October 2013 - Calling October babies: come out, come out wherever you are!

[MrsHoratioNelson]

Stats sheet here

New arrivals here

Key:
SC - still cooking (pre EDD)
SFW - still f*ing waiting (post EDD)
OWT - on way to theatre (CS)
IP - induction in progress
SWIL - somewhere in labour
LIT -lost in transition

Don't worry MrsH I won't be looking good in my pics - if I'm in them at all...

huge congrats funky

I've had a very teary night here, mixture of hormones and no sleep!! after my bfeeding positivity earlier I can safely say I hate it. We're going to switch to ff tomorrow. before this I was so wanting to bfeed and I do believe its so good for baby, but I am miserable!! he wanta feeding all the time, but im so so sore (despite doing it right I had every mw check) and just want him fed and settled and want dp to be able to share this massive burdeon with me. it got to the point last night where I was sat in floods of tears telling dp that if I had to keep feeding him I'd rather not have him (it makes me feel sick to even type that) so I don't think its the best thing for us as a family. I really would have thought that this wasn't enough time to decide that as I know people say you have to persevere with it, but I can't. I hope you lot can all understand. sorry for the rant, im just feeling miserable about it all. I wanted to bf but am worried its going to end up triggering pnd at this rate! !

Bless you roofio, it's your body, your baby and your decision. You need to weigh up the health benefits with the physical and mental impact it has on you. If you are in a complete state it's not going to be beneficial for the baby.

Have you tried expressing or is that too painful as well?

Big love. No one will judge you whatever decision you make.

Oh roof, bf isn't for everyone. It does hurt a lot at first (hence all the nipple creams, guards and cabbages) and that's a big hurdle to get through. If it's not for you, that's fine, that's why God some smart man invented formula.
You could always try a compromise and express some of your milk for a few days and bottle feed that alongside formula so you're still passing on some of your milky goodness- it might not hurt as much.

Whatever you decide- don't beat yourself up. You've done a really good job already and you're right to avoid pnd. xxx

roofio, lots of handholding. I'm sure one of the experienced mums will be along sooner to offer better advice, all I can say from my opinion is please don't beat yourself up about it at all. I think your baby would prefer a happy mummy and FF instead of a stressed mummy and BF.

funky congrats! And ooooowwwww. I hope you are feeling okay. It must have been traumatic.

Now, is anyone thinking of buying this £69 kindle? Just because amazon sent me a special code that lets you buy it for £49, so £20 off (apparently because. I buy so many hard copy books). You have to use it by the end of today though. Let me know if you want it and I'll PM you the code.

yeah I can express a fair amount, which is keeping him going for now so I'll keep doing that at least while I have collostrum and give him a little as well and I might try mixed feeding because it doesn't matter if he goes off bfeeding or it effects my milk supply as I'd just be giving up otherwise. my sis says keep trying him a little to keep my milk up and him interested just in case whichbi will!!

Congratulations funkky and well done for getting through what sounds like a pretty difficult birth. Looking forward to your first pics xxx

caz i forgot to say well done to the cazboys at their show. You must be proud.

MrsH My pg calendar warned me of BH and 'practice contractions' from 37w. Could it have been one of those? Can only be a good sign that your body is getting on with Operation Eviction...

Roofio it sounds like you have made a positive decision for you and your baby. Far better that than you carry on hating it risk resenting your baby and ending up with PND. don't hate yourself for not wanting to feed - my DSis had much the same feelings and its just the hormones going crazy, coupled with tiredness and sore boobs. How you feed your baby is a decision for you and don't let anyone try to make you feel bad about it. It's too early in the game to start with the maternal guilt :)

Pink I've been having BH since about 25 weeks and the tightening was familiar and, while they can be a little uncomfortable, they are nothing like this in terms of being actually painful and the build up in intensity. They usually start and stop quite suddenly by comparison.
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Will catch up in a bit - our little girl arrived at 2.55am this morning after a long, stop start phase followed by a freaking intense 3 hours active phase. She weighs 3.72 kilos, about 8lb 3, and is looking like she will be a boob monster like her big brother. Shes perfect

And another baby! Congratulations Bowl :) Look forward to hearing her name x

Roofio just one more thing to mention and I really hope you take this as a positive suggestion rather than me trying to criticise your decision, but have you thought about nipple shields? A couple of my girlfriends said that's what enabled them to carry on BF when the reason they wanted to stop was because of the soreness. In fact, so many people have said this that I have laid some in already. As I say, just a suggestion and I'm not trying to lecture you :) xx

Congrats funkky and bowlful.

roofio and funkky.

