December 2013 - waddling slowly onwards

[LadyMedea]

Our new thread!

Hi all, not been around for a while, trying to catchup as much as I can!

Bohemian – that other teacher sounds like a dick, I’m finding teaching much harder than I did before I was pregnant, especially since September. I know it’s awful, but I just don’t give a crap, I’m just counting down the days now – only 13 days left!

MrsShrubs - I don’t know about 4 hours on a plane, but I’m going to the south of France next summer with my parents and we are driving, not looking forward to it! I’m sure it will be fine!!!

Feather, I'm sorry your DM has been a pain. Try not to get upset about it – it will hopefully pass soon enough!

Stom, your DP sounds like he's being a bit of a wally. Just book it – he will get over it and probably end up having a great time!

Xenadog, my HOD wants to do an observation in the next 3 weeks too. He is lovely, but I just don’t see the point. We have gone to the performance related pay already, and I won’t be able to meet any targets made this year, so what’s the point? I don’t know what to say to him – don’t want to seem like I don’t give a shit!

Whisper, sounds scary – I hope everything is ok, I’m sure it will be!

5ammy, my discharge is gross too. Sometimes it’s the same consistency as snot! I might mention it to my midwife next week. I don’t know about watery discharge though. It could be you are just a bit leaky – I’ve wee’d when I’ve sneezed twice this week.

Lady, glad everything is ok. I had a trip to triage this week too. I was bleeding and hadn’t felt baby for a while. Everything seemed to be fine though, so that’s good. They have booked me in for a scan at 34 weeks – I’m not sure why though. I meant to ask but it was 1am and I was so tired! Anyone have any ideas why they’d arrange that? Anyway, was told to take the rest of the week off, so just been lazing around which is nice!

Sooooo, now that’s done, I want to talk nipple pad things. My boobs were leaky ages ago, but that has stopped now. Anyway, people with previous experience, should I use disposable pads or do you think it’s worth buying reusable ones? Also, are there ones I can use to catch milk when I’m breastfeeding? Or have I imagined that? Any advice will be much appreciated!

DP is just being a knob. Hes called me phsyco earlier! Totally uncalled for! I asked him about the party again (also mentions he'd spent £800 on stag do's this year) and he said let just get this stag do out the way and we will discuss it. I've got too much going on money wise..Urgh. If it was just him that had been invited it would be a different story!

Then he said to me what do you actually do all day just sit and watch Netflix!? (this house must get tidied magically then! And the fairies must cook his tea)

If i just go ahead a book it he will do his nut. And have a huge go at me even the the credit card is OURS.. He thinks I'm crap with money and is going to get us into debt just because I owe £200 on a very account which I pay each month without fail!

Stom I don't know how comforting this is, but my DH thinks your DP is a knob and very insensitive. Sorry for passing your story on, just thought it might be handy to find out opinions other than those of hormonal women!

Stom your dp seems to want everything on his terms - I would not be impressed and would be giving it to him with both barrels. Where's the give and take? After all it takes two to make a baby doesn't it so why should the sacrifices all be yours just because you are carrying the baby? Grrr he makes me mad.

"Gannetgob* I think you should just say to your HoD that the extra stress of an observation is going to be too much - I would state that you need to be as calm as possible at this point in your pregnancy and anything which causes stress needs to be eradicated. Have you had a risk assessment done? Whoever did it (if you had one - and you should) should be reviewing it with you regularly and ensuring the school is not piling unnecessary stress on.

As for discharge it's normal to produce more (I read) but I hate it - it makes me feel bleugh IYKWIM.

Crikey Deya I've not heard of difficulty peeing when sat down! Hope you're back to normal now.

Haha thanks deya.. He is being a knob so don't apologise lol.

Hes usually lovely. I just don't know what's up with him. Perhaps he's fed up with me being off work. I don't know. Hes really hard to talk too.
He gave me a silly apology about the physco thing before he went out. I said he can apologise properly when he gets home & actually mean it.

