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October 2013: Newborn snuggles and waddles to the finish line

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FeministInTraining · 15/10/2013 21:45

Stats sheet here

New arrivals here

Key:
SC - still cooking (pre EDD)
SFW - still f*ing waiting (post EDD)
OWT - on way to theatre (CS)
IP - induction in progress
SWIL - somewhere in labour
LIT - lost in transition

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roxvox · 22/10/2013 00:59

Sorry you're having a tough time MrsH. Don't give up yet - I've heard things improve! Your situation is how I have ended up down the path of formula top-ups at night, which I really wish I didn't have to do, but I've probably hampered my milk supply by offering her formula back when I was exhausted, sore and fed up after a 6 hour non stop feeding session. Today hasn't been too great for feeding either, she seemed to constantly want more. I just want sleep!

KarmaBiatch · 22/10/2013 03:41

There is a mini Karma! Quite a story for such a short active labour, but enjoying snuggles too much to tell all just now! Will do so in a few hours! Grin

Shootingstarsandcomets · 22/10/2013 03:43

Little B fed from 8 until about midnight when he finally fell asleep I think its cluster feeding mrsh
Our latch can't be right as it's hurting me so need to sort it out. He has a really big mouth so not sure why we can't seem to get it right. I also think he falls asleep before being quite full so then wakes when I put him down.
He's feeding again now.........

MrsHoratioNelson · 22/10/2013 03:59

Morning shooting, we're here again too. He fed until 12:30 so that's nearly 4 hours from the start of one feed to the next this time. He keeps bloody wriggling so that even when the latch is better, it lasts about 20 seconds before he's lost it again. At this time of the morning, I can't be bothered to fight with him about it.

I got cross with him earlier. He's a week old :(

pinkbuttons · 22/10/2013 04:31

Sorry to hear your struggling mrsH we had a couple of nights of cluster feeding over the weekend and its exhausting, sending my sympathy and a reminder that your doing amazingly well. is there a support group at all near where you are? where someone specialised might be able to look at your latch.

penelope thankyou for giving me hope DS is 2yrs 9months. interesting it got better when DH went back to work, I did wonder if that was unsettling him too.
and thankyou tarlia I came home and fell straight asleep on he sofa but helped my guilt about not spending time with DS and DH carried I in the carrier so I could just follow DS. was lovely but exhausting.

Glad your feeling a bit better flyer I would also back that its very normal to feel anxious when first bring baby home. hope your first night is going well x

Congratulations kd Grin x

dontworryjustpanic · 22/10/2013 05:24

Roxvox I can't offer any advice unfortunately but DS developed the same habit of pulling awsy from my boob without opening his mouth. He did it both sides & it does hurt like hell - FWIW you have my sympathy!

dontworryjustpanic · 22/10/2013 05:37

Ooh more babies! Congrats to kd & karma

Good luck to those of you IP.

I'm up eating biscuits & drinking cold water to try & get this baby wriggling - (s)he's been a bit quiet last few hours Confused

PenelopeLane · 22/10/2013 05:58

pink I wondered that too, but on DH's first day back - which I was dreading - DS was more chilled than ever and is pretty much fine now, although does revert to being clingy/upset on days when DH is home and weekends.

Sanjifair · 22/10/2013 06:55

Congratulations kd and karma!

Nothing happened overnight but hopefully I will be IP later today.

Writemove · 22/10/2013 07:02

I'm a long time lurker. After a MMC
last Nov I couldn't face posting when I got another bfp with an edd of 16th October in case it tempted fate. But your messages helped me through every step of my difficult pregnancy (Spd, crutches etc).

At 1.50am today my son was born (name tbc) by emergency c section after almost four days, weighing 9lb 1oz. He's gorgeous (NB I may be biased). I'm exhausted but can't stop smiling. Thank you. Best wishes to everyone x

Readyasilleverbe · 22/10/2013 07:22

Congratulations kd, karma and writemove. Great news. X
Dontworry, this baby's movements have totally changed in last wk or so in that I feel it so much less at night. There have been tears because ive been so worried but it seems to get going again in the morning and moves ok for the day. Hopefully you're feeling it again now. The hospital are so helpful though so do call them if not.x
I am considering giving up washing until baby arrives....the pattern is things ramp up each evening, painful bh, can't sit down, pace around like an animal, period type pain etc. then have bath or shower and it all settles down. So annoying! On the other hand due date is Thursday which seems very close....still not at all used to the fact that there will be an actual baby! Brain needs to catch up with body, 9 months is clearly not long enough.
Hope everyone managed to get some rest in the end. X

dontworryjustpanic · 22/10/2013 07:32

Congratulations writemove - your story makes me realise just how lucky I have been with my 2 pregnancies and I should shut up whinging about being tired & uncomfortable! Grin away & enjoy cuddling your bambino Grin

dontworryjustpanic · 22/10/2013 07:37

Thanks ready - baby is imdeed wriggling again. Still no signs of imminent labour - 39+6 today...

pinkbuttons · 22/10/2013 07:49

sorry missed your post karma Congratulations

and to writemove x

glad baby is moving now dont

and thankyou penelope will hope that helps. hes been so amazing with the baby I shouldnt really complain but he is just hard work with us. guess I should be grateful hes not being awful to her.

