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June 2014 Bus for those with RMC issues

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NorahVanstone · 04/10/2013 09:58

Hello everyone, welcome to our new hopeful but slightly paranoid bus!

NorahVanstone edd 6th June, 4 previous MC

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tigsnchar1 · 23/10/2013 18:52

Tanny and London, thank you for thinking of me. I've been steering clear so as not to bring everyone down! This is taking a little while to sort out - went back to hospital today for some more 'assistance' to move things along. The actual MC was in hospital on Monday but the rest is taking a bit of shifting.

I'm frustrated at feeling poorly with this. I need to be at work but still in pain and frequently dizzy so I can't. Hospital have done what they can but don't have a time machine so I've just got to get on with it. Haven't confessed to work yet, just said it was gynae issues, as they'll be horrid once they know we are trying for another.

Not too bad emotionally but bit jealous if I'm honest of pregnant ladies, which is ridiculous and I hate myself for. Blush It will pass. And despite my childishness I do still hope that all your pregnancies progress beautifully!

Smile
TinyTear · 23/10/2013 19:34

Good news carrot so happy for you!!

KatAndKit · 23/10/2013 22:25

tigs sorry it is taking so long to be resolved. Hope it is all over for you soon

carrot congratulations on the great scan news, you must be over the moon.

i have at lastgot the 3+ on the clear blue, so no more stick pissing for me. It is a few days later than it ought to have been but when i took the test apart i saw the darkest lines ever so trying to be reassured. Got midwife appointment and consultant in a months time but still no bloody viability scan. Will have to beg gp next week. Do not want to do booking in and then miscarry, hate still having the notes and having due date worked out.

tannyLoo72 · 23/10/2013 23:29

tigs so sorry you're going through this. It sounds like you're really going through it. Thanks for being so honest, I feel jealous too. Part of the process I suppose. I know how hard it must be to be on the other side too...

I feel guilty about the amount of time I'm taking off work, but Woman's Hour, the cat, the washing machine and a fb message all had me in floods of tears today. I don't know how much good I would do there at the momentSad.

carrot so pleased for you and although I am jealous as hell, you give me hopeWink!

PJen · 24/10/2013 01:15

Tigs sorry to hear you are going through this :( please don't feel you need to stay quiet. We are here to support each other and to be able to talk freely.
Tanny take as long as you need. :( be kind to yourself. It is tough.

Carrot I am so pleased that your little bean is measuring ahead. :) what a great news.

Engels good luck for your "echo" tomorrow :)

Tiny are you going in tomorrow morning or afternoon? I do hope the best for you. I know you are not positive but I hope they were wrong. I will check tomorrow to see if there are any news from you and Engels.

Kat glad that you got your 3+.

Waving to anyone else I have missed.

Jen

TinyTear · 24/10/2013 08:35

It's tomorrow morning PJen. Although the EPU is in an internet and mobile signal blackspot, I will try and update when I can...

And I heard someone from my Feb 12 group went to her 20w scan and her baby had died.
At least I am grateful (?) that my losses were all early ones...

LondonSuperTrooper · 24/10/2013 09:35

Tigs hang in there. What you are feeling is completely natural.

Carrott not sure whether I've said congratulations or not? Anyhow, great news and it's fab that the beanie is measuring bigger than anticipated.

Tiny best of luck for tomorrow. And how utterly devastating to lose the baby at 20 weeks :(

LadyGoneGaga · 24/10/2013 11:06

Kat good news on your 3 plus. Could you book a private scan? I've just booked one for 7 weeks as am a basketcase. It's only 50 quid - in Hinckley which might be within distnace for you?

Good luck for tomorrow, Tiny. Am hoping for you.

What the others said, Tigs. You're bound to feel like that, it's not childish at all and is part of you grieving for your loss. After my mc I just so desperately wanted to be pg again.

KatAndKit · 24/10/2013 11:47

If i have no luck with the gp i will go private but am hoping he or she will just refer me. Bizarrely the midwives are no longer allowed to refer patients, has to be a doctor. Ridiculous system. No point before seven weeks though as if it isn't good then ill only end up having the horrid two week wait for a rescan. If its an empty sac sort of mc they should be able to call it at seven weeks and if viable there will be a heartbeat.

LadyGoneGaga · 24/10/2013 12:06

Fingers crosed they will. We are using these people if you need to go private, www.tummy2mummymidwiferyservices.co.uk/index.php/contact-us. They won't scan before 7 weeks anyway. So have booked for when I am 7+1!

IBelieveInEngels · 24/10/2013 14:42

Hi everyone.

Definitely mc. Mw scanned me and said she couldn't see anything, but sent me to hospital for an ultrasound and to get my bloods checked. Low hcg and gynacologist couldn't see anything either. Have to go and get blood checked again next week. Have never had so many different people look at my fanjo in one day Grin

Well, will be trying again after my next period (was lucky for us last time round with ds) so hope that I'll be seeing you all on the ante-natal boards again soon. Thank you so much for your support. MN is wonderful Thanks

TinyTear · 24/10/2013 14:52

Aw Engels pity...