Its not even loads it's £90. Thats £45 each. For me to have one night away i haven't been away all year or last year he's been to Budapest twice this year.

Such a jerk - I wish someone other than me would explain this to him then he would see my side....

Ill be explaining something to him or put across my concerns etc and he won't believe me or listen.. But as soon as one of his mates says the same thing he believes them... Then I'm like I've been telling you that for months!! It winds me up so much!!

Sorry I'll stop ranting now xxx

whisper I love 'If I Should Have a Daughter' makes me tear up (especially as I'm having a daughter)

Stom Sorry your DP's being a knob. I have big problems with calling a woman 'psycho' or 'crazy' to shut down an argument, there's a great article on The Good Men Project about that very thing.

Well, two shifts down and five to go! I have TV series that I've always wanted to watch (Orange is The New Black, The Killing) waiting to go

Xenadog.. You hit the nail on the head.

This is what happened... He was staring into space so I said said nicely.... What you thinking about? He replies
With... Nothing sstop it! I said what? What's do you mean stop it i haven't done anything... Then he says.. What's wrong with you? Having another of your psyco moments!?..

According to him since I've been pregnant I've become psyco... Argh!!!!

By the way if my husband asks me what I've been up to all day ( I'm off work sick now) I say I've been making his son's penis. And should I get interrupted from doing so, he may turn out disadvantaged in that department.

Thats for the like Ccsays.... It was a very good. Read!!

I actually related to it.. Thats bad?

Oh and I've literally juat finished watching orange is the new black.. Its really good you'll enjoy it! Though there's alot. Of. Girl on girl :S nothing explicit though but you can get the gist lol

5ammy- don't want to alarm but if there's enough to soak through your bottoms I wonder if you should speak to someone tomo rather than wait for next week- is there any chance you could be leaking amniotic fluid? Worth a phone call I'd say.. Sorry hon- don't mean to panic you.

Deya- I had a wierd thing with not being able to pee properly earlier this week.. Had a brief panic about it and then it trickled out ( sorry tmi!).

Frickin groin pain still getting me down. Working is really tricky but am so determined to get to my mat leave date in 10 days.. No joy from occ health and tried to contact midwife on the number but they just told me to call labour ward which seemed really inappropriate. On plus side- work have been unusually helpful and covered my Saturday on call shift so am only doing the Sun.

5ammy I get gushes of watery stuff. I think it's normal tbh but if you're worried get it checked.

stom your DP is being a bit of a twat at the moment. (Sorry I don't have much patience today). Calling you names like that really isn't on :(

gannet lilypadz are your new b(r)est friend. I found disposable pads got lumpy, reusable ones are great for soaking up milk later on but you need to change them fairly frequently and breast shells are way too obvious under tops although they come in really handy later.

mum my bump has come in for a fair few kicks, and a couple of accidents with cupboard doors when I forget I'm pregnant! They're pretty well protected barring massive blunt force trauma or a serious fall.

whisper I hope everything is okay with you and bump. They're probably just being cautious in case anything is triggered you're in the right place to get help straight away.

deya if they're basing that on a scan then remember it's about as accurate as guessing the weight of someone in a bathtub of water in the next room (ie not very)!

pink virtual hugs don't spread germs Hope you're feeling a bit better soon!

ccsays I just read that article- wow, it's really interesting. Never heard of gaslighting before but the article makes a lot of sense.
the bit that really rang true for me was this bit: .

When we are discouraged in our youth and early adulthood from expressing emotion, it causes many of us to remain steadfast in our refusal to express regret when we see someone in pain from our actions. that is so my DH. if we have an arguement he often finds it impossible to apologise for upsetting me in the heat of the moment, even if he knows he's the one being insensitive, but later he'll apologise. Also I definitely feel he thinks I'm a bit overly 'emotional' and unbalanced at times just because I'm a woman and that's what they're like. It's so embedded into society and how men view us!

anyway thanks for posting the link- would love to show DH but know he'd just scoff and say it's a load of psycho babble! But I did a psych degree and am really interested in people/behaviour etc.

