October 2013 - Operation Baby Eviction

[MrsHoratioNelson]

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Key:
SC - still cooking (pre EDD)
SFW - still f*ing waiting (post EDD)
OWT - on way to theatre (CS)
IP - induction in progress
SWIL - somewhere in labour
LIT -lost in transition

Thinking of you MoN.
Good stuff Favellio - I also had my drip with DS at 10pm, was 10cm by 2pm I think so hang in there!
Warlin I am done with everything to be honest. If I didn't have DS I wouldn't leave the house or get dressed. Poor dogs are getting minimal walks or input :(

This baby is so low they had trouble keeping the ctg trace on her this morning! It's agony to walk - I completely understand the bowling ball feeling now! Will I make it to my cs in 7 days?!

Tarlia they said I should've called with my readings at the weekend. Oh well, I know now! All was fine at monitoring.

Fantastic Hayle!

badger glad monitoring went well. But no talk of bringing CS forward or upping meds? Clearly your body isn't happy. I've a drs appointment tomorrow, just to take meds 3 times per day again today. Mornings reading before meds was 172/122 it's now 157/98 :S

Tarlia - snap!!!! I was about to wholeheartedly recommend gro bag swaddled to those having trouble putting babies down in cot/Moses basket. I discovered them with DD and the not being able to put her down changed instantly. Because the baby stsys in the swaddled for a feed, there's no temp change do they don't wake when they get put down!! I always swaddled under the arms it heist they just struggle to get arms out.

Also, best nappies EVER and relatively cheap... Boots own. The only think that doesn't leak so far on the twins (who are both skinny shrimps). As absorbent as Pampers with a neater fit and no nasty chemical smell.

Falcon in my personal (no expert!) experience with mental health issues (I had anorexia for many years and that brought / caused/ was a result of (who knows!) depression and "magical thinking" OCD), the sooner help and support is received and the problem is acknowledged and "de-mystified" (ie you know you feel like x because of y) the sooner it us fixed... Sometimes remarkably swiftly! Do accept meds just to pick you up for now, and also push for CBT/talking therapies and go to as many crappy baby groups as you can - just being out with others helps. Also NEVER underestimate the power of you own endorphins released from exercise - walking is ideal.

Tarlia and Pseudo - huge hugs re all the BP issues x

MoN - my tuppence worth re Mil.... Why not "use" her as your eyes at Yorkhill? I am sure she will be allowed lots of visiting time and it is also likely to be good support for DP who may well struggle with Eliana being all wired up etc and may also struggle to take in all the drs say given she's his baby. In vaguely similar circs (well, not at all similar really, but when my Dad had a major stroke / brain heammorage), we all found it useful to have a slightly more impartial set of ears to fully take in and remember what we were being told. I wouldn't especially want Mil loitering outside theatre as those first minutes will be VERY precious to you. Also, at my hospital, absolutely only partners were allowed while waiting for the CS, in theatre and in recovery. We even got a note saying don't be offended that they will turn others away... Thinking of you x

Umlauf - how's it going?

Thanks Jelly etc re the 2nd DC question. Any further input appreciated! I'm still feeling guilty about the different treatment...

And we'll done Isaac!!!!!! V happy for you Hayle x

Morning all. SC @ 39 + 0.
Good luck favellio and cherry for today.
Sorry you are not feeling so good falcon I hope you get good help.
to MON .
Sorry to everyone else i've missed - positive vibes to those now overdue, i know its going to be me too this time next week!

Does anyone else have a groclock for their toddlers? Ours has been working a treat for our 3yo and he's been really good with it, but the last two nights it has gone weird and the sun has been coming on at between midnight and 4am, resulting in it waking DS up, him turning lights on, going downstairs and refusing to go back to bed when i explained its the middle of the night still he just kept saying 'but the sun is up mummy'. So frustrating, especially when i was actually having a good sleep for once last night! I have checked the settings, just wondered if anyone else has come across this?

Pseudo - I have no experience of PE but like Tarlia, and having seen how well the twins were at 37 weeks with steroids, I can't understand why your CS isn't being brought forward. Could you ask for a second opinion / specifically ask why it's not being brought forward given the risks / benefits balance...?

Hello ladies, sorry I haven't been online for a while - been feeling rather introspective and miserable (completely irrationally) and haven't wanted to bring down the thread.

Anyway, the black cloud seems to have lifted, but now I'm feeling guilty that I've missed so many wonderful birth announcements and fallen behind on everyone's news/situations. Congratulations on all the new arrivals and hand squeezes to everyone feeling rotten and/or facing challenges ahead.