Good luck for the next cycle, I might join you...

LadyGoneGaga · 24/10/2013 15:23

So sorry, Engels. I hope your body settles down quickly so you can try again. We got pregnant with DD the cycle after a miscarriage (so only one period) and I'm sure it's because your body is all geared up for it.

CarrotCakeMuffins · 24/10/2013 18:04

Engels I am so very sorry it was bad news.
Sending lots of Thanks

tannyLoo72 · 24/10/2013 20:06

What a roller coaster, Engles, you poor thing! Sad

Thinking of you. Thanks

tigsnchar1 · 24/10/2013 20:17

You ladies are wonderful and generous. Lots of love to those in my position or in the awful uncertain stage, and also massive congratulations to those doing well. Just because I want a baby doesn't stop me being happy for you - this is a very specific form of jealousy!

I also feel like everyone who happens to have walked within 5 feet of me has had a good look and a poke. Ugh!

Thank you for all the good wishes, and sending you all lots of luck.

PJen · 24/10/2013 21:24

awww Engels I am so sorry to see you go. :( Did they check your tubes to ensure it is not god forbid tubal? Good luck with trying and I do hope to see you back on this side in couple of weeks.

PJen · 24/10/2013 21:26

Tiny How did your scan go? How are you doing?

PJen · 25/10/2013 01:50

Oh god Tiny. I am so in an another world. I thought today was Friday till now. I can't believe I have to go to work tomorrow. I was so ready for weekend. :(

Penguinita · 25/10/2013 05:40

So sorry to hear that engels. Sad But at least you are keeping your sense of humour, hopefully you can save your fanjo for your oh from now on Grin

Will be thinking of you today tiny and checking in for news.

I've been up since 4am thanks to pg bladder, not that I'm complaining. Wondering how much cleaning I can get done without waking DH Smile

TinyTear · 25/10/2013 07:58

Thanks all, a couple of hours to go...

Bless my husband he didn't realise the size difference was so much (5w is 3mm 8 w should have been 1.5cm) and was still thinking it could have been a difference in measurement.

I just want closure today. I have been grieving this baby for the past week...

IBelieveInEngels · 25/10/2013 09:00

Will be thinking of you today Tiny Thanks

It is my resolution to keep my fanjo between me and DH for the rest of 2013 penguinita Grin

Yep, they check tubes to make sure it wasn't ectopic PJen . Told me to come in straight away if I have any stomach pains.

Thanks for all the good wishes. tigs said it much better than I could. That's exactly the word I was looking for - generous . I have hidden the regular June bus for now as I don't want to see it in my threads I'm on every day (though I may pop back to say hi once in a while), but I won't hide you ladies. You've all been so supportive, it really does make a massive difference.

I'm still struggling with crippling tiredness which I think is either the fact that I still have some pg hormones going on, or just the emotional and physical toll of the last few days - the stress, the worry. Not at work now till Tuesday so have the weekend to get my head together before heading back into the classroom. Didn't tell any of my colleagues what was going on (apart from one but she was on leave for most of the week so only managed a quick catch up yesterday before I left for my appointment). My headteacher and one or two other colleagues knew I had a medical appt/scan but not what for (though I'm guessing they can put 2 and 2 together).

Just waiting for my mum to skype me. May tell her - not sure. ILs know as they looked after DS so DH could come with me yesterday afternoon, though initially he told them he had a doctor's appointment. We dropped my car home though on the way to the hospital from mw though so they knew something was up.

I guess I need to focus on the here and now for a little while since we won't be trying again till after AF arrives (3 weeks if my last mc was anything to go by, but who knows!). Doing a 15k race in 3 weeks (and am seriously behind in training), have lots of school work to crack on with and DS is super cute at the moment (plus a few tantrums here and there!).

tannyLoo72 · 25/10/2013 09:04

Tiny obviously tons of love and good luck for this morning.

Jen when is your scan? You must be pleased to get DH back today.

Tigs I agree, the support here has been lovely.

Engles I hope you're doing ok and taking it easy.

Everyone else, hello! Such a lot happening at the moment...

I have a GP appt this morning, as I'm still experiencing nausea, headaches and dizziness. I have some weird discharge (sorry TMI) and just want to be better now. I will aso be asking for a rmc referral and a sick note. All in 3 minutes!

TinyTear · 25/10/2013 11:32

Hello all
Scan confirmed the miscarriage. baby had grown by less than 1mm.
But as my body is hanging on I opted for surgical management so have my ERPC booked for Wednesday.

Good luck Jen for this afternoon.

I have also hidden the regular June thread but will keep on here hoping for more good news...

How was your appointment this morning tanny?

And Wine and Cake for everyone. you have been great support

IBelieveInEngels · 25/10/2013 11:44

Sorry to hear that Tiny but 'glad' (not the right word but..) that you can start looking forward again soon. x

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