October 2013 - swollen hands, puffy feet and we all need a decent sleep

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Time to start thread #17!

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you are right tarlia... 319 stops at the end of the road and it would take the same time going to Tooting Bec instead, even despite the Bellevue Road morning traffic. Plus, easier to actually get on the train in Tooting Bec and would spare me the terrible up the hill walk. It's so funny you know this area so well :-) You are a genius. I think I will do this next time but also planning to put pressure on DP and my ex - surely, they can just work it out between the two of them next week...

haha shire it sounds exactly like me and DP! And I feel we have exactly the same tension. When I switch on a baby related programme, he switches on his laptop and insists he can watch both at the same time. (without looking at the screen right?) Also, having gone through it once already, I have more knowledge than he does but I'm talking to him as I want him to learn and share it / make some decisions together. But I think he thinks I've done it, know it all and it's stupid that I feel anxious and want to talk about it now. I just have to go to the hospital when the time comes and do it. How similar!
I also know he means well and he cares but sometimes we need to be told... we can't always keep telling ourselves or reading their mind.
And you are right - for us it's all happening already, for men it happens mainly once the baby is born

DH was genuinuely mortified that I had been feeling that I was in it alone (though it took him a lot to admit that maybe he should be more involved, and I'm still not convinced that he believes he's not done enough).
He really is excited (and terrified, in equal parts!) about becoming a dad, but he's not one that adapts well to change, so I guess that is part of it all too.
And there is that stereotypical-man-thing of a supposed inability to multi-task - and all his focus has been on work, and getting that right, that this other stuff has just passed him on by. I'm culpable too, of maybe being too organised and sorting things.

Anyway - we're off for this wedding at the other end of the country this weekend (with my emergency mini-hospital bag+notes, eeeek), so hopefully we can have a good time and come back refreshed and ready for these final few weeks of preparation.

Im out! got to get monitored on Sunday and go for MORE appointments buts she remains in utero, catch up in a bit just away to get Ds from school xxx

Welcome home, Falcon!

Shire and Clapham - just wanted to say that this is your DP / DH's first, isn't it....? I think this attitude is totally normal, albeit v frustrating for you. DH was exactly like this last preg. He didn't actually even come to the 20 week scan or any antenatal classes and would never, ever have fine baby shopping etc... In hindsight, until DD arrived nothing had happened in his eyes. The thing is, the moment, and it really was the very moment, DD arrived she was and is the love if his life and he wanted to / wants to be involved in everything! She became real only when she got here. Tbh, rather than push it while I was pregnant, I did just think about it all / plan it all / do it all myself and actually, he wasn't exactly essential during the birth....

But this time round, because he is a father already, he has been totally involved and interested. In fact, he has apologised for last time round...!

So basically, I know it's horrid and frustrating, but I think it's totally normal and will all totally change the moment you give birth!! My honest advice is that if they don't want to watch graphic giving birth etc on Midwives etc etc, let it go.... They'll be there for your birth and all the decisions will be yours anyway once you're in hospital.... Just enjoy the "fatherhood" high when it hits them!

Yay, good news Falcon. Glad you're out.

I'm SO mortified. Just went to Aldi for the very first time to find these Mamia nappies that are supposed to be ace, anyway the car park has a chip coin system and I presumed I would just be able to pay when I left like normal.

Anyway, got the nappies, super cheap! Nothing on the tills about validating the chip so went and put it in the machine in the car park, it came up with £7, so I was like 'errrr,what?' and cancelled it.

Then I thought you probably just had to put it in the barrier as you were leaving, so I tried to do that and ONLY on the exit barrier was there a note saying 'If you have been under 2 hours, you need to get the chip coin validated in store before exit'.

There was only one out barrier and I had a HUGE queue behind me, I didn't know what to do as I was blocked in and couldn't move anywhere. and I was too close to the post to open my door and get out.

I had to climb over the passenger seat to tell the car behind to back up so I could get out of the way and go instore and she refused and said 'just go in', so I had to run in in a panic. They wouldn't validate my chip as I stupidly threw my receipt in the bin on the way out so I didn't have proof I was there - ARGH.

Anyway after yelling that I was holding up a massive queue in the car park and pointing out everyone staring in at me, probably exasperated, they eventually validated it. The shop was packed, I was so flustered.

I had to climb back over with my stupid massive bump to get back to the driver's seat in front of everyone.

I'm so mortified about it all, had to share it to help get over the embarrassment, these nappies had better be good :(

Can't believe I'm about to say this. But my nipples really hurt

Glad you're out Falcon

Great news Falcon - a good start to the weekend!

GT my DH touched one of my nipples the other night and I jumped in pain! Don't think he'll be doing that again for a while...

Orange I haven't been able to stretch my legs fully for a good few months because of the instant onset of cramps!

oh smitten poor you!!!

GT just wait til you start bf...

serious & orange I was told the other day that tonic water is s'posed to get rid of cramps...? Personally I've found stretching but heel down not pointy footed (iyswim) avoids the calf & foot cramp. Does that work for you?!?

