October 2013 - may our labours move as fast as our threads!

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New thread!

Going to primarni very shortly for towels and something to birth in, then - promise i will pack hospital bad .

Pretty sure my due date is there or thereabouts - think baby disagrees though. flyer it is pretty disheartening going over - i ended up being induced at only 4 days over because i just lost the plot and bawled all over mw . Doing my best not to do the same this time - i am almost trying to ignore due date of 30th september, and instead focus on baby will be here in no more than 3 weeks....

LMP gave me 23rd, 1st scan 19th +/- 5 days, 2nd scan 20th so not too much difference between dates. I think it will probably be late anyway.

Hope everone has a good day. All day nct class for me today.

Enjoy NCT orange. The ladies from my class are lovely and I think we will beccome good friends.

Bf can be very emotive. My mil pulls a face when I mention it and so does one of my friends. They think it's weird, but aren't against it. I think it's because we're just not used to seeing women doing it as much as we should be (if u compare to seeing people bottle feeding) which makes women less likely to feel comfortable or squemish about doing it, especially in front of others. Even the feeding rooms in shops normally have a pic of a bottle on the door. It should be a pic of boobs really but our society isn't as comfortable with that. I would be lying if i said i wasnt nervous about it, but really want to give it a good go. But, everyone has the choice, i don't like to hear women being bullied into it either.
Tbh it's the men who go on about it being disgusting which really gets to me. They'll look at glamour mags but a woman gets her boobs out in a quiet corner of a cafe and all hell breaks loose! I know a few men like this, thankfully not my nearest and dearest though.
Off to a hen party today. Can't be bothered but I'm sure it will be fun - albeit the obligatory hen party willy straws are more amusing when there's a cocktail in your glass and not a diet coke!

According to the first day of my last period (1st Jan conveniently) I should be due on the 8th October, dating scan said the 2nd, but I know when I ovulated and am considering myself to be due closer to the 10th/11th, so the scan dates are over a week out!

MrsO Order a virgin cocktail to stick your willy in

I've tried really hard not to obsess over dates this time. I kept records of everything for my previous pregnancies (all mc) and was so devastated by the Christmas one, that I decided to step back from it all in the New Year. And here we are!
Going from lmp/mc bleed, and early dating scans, my EDD has been the 13th/14th, but the 20wk scan at 19+3, measured me at 22wks. They didn't change my EDD from the 13th, though.
I have a long cycle (av35 days) so think it's safer to err on the later side. So I assume sometime before Halloween is better than getting stressed after the 13th. But it wouldn't be a disaster to be early

Hopefully the little monster will arrive when they're ready to - safe and well.

Natalie.......I had my dd when I was 23 but I knew I wanted to breast feed. No one else in my family had which meant that I didn't have any support from anyone else and just had to get on with it.

Flyer.......by my dates, the due date is oct 14th but the first scan had the date brought forward by 5 days to the 9th. I'm happy with that as I tend to have big babies and would had no go to far over dates in case the baby gets too big.

I don't know if pregnancy gets harder with age or if its just because we are busy dealing with siblings and have less time to enjoy being pregnant. I was almost 10 years younger at my last pregnancy but that one was as tough as this one has been due to SPD, sickness, insomnia and reflux. I am shattered and can't wait for this baby to come now.

37+1 here sc. So hopefully make it to our nct class next weekend. I'm at the older end of the spectrum at 38 (although bless the midwife who described me as young). I've not found pregnancy too hard esp considering work has been hell. I was reasonably fit and had no existing medical issues but it does sound a little like the luck of the draw as to if you have an easy ride or get hit with terrible ms or spd.

I plan to give bf ago but it is personal decision. On the same note I had to walk away from a friend of mine who started going on about her brother plus wife don't believe in the nhs and only believe in home births! All fine if you are lucky but completely insulting to anyone who has had a tough birth and needed intervention. Argh... There is a reason why in third world countries maternal and infant mortality rates are sadly higher.

Btw Could somebody let me know where you get muslins, would it be mothercare?

nicest best muslins I've got so far were asda, someone else said sainsburys ones were good!!

I had a friend the other day say she thought it was irresponsible to not have an epidural during labour in case you have problems?!?! the worst part is she doesn't even have any children!!

bronze I have asda and sainsburys one and both feel equally as good mothercare will sell them too though xx

People are very quick to give you their views and opinions on child birth, bf etc. I'm making a pact to myself that I shall not give opinions with friends after I've experienced it. What's right for one person might be totally different for the next person. It's personal preference etc, why should you put yourself through misery because of pressure for external influences.

Nat you don't wish to bf, why should anyone be offended/upset or tell you what they think you should be doing. Your body, your baby your decision.

It really gets my back up at people who are all preachy about what to do not to do....Rant over

Morning all - SC at 38 + 2. Torn now between getting a bit fed up of being massive and uncomfortable and not feeling quite ready for it all to kick off!

Just fitted the car seat and the base in the car. The instructions were a nightmare, not helped by the fact that you need big man hands and a strong grip to work all the buttons to get everything in the right place. I have tiny weeny hands and not much grip, especially at the moment!

Does anyone know whether it matters if you have the carry handle up or down? I assumed it acted like a sort of roll cage, but DH thinks not.