It's going to take me a while to catch-up properly so may go quiet again..

Off to hobble around the park with the dog (SPD playing up)...Pseudo my dog is getting minimal walks too - and I've got far less to deal with - so please don't feel bad.

Hmmmppphhh

Midwife attempted sweep she said outside of cervix is soft, central and 1cm but inside of cervix is still closed so she couldn't actually do a proper sweep. Booked me in for anther attempt next Monday and is confident he should come by his due date. But still - dissapoint.

Am I right in thinking that sex should help too ripen the cervix?

P.s head is now 2/5ths engaged and she doesn't think he will be as big as scans estimate based on having a feel of my tummy to that's something

Thankyou everyone. Legally I doubt she would be allowed in recovery here too. If I still have Eliana with me come afternoon visiting time we'll just need to phone her a taxi to get her to us. I hate to think of her sitting anxiously waiting for news in a strange city where she knows nobody. My sister stays 5 mins away so I think I'll ask her to come and sit with her on Thursday. Hopefully the transfer to Yorkhill can wait until Friday.

Glad to see you're back Bridget. I was beginning to worry about you.

Glad Isaac is doing well Hayle. It must be tough on you. You're my inspiration right now.

Bye bye incubator!

Fab news Hayle, does that mean baby Isaac can come home soon?

Yay hayle and well done little Isaac!

40 + 3 and SFW but luckily feeling fine other than fed up!

Glad to hear the Gro stuff, especially the swaddles,
are good. DH works with a lot of people who make and sell baby products so we're very fortunate that through his work connections we're in line for a nice bundle of Gro things :)

Hello. Thought I'd pop by and make an appearance. No idea who had had babies.

Can't even remember if I wrote my birth story. Lol

Managing to feed lo. Just about. He only really feeds on one side. Which I guess I need to address soon. But so tiered. And my nipples hurt SO much.

I am swollen like crazy n it is very painful down there. Hurts when I sit.
Tried nursing laying down last night. But just didn't work they gave me 3 days worth of painkillers. I'm already on day two and in agony! Will have to get more from gp.
Although mw and at my insistence Dr checked me out to make sure I was ok down there before I left. I didn't feel this uncomfortable last time n I think I would have been constantly worrying had I not been seen.

Also been given blood clot preventative injections to do on myself! Dh is being made to inject me. As I just can't manage it. Sucks.

Sry bit of an indulgent post. But it is needed.

Sending positive pushing vibes to you all.

Not indulgent at all gt, we're here for handholding and to listen to all rants. I am interested by all the birth stories, good and not so good. Even if things haven't turned out perfectly, it helps me be realistic about what may happen to me.

Re the.baby blankets, as. MrsHN said, there's no need for a receipt although a bank statement is helpful. Ignore anything they say about their terms and conditions requiring a receipt. Just say that the blankets are not of satisfactory quality and therefore in breach of the Sale of Goods and Services Act.

Bridget, welcome back! glad you are feeling better. P.s. I went for a bamboo birthing shirt after all, it was slightly reduced in Amazon. As you say,not blown away but it feels good quality, comfortable and hopefully will do the job.

amazing news hayle, so happy for you!

MoN . It's very lovely of you to want to involve MIL right away but perhaps you should see how you get on with her first? You've never ever met her right? I've never been in a similar situation before but others who have been seem to think that it would be easy for her to have access to Eliana at most times. I think you should be surrounded by people you feel very comfortable with in these delicate first moments and do what makes you happiest so you can cherish this time before they have to take her away xx

falcon sorry you are feeling so rough. I know you had PND last time and remember you were really worried about it throughout this pregnancy. Hope you manage to nip it in the bud. My personal experience with depression also taught me to address it at the first signs, before it turns into a proper monster. I would echo everything legally said - force yourself to go out, no matter how hard, long walks for exercise, talk to people about it and try to eat as well as possible as it also makes a massive difference. All cliches but cliches that help.

warlin I feel exactly the same in this pregnancy - I've been super emotional and super antisocial. So different from my last pregnancy when I really enjoyed these last weeks, meeting friends for lunch and coffee, nesting, reading, napping etc... no idea why it's so different now... hope we will manage to bounce back to our old selves once our little boys are here

bridget SO lovely to see you back!! and sorry you've been feeling rotten. As you can see, many of us here have been feeling quite low. Glad you seem to be better now - have been thinking about you!

favellio hope things are going to progress for you soon. Can't wait to here what flavour you have.

