December 2013 - waddling slowly onwards

[LadyMedea]

Our new thread!

Everything I've watched don't tell the bride this pregnancy I've cried because I really want to many dp.. The last 4 years he's always said he doesn't want to marry me...

He said it again a few months ago and I got annoyed and just said great I'm the mother of your child and you don't even want to marry me.... Then he looked at me and said.. Its not that I don't want to marry you it's that we can't afford it... I said we can have a quiet one just me, him and 2 randomness as witnesses and he said I couldn't do that to your dad... Bless him...

I've told him that I want to marry him and I want to same name as him... I feel like the odd one out...

Maybe one day.....

I have asked my dp to ask me to marry him. And we have talked about it. But we want to spend the money on our home and family first.

I would give the kiddies my name, but I prefer my partner's name and despite not being married before kids, I am a little traditional on that front and think my kids should have their dad's name :)

me and DP are engaged and were supposed to be getting married in the summer next year. That is until we found out I was pregnant and we can't afford a wedding and a baby which is sad. We will get married eventually and I want it because I want us all to have the same name and to tell the world that we love each other and we're sticking together. That being said though, if we never end up being married I wouldn't be too upset. A name isn't much compared to our relationship and it's not really going to be any different other than I would have a different ring to wear. Oh and we would get a party and I can wear a pretty dress

So so excited DH has rang to say he was chatting to the head of their ultrasound department in the hospital canteen and he's offered to do us a 3D scan first thing tomorrow morning for free!! After 11 weeks we'll get to see little man again - and double check it is still little man and not little lady! They said the only thing is depending on which way he's lying they may not be able to get a good view on the 3d scanner so fingers crossed he's behaving himself tomorrow!!

Awww that's brill mrs I always wanted a 3d scan but never had one, enjoy it and let us know if little man is little man x

oh wow mrs thats amazing, im very jealous of your scan.
I'd like to get married and so would DP but we brought a house 18 months ago that we had to completely take back to brick and start again on (homes under the hammer style) and by the time weve got it 90% sorted ignoring the huge rubble pile and jungle that is our garden, I got pregnant. :) oops. theres no way we can use both surnames, as theres only 2 letters different (using nn's im chappers he'd be shippers). Im tempted by changing by deed poll as Im slightly annoyed I have to do all the hard work and then bump wont even share my name. But I'd also like a posh dress and party.

That's brilliant, MrsShrubs! Lucky you! You'll have to let us know how it all goes tomorrow
I can't decide if I like the idea of having a 3D scan or not... On the one hand it'd be amazing to see little one again and get an idea of what he looks like, but on the other hand it's expensive and I'm scared all the fluid would make his face distorted and freak me out!

DP just took me to Mothercare so I could buy a couple of maternity sleep bras. Sounds silly but I'm ridiculously happy and can't wait to snuggle up in bed without worrying about leaky boobs now!

Enjoy Mrs- I loved ours although think it was prob not worth the £150 so a free one is perfect!!

Last day at work tomo- baking like mad for goodbye cakes for the team as they've really looked after me on the ward over the last few weeks. Eaten more than a few spoonfuls of cake mixture though- now feeling pretty queasy and not at all like dinner, also realised raw eggs in there so poss not my best idea ever

Such a wierd feeling.. Although nice to see jobs that need doing around the house and thinking ill soon have the time/ energy to do them!

Saw midwife this aft- didn't measure my bump- again! I thought it was pretty routine.. All well though. Ketones in urine- she says I should eat more. Also spent a long time palpating for position.. Praying baby gets head down and stays there..

Mrs, that's lovely, enjoy it! I wasn't sure how I felt about 3D scans but it was a gift from my mum so off we went and actually I really enjoyed it, I'm interested to see how much baby looks like the 3D scan photo when he's born

Enjoy your last day tomorrow Mildred, hoping you get quiet shift for your last one!

I've been having either Braxton hicks or, ahem, wind pains today. Ouch!

Thanks everyone, absolutely over the moon as we weren't planning on being able to see him again till the days he's born do its such a lovely surprise & so kind of them to offer it to us!

Hehe pistachio I have days where I wonder that too!!

mildred enjoy tomorrow, so nice of you to bake for everyone! I've still got about 25 working days left, I'm working up until 36&half weeks as I didn't have much annual leave left, will soon find out how overly optimistic I'm being. It is just a desk job so not too taxing to be fair.

That's lovely Mrs do let us know if little man really is little man.

I'd like to get married too but no real rush or urgency. There's such a lot of other things to be spending money on. Would like to have a handfasting for meaning and a civil ceremony for the legals. I've picked my engagement and sent the link to dp but not received my order yet!

yes it was a 1kg bag all in one go!I remember being the same with ds2,that and iceburg lettuces,i used to eat them whole like apples.

I am so tired tonight,i still need to iron the kids clothes for tomorrow and do their packed lunches,ive usually done it by now but i felt really tired and was having braxton hicks earlier so me and dd,3,had a really long bath and she blow dried my hair for me,bless her!