Ha ha Nom that's a good comparison!
I think all issues are related to the dating scan. They added nearly 2 weeks to my EDD after the first scan and since then he's been always measuring too big for his weeks. If we assume he's 2 weeks ahead of what midwifes go by then my bump and baby is spot on! Or maybe it's just me wanting him to be here a bit earlier...? Arrgh...wait and see.

Hi, sorry to hear of everyones woes, I spent all of last wednesday afternoon getting checked out as I'd had hardly any movements for a day and a half, typically since then shes not stopped boogying!

Had yet another growth scan today, although she has grown and is now estimated at just over 3 pounds shes gone from between the 2nd and 5th centile lines to below the 2nd, so still got to keep having scans every 2 weeks. Good news though, last week she was breech and is now head down.

The consultant had a girl in with him who was on work experience and while he went to work out the estimated weight he asked if I'd mind if she had a go of the scanner, it was great fun, I wish I'd done something like that on my work experience!

Hey 5ammy I second Mildred in saying get checked out for the wetness tomorrow rather than next week... You might just be leaking waters. I'm a lot more...err... juicy... Since being pregnant but not quite that wet!

roselau its special hearing heartbeat i love it so much

hi emb1715 am a newbie too, due 3 days before you, exciting

what is it about 4am lol, why are we all waking up then? are we getting ready for night feeds or something?

5ammy and others id not worry my discharge actually bleaches my underwear, no smell but i cant wear coloured cotton or i end up with bleach like marks, worried but doctor said as long as no smell or burning then its fine, am getting quite a lot to at the moment is quite watery

Oww! Keep getting cramp in my legs. (Last few weeks) Just woken up with cramp in one leg to get it in the other! Keep getting it in the front/shin. Bloody painful. (And that's after fighting with restless leg going to sleep)...

Oh, hello 3.30am

Hello 3.45am lol. You are similar to 2am. Sigh.

Morning everyone 2am and 4am again here oh well at least it's a Friday :) will check back and post properly later

Anyone else have nightmares about baby? I woke up crying in the early hours. Freaked out DH no end!

Morning all

EmB I haven't really had nightmares but have had some very vivid and very strange dreams whilst being pg. Don't worry about it, something to do with hormones I think!

Whisper hope you and the baby OK this morning? Let us know when you get a min.

And 5ammy, did you get checked out? It's probably nothing but better to be safe than sorry..

And speaking of worries, another one for worry corner sigh. I don't think it's anything but movement feels different. Still getting the same number of kicks and prods and stuff (if I concentrate) but they feel different. Softer somehow and less intense. But I think baby has changed position. At my scan last week he was head down, back to back and I have a feeling from where I am feeling movement he's turned around so his back is to my tummy now if you know what I mean!

Bump also seems to have dropped a bit. I had a 'shelf' under my boobs which has gone now and that part of my tummy is softer and the rest of my bump is rounder. But that could be to do with the fact that my constipation seems to have gone a bit (sorry, TMI!).

I know my placenta is at the front which could muffle movement a bit if he's bouncing off that. Going to do the cold drink and lay on my side for 2 hours and see what happens! Good excuse to go back to bed for a bit lol.

Anyone else noticed bump being lower though? Am 29 weeks today so a bit early for baby to be engaged I would have thought?

froubylou I've had the same worries since saturday! Bub's movements haven't been anywhere near as obvious as they had been for the past few weeks. Still getting the right number but just different. Mentioned it to MW on Weds and she just shrugged it off so I'm assuming it's nothing to worry about! Hope you're ok

Frou- I am similar to you this morning except dor scans and bump moving. I have felt muffled movement abd have an anteriorl placenta. I have a MW appt today otherwise I would be popping to the assesment unit for a check. Just to reassure me