - 2nd
Liquidstate - 2nd
Roozocheeks - 2nd
Mrsc020987 - 3rd
Taranta - 3rd
Fiveleaves 3rd
Moochie01 - 4th
SomeDizzyWhore1804 - 4th
Jbiscuits - 4th - 6th??
Ismarah - 5th
Jaykay - 5th
Lemonpoppyseed - 6th
Frostina - 6th
AuntieMaggie - 6th
OttersPocket - 7th
FoxtrotOscarBackToEconomy - 1st - 8th???
Boboli - 8th
Lauranne - 8th
Doodlequackquack - 9th
xjulesx - 9th
Pigsinparis - 9th
grobagsforever - 11th
Ipsumlorem - 11th
elliejjtiny - 11th
SmallOlympianbear - 11th?
Umanayana - 12th
duvetfan - 12th
LemonLovely - 12th
Ladybunnikins - 14th
englishteacher78 - 14th
Sparky321 - 14th
Dollydaydream2 - 15th
Doesmybumplookbiginthis - 15th
MGJoey - 15th
SuzB83 - 15th
BlueC2 - 16th
It'sAlwaysBetterOnHoliday - 17th
Littleangel21 - 17th
LazyDogJumpedOver - 17th
Sparklesandfizz - 18th
Choccywoccydodah - 21st July
AnyFuckingClue - ???

Not sure if you all know, but if you go to bounty.com you can track how big your baba is getting. It made the weeks fly by for me last time

I'd speak to citizens advice about your work situ

fiveleaves that situation sounds difficult. Do you have any performance management at all during your probation? I'm just thinking that you may need some sort of 'proof' of your work/ability. I was only temping in my first pregnancy so also wanted to keep the pregnancy quiet for as long as possible an got to about 16-17 weeks before people guessed. I'm had a definite bump but did mange to hide it somewhat in winter clothes and scarfs. I wouldn't have been able to keep it hidden until 20 weeks. But women have different builds and show/carry differently, so you may be luckier.

About work - I'm not going to tell people I work with until at least 20 weeks. However as I'm freelance I don't need to inform them for maternity purposes anyway. It does mean that I may go back extremely early - I was looking to go back after about six weeks. So should this baby arrive on time I get the six weeks hols and then go back in September when my older DC will go back to school.

Am I mad for even thinking of going back this early?

Hope everyone else is managing with their symptoms. I found the flat lemonade tip worked quite well yesterday. Is it ok to take vit B tablets for morning sickness - or will a surge in vit b cause any other problems?

pigsinparis you don't know how you'll feel until after the birth but it also depends how many days you go back. After DC1 I wasn't ready to go back until after a year but everyone's different. You might have a good sleeper...or not.

pearls, don't think I do. V small company (7 people) and not that established so all a bit vague. A friend got me the job so it was all a bit casual which was great until I discovered I was pg which is when you definitely don't want casual! My area of work, design stuff, is all a bit like that though...short contracts, freelancers etc...gah!

Pg has worked out badly in terms of timing for my work but good in terms of DPs work as he always has very little work on over the summer, two days max so trying to look on the bright side!

I mean DP does 2 days a week max in the summer...not overall! We'd be completely broke then!

pigsinparis I couldn't even contemplate going back to work until ds was about 8 months and then all of a sudden it became a possibility iykwim and i was very keen to head back to work as i did miss it. But mothers (and babies) are all different. :)

fiveleaves - just seconding the other advice on here. If you are on a fixed term contract, your employer still has to have a good reason for ending the contract. eg what they can't do is stop employing you at 5 months and employ someone else doing the same work to replace you.
Do you have your possible extension in writing? If not, make a note of every time it's mentioned in any reviews, conversations etc.
I know that it's a bit daunting telling work but I know of people who've come in on their first day pregnant. Also know of people who are off sick for their whole pregnancy + then mat leave. Most employers have seen it all (depending on the size of employer of course) and allow for maternity leave and other absences in their budgets.

Anyway you have older dc pigs so you should have some insight into how you would cope?

I went back after a year with DC1 and DC2 but I was employed then and went back part time. This time it will be ask and when depending on how much I scale back my workload. I am unsure myself tbh, but don't have many choices really.

Add to that ongoing qualifying courses required for work am that will also restart in September and I am definitely thinking I've bitten off more than I can chew!

figleaves can you have a word with the friend that works there too - see what the usual protocol is for maternity in such a small company? Also Boboli is right, it would be daft of them to make you redundant then rehire someone to do your job, it would open them up to a pregnancy discrimination case without a doubt.

It's so unfair that you feel you have to "hide" your pregnancy because of worrying what will happen with your job. I'm self employed so will only get basic mat pay, planning on only having about 4 months off, but we'll see! I'm going to try and wait till after Christmas before telling anyone. We will tell close family after 12 week scan but anyone else can wait!