I dont know how anyone works full time when they are pregnant,i find pregnancy easy but thats only because i still have the freedom to take naps in the day and have quite a slow pace of life,i would be a rubbish employee!

oh dear these hormones are horrible. I do not cry usually but all I have done today is cry. I miss my mum who died 8 years ago. Had an argument with DP because I was apparently ruining his night by being moody so he's gone out with his friends now and I'm just sitting on the sofa crying because I made him upset and I hate that. I can't even go and get comfy in bed because of the jabs I had today that have made my arms so painful. ugh I need to snap out of this mood. It's horrible.

Don't beat yourself up whisper I'm being really unreasonable to dp lately and I know I am but in my hormonal head.....he's wrong
It's so natural for you to miss your mum anyway, but the fact your soon gonna become a mum yourself makes it sting that little bit more..... [hugs]

Oh ring I don't think I could manage not working, it's hard when pg but some days it helps my sanity to get out the house lol.

mildred my mw measures bump at every appt, yours should too as it shows how baby is apparently growing and if you're measuring too big or small. I was admitted to hospital with ds1 due to ketones in my urine samples and had to be put on a drip, try drinking and eating more Hun, I had really bad morning sickness all though my pregnancy and the only thing I could keep down was coke, but it worked as every other sample had no ketones in it.
It is so lovely of you to bake for everyone, you're guilting me into doing the same lol

Whisper take some paracetamol for your arm and go to bed!You will feel much better in the morning

I think the bump measuring is different with each midwife/area,with my first they didnt measure very often,and then the last 4 or 5 weeks they measured every week.This time they have measured every time since about 28 weeks i think.

I think I would quite like her to have measured... I also mentioned that I had lost about 2-3kg of weight since booking in with the pregnancy.

Hey ho- will get my tape measure out..!

I had really sore arms after jobs too- I second the paracetamol suggestion. Hope it's better tomo!

Cakes all baked and iced now.. Watching the bake off tonight makes my fairy cakes look a bit like a 5 year old made them but DH has sampled and says they taste nice.

Enjoy your last day Mildred! And Whisper, a third vote here for paracetamol and bed honey, you'll feel better after some sleep!

Met our new HV today, she came to do DS's 2 year check and my antenatal check, and compared to the old one (who's on long term sick) she seemed totally sane! What a relief! She declared DS to be developing perfectly, said he was a credit to us and that he was the happiest little chappy she'd seen in a long while. What a difference from crazy old HV who just banged on about his weight (he's big, he's always been big, I suspect he always will be big - not fat, but tall and solid) and spouted absolute nonsense for which she had no evidence.

They are definitely meant to measure at every appointment from 25 weeks.... It's on the appointment schedule...

Do you know what ... this is not going to be the best day at work. Just had a colleague shout at me for no reason at all. Don't even know why I'm still here.

Counting down the hours now I think.

Morning. Took your advice and had paracetamol and went to bed. Paracetamol did bugger all so couldn't sleep at all last night. Ended up knitting a teddybear at 3am to pass the time. I am exhausted today but it's DP's day off so that means we get to go to the cinema for the day. I don't really like the cinema very much at the moment, it involves a 2 mile walk there and back and the loudness makes baby kick like crazy which hurts. Ah well I'm sure I'll have a nice time regardless.

bohemian Throw stuff at people and blame it on hormones. Or call them fucksticks. Hormones can get you out of trouble for everything

Argh, just lost epic post, stupid fat fingers!

Hope everyone's slept as well as we have, DS slept til 8am! In his own bed!!!

Baby is firmly wedged down my right side and I think he's out of room now, it feels like he keeps trying frantically to turn over and can't! There's either a bottom or a head sticking right out under my right boob and it feels like he's balanced on the edge of my pelvis, very uncomfortable! Had great fun in the bath last night watching him go bananas when I balanced my freezing cold bottle of (alcohol free) beer on him!

Is anyone else funding they're getting very short of breath? Wasn't sure initially if it was the effort of walking with crutches but it's getting more or less constant now. I never got this pregnant last time so this stage of pregnancy is all new to me!

I'm always short of breath if I walk anywhere. Had my iron checked so it's not that. I think it's just the fact that I have a, you know, little person in my belly taking up the room my lungs usually occupy

well done feather's DS

I've been starting to practice some fetal position tchniques to try and help babs into a good position. I've found the forward leaning inversion really helps relieve pressure when babs gets stuck on one side - spinningbabies.com/techniques/the-inversion

Although I warn you, I could get into this on my own but I needed DH to help me out of it! Now doing it once a day and I like it!

Sorry proper link spinningbabies.com/techniques/the-inversion

So baby shrubs would not play along at all this morning for the scan, we got a quick glimpse of him having a good old drink as soon as we got there so it looked promising and then he immediately turned around, even went for a walk and a drink to try and get him to move but he would not budge at all! He tried for a good 20 mins bless him, couldn't double check either if he is a boy, but good strong heart etc. However they said we can come back Friday morning to try again :) as soon as I got him he started wriggling all over the place so no doubt is in a great position now.