October 2013 - may our labours move as fast as our threads!

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New thread!

I'm 39, so in the oldies club too. I struggled with breast feeding last time, mix fed by expressing for 8 weeks but was getting only about 1/3 of what DS was drinking by then. It was a combination of multiple factors which was the problem for us. Am hoping that things will be easier this time. I had some horrible and judgemental comments about not breast feeding last time (mainly just one lady), that book people are talking about sounds pretty judgemental against people who struggle, so I won't be reading that! I really beat myself up about the whole thing. Am determined that if it doesn't work out again this time despite my best efforts then I won't beat myself up again.
Toddler tantrums, DS once had a 90 minute screaming epic because his weetabix was broken. Of course, once it soaked in the milk you couldn't tell anyway, but apparently it still mattered.
Good luck today ruby!

Dd has just been dropped at my mum and dads so I can have a few hours at friends baby shower (she's due 21st oct) and dd has not yet shed one single tear today- maybe she knows how much she has upset me.

I agree hayle I briefly recall the lady u mentioned needing a c section as they were concerned about the placenta? Again I could be wrong so hope I don't offend

MoN if I had a 3 storey house I would need 3 hoovers lol

Off to stay sober on coke at the baby shower now. Catch up later xxx

Shire I'm sure there was someone who was due to be induced on the same day as legally's section.

I sympathise with you Natalieand. My "surprise" baby shower is tomorrow. I've got my surprised face all ready! Lol

clapham what a bitch! It's like the whole bf/pain relief decision thing. Why make someone feel bad about something because its not what you might do. If life was completely controllable then id have had children earlier but didnt meet dh till i was 30 and he is 8 years younger and now was the right time for both of us. A pregnant friend of mine who is 36 got told by her mil (and ex midwife) that she was getting on a bit to be having children ignoring that her son is actually older than her.

Thanks for various muslin (or Muslim) based advice.

MoN I feel your pain with the 3 storeys. My sewing room AKA the laundry drying room is on the top floor and I had planned to spend a large part of my ML up there. Between the knackered ankles and the bump I am finding reasons to avoid going up there

Yikes clapham agree what a bitch and your friends mil bronze. Amazes me that people feel they can comment on anyones age. I had one midwife when pregnant with DS say "youve added to the teen pregnancy statistic but at least you wont be a teen mum" was so upset at the time but it seems that pregnancy is a time in your life people feel they can judge you. whether it be age, weight, labor choices. grr sorry rant over.

Anyone else had the phone calls and texts messages starting yet? My Grandparents just called to see if Id had the baby yet. I told them I actually had her this morning and just forgot to tell anyone. Didnt go down well...

just spent the last two hours crying my eyes out on the sofa - for real and imaginary reasons I can't even understand... DP and DS slightly puzzled but I felt that the world was coming to an end, everything was wrong, I was judged by everyone and nothing was the ever going to be right again. Just recovering with smudged mascara all over my face. I so hate these hormones sometimes...

I had my previous babies at 15, 18, 19, 24 and 25 - this pg I have been more tired, but don't know if it's because I'm older, or just because I have more that I have to do!

When I had ds1, I really wanted to BF. My mum was dead against it, as she hadn't bf us. She said she wanted to be able to help me, and to know how much the baby was getting etc - but I felt like she just wanted to take over. At least when I bf, it was the one thing I could do for him that noone else could.

Wedding was ok last night - most people expressed surprise when they asked when i was due, and said my bump was really neat. baby did not approve of the loud music though - felt like it was going to burst out through my stomach at one point it was going so crazy!!

x posts clapham - hugs xxx

clapham ...........sorry you're having a tough time xx

The only opinion that matters wrt pain relief, type if birth opted for and methos if feeding is that of the mum (with support and encouragement). We all have to do what is right for ourselves and not what others want for us. My DH has always been very supportive of the choices I've made in labour, birth and with feeding and I couldn't care less what anyone thought. At the age of 38, I will certainly not be taking any rubbish from anyone about the choices Im making for this birth and afterwards.