In laws here for Sunday lunch,arrived last last night.

My pregnancy app talked about how I feel being a new mum yesterday... Not even at EDD yet!

I woke up had a wee look on MN and here it is!!!! Another baby!!!
Congrstulations bowl!!! And welcome baby bowl!!!!!
Xxxx

congrats and well done bowlful! i guess that means you and your due date buddies have all had their babies now

roofio so sorry you ve had a hard time. you need to make sure you look after yourself. please drink plenty and eat regularly too. im sat here feeding little one and i forgot how sore it can be. like you my latch is good and its still sore. im using lansinoh and maynards sours to get me through. they are trying to build up the milk supply now so thats why they re on the boob constantly. dont forget you ve had a tough time with the worry about his heart beat and induction so all that will be having an effect. it s your decision how to feed your baby so dont feel you need to explain to anyone. look after yourself xxx

roofio at least u tried, I won't even be trying I am going to be formula feeding from very first feed, I did with dd too and she's almost 3 now and still alive to tell the tale. Just make the most of the first few precious weeks with your baby without feeling guilty in pain and unwell xxx

Congratulations to all the new mums funkky and bowlfull not that I'm jelous at all xxx

Congratulations funkky and jelly

Roofio...... As long as a baby is warm, cuddled and has something to eat, they don't care if it is formula or breast milk. Please don't be hard on yourself. Millions of babies never get any breast milk at all and are perfectly fine.

Congratulations funky and bowlful

Im sorry to hear you had a hard time of it funnky hope your recovering well x

roofio just to echo what everyone else is saying that you have to do what is best for you and your little family. If theres one thing I learnt from having DS its trust your instincts and ignore other peoples judgement of your parenting, there will always be someone who has done it a different way and think its better but hes your baby and will be just fine and love his Mum whether hes ff or bf sorry for mini rant but hope what im trying to say comes across. Either way sending you hugs xx

mrsH sounds like a contraction to me too with pain and build up of intensity, fingers crossed for more today!

Well done to your boys caz

sorry if ive forgotten anyone.

40+1 and SFW. I like the idea of the cool 13/10/13 birthday tarlia but think I may go insane if this baby is not here by the weekend... Had a lovely curry last night then within 2 hrs had thrown it all back up again followed by seriously violent diarrhoea (sorry for tmi) now not sure if this is a prelabour thing or if im just ill.. think I may be starting to look at real life things as labour symptoms, think this may even be worse than symptom spotting in the 2 week wait!

Congrats Bowlful and funkky

Roofio, you sound so anguished..... don't let something unimportant spoil this special time xxxxxx

had the worst nights sleep (or lack of ) and have the sorest back.

SC 36 +6.....

or even 39 + 6

Agree, MrsHN. I looked a wreck after the birth of DS, no pics of me were allowed!

Don't go backwards caz

Massive cross post, congratulations Funnky and Bowl!!!
roofio maybe give the guards a go as suggested above, otherwise formula is absolutely fine.

Roofio I 2nd suggestion of nipple shield.
I totally understand the relief that comes with deciding ff is the way to go and stopping the frustration etc.
however IF you feel you want to try I'm finding shields great this time around. They only cost 8£.

Congratulations to all the new mummies! Very very exciting

SC 38 + 1 saw midwife yesterday, all good 4/5 engaged and bump is measuring a cm small but think that's because he/she has dropped down so low, had a good chat about birth and everything, not much more I can do prep/nesting wise so nearly ready to go, BH are ramping up so hopefully won't be too long

roofio the very first mw I saw when pg with DD1 told me that although she had to promote bf she would much rather see happy mother and therefore a happy baby, this advice has stuck with me as it seemed so sensible! I have been very lucky and hope bf works out as well this time as it did last 2 times but my dsis struggled big time, she managed to express for a few days to give her boobs and nipples a bit of a rest (even gave a bit of formula if needed) she managed to get going again when her milk came in and things settled down, so don't give up just yet. Unless u want to obviously, your body your choice and no one will should judge! It's hard having all the pressure for feeding a brand new person all on your shoulders, and don't underestimate all the hormones! Bloody hormones!

SC at 38 weeks today. Still can't work out how that chimes with a due date of Oct 27th