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October 2013: Newborn snuggles and waddles to the finish line

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FeministInTraining · 15/10/2013 21:45

Stats sheet here

New arrivals here

Key:
SC - still cooking (pre EDD)
SFW - still f*ing waiting (post EDD)
OWT - on way to theatre (CS)
IP - induction in progress
SWIL - somewhere in labour
LIT - lost in transition

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AnythingNotEverything · 21/10/2013 18:51

How exciting Sanji - fancy a race?! Only joking. Sort of.

I did wonder if I'd get to have a baby on this thread, and we're about half way through ... Looking good!

moonblues · 21/10/2013 19:09

Hey everyone. Hope you're all well and not breathing too heavily!

Babyblue 2 weeks today, and feel things are starting settle down with BF, though still very sore for the first minute of feeding, hoping it will get better... pseudo, I haven't really had any bleeding for the past 48 hours, though the midwife did warn me it might come back.

Blondies I like Francesca best too. Harder to pick a favourite from your boys names.

Tarlia · 21/10/2013 19:27

clapham thank you for sharing. All of these shared experiences make me almost cry with relief. I'm normal afteral hurrah.

flyer yay! Enjoy your first evening home.

3b's Annabel or Edward though I love Beatrice too.

Badger My lochia is still hanging around at almost 6 weeks, it's not even turned pink/white yet :( But heavy period type bleeding after day 4 is to be reported so def speak to mw tomorrow.

Licking my lips thinking about those scones. I can't wait until I well enough to bake, I've missed it so.

Dilating vibes to those SFW Flowers

BowlFullofJelly · 21/10/2013 19:28

pseudo I was the 6th - I'm still bleeding but very light, and mainly just when I'm bfeeding. Certainly mention it to the midwife, though I'm sure its fine if you aren't passing any big clots.

I thought that might be the case clapham - I will set the alarm tonight. Its such an alien concept to wake a baby to feed, as DS didn't go more than 2 hours without waking for food until 3 months, and was still waking at 2 and 5 until gone 6 months.

Really have to buy some jeans tomorrow - I'm wearing maternity ones at the month and have realised my arse is hanging out in publis on 2 occasions today - classy!

doobeedee · 21/10/2013 19:44

DS was born on the 4th and my lochia stopped in day 10 for 3 days but has since come back. It's quite light but is still red.

doobeedee · 21/10/2013 19:47

Durr. Baby brain. DS was born on the 3rd. It was my birthday on the 4th!

Tarlia · 21/10/2013 20:01

So I went to the hospital to be monitored on the Wednesday afternoon as my BP was in excess of 160/110. As I was waiting for transport it started dropping, and almost cancelled. It was pretty good by the time I got there but they were still not happy with my urine output. Decided they would start induction next day, unless that nights blood results were bad. I was also having pretty regular BH for periods of time.

Next morning and after lunch I took some tablets to induce, monitoring showed nothing changed. Bp was incredibly good all day. So DP and I were twiddling our thumbs. I sent him home to see DS, to collect mum from the airport and to eat a good dinner. I chilled out in my room. I got a bit of a headache so had paracetamol, had a lovely chat on the phone with DS, DM and DP (he was just getting ready to come back to spend the night). Within mins of hanging up I felt a huge whoosh, as if my waters had gone, so of course had a little look- it was lots of blood. Lots. I pulled the cord and simultaneously called DP telling him 'come now, I'm bleeding' and hung up. Elderly MW bumbled in and was faffing around just out in the sink, so I shouted at her I was bleeding. She rushed in, I was knelt on the bed (stupid!!) she shouted at me to lay down and pushed alarm. Within seconds there were 10+ people in my room (size on a small bathroom), most of which I didn't know but some familiar faces. It was amazing how they all were busy doing something. I was being asked about allergies etc, being cleaned up, having a second canular, having blood taken and drinking a brown medicine (what was this??). I was asked where my DH was etc I was then rushed to theatre where there were more faces, this time introductions (just get my baby out argh!) I had to have a spinal block.

Within 30 mins of me calling DP my beautiful boy was born. DP arrived and was putting scrubs on just as he was pulled out as could hear him crying. I'd been so brave up until baby cried then sobbed. DP came in shortly after and gave me a hug etc. baby was grunty so had to be taken with DP and peadi to neonatal, I went to recovery. Where after I was all sorted I was forgotten about for an hour as they thought porter had taken me. It was only when I started crying that they peaked in and saw me. 12am and I'd not even really seen my baby let alone had a cuddle and was of course in shock.

I went for a ride on my bed to see bubs after being checked into my room. Didn't sleep a wink all night a) worrying/missing baby b) every time I bled I'd get a flashback.

