October 2013 - swollen hands, puffy feet and we all need a decent sleep

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Time to start thread #17!

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Good luck nelly hope all is going ok for you :)

Well done legally, you should be so proud of your body for cooking your babies for so long!

clapham so pleased your dp bucked his ideas up a bit! You deserve to be spoiled right now! Hopefully he has seen the error of his ways. My dh is really funny like that, he will see something the baby won't need until shes a toddler or even older and ask me if we should pick it up now! It makes me laugh everytime!

pinkforboys I have had two sets of maternity clothes really. One for up to 7 months and then one for after. All the bits up to 7 months no longer fitted my bump (or bum ) after that and i'd get all claustrophobic and feel squashed.

mon I was exactly like that last week. All of a sudden I didnt want to go out, I just wanted to be at home. I was in for about a week and didn't get stir crazy once. I was perfectly happy pottering around at home and any mention of me having to leave made me a tad anxious to be honest! I asked about it on the pregnancy section because it was so unlike me and a few ladies said they were the same and it's part of nesting! It lifted after about a week and I'm back to normal now.. Very strange.

Natalie you crack me up. You are like a private investigator!! I thought I was bad at waiting for surprises!

nelly hope you're ok and happy at the prospect of imminent birth!!

I don't seem to have been quite so achey in the night so feeling a bit better. got nothing to do today, dp is going out and my best friends are all on holiday in America having an amazing time so im stuck in home alone!! feeling fed up and torn between wanting baby here and not feeling ready. ended up really annoyed yesterday about pram having to go back as i was looking forward to having another thing ready and done for when baby arrives, even though it's not essential even if he was here!! dp bought a car yesterday which he can hopefully pick up this next week so fingers crossed we'll get to ikea next weekend and soon everything will be done. I am the most laid back and unorganised person ever so this anxiety is definitley nesting instinct kicking in!!!!

I meant to say yesterday, I was looking at tena lady pants in Boots the other day and have decided to get some for the first couple of days of heavy bleeding after the birth. They're a bit nappy like so no chance of leaking especially if you double up with a pad too.
I'd better not let Dp see me in them though or we might never have sex again.

Talking of sex MoN lol.. Dh and I have made a few 'digs' more in a sarcastic way than spiteful about not getting any, and I really want to but its been so long I feel like I've forgotten how to make a move haha and when he does towards me I get all defensive like 'don't touch me!'

Anyone else? I think I've forgotten what sex even is lol

Morning!

Congratulations Legally and good luck to Nelly.

Glad you now have a CS date MoN and hope everything goes smoothly so you can have it in the ospital you want. Every time I read one of your bra evangelist comments I think of my mum. She is that woman that will approach strangers or take my friends to one side and show them how badly their bras fit. I am becoming that person too, when people say they are an A cup I raise my eyebrows as I've always been small boobed but worn a 32C (should have been a 30D but they're too hard to find cheaply )

Tarlia I'm sorry you are still feeling so ill, sending

Had my last day at work yesterday, we went out for lunch on Wednesday and I got pressies and card then, and we ordered Pizza Hut to the office yesterday as everyone was busy. Was lovely though, we've never had pizza at work before so everyone was really excited!

Has first NHS antenatal class on Tuesday, was packed as they didn't have a session in August. Was a bit like a science lesson, more about the process than the woman's experience which I was a bit meh about. Seemed like the main aim was to get the message through that you don't need to call or go in unless the baby's head is about to come out- there were a list of symptoms and stages of labour and for most of them the advice was to stay at home. For the one that said 'contractions coming every 2-4 mins lasting 45-60 seconds' she said "you might THINK about coming in at this point". I'm all for staying a home for as long as possible in my comfy surroundings but some of the advice seems to be just for the hospitals benefit rather than the woman in labour who might get stuck in traffic on the south circular and give birth in the car park

I'm not worried at all

Claphammama you have every right to be frustrated at DP for not making your commute a bit easier, hope you can make arrangements so you won't be doing school drop off next week. I understand how frustrating it is when the man isn't taking as much interest. In DP's defence, he has taken much more interest in the last few weeks and is really excited, but he doesn't get enjoyment out of the same things as me like randomly sniffing the baby's blankets and clothes I've washed

Nat I hope you enjoy your afternoon at Next

DP away camping with friends until Sunday, mum came round with Chinese last night and my friend is staying with me tonight. 8 year old birthday party in the park for godson tomorrow, hope weather is ok. Looking forward to

Nelly........you could stay at 1cm for weeks still. Like a show, it doesn't mean the birth is imminent. I don't know if that's good news for you or not!

Natalie funny you post about lack of dtd, DH had made a comment last week about missing ttc, so this morning took advantage of girls letting us have a lie in, now I'm very ouch ouch ouch, was ok actually dtd but now I'm cramping and getting shooting pains down below

feminist I'm not the only clothes and blankets sniffer then! Even dh does it haha, says it all smells like baby.

I've got my csection date!!!!! It's the 9th October!!! Ahhhhh!!!!!

Heffa........ I'm due on 9th too. We are now due date buddies (kind of)

I'm giving dtd a miss this weekend, but 37 weeks+ and I'll try it to get baby out haha. talk about using poor dp!!

Those of you with a c section date........ Are you leaving your original date on the spreadsheet or updating it with your new date? There will be lots of moving around!

Congratulations Heffa!