I poas again this morning lol just an IC and the line came up so fast!

Thanks littleangel :)

Re: work - I think i'm going to have to go back after about 6 months due to finances which I do and don't want to do - i'm a bit of a workaholic which is going to be interesting...

Can I join too please? Had BFP confirmed yesterday and having a major wobble today. DH very excited but I'm not which sounds awful. It's just I love our life with DC1 (2 1/2) and we have so much fun as a family of 3. And selfishly life is really well balanced at the moment. I am just dreading the next 12 months as didn't enjoy pregnancy last time and am scared that DC1's life will change and not necessarily for the better. Can someone give me a slap and tell me that I am being a hormonal stupid woman?!

Incapinka, I understand exactly what you mean. We have one DS too, and life is good. I just keeping thinking back to pre-children time, and how I couldn't even imagine having a child, and now DS feels like he's been with us forever. I'm hoping number 2 just fits in, fingers crossed!

Thanks so much lemon. Am just bein stupid. Can't stop crying since DH wanted to chat about what my concerns were and that makes me feel even worse as I should be happy shouldn't i?! Hopefully it's just the hormones but I didn't think I would feel like this. I'm also a very practical person - I prefer to get on and do things rather than think lots and so now have 8 months to fret and overanalyse. Am also scared as my lovely DM has a rare and incurable form of cancer and whilst we think she is ok at the moment, the thought of doing this without her support is making me very sad too. Sorry for being miserable and not helped that I can't discuss things in RL.

Early pregnancy hormones have a lot to answer for! Thinking of you, and absolutely understand that the thought of doing this without your mum is tough. Hope you feel better as they day goes on...

Just a quick update - today I hit week 6! I went to the doctor this week for a referral to an OB (I live in Canada, and you can choose between midwife care or OB care. I had a problem in a previous pregnancy that means I cannot be under midwife care (they only take low risk, uncomplicated pregnancies, and they are very few and far between - if you don't call as soon as you get a BFP you're pretty much out of luck)). Anyway, we got started on all the bloodwork etc, and I hope to hear from the OB's office soon about my first appointment. I probably won't have an appointment until my 12 week scan; at least, that's how it happened in the past, but I am a bit older (38) now.

I also visited the doctor as there has been an outbreak of Hand, Foot and Mouth Disease at the school I work at. Nothing to worry about unless I actually contract the disease, and the doctor was convinced that would have already happened by now.

I am feeling alternately queasy and have no appetite, and am pretty much surviving on salt and vinegar pringles and tea. I am sleeping well, however (and DS is cooperating ), but am starting to think I am too old for this malarkey!

Thanks for all the advice re work. I'm really nervous about tomorrow. It's like the Sunday night dread x 100.

Incapinka, I'm sorry to hear about you mum, it's entirely normal to feel the way you do so don't be so hard on yourself.

Lemon- glad to hear you're getting things sorted, very exciting.

I know this is a horrible thought but I just would like to know what happens when you MC. Does it happen straight away? I'm having no symptoms but I'm just a worrier and just want to reassure myself that I would know straight away.

Thanks so much xxx

Littleangel, I had a MC in my first pregnancy at 7 weeks. I had period like cramps one Saturday morning, then blood when I wiped. I had a scan on the Monday which confirmed that there was no baby, and I miscarried on the Thursday evening. I bled for about a week and a half.

When I go the bathroom, I am not able to wipe without checking for blood. It's terrible that I just can't relax and enjoy the pregnancy, but like you, I'm worried I will MC at any time.

Hi lemon,

I am the same, every time go to the bathroom I pretty much hold my breath until I am sure there is no blood. I'm just so scared, because it's so early I can't tell anyone and my DH is so excited about the prospect of a baby that I just don't want to let home down. I just cannot wait until my first scan but it's not until 7th dec.

What a stress!

Thank you so much for sharing your worries too. I'm sure you'll be fine!

Xx

Glad it's not just me then! I'm sure the paranoia will subside soon.

Hi lemon,
I am totally the same. I lost my first pregnancy at 6.5 weeks. Despite the fact my second was a complete success, I hold my breath and check for blood every time I wipe. I am also worried as I am not feeling sick (I didn't really last time either) I am just worried that I don't really have any symptoms. Its a long way to 12 weeks....chin up as I am sure everything will be fine. Its normal to worry (that's what I tell myself at least....)

Hi,

Congratulations everybody! I'm 5+2 (best guess) with my first pregnancy. So reassuring to see people worrying about the same things and having the same weird symptoms... The first week I found out I swear that every day brought something new and slightly odd. Mostly I'm just really tired and properly paranoid!

Really grateful to have others to reassure me I'm not crazy (DH isn't convinced and we're trying not to tell anyone yet!)

Take care xxx

Thanks lemon and littleangel. Bloody hormones. And sorry for being so me me me. It's a scary old time for all sorts of reasons. X