December 2013 - waddling slowly onwards

[LadyMedea]

Our new thread!

I've been looking at the electric breast pumps and they're all so expensive so I think I'll try with this manual one I have and go from there.
Fingers crossed ill be ok, money's just starting to get tight and there's xmas too

Frouby- in theory Hb of 11.9 shouldn't be making you feel naff but if your body is used to running higher its possible.

Mine was 10.8 and I was convinced it was contributing to palpitations/ tiredness etc. I've started taking Spatone in orange juice every day ( well, when I remember!).

It's probably placebo effect but I feel a bit better- either that or you get used to feeling a bit rubbish.

If you can afford it I'd recommend thx spa tone. I started a separate thread on here about it and lots of people rated it.

welcome ring we have the same due date . you must be mental having 5 kids already though!

feather when you had your ds at 32 weeks, did your labour start normally and did they try to stop it?
What did your ds weigh and how long was he in nicu?
Sorry for the 20 questions but this cramp is a little unnerving now and if it doesn't stop I'll be making a trip to the hospital.

Hopefully my BH are just starting to get painful and that's it.

Morning all

Alyssa if you are worried go get checked out. My sister delayed getting checked and she had her appendix out! Could have been much worse but because we are pg we don't like to make a fuss when really we should. They will be quite used to ladies turning up with odd symptoms and sticking them on the monitor for an hour or so. It's what they are there for. To be honest I'd quite like to just go up and spend an hour or 2 being monitored and chilling lol. Look at it as an early practise for being in early labour and getting checked out!

Mildred, thanks for that. Thing is I was anemic last time with DD and was convinced before my bloods came back I was this time too. I may not be below the official limit but our diet is really good so I assume my iron levels are usually pretty high especially as I was taking pre-conception vits for ages before I got pg. It might just be the later stages of pg that are making me feel rough but I can always try it and see if it makes me feel better. If not at least I will know.

Just had a lovely bacon sandwhich and a coffee after the school run. Yum yum. Feel a bit sleepy now though lol and may just head off back to bed for a little nap. Was up from 4.30am and didn't go back to sleep until 6.30 am then my alarm went off at 7am. Thats not including the 3 wee's I had and the arguement with DP's arm being on my side of the bed.

Hormonal much? lol

My labour did start normally, although all of my contractions were in my back and didn't show on the monitor - I was almost 10cm before the monitor tracing so much as flickered with a contraction. Consequently the staff wouldn't believe I was in labour and didn't do a VE, so it was way too late to try and stop it by the time they accepted I was in labour - he was born less than 2 hours after they realised! If you're concerned, make sure they have a look at your cervix, don't let them rely on the monitor.

DS was 5lbs 3.5ozs, but that was down to me having GD. After an initial dip (then another when I was inadvertently starving him because my supply never really got established and he wasn't developed enough to stimulate it) he regained the 99.5th centile and has stated more or less there ever since!

This time around I've been told to go to labour ward at the very first hint that things might be starting and to insist on a VE immediately so they can give drugs to try and stop things if it is another early arrival. If they're unable to stop it, it'll be a trip to theatre for a section.

Well, today I'm more pregnant than I've ever been, and baby is already better cooked than his big brother was!

He was in NICU for almost a month, if I'd agreed to ff I could've brought him home sooner but I was determined to give bf my absolute best shot!

Having a nightmare this morning, so the builders have been in and plastered, done the electrics lay new floor & taken our old radiator off ready for DH to paint. DH went to work at 6.30 to start the early theatre lists and when I got up at 7.39 I could hear a hissing sound coming from the nursery, open the door and water everywhere from where the radiator valve had opened and it's run all downstairs to my kitchen walls and the hall carpet so have had to call an emergency plumber because the pressure wouldn't turn off and the valve wouldn't close properly and rang work in a flood of tears to say I'm going to be very late in. Can't get hold of DH until his operating list finishes at 11 either so just stressing myself out about what to do. Weird thing is I dreamt last night we had water coming out all of out lights so maybe it was a preminition if the morning I was in for!!!

Oh no Shrubs that's terrible, you poor thing! Once the plumber's gone take yourself back to bed with some chocolate or something, this sounds like a good day to not go to work at all!