MrsHoratioNelson · 22/10/2013 07:51

pink there is lots of support but the MSW I saw yesterday said his latch is fine when its not. I just feel like the problem is not something they're going to be able to fix - my big boobs and his small mouth.

I might call the lady who did the NCT bf session today.

xuntitledx · 22/10/2013 07:58

mrsh - think we have the same issue.

I've gone over everything again and it all suggests a good latch but like m you, nipple still changing shape and sore.

Going to call BF support today but really not convinced it's me :(

Congrats to all if the new squishy babies!

AnythingNotEverything · 22/10/2013 08:05

Huge congrats to karma, kd and writemove - and welcome too. Please join in with the breast feeding and how to out baby down tips!

Sanji - I'm waiting for a phone call. There'll be four of us induced today apparently, so they schedule you in the morning. Hope they want us sooner rather than later as DS1 might pop if this baby doesn't come soon! He's 13 so we've non issues with jealousy or anything, but he's so excited.

Hope to update from my induction later ...

Good luck to all today whatever stage you're at.

Flyer747 · 22/10/2013 08:20

MrsH I also got cross with Alexandra last night it was at 3am feed my nipples were killing and I just couldn't understand why she couldn't get it!! I feel terrible Hmm I said to dp "you sort her out" I came in to find her sucking away happily on her ff! I feel like a shit mother atm. You have my sympathies ThanksThanks

Flyer747 · 22/10/2013 08:21

Congratulations to all the new arrivals and welcome winter xx

Mnippy · 22/10/2013 08:59

Good luck everyone in labour! And congrats to the new mums. A particular hello to all the lurkers out there!

MnipJnr also has the habit of coming violently off the boob while sucking, resulting in a sore deformed nipple. Eugh. And has taken to hyperventilating and crying WHILE on the boob, which is a bit grim. Have to hod his neck/shoulders down while shushing him, but even then the latch isn't the same.

neenienana · 22/10/2013 09:08

Hi, congratulations karma, kd and winter. Sfw here. Being induced Friday iv nothing happens before.
Mrs h, I had similar problems to you with both my boys as I have big boobs and they had tiny mouths. It did get better after three weeks of hell. I am expecting problems with this little one, but I guess because I know it doesn't last long, I don't feel so bad. Don't feel like you are at fault, it is so the luck Iif the draw with bf.

Pinkforboys · 22/10/2013 11:18

My MNet is telling me no-one's posted for 2 hours. That can't be right on this thread Hmm

Tarlia your story is amazing, and must have been so distressing. Please let us know what the mw says caused such a dramatic birth. And I hope they apologise for deserting you. That's inexcusable. But big congratulations on the fantastic end result! Thanks
And Congratulations to kd83 Karma (how's the food?!) & Writemove (a lovely end to your tough year).

Roxvox can you catch your bub out first and put your finger in to release gently before the harsh pull off? Babies seem to think our nips are made of elastic if only

Ready at least the BH are productive and should help to reduce the length of time you're in hard labour.

With respectful spitballs (and bring-on-the-contractions-vibes) to those still on the bus, I would like to join the bf chatter. I had SO forgotten how much your nipples can hurt!!!! Shock and it's only been 2 days for us Confused Madam started feeding last night at 8.10pm as DS went to bed. At 11pm I carried her downstairs at a pause in bf, to get us to bed, managed to sort out the room whilst she whinged, put her back on and couldn't get her off boob and asleep in moses basket til 3.30am, when I caved in and let her feed lying next to me in the bed (by this time both DH and DS had given up on getting in with us and were equally failing to sleep sharing DS's 3/4 bed. Is this what you guys refer to as 'cluster feeding'? Hmm My nipples are now slathered in Lansinoh and Multi-Mam compress' hoping they'll toughen up. And my milk hasn't come in yet!

On the absolute plus side, I found a sling today that DS rejected in disgust, but Madam is all curled up inside squeaking to herself like piglet. Adorable.

PseudoBadger · 22/10/2013 11:28

Tarlia thank you for posting, what a traumatic time :( Thank goodness you were in hospital when you had the abruption. It's awful how the high BP can mask an abruption, as it makes your BP 'normal' :( Any update on your BP management?

OrangeBlossom2 · 22/10/2013 11:42

Shock tarlia. so scary.
waiting for midwife tocome. i wish they told you when to expect them as getting anxious about what happens if Thomas hasn't put on enough weight to satisfy her. i am happy he is feeding much better and seems more full as he now sleeps in his Moses basket after feed
feeding.

was expecting the baby blues yesterday but other than a quick sob at the thought of him dying i seem to have been ok. how is everyone else doing?

roofio87 · 22/10/2013 11:42

tarlia glad all was well in the end. I bled a lot during labour and only realised afterwards how worried they were about it.

H had a bad night last night, lots of wind!! He's getting so strong now, managed to flip himself right off my chest onto the sofa before, got to be more careful with him!! I'm shedding a lot of hair today. Hopefully just loosing some of the excess I got during pg. I'm a bit precious about my hair, it took me so long to grow back after chemo!!