I've had a lazy day today - couldn't sleep last night because of terrible all over body itching... so took DS to school this morning, came back and had a nap from 10am to 12.30pm . My itching is gone now so not sure what to think... Trying not to worry. If it happens again tonight I will have to go in to have it checked tomorrow in case it could be OC... really really hope it was a one off though... I want my water birth this time and don't want to be induced again

36+6 today so almost full term! About women in labour being turned away from hospitals, there was actually an article about it in Sunday Times yesterday... not exactly the news I wanted right now and before going to bed. I've found this abbreviated version of the article online:

<a class="break-all" href="http://www.thesundaytimes.co.uk/sto/news/uk_news/Health/article1320610.ece?CMP=OTH-gnws-standard-2013_09_28www.thesundaytimes.co.uk/sto/news/uk_news/Health/article1320610.ece?CMP=OTH-gnws-standard-2013_09_28" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Sunday Times - Women in Labour Turned Away

ps. mnippy I really miss your old nickname... every time you posted, you reminded me about these delicious little <a class="break-all" href="http://www.google.co.uk/imgres?imgurl=www.seriouseats.com/recipes/images/20110408-soup-dumpling11.jpg&imgrefurl=www.seriouseats.com/recipes/2011/04/soup-dumplings-xiao-long-bao-recipe.html&h=458&w=610&sz=44&tbnid=g3e2eeYmbt289M:&tbnh=90&tbnw=120&zoom=1&usg=__8iOhhtUDuxGP9pY8EAQ6exnVjl4=&docid=zNeE9qalLT7CuM&sa=X&ei=mnVJUsqZNObm7AatmoC4Cg&ved=0CEMQ9QEwAg" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">hot soup dumplings

That's what I named myself after!! Gives away my ethnicity perhaps...

Oh YUM to hot soup dumplings. We had the most amazing crab soup dumplings in Shanghai a couple of years ago which I inevitably burnt my mouth on

MoN I hope you get some time with Eliana before she is transferred and that you feel well enough to go and visit her ASAP after your c-section.

Well done baby Isaac, you must be so happy and relieved Hayle!

Falcon it sounds like you're on top of things, well done for acknowledging signs and getting help straight away.

Sorry you're feeling disappointed Nat but at least it doesn't seem like he will be huge now, so hopefully it won't be a problem other than being annoying if he cooks for a bit longer. 2 weeks seems like forever though and I will be well jel if you have him before I get mine!!

GT feel free to vent, that's what we're here for. Will they check your stitches again soon? Do you get another visit where you could ask?

and hugs to all feeling fed up/in pain/stressed/tearful. Hormones are weird things, I got into a flap the other day about people visiting after baby is born (GPs all live close by and will want to be here the moment we get back if I have a 6hr discharge) but now I feel ok about it. They're all quite sweet really and it's nice that they're excited. Have spoken to DP and he's been lovely and supportive- and gently advised me when he thinks I might be being a bit unreasonable (only when I asked though, clever man!). We've provisionally agreed that we will let the immediates descend on us in the first 2 days for short visits and then insist on some quiet days alone. I may feel differently later, depending on how labour and feeding goes. Told DP to tell people I'm too tired if we want peace. This won't be a lie I'm sure

Clapham I hope the itching was a one off and you get your water birth. My mum gave me a little booklet 'The parents directory for south London'. Full of independent day schools and Montessori nurseries in south west. Clapham appears throughout. Don't think it was made for people in my neck of the woods she did the same thing with 'The London Baby' mag or something like that. Made me think of the mums you see on your school run!

I also miss you old name hotsoupdumpling.

Although I wish I enjoyed dumplings...whenever I go to shanghai or Hong Kong I lose weight as i struggle to eat there not at all down to the fact that I don't see the daylight because i'm hungover after rolling in at 8am most mornings

I can't wait to go back to Hong Kong it's one of my favourite city's I love it there. So vibrant

Oh GT - you really do sound desperately sore I wish I had some good advice to offer.

For the lower end, is there any way throwing money at the problem might help? - hiring or buying a valley or donut cushion to sit on? Buying those feme pads you stick in the freezer? Having lots of brief shallow baths to ease the discomfort (but not for too long as soggy tissue doesn't heal as well).....hmmmm, can't think of any other ideas...

The sore nipples are bringing back lots of bad memories..you poor thing...

Thanks for remembering me MoN, Mnippy and Clapham - especially when I had no real reason to turn into a miserable grumpy hermit. I think a combination of tiredness and SPD temporarily got the better of me.

Clapham - the itching sounds grim. As a lifelong eczema sufferer, I can sympathise.