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Settle down for cake, sympathy and lots of laughs! xxx

dobe that is one of the reasons I became a childminder. Im a SAHM but I get to look after two other wonderful toddlers as well as my own children.

I've been seriously considering that mumof2 - might register and do all the costly stuff before I even take maternity leave. While I can afford to!

Bloody hell thistle, you must be on a fair bit more than me! Am band 2 and only work 30 hrs so I get around £900 a month- our policy's pretty good cos I get 90% of pay for 13 wks, then 50% pay and stat maternity pay for 26 wks then unpaid for 13 (optional) this can be worked out in advance and spread out across 53 weeks iyswim

I'm band two also work full time, average wage 1150 due shift enhancements I'm also half way up my band

Oh I like the idea of spreading it out formally over the weeks. I was just working out my maternity pay today. My company is really generous (Government arms length body) and I get 26 weeks full pay, then 13 weeks at SMP and am optional 13 weeks unpaid, which I'm not going to take. The 13 weeks at SMP will be a pretty huge reduction in our family income as I am on a higher salary than DH, so it would be much better for me to be paid in 9 equal amounts rather than normal and SMP. Will talk to work about it when I tell them about pregnancy. Gonna see if I can put it off til about 16 weeks as I just started a secondment with a new team and feel a bit bad that I've only worked with them for a fortnight and soon to tell them I'm preggo.

I'm too ignorant and thick for things like benefits.... Never fad to claim never had to worry

thistle have a look at the benefits checker on directgov - if you take into account child tax credits, working tax credits, (if you will be entitled to them) child benefit etc it all adds up.

We worked out we will be quite a bit better off once the baby is born which IMO is completely ridiculous but I'm not complaining! But that's only because I'm planning on going back to work after mat leave.

Alioh .... I did for me and dh entitled
To nowt !!

It's 4am! Must be time for me to lie awake worrying. :-(

dobedobedo that's a cute name reason. Mine is that when I got pregnant with DS in the few glorious weeks before ms I was eating like a horse and would go to McDonald drive through and get one hamburger one cheese burger, eat them both. So DH named me and LO ham and cheese. This time it was double deckers so up he calls the baby double and me decker, but kind of just the baby now as I don't like being a decker of any variant ha!

moomin urgh group work is the pits. Most stressful time at uni was y3 research methods group work, shudder. It got so much better when I could lock myself away and study... Alone.

I'm excited I've got a possible girl nub heehee!

As for maternity stuff it irks me. I am doing a funded phd so don't get a thing, no pay, no allowance. So have had to keep working throughout. My choice I guess but might have been an accident yknow? I don't pay NI so I get squat.

Taking DS to the dobbies near us today to see if its all festive yet. Hopefully will be lovely!

Only good thing is once baby is here you get child benefit (as long as no one earns 50k+ in your home) which is £80 a month. I put that away as DS savings for future etc. technically if you save each child's cb forever you will have enough for their uni etc by the time they grow up. Helps I guess!

I had my scan yesterday and new due date is 23 April! So I maybe shouldn't be on this bu anymore...! Didn't realise how worried I had been until I saw the little one swimming about in there - was so lovely.

Hamncheese your username taps right into my cravings and makes me hungry! Despite the nausea, which is still keeping me off work.

To those worried financially about maternity leave - I couldn't figure out how we would cope last time as I was the higher earner. We saved what we could and found it was more manageable than we expected - I spent so much less when off with no travel to work etc, breastfed so feeding baby was free - somehow you just make it work, though it is scary. This time I am p/t and we have childcare costs so it will be tougher but I'm looking into things like mortgage payment holiday to stretch out m/l as long as possible.

That's great news jelly! Stick around though. You MIGHT go over into May

It's not just maternity pay that's bothering me. It's child care. I already pay £70 a week for ds after school child care, add on a full time place for a baby and that's almost all my wages. Either I need to get a better paid job or I need to.... I don't know really! Eeek.

