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I've got a dilemma that maybe you lot can help me out with.

We have been invited to my best friends wedding abroad next June. Baby will be 3 months old. Is it wise to travel with them so young?

Its about 2 and 1/2 hours away by plane, and then once we get off the plane we would need to take a hire car to the destination which is about an hour away.

We would only be staying for the weekend, but I'm worried about the practicalities of it. I need to RSVP well before the baby is born.

My mum has said that she will take the baby for the weekend and me and DP can go ourselves, but I don't think I would be happy the baby so soon. Plus I'll be breastfeeding.

WWYD?

At 3 months baby is very easily portable, especially if you are breastfeeding - I'd go for it personally. You should be well recovered from the birth, and out of the newborn "why is someone trusting me with this baby" fog :) There's no way I would have left DS with someone for the weekend at that age. Of course, you have the perfect excuse not to go if you aren't too bothered about it, I'd only make the effort if you really want to be there!

I agree with Rock, I say go for it! You can take a car seat and push chair when you fly.

Perhaps be a bit selective (if you can) about the accommodation type - personally I would have been happier in self catering than a b'n'b type place.

Ladies, I need help. I've started bleeding while in work and have no idea what I'm supposed to do.

Joll try not to panic. How heavy is the bleeding? Call your GP or midwife. How many weeks are you? Probably a good idea to go home from work.

A few people have had bleeding at this stage and it's been fine Jolls

Ask to go home though, then you can phone your midwife and she can tell you what to do. What kind of bleeding is it?

Try not to panic lovey, we are all here for you

Not heavy at all. Everything was pink when I wiped but there was a definite blood clot there too. There's no pain. I'm shaking too much to drive. I'm 12+5.

Tell your boss what has happened and take some time to phone your midwife.

I know it won't be much reassurance to you, but lots of different things can cause light bleeding at this stage. (((hugs)))

Call your midwife Jolls, and sit down somewhere quiet and take some deep breaths. Don't panic, easy to say I know x

Jol Echoing everyone else's practical advice, get yourself home. Try and stay calm and keep talking to us x

Don't worry Jolls, it's probably nothing. Sit down. See what the midwife has to say.

She says that if the bleeding gets worse I should go to A&E but if it stays light, to just come to the scan as scheduled tomorrow. I've locked myself in the disabled loos. Think I'm going to compose myself enough to leave the building then go home.

Joll, I had this last week and a month or so before that. It only lasted that one day each time. I know it's hard not to panic but try to remember that it's very unlikely that anything will go wrong at this stage. Will your hospital scan you?

Hotcross, take the baby. It's not that difficult, really. We went to Mallorca with DSs when they were two and eight weeks. I can't remember the flight so it must have been pretty uneventful. DS2 was exclusively bf at that stage so we didn't need a lot of baby kit at all. It sounds daunting but it really is very doable. I'd even consider doing it on my own.

That's what my midwife said when it happened to me. Didn't need to go to A&E in the end because the bleeding stopped.

Happy birthday Lyra!

Joll - I echo everyone else. Try not to panic, go home and put your feet up until tomorrow. I have bled in all three of my pregnancies.

Ice - You'll be fine. I had exactly the same feelings when I was pregnant with DD and DD and DS love each other and really are a little team (not always good for me!!).

MummyPig - You and I have the exact same age gaps right the way through. I'm sure it will be alright....!

Happy Birthday, Lyra! (grape Schloer)

Marbie, don't get a Doppler

I am so upset. Landlord has been round saying the bulldozers will be here 'by the end of September'. I told him he still hasn't served me with a Notice Of Possession and that I am sick of him coming around here when I am alone and th'usband is at work. He said he is not prepared to serve me with the Notice until I pay a £250 water bill which the water board are going to take him to court over. I asked him why he thought I should pay a bill which is not in my name. He said because I am responsible for it. I said no, the water board have addressed you simply because I don't pay water bills.

He's a fucking multi-millionaire and I'm sick of him trying to wring every last drop out of me. He can fuck right off. I ended up behaving rather badly and frog-marching him out of the house (he is tiny but very, very fat) screaming that he will not set foot over this threshold when I am alone here. I told him I will leave when I am bastard good and ready and he can send a fucking wrecking ball and I won't budge. I am shaking and crying and this whole shebang is largely my gambling bastard of a husband's fault. I am going out for a long walk...

Oh Pram, what a bastard. I agree you shouldn't let him in when you're alone if he upsets you. Tell him to come back when husband is there. Hope the walk clears your head.

Shit, Jolls, I've only just read this last page. I'm sorry you're so anxious. Blood of any description always looks alarming but is usually innocuous. Please go home. No cramping is a very good sign x

Oh you poor thing. I can only echo the above, I'm sure everything is as it should be. I too have had some bleeding, and all has been fine. Home is the best place for you, feet up, nice drink and something on the tv to occupy your mind. Absolutely no dr google*.

Prammy he sounds like a dick. I'm no lawyer, but surely he can't do that?

Jol how r u feeling, have u gone home?

Pram he has to serve you with notice a specific amount of time before you leave (don't ask me how long - post on Legal section) so he is a nob to think he can get round that! Your tenancy agreement should say who is responsible for each bill, however if he's never bothered informing the water folk that he's not responsible any more then surely you can't be liable? Not without a fight anyway! I own a flat which we rent out (no equity to sell) and when the new tenants moved in I just rang united utilities and told them we were gone, they wrote to the tenants to sort out payment.

Joll keep calm, fingers crossed for you.

ice I would go and take baby with me. Where will you be staying?

Teddy we are in the same boat then!

Dd and I went to meet my friend who has breast cancer, her husband, daughter and friend at the park and ha a picnic. It was lovely but very hot and I feel rather sick now. They gave me a lift home which was lovely as I don't think I could have faced the walk. Wimp.

Oh Jolls, how scary. Thank god you have your scan tomorrow. Try to stay calm, get yourself home and don't leave again until its time to be scanned. Forget work, it'll still be there once you've had some reassurance the little one is ok. X

Hope everything has settled down Jolls

Thanks for the advice

I really do want to go. We weren't speaking for a few years and have recently rekindled out friendship and it's lovely. I really want to be there on her special day.

I'm going to say that we will be there. I love a to-do list so I'll just make sure I have everything organised down to a T before we leave.

Good for you, Hotcross. It would be a shame to miss it for no good reason.

Hi ladies. Thanks for all the support. I'm home in bed now and won't be back in work for the rest of the week as I already had time booked out to move house and get scanned. I'll only have a single sick day providing everything is ok tomorrow. Going to try to sleep for a bit and stop worrying.