What seat is it? For example the cabriofix must have the handle up during travel. But the manual should say.

Morning ladies 38 weeks and SC here.
Exciting about increasing BH roofio

Interesting to hear about everyone's breastfeeding ideas. nat I turned 23 in August and always wanted to try breastfeeding with both this baby and my DS who I had at 20. I think a large part of it for me was that I remember my mum, aunt and all rest of he family feeding younger siblings and cousins. So just expected it of myself. Did mean I got a bit of a shock when I found it so difficult though.

Also with regards to age and pregnancy I found being pregnant at 19 really difficult mentally and have found this much easier. Although I imagine thats more to do with life events and attitude. My mum also said it got harder as she got older but by the time she had my brother at 33 she did also have 4 other children to look after so would expect that to make it alot harder... Am in awe of you all with more than one child. im finding one hard enough.

bowlful just wanted to send sympathies re:groclock. we rely on ours to keep DS in bed till 7, dont know what Id do if he worked out how to change it!

nat also sending sympathy about DD. My DS is being so emotional at the moment and after always being quite well behaved although completely mental has started hitting and kicking. I have been ignoring the tears until he at least tells me whats the matter as it can be over anything and I cant keep up. Yesterday we had naughty step for 40 minues because he refused to say sorry for kicking me. he kicked me because I turned the tv off and he wanted to do it. eugh. Has made me so emotional as just feel what am I doing to him.
In fact off to deal with tantrum.now...

to everyone ive missed

It's a Maxi Cosi Pebble. The instructions just have lots of pictures in them, some of which show the handle and some don't!!

I think pregnancy does get harder as you get older Flyer or perhaps just subsequent pregnancies when you have more responsibilities and are busier. I had my babies aged 19, 20 just turned 22 and 28. I'll be 33 in November and it's so much harder this time.

Natalie perhaps the desire to breastfeed is an age thing or perhaps it depends on whether or not you were breastfed yourself and have other friends and family who breastfeed. I think I was the only mum never mind teen mum on the housing estate where I lived to ever breastfeed going by my midwives reaction. My then Mil wasn't happy with my decision and turned up with a tub of formula and bottles the day I got out of hospital and my partner at the time had me in tears when I attempted to feed in a cafe as "all the men were staring at me" (they weren't). I gave up 6 weeks later but it's never put me off. I'm determined to make a go of it this time too. I just hope my milk doesn't take over a week to come in like last time.

Bronze......I have the m&s Muslims and they are lovely.

Mrs h........is there a picture on the side of the baby chair? That normally shows you if the handle is to be up or down.

Flyer....... Exactly. Everyone should have a birth that suits them and everyone should feed their baby in whatever manner they want to. No one should judge someone else's choices. It really annoys me when people go on about having a "drug free birth and then only breast feeding and no formula has ever crossed my babies lips". Really.......who cares?

Also meant to say. just been to tesco and hey had a clothing sale on. Got a pack of 3 newborn babygrows for £5 was panicking as only had 0-3 month clothes.

I have the maxi cosi pebble MrsH with the isofix base, do you have the same? It took me some time to fathom out how it works, as I'm clueless with child seats and technology. I've been driving around with the base in my car for about 8 weeks now I daren't take it out in case I forget how to put it back in.

Not sure about the handle though, so let me know when you find out. Thanks

pinkbuttons that makes u younger than me, just - as I was 23 in June. My dh is 24. I have found certain aspects of this pregnancy easier I haven't had high bp like I did with dd I also haven't had as much pain as I did with her (up until the last week) possibly cos I had a very physical job last time and although I have dd to keep me on my toes I can ignore crying whilst sitting on the sofa lol.

to everyone else with troublesome toddlers. It just always feels like your the only one going through it doesn't it? But it is 11.15 and were yet to have a tantrum yet, possibly cos I haven't asked her to do anything yet or get dressed maybe she's saving it up for one major meltdown. Dh is off work tommorow and she is always at her worst when he's home I have no idea why as she is besotted with him always tells me she misses him and poor daddy for working and asks when he's home etc and then when he is home she's like a devil childx2

I was just thinking we could be having babies on this thread all the way up to the middle if November :-0

Haha pink, yeah not really sure to go with it from here - he came in very proud 'dont worry mummy, it is morningtime, i pushed the button to make the sunshine come' .

Re the advice from people - i find generally people talk a lot of crap - pregnancy and raising children is no different, its just very emotive when you are the one trying to do it! Am almost looking forward to my dads words of wisdom this time round. He just speaks to hear his own voice and comes out with so much contradictory crap its amusing to keep track and remind him he said exactly the opposite a week earlier.

flyer I too have the maxi cosi base and car seat, we can't install the base yet as dh works for vauxhall and drives a demonstrator car but when its at his work it has to be 'up for sale' as such so prospective buyers can view the car at anytime so we can't put the base in his car until I go into labour (no point putting it in my car as he will be doing all the driving will he's on paternity leave and hates driving my car) he says its cos he's used to driving new cars but my car is a 2005 focus so hardly old old lol

Isit really complicated? I think I may have him have a practice if so, even though we could just strap it in with the seatbelt to get home from hospital