Pink......my sister keeps asking if I'm ok......I know that's her way if saying "have you had it yet". I've still got almost 3 weeks to go till my due date. My earliest so far was only 9 days early so I doubt that I'd be having this one almost 3 weeks early

I have the m&s Muslims

I'm in the older club too - 39 in a couple of weeks, DP 47 - that's just the way life goes sometimes. I feel like I've had a very good pregnancy, mainly because my workload has been pretty light since April.

Other older mums, are you planning more? We do hope to squeeze another one in (or out) in a couple of years if we can, but given that this one was a bit of a miracle I'm not counting on it being easy.

Hugs, Clapham - so exhausting, crying like that x

Oh Clapham I totally understand. Had to climb in through the passenger side of my car today as an inconsiderate twat had parked right up against my drivers side door. I just about managed to get in behind the wheel (no idea how!), then promptly burst into tears and cried all the way home I'm normally fairly resilient too! Really hope you're feeling better now

thanks caz, wicked and shire xx As someone who doesn't like chocolate and doesn't have sweet tooth, I've just consumed 2 packs of maltesers and 2 packs of kitkats and feeling slightly better. Sent DP to the shop to get supplies.

caz very impressed you are still partying!

cuille I'm in two minds about another one as it would be no 3 for me... I love being a mum but three in London feels a lot. So we will have this one and see how it goes.

Nat I wonder if having seen other people breastfeed makes it more likely for you to see it as a normal thing and give it a go. Maybe that's more likely if you're older if breastfeeding isn't something that's been done in your family. No one in DH's family had breastfed and my PIL were a bit horrified by it to start with. I think my MIL had visions of her taking the baby over night from a young age (2weeks) as she had done this with my SILs kids and was a bit surprised that I was not as keen on the idea! Breastfeeding gave me a good excuse to put her off.

Didn't mean to preach about breastfeeding and hope it didn't come across that way. I hate competitive parenting. It goes from feeding, to sleeping, to weaning, to walking, to potty training, to how good they are in school... I have no desire to be a perfect parent, otherwise what will my kids rebel against! I'm just aiming for good enough. :)

I am absolutely not a cryer, but I have found myself welling up more and more recently. Heffalump was it you who started a thread about whether people felt they knew their babies when they arrived? That had me in bits. And the other morning when I got back into bed I started sobbing for no reason!

thanks textbook and hope you are feeling better now too xx have you tried maltesers?

by the way, pinkforboys you were asking about our FB group earlier? Has someone already added you? If not, you can PM me your real name and tell me how your profile photo looks (in case there are more with the same name) and I can add you to the group. You can then enjoy seeing all the babies (as well as our naked and dressed bumps or different bits we buy for the little ones!)

moonblues im using bf for that excuse too. think pil would love to have baby right from the start like their other gc but I don't want that at all!! He's mine haha!! (dp asked this morning if the baby was both of ours 50/50 or more mine cos im the mum, I reassured him its 50/50, I get the head end, he gets the bottom!! )

Clapham sorry you've had a tough day. I also had a bit of a meltdown at DH earlier over prams of all things but more him being grumpy, because he was tired and sore. I feel at 8 months pregnant, I'm the only one allowed to be grumpy! I'm usually pretty even tempered, so had to go and hide so I could have a quick cry. Felt better for it though!

Heffa I'm 21 and pretty sure I'm the youngest
2 pregnancies in a row have made me feel like I'm in the body of a 60 year old though!!

SC 38 weeks tomorrow and just over a week till cs
Got up at daft o clock this morning to go to the Next sale, then had my pre-baby haircut, came back home and had a 3 hour nap
Living the highlife ey?

Oh yeah heffalump forgot to say congratulations for having one of the discussions of the day! I only got to read the first bit, work is hampering my MNing, but will go and seek it out to read the rest.

Sorry.......my ipad corrected the word muslins and I hadn't realised

Cuille...... I am 38 but this will be my last baby. I think that 4 children is enough for me. I don't think I could do another pregnancy.