Just had blow out with DH. He's spent the morning putting together one of DS's b'day presents (KNex roller coaster)- too darn complicated for DS. He realises he has to go to work, gets up leaving half-assembled r-c plus about 50 bits on the floor saying 'DS, you can clear that up'. Like that's going to happen. He often does this which i think is completely unreasonable on DS- fair enough if DS has made the mess in the first place. So I pointed out that I'd be the one on all fours trying to pick up all the pieces in a not hysterical 'I'm pg' way at all He did it but I didn't get a kiss goodbye....

Sometimes this SAHM vs working Dad imbalance is really difficult. It's often too close to feeling like household slave....

Good luck nelly! How exciting. I too think that you had one of the earlier due dates, so fx I'm right and you're 36+ weeks.

tarlia I hope you're feeling better soon!

feminist a lot of your post I could relate to. My antenatal class was much the same. Basically stay at home until you hear the baby crying slight exaggeration there. It all seemed a bit pointless and the lady running the course didn't really have a lot to say except for regularly saying 'any questions?' to which everyone said no. Our 2 hour session ended after 1 hour 20 mins. I think DH learnt a lot though. When we were going through the 'what do you do when' cards and we had one which read 'Contractions every 20 minutes' he straight away said 'Rush Jodie to the hospital'

Also, I too am regularly sniffing the baby clothes. Something that DH really doesn't get. I did pass a comment the other day that he doesn't seem as interested in these things as I thought he would be, and he has since improved quite a lot. I don't mind though because I know he'll be an absolutely amazing Dad and will melt as soon as he's given living proof that he's a Father. He has (very rarely) shed a tear over the strangest baby-related things (most recently it was when he looked in the rear view mirror of the car and imagined having a baby sat back there). Bless him.

Like someone else said, the men in our lives don't have the constant reminder of the baby attached onto the front of their bodies, and nor do they have the hormonal changes that go along with it that affect our brain and force our instincts to prepare for the birth etc. So it probably only hits them occasionally and then they will have a waiver (which they will probably try to hide a bit) of 'OMG', but nothing like they'll get once their baby is born.

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Well done on reaching term Legally

Good Luck if things progress Nelly

Feminist 2 -4 mins and lasting that long sounds very close to me. When I had ds1 I went to hosp when my pains were evry 4 -5 mins. The hosp was only 20 mins away, but i can honestly say it was the worst 20 mins of my life, because I was stuck sat there, unable to move to escape the pain.

It's part of why I like staying at home!

Also, what about ladies that might want some pain relief?

Don't be fobbed off ladies, you will know when you need to be making a move!

Hurrah Heffa. Is there anyone left in the c-section group stil waiting on a date?

I've updated the spreadsheet with my new date wicked.

Well done in getting this far Legally.

It's going to start getting really exciting on this bus soon isn't it? What with people reaching 37 weeks, people being booked in for a cs at 38 weeks and those people being induced. We will soon have lots of babies!

I agree with, caz, you'll know when you need to get going. I'd rather be early and have a walk around hospital then accidentally having baby at home without help! Even in hospital they get it wrong, I was basically being called a baby (I have a strong pain threshold) and them telling DP not to pack up my room (I was in hospital) as 'it'd be hours yet'. 10 min later they were running around shoving everything into a carrier bag and taking me down to labour suit. The MW there still thought I'd be ages, without even checking me, so said hello and had something she needed to do, when she came back and started trying to put an IV in my body started pushing by its self - notes say I dilated in 1.5 hours but I think it was less.

badger too tempting! Are you shopping today then?

Nat you are terrible haha

Have a lovely weekend away and holiday those that are doing so - forgotten!

Roxvox DP had the same reaction. Think he will want to take me in as soon as I'm in pain so the session was good for reassuring him. He also now believes me that labour can take days so he doesn't need to rush from work at the first sign.

Glad it's not just my OH then feminist! Every time I looked across at DH during the class he seemed to have a surprised/intrigued look about him, so I am assuming that the majority of what was discussed was new to him. Seeing as I learnt nothing from the class, they should maybe run a course just for the men!

I've had a little tidy up of the spread sheet and highlighted those who have their CS dates set in light purple (like legally's one is done). I hope that's ok with people?

Whilst I am in an admin mood - does anyone else want to be added to the list/need a date edited? I know it's a pain to do on mobiles/iPads so thought I would offer as am on my Mac for the foreseeable future (I have the oh-so enviable task of listing my old car for sale today).

Congratulations on getting to full term legally!

and yey for c section dates! its going to be very busy soon cant wait to hear everyones news!

Hope everything is going well nelly

I went into hospital last time when contractions were 4 minutes apart and still had to wait another 14 hrs for DS to arrive, they kept me in from then though. Hoping to have plenty of warning before need to go in this time too as will be relying on family to look after DS abd theyre all about 2 hrs away, so could be interesting if this ones in a rush...

Have the day to myself today as DH has taken DS out for the day. Think is the first day ive had since DS was born and feel a bit lost. thankfully DH predicted it and has booked me in for a hair cut this afternoon. guess hes not all bad

I was thinking about the men on their iPhones at our antenatal class yesterday (at three o'clock this morning ) and I think it was mostly the teacher in me getting annoyed at people Not Paying Attention In Class, if I'm honest.

p-buttons sounds like he really has had a reality check and saw what he would lose. I hope you enjoy you free day and haircut. Maybe go and treat yourself to some nice handcream or similar for you hospital bag afterwards.