October 2013 - Operation Baby Eviction

[MrsHoratioNelson]

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Key:
SC - still cooking (pre EDD)
SFW - still f*ing waiting (post EDD)
OWT - on way to theatre (CS)
IP - induction in progress
SWIL - somewhere in labour
LIT -lost in transition

hayle hugs My ds has said a few comments of you still have a fat belly is there another baby in there mummy, but he is 4.5 not a grown woman shame on you mil super unhelpful!!!
I really hope Isaac gets home with you soon and you get quality time to enjoy him xxx

clapham I love you chilled out FB picture I do miss my bump (but defo not being pregnant!!)

Do you get to stay with her in Yorkhill mon?

Sorry ladies this is totally off topic and I should really be posting elsewhere on mumsnet but I have come to rely on you all as a source of major common sense so here goes.

DH has just brought 7 year old DD back from ballet class. The ballet teacher (who does not have children of her own) has told DH that DD needs to wear deodorant. I feel mortified a) because that implies she smells and b) because if she does I've totally missed it. I know before she went to ballet that she ate some spaghetti Bolognese which probably had a lot of garlic in it. Also her ballet costume which is brand new had a funny smell to it (not been washed). DD herself did not appear to smell under her arms. DH cannot understand why I feel so irritated/down. I had major problems when I started secondary school in terms of controlling sweat/BO and my mother did not for one moment suggest or buy me deodorant until I was in my teens much to my detriment. This was despite me washing constantly wearing clean shirts etc. I feel mortified that I may have missed something with DD. 7 just seems so young (admittedly she is more like an 8 year old) but this comment seems totally out of the blue and very unexpected. Have located child friendly deodorant on the net but just very taken aback and feeling a little down.

Sorry told you it was off topic but your thoughts would be greatly appreciated.

No Falcon. Neither of us drive either which makes it very difficult. It's either 2 buses there or rely on the only friend I have who does drive.

My back and legs really hurt since leaving hospital. I think baby has further engaged in my pelvis. Would that cause the pain? Never experienced it before in my other pregnancies but it does feel like nerve pain.

Monkey 7 does seem very young. Does she have other signs of puberty?

monkey I think you're right and it's probably a combination of the spagetti and new ballet costume. If she isn't sweating under her arms and shows no other signs of puberty (breast budding, body hair) I think it's very unlikely to BO. Why don't you speak to the teacher about it next week?

Mon so it basically means that Eliana may have her operation whilst you are at a completely different hospital unable to leave because you'll be recovering post c section? Is there anyway around this? Could you go to Yorkhill for the c section? This is really not what you needin top of everything else that you'll have to contend with.

Monkeytree I wouldn't know what to say, not having dc's myself, it does seem a little young to smell of BO, what does dh think can he smell it? Maybe get her the deodorant just I'm case, a difficult one tbh.

Roofio I made shortbread instead. I'll bring you some over
I feel the next few weeks I'm going to turn into Betty Crocker with all this baking to quell the boredom of waiting for baby flyer to arrive.

The Queen Mothers maternity hospital that was on the Yorkhill site closed a while ago. God knows why. It was a great hospital.
I think they are hoping to wait until she is 2 weeks old if possible to do the op but they really don't know until she is here. I'm praying she surprises all of us and isn't as bad as they're thinking she will be.

DD has no other signs of puberty. I feel really annoyed with the ballet teacher at this point in time and worried I may give her a mouthful if I went anywhere near her! DH has no sense of smell which doesn't help either. He shrugs and says don't ask me! I was fully expecting to support DD as she approached secondary school with these kind of issues but not right now (first year of juniors). Have spoken to DD about using toothpaste a few times when cleaning her teeth as she does tend to like spicy foods.