I finally found the time, energy and words to share. It was the most scary 30 mins of my life, but we are here and safe. So glad that its a rare thing to happen!

The elderly MW told DP, when he went down to collect my stuff, that I'd really scared her as things like that so rarely happen, and pretty much never on the prenatal ward. Id shown no signs or symptoms and they hadn't expected anything productive with me over night after the monitoring so she thought I was buzzing for more water or something similar.

Sorry for the essay, but it was an adventure an a half :)

Tarlia · 21/10/2013 20:04

Shit I should say the essay is my birth story and should come with a warning!! Arrrggg

Shirehobbit · 21/10/2013 20:09

I had Al on the 7th, and my bleeding has been very light for a week, but is still there.

I've not posted for a while, but read several times a day. Since being discharged for Al's weight loss, we've been combination feeding and I've had a lot to come to terms with regarding my (still) limited ability to breastfeed. We're persevering with bf, but it's really hard to give so much time and energy to something that is still not providing him with sufficient fuel and nutrition (he takes 45-90ml formula after nearly every feed). I can't see me getting beyond the next couple of weeks Sad

But today was a good day - I was dreading it as DH went back to work, however we've had a nice time, with some good rest and lots of calm time. We even managed to walk with the dog to the park, which I was ridiculously pleased with. Simple things.
We've celebrated our wedding anniversary today with fish and chips, a slab of chocolate and a glass of wine (my first!) Grin

Hope everyone else is OK x

Shirehobbit · 21/10/2013 20:13

Oh my, Tarlia - that's a hell of an experience, and will/would have taken some coming to terms with. Hugs x

dontworryjustpanic · 21/10/2013 20:23

Oh my Tarlia What a story. That must have been so distressing & frightening for you & DP. Congratulations on the arrival of your little boy. Wishing you all the best & hope you are all home soon & able to put the trauma behind you. Flowers

dontworryjustpanic · 21/10/2013 20:23

Oh my Tarlia What a story. That must have been so distressing & frightening for you & DP. Congratulations on the arrival of your little boy. Wishing you all the best & hope you are all home soon & able to put the trauma behind you. Flowers

pinkbuttons · 21/10/2013 20:43

Havent fully managed to catch up but wanted to check in.

tarlia thankyou for posting your story can understand why its taken you time to come to terms with it. im so glad you and your littke boy are safe but what a scary entrance tobthe world! How are you feeling? have you hadcan appt through about your Bp yet?

Good luck to anything and sanji with induction tomorrow.

and hugs to clapham and all those SFW no wise words but lots of sympathy from someone who was 8 days over xx

nat how are you feeling today?

and how are you falcon did you get chance to go to the GP?

We have had our first family trip out today to the aquarium. had one minor breakdown when I thought DS was going to miss meeting the octonaughts but turned out I had the wrong time. Definitely not a smooth outing but nice to know that we can still do nice things. Im still struggling with feeling guilty about not giving DS as much attention as I used to but hes been fantastic with Isla so far, just a bit needy with me and DH. Hoping he calms down before DH is back at work though.

Congratulations to all new babies! Am keeping up on fb but really struggling here xx

Flyer747 · 21/10/2013 20:45

Goodness Tarlia that does sound pretty horrific and traumatic. Thanks

I'm home and feeling really anxious, gonna speak to my mw tomorrow about the anxiety I'm experiencing. The dog is acting all strange and doesn't know what to make of Alexandra.

Mnippy · 21/10/2013 20:46

tarlia, that sounds appallingly hairy. Thank god you're safe and baby is safe.

Thanks Clapham and everyone for your reassurance re breast feeding. I've started expressing after every feed (although often nothing much comes out) in an effort to increase production. It's upsetting to see baby spitting my nipple out in disgust when there isn't enough there!

Shire, your situation sounds like mine, MnipJnr is also taking similar amounts of formula after every feed (and roots like crazy until he gets it). I've always thought I'd be very sensible and blasé if I couldn't bf, but actually have had lots of teary moments about my ability to provide. It's ridiculous, but hey, I'm sleep deprived and hormonal!

Flyer747 · 21/10/2013 20:55

I've b fed all day and expressed once and Alexandra hadn't had any dirty nappies I'm worried she's not getting enough!

Mnippy I'm the same in feeling crappy about not being able to provide

Sanjifair · 21/10/2013 21:14

Jeez Tarlia that sounds scary - and I can't believe they left you on your own and forgot about you afterwards!

shire you sound like you are in a similar position to where I was with DS. I ended up expressing for 8 weeks and then gave up as my production was nowhere close to ever meeting his needs. Can't really advise on how to turn the situation around, but just wanted to let you know you are not alone. You are doing your best and that is all you can do.