I wish I could but I'm on the lates today which means its me locking up and shutting down the office so I've got to head in, however I do have a bag of giant buttons waiting for me in my desk drawer so I'll be cracking them open when I get in. The plumbers just left so I'm now hoping the trains are behaving on the way to London!! Given myself really bad heartburn worrying but the problems fixed for now and the waters stopped leaking, he's got to come back Monday to replace a few parts but he said the temporary ones he's put on will more than hold for the weekend so fingers crossed I don't return to a flood when I get home tonight!!

Hi everyone.

ooh mrsshrubs that does not sound like a fun morning. Hope the rest of the day goes okay. Enjoy your chocolate buttons

I woke up and was really annoyed at DP. I had had a dream where I had to pick apples off a tree, or the tree would throw them at me when I walked past and try to hurt me. I asked DP several times to help me because I couldn't reach the ones on the top and kept getting pelted with apples and he just kept saying he would in a bit. same as usual then DP I shouted at him when I woke up and the poor guy didn't have a clue what I was on about

spent my morning cleaning like a mad woman and the flat is now sparkling. I am on the verge of tears because I have nothing left to clean. Hormones!

Not sure what I am supposed to eat today as we have very little food until the shopping comes at 8pm tonight. DP has took the bank card, so cant even go and buy some bread! I guess I will be surviving on cuppasoups

Ahh Shrubs you poor thing, what a horrible start to the morning Enjoy your well deserved chocolate!

Whisper, I shouted at DH this morning for leaving clothes on top of the laundry basket, and cried at the news because some people can't afford to pay their council tax bills and are being taken to court. Now I'm feeling myself get in a flap because it feels like whatever I do I can't get the house clean enough. I'm not really sure what to do about it though, aside from going over every surface with dettol. These hormones have a lot to answer for.

Alyssa,you can have pethidine i think,but you have to tell them you might want it before the actual birth,because they dont bring it with them unless you ask,you can ask for it when you are in labour but someone has to collect it from hospital for you,i just had gas and air and a birthing pool,i had nothing with the first two,not out of choice mind,and i much prefer it with gas and air!

MrsShrubs, you poor thing, hope it's all ok when you get back home tonight.

Had a horrible bout of nausea/light-headedness/excessive sweating on the bus on Wednesday but thankfully it hasn't returned. Felt like I needed to lie down on the floor of the (very busy) bus, luckily I managed just by putting my head down and trying to stay very still. No idea what it was but after 20 min on the bus and then some time sitting on a public bench and walking around a bit, then having some lunch, I felt much better. The friend who I met for lunch said I looked awful! (very pale) Weird. I'm definitely not anaemic as my iron levels were very high at my last appointment 2 weeks ago.

Haven't started packing a hospital bag yet... maybe after midwife appointment next Tuesday will feel more motivated to get ready.

Congrats to all those getting bargains, that's great! We are lucky in that we have been given lots of stuff second hand.

One thing I'm not sure about is buying a breast pump - if I buy one now and then milk doesn't come in or something, presumably I won't be able to take it back... and selling it on would be a faff. Is it reasonable to wait until after baby is born then send DH to Boots or get a quick Amazon delivery or something?

Violet, I'm not buying a breast pump yet either, my thinking being that if breast feeding doesn't work out its an expensive thing to waste, and they are easily available should we need to get one. I thought the same about sterilisers and bottles, I've bought a basic microwave steriliser and a small starter set of bottles but haven't bothered with electric sterilisers/bottle warmers/hundreds if bottles in case bf works out well.

I've just had a text from a friend at work saying I should get signed off now rather than keep flogging myself to go in. Apparently certain bitches have been discussing me with glee all day (and, I suspect, for some months), ripping me to pieces for thinking I'm the first woman to ever be pregnant and demanding special treatment. I'm so upset, I knew there was gossip and I even know roughly which members of staff it'll have been, but to hear someone say it and advise me to just steer clear is something else. I haven't asked for special treatment, just to not be forced to do duties that cause me pain and make it more likely I'll have to go off early, spending less time with my baby as a consequence. It doesn't help that 3 other nurses have gone on leave recently having worked to 36, 38 and 39 weeks, but none of them had SPD and I'm insanely jealous of how easy they made it look! I'm in pain 24/7, I can't even sleep because of it, yet I've been dragging myself in, working 13 hour shifts, refusing point blank to use crutches despite the insistence of the physio, and for what?! To get bitched about (the word my friend used was cruel) and mocked behind my back? Fuck that shit. Sunday's my last day, I'm not going back there after that. I'm only going in then so I can sneakily clear out my locker and hand over some training materials I've worked on that need delivering. I'm getting signed off after that.

ugh feather some people are so horrible. How dare they bitch about you. Have they ever been pregnant with SPD? How can they possibly think it's okay to judge you. You are in pain. Being pregnant is so hard because we don't want to be treated differently, and many people use the 'im pregnant not ill' line. It makes you feel like a failure if you have any problems. The reality of it is that it is bloody hard work to grow a person. One of the most difficult things to put our body through in fact. Try not to dwell on the mindless cretins. You know you are doing the right thing for you and for the baby. ooooh they have made me boiling mad on your behalf feather can I go and punch them in the face?