The ballet teacher also said to DH that he sees her as a child but she sees her as a young woman. Pardon me but I thought 7 was considered a child.......sorry not having a good day. Lying low in my bedroom with my bad mood whilst DD is at a party and DH has gone out to do some errands. Have done a few bits of housework today and already feel as if I've over done it! Feel like the older people who live in this street are giving me a run for my money at the moment!

monkey this sounds so wrong and so insensitive of the teacher. I have lots of friends with children and have never met a 7-8 year old (girl or boy) with a BO problem if they are washed and wear clean clothes. Her ballet outfit is probably made of something synthetic, it's new so probably infused with some nasty chemicals and perhaps it's been in the kitchen with some food smells? Personally, I wouldn't put any deodorant on a child and I'm a bit outraged that "she sees her as a little woman and not a child". At 7 she is a child! She sounds like the kind of women who make little girls self-conscious and full of complexes about their appearance... can you ask your mum or best friend for a second opinion? If they also think it's rubbish, I would just make sure she wears natural fabrics that breathe and that her ballet outfit is fresh and well aired. I understand why you feel low. I would feel the same and also very angry.

and thanks falcon I'm trying to count my blessings and look at the positives :-)

Clapham Thanks for your reply. Not going to buy dd deodorant as don't believe she has an issue. At 7 you are definitely a child! The ballet teacher is very out spoken. Some of the younger children have picked up some bad sayings from her. For a while now I have wanted DD to attend a different ballet school with a different teacher but have never had the heart as DD seems to enjoy going. Ballet outfit is now washed! Feel like sending the ballet teacher an abrupt e-mail about not giving my daughter a complex (DH takes DD to ballet recently as I've not felt up to it). Thank you so much for your responses.

MonkeyTree ballet teacher sounds like one of those women who dress up little girls to look like women at the age of about 5 and enter them into beauty pageants, she doesn't sound too nice tbh.

monkey, I hope the teacher said nothing in front of your DD! Agree if your Dd is washing every day then it's likely to be garlic, new clothes, and a ridiculously sensitive sense of smell on the part if the teacher...

I've done it, I've e-mailed the ballet teacher my thoughts! Yes.... feel sooooooo much better for that! Think I should stick to e-mail for means of communication for the time being as it beats any confrontation face to face. Wonder if that could apply to DH too as he is also a source of irritation at the moment..... poor man cant do anything right we seem to hang out in different parts of the house at the moment!

monkey that sounds awful. I did years of dance lessons and fortunately my teachers never subjected any of us to comments about our bodies, but I am aware that it can start to creep in at a depressingly young age. I absolutlry agree that there is no way your DD is approaching young womanhood .

However, it seems a shame to move your DD if she's enjoying the classes? Might be time for some gently probing questions about why other thoughts the teacher might have put in your DD's head

So, after lots of research, I've bought the John Lewis BF chair! very excited. I hope this baby comes soon so I have something to do and can stop spending money.

I'm spending here as well Clapham, although if I can't order it online I'm not interested, going out shopping is too much of a faff at the moment.

the BF chair is online... what have you bought? my M&S bathrobe has arrived by the way. it's great - cheap and cheerful, lightweight and fits perfectly. Got the same one as you and also 12-14 size.

I bought 2 pairs of French sole pumps some bits for Xmas presents, My nan is 91 next week so ordered her some Ellie Saab perfume (she's quite trendy) and 2 nursing bras...I'm basically frittering all my money away and come next week will be skint for the next 12 months...

Will take a look at that bf chair now.

I'm spending too ladies! I've bought a mamaroo- ever heard of them?! It's a bouncy seat swing thing that moves like a person would supposedly. I just thought it looked quite useful despite the hideous cost!
I've also bought some pj bottoms and a nightie from m and a for my hospital bag. The nightie is to give birth in and was only £6 I shall throw it away afterwards.
Now what else can I buy??!!

Shoes shooting, buy shoes...a girl can never have too many pairs

Love that mamaroo swing sooo cool I need one

SHOES....

On the topic of shopping, has anyone found any good baby costumes (teddy bear babygros, rabbit hats, etc)? I always wanted to dress my baby in ridiculous things but the Internet is not being cooperative. Everything looks awful or is too big.

So at 38 weeks I'm now the most pregnant I've ever been. I'm finding it hard to believe that there is a baby as big as DS was when he was born still inside me!