Anything I'm just hoping it goes quicker than the 50h it took last time... What time are you going in?

Shootingstarsandcomets · 21/10/2013 21:24

Gosh tarlia that's a very scary story indeed. No wonder you are traumatised by it. Thanks for you

roofio87 · 21/10/2013 21:42

flyer just wanted to say that in the first week at home with H I felt overwhelming anxious, and that is so so so not like me. I spent ages obsessing over every little thing that could happen to him. but it seems to have passed and I don't feel like he's going to brake every time I look at him (or stop looking at him to be precise) I even sleep pretty well when he is now. definitley tell the mw how you're feeling, just wanted you to know you're not the only one x

kd83 · 21/10/2013 21:49

Hi ladies,

Sorry been away for a week and not able to catch up, but baby Finlay was born 14/10/13 at 6.44pm weighing 7lb10.

It was a mega long labour starting on the previous Friday and ending Monday evening with a forceps delivery and a third degree tear for me to remember it all by as it had gone on for so long I was too knackered to push. Worst bit was it was only a couple more pushes and he was out so probably could have done it myself after all.

We spent five days in hosp. Me recovering him three days in scbu as he was grunting when born. But he didn't need and bathing assistance and is doing great now.

We are home and settling in to our new life.

I see ther have been lots of other arrivals. Will try to catch up.

Congratulations to all the new parents and good luck to those still waiting, hopefully it won't be too long.

Tarlia · 21/10/2013 22:49

p-buttons go you having the energy for a day trip already! I'm sure DS is having a ball with daddy home too and going on trips.

flyer WineFlowers

shire and mnippy Flowers Mnippy, when he spits out the nipple just wind him and try putting him back on as he will hopfly suckly anyway as they are programed to tell the body to make more milk even just with saliva touching the nipe so many signals shoot off. If still not interested put him on the other breast. Both remember, you are doing your best, that's all you can do. Breast feeding is such a small thing - look at all the other things you do and will do for your child throughout the rest of your lifetime.

Has anyone actually had the energy to open their bottle to toast the baby?

It was scary. I have a debrief with the MW that did all of my pregnancy checks coming up, so will go over it with her and hopefully get questions answered. It's tough that I was alone as there isn't someone to fill in the blanks. Sanji I know, crazy! I wasn't even left with a pull cord! The thing that set me off crying was I could hear a nurse or MW helping another woman breastfeeding her baby and knew mine would have needed a feed by this point and I hadn't held him and didn't want him to have a bottle. That poor woman had no idea she was pregnant until she was in labour :O

PenelopeLane · 21/10/2013 22:57

pinkbuttons how old is your DS? I have the same problems with mine, who has just turned two. I've actually found managing DS the hardest part since Lily was born. It's been 3 1/2 weeks now though and the clinginess is much better, although I find I have to work really hard to have quality time with him. I actually found he improved when DH went back to work though as he only had to share me with the baby, not DH too!

roxvox · 21/10/2013 23:12

Thanks for sharing your story Tarlia. It sounds like a very scary experience, but I am glad you're all ok now.

flyer I second what roofio said, I was incredibly anxious for a while. Didn't even want anyone else holding Ailla for fear that they might drop her/fall asleep on the sofa with her etc (even though they may have more experience with babies than I do). Always good to tell your midwife these things though.

Congratulations kd83, wow that was a long birth! Hope you're recovering well.

Ailla has started a really annoying habit with my right breast of forcibly pulling herself off it, rather than to just release the nipple gently. A) it bloody well hurts and B) she sometimes then clamps back on it and does it again later. It's my B boob (my left one is my A boob) and I wonder if she does it out of frustration or something. Although if I give it a squeeze after she does it then milk is still flowing, just maybe not fast enough for her?

Flyer747 · 21/10/2013 23:46

Thanks Roofio and Roxvox at least I'm not alone feeling like this.

Had a Chinese and a glass of red wine and feeling more relaxed now.
Just worried about bed time!

MrsHoratioNelson · 22/10/2013 00:43

Gah. C has fed non stop since about 8:30. My boobs are killing me. I am so tempted to give up on the whole shebang and give him formula but then the last week has been a complete waste of time. Despite the MSW telling me today that the latch is good it clearly isn't since my nipples are coming out squashed and they're still so sore. They keep telling me that its not my big boobs/ his small mouth that are the problem, but that's clearly what it is - no matter how wife he opens his mouth, he can't get enough in.

He's pooing about once every 5 minutes which isn't helping.