Please do, I'll come join you when I've stopped crying.

Sorry to hear about your water troubles mrs shrubs and feather what vile nasty colleagues. Like whisper says, just focus on what you need to do- and that is resting your body and looking after your baby. Try not to waste your energy getting upset over them, they're not worth your time and should be ashamed of themselves. Some people can work all day every day up to their due dates and feel fine, others don't have it so lucky. You need to use those crutches and look after yourself so you can get through the next few months! Feel for you-what bitches

Feather fuck em love.

Leave now but make it clear to them that you know what they have said. And make it clear to management as well. It's bullying a vulnerable person.

And as you leave whisper that you have at least 6 months to think of your revenge for forcing your hand. Bitches.

Mrs hope you are ok now.

Some people just like to make out lives so difficult! And some people csnt help a good Bitch. Its so mean!!

Sorry to hear your having a bad time at work... I had the same thing.. But I was just over 20 weeks when all my pain started... I feel like a failure being off since 24 weeks...
You have to do what is best for you and baby.. Enjoy your time off now.. Relax and think of yourself. Ot. Long until we will all be holing our Lil angels! Keep smiling feather xxx

I called my Mw today and told her about my awful consultant yesterday and she was really angry and couldn't believe how rude he was.. She is going to have a word with her hospital (I'm booked in at a different one) and then see if I can see a different consultant... Hypermobility definitely affect pregnancy.. I told her that im abit scared about it all... She said we will have a good chat on Wednesday and couldn't apologise enough x

Around 75% of people are 'pregnant not ill' but if you have issues then it's not 'just pregnancy' any more - you are actually ill and they should have some fucking sympathy. What other people do is none of their business. They should have been grateful to you for trying to work so they don't have to deal with bank staff who don't know the dept. Some people just beggar belief.

Re buying a breast pump if you're not sure whether you'll use it then don't bother. It's unlikely that you'll need one super urgently unless there's hospitalisation involved and they will have superduper hospital grade ones anyway. It's much better to learn good hand expressing technique to just relieve a bit of pressure, and if you do want to express for the occasional bottle then a manual one shouldnt give you issues. I don't think I'd want to be using one for the amount of pumping I did when I went back to work but one short session a day won't give you wrist problems unless you already know you need to be careful.

Sympathies on the plumber saga, mrs. We've had almost exactly the same today except ours is a leaky loo and plumber came, looked, said he didn't have the part and he'd be back tomorrow round 10am. Argh!!!

Thanks everyone, the OH managed to get out of work early and thankfully nothing else has leaked since the emergency plumber came round and everythings drying out without too much damage so fingers crossed apart from the plumber bill we are back on track. Can relax now that I know he's home and the house isn't under water!

feather that is disgusting I can't believe that's going on, how dare they! If you feel up to it then do say something to a manager because it's unacceptable and like frouby says it is bullying. You should not be made to feel that way at all

stom fingers crossed your MW manages to get it all sorted for you & you see someone who is actually professional and competent this time round!!

I am going to get a breast pump as soon as I know I can bf. I plan on introducing the bottle within the first couple of weeks so dp can feed and so it reduces issues later on. It may not work out like that but am copying my best friend and it worked well for her two kids.

Sorry to hear about plumbing issues, it is a good job you had chocolate buttons to look forward to.

feather, if you are in pain screw those bitches at work.

Just a random question. I am 29+1 and feel the baby move regularly, but always from the top right of my bump. I know the baby is lying down my right, but it doesn't seem to have moved from that place for a couple of weeks, including when I was in hospital. I have an anterior placenta, but it is low so not sure how much that will affect things. The question is whether any of you have a similar experience. I always imagined the baby would be moving into new positions more often while it had the space! Surely it hasn't run out of space yet!