That's my worry too - childcare for both will seriously eat up my wages. It's really difficult to work out!

I don't think it's possible for me to have conceived quite as early as this new date suggests. But I thought that about DS and I was wrong!

Going to Google nub theory now...

Feeling I come out with around 1400 but only get 6 weeks full pay and 6 weeks half plus statutory before it really drops down. We're trying to save for a new car for me (mine is cheap death trap) and save to cover my wages. Think we'll be fine but we have decided no holidays for a couple of years. That hurts as we love holidays it's where all our money goes. I'm all grown up!

I think mummy's r just screwed by this govt !!!!! How can people expect u to live off nothing

I need a

Holidays went for us too...it's a shame but we'll afford them again one day!

Nub theory suggests girl from my scan picture which would be more expensive as we have so many boy's clothes carefully bagged up from DS - I wish they weren't so gendered! I hate the blue/pink thing but if we do have a girl I will feel unable to put her in all the blue babygros of which we have hundreds! And I love little pinafore dresses and will no doubt bankrupt myself...

On the plus side though we used our only boy's name on DS so if it is a boy we might have to go with DS's suggestion of 'Kangaroo'. We have a longer list for a girl

Urgh my anxiety is through the roof now. 12 week scan a week yesterday, but I'm so so nervous. I'm normally fairly chilled out too, but for the last 2 nights I've dreamt I was bleeding. And in the middle of the night last night I was convinced I was and had to go to the toilet to check.

I'm normally not that anxious about things, but so worried for 12 week scan.

I have my 11 week scan tomorrow !!! And booking ......

Ten plus 6

I've my booking in appointment for next Tuesday and will probably get a scan done too. Looking forward to it.

I wore maternity trousers over the weekend and now can't get back into the normal clothes. My bump just popped out all of a sudden. I am still wearing normal tops but todays tshirt is riding up over the bump so I think I'm going to start wearing everything maternity now.

Wish I could give you some reassurance Impatiently. But i can do some hand holding though.

Dont know what week I am without checking. 8 + 4?

Morning everyone!
Been away for a bit but have caught up on everyone's news.

Last week was hectic with a trip down to Devon and back for a wedding midweek and then a hen do at the weekend. No way I was going to get away with not drinking at the hen do without explaining myself so I came clean. But the wedding I managed to get away with it by donating all my drinks to dh who was definitely 'that drunk bloke' by the end of the evening!

Had my booking appt too which was fine - and also told my boss confidentially who was delighted for us and has put my mind at rest about some work related things i'd been stressing about. So an eventful week! 9 weeks today and feeling a bit under the weather. Think I'm a bit tired. Is anyone else sleeping really badly despite being knackered?

Lots of people are starting to have scans now - that's exciting! Impatiently, sorry to hear about your scary dreams. It's all so nerve wracking isn't it - I just worry about everything! But trying to think positive...

Ok everyone, it has been lovely and I'm really going to miss being part of this group but went for scan yesterday and got bad news.

It is a MMC and yet to have any pain or bleeding. It is a bit surreal as I still have ache-y joints and breasts still tender. I had a lovely sonographer who was extremely helpful and very clear. Waiting to hear back from her this morning (on her day off!) whether I need to go to EPAU or wait for bleed or wait for 10 days to go for a repeat scan. I don't know how patient I can be though.

I am wishing you all the very best for sticky beans and successful pregnancies. I might check in every now and again and lurk a while to see how you fabby girls are getting on.

So sorry mcredhead. What awful awful news. Must be so much to take in without any symptoms and such a shock. Don't be afraid to tell the docs that you can't wait, if you don't think its right for you. You should be given a choice for how it happens.
So so sorry. Thinking of you. Xx

Oh mcred really sorry for your sad news. Let us know what sonographer says when you hear back from her. Love to you and your family. Xx

Oh no mcred. Such sad news. What an awful shock. Hope you are ok. Sending hugs xxxxxx