Hurrah have done my last shift at work (for a year anyway lol!)

Smitten totally the sort of thing I've done myself, was only saying to DH that I've done well this pregnancy, none of the putting wrong fuel in the car, going to supermarket without my purse, minor car bumps type things that have all occurred in my previous pregnancies

I'm going to try and enjoy these last few weeks, DD1 was at playschool when I was pg with DD2 but as of Monday I'll have both girls at school full time and I really want to enjoy it as this will probably be my last baby, I'm a bit uncomfortable but nothing really to complain about and I know I'll miss the bump wriggling when babies here

Eeeekkk, smitten hehe bet the woman panicked as couldn't reverse.

Glad you are home, falcon. How did DS cope over night afteral?

Suspiciously quiet on here today hope no ones popping babies out :-/

Well no one that shouldn't be yet anyway lol

Oh no smitten!!! What a nightmare, sounds just like something I would do.

Gt sorry to hear about your nipples! Get some cream on them ASAP!

falcon great news that you are home, I had all my fingers and toes crossed for you :)

natalie no baby here! Iv just been occupied with DIY! We knocked a wall through today! I now have an open plan kitchen diner/lounge!

No baby here either just a very demanding toddler that has decided to learn how to throw proper tantrums 4 weeks before my due date exhausting! oh and a grumpy DH.

smitten sounds like a nightmare carpark but yey for the nappies. Might go and look tomorrow.

Congratulations to all starting maternity leave today!

and Im with you on the painful nipples GT although DH reminded me last night that I was leaking all the time by now in my last pregnancy so am at least grateful for that.

DH is taking DS out for their first ever boys day tomorrow, have the whole day to myself and dont really know what im going to do with myself.

Right i need a bit of a waffle lol

As some of u no I saw a txt to dh from my mum saying about a suprise baby shower on sept 7th (tommorow) and then the other day I ordered dd some bits on next click and collect type thing and the next is about half an hour away and u can't collect till after 12noon, anyway more to the point the stuff I ordered arrives at store tommorow so I said to dh... Hmmm shall I go over to next tommorow afternoon, gives me something to do or shall I go Sunday to which he replies 'just go tommorow'.... Now I'm panicking the baby shower isn't tommorow and I'm getting excited over nothing. Or do u think he's playing me at my own game? Lol

About a week after I saw the text I also saw a Facebook message to my mum from dh with a list of ppl to invite so I think its definately going ahead...

I wish more and more I never knew it was happening as I'm currently stressing over nothing lol

Leg cramps not too often, but if I stretch they start. My sister was told to drink quinine in tonic water in pregnancy too.
Sorry about some crappy days/disinterested partners.
My nipples feel like a pin is being pushed into them sometimes recently.
Nat maybe it is an evening event or DH didn't make the link.
Glad MoN you have a date and falcon that you are out.
Whoever mentioned best place to get discount from John Lewis, we saved £120 price matching to just kidding in kingsbury just kidding

Lol Orange I drove past Just Kidding today!

Lots of us finishing for mat leave today, my last day too.

Feel a bit strange about it to be honest, but I'm so tired now that I think it won't sink in for a while. People were very generous and we have vouchers to spend when the baby arrives.

But, most importantly of all, I picket up my KMix stand mixer . I had a bonus from work a few month ago and hasn't spent any of it so I have treated myself as a "happy maternity leave" present. It's very shiny . Looking forward to doing some baking for the freezer with it.

I finished work today! Bittersweet really...

But on the plus side, we've been absolutely spoilt rotten! Flowers, gifts, vouchers, lovely cards...feeling very lucky :)

You are all lucky! Work got me a Wagamamas voucher....

They obviously followed you the day you went alone, badger :D

Nat perhaps it's on Sunday instead as a really important guest couldn't do the Saturday. Or it could be at 3pm giving you enough time to do both. Just make sure you wear some make up and a nice top tomorrow just incase.

Fab that lots finished for ML today! Exciting, it's getting so close eeekk.

Any of the second plus timers getting a headache over childcare for the other kids? My mums coming over, but coordinating it all is being left to me. Maybe it's worse as a) I know when I'll be in hospital but not how long induction will take - they allow 5 days here. B) I know I'll be staying at least 4 nights.

Very valid points tarlia and orange also dh knows I go running as soon as mum wants me for anything so maybe she has a trick up her sleeve to get me there. Let this be a lesson ladies - never snoop! Lol

tarlia my sister has agreed to look after dd when the time comes but I'm due 14/10 and she's away for the weekend on 12/10 for her sister in laws hen doo and then away the weekend of 26/10 for the actual wedding as it isn't local. So if it happens to happen either of those dates which obviously its bound too I currently have no back up plan. Also stressing big time about what to pack in dd's overnight bag cos if her favourite teddy isn't in there there's no way she will sleep but then I can't take the teddy away now too pack it either. I'm sure I'm faffing over absolutely nothing but I no what us women r like lol. Me plus 2 of my sisters plus my mum and dad all live within a mile of each other so I'm sure something would be sorted regardless but it doesn't stop u panicking about every detail that could go wrong does it xx