March 2014 - thread 5 - Dating scans in full swing

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2 birthday cakes done and finished. I'm exhausted today. Dh has just got home from work so he's "on duty" now till I get up. A nice long afternoon nap is just what's needed. Night night!!

Oh good Pram, I was worried I might offend. But the first time of baby threads is no judging on baby threads. I am still in a group of 21 I met online when ds1 was a tiny bean back in Feb 09. We are all chalk and cheese and we have everything from mammies who feed their kids chicken dippers and wedges every day to those whose children have never touched a sweet, babies with pierced ears and babies whose parents won't vaccinate, babies who have no television in their houses and those who have fully fledged superhero addictions, wealthy mamas, mamas on council estates, religious mamas, anarchist mamas. You name it we've had some variety of the great tapestry of new mothering practices... but we see each other a few times a year and are still massively daily active on fb because we've learned not to judge. Not that it was always so. We started off much more judgey and birth, breastfeeding and weaning choices definitely engendered a few rolled eyes in all directions. But as time has gone on and there have been more serious challenges of depression, cancer, bereavement, coming to terms with special needs, serious marital issues, unemployment, infertility, ill parents etc you realise all any of us really need is people who will cheer for you even if they don't really get why you do what you do. I love my November 09 mamas, would be lost without them. And they've relaxed my judgy pants hoiking beyond all measure ;)

First rule . This auto correct is seriously irritating.

MILs are a minefield, even the nice ones!

I actually thought I wasn't judging simply because F&T asked us for our opinions. Now I can see I sounded a little harsh.

Working, sounds like a great group of women. Hopefully we'll all stay in touch on this thread. There are some amazing women here too

Thanks pram and rosy. £180 is a good deal but I have so little spare money right now that it's still pricy. I'll find the money for it somehow if I get a high DS risk from the scan and blood test. My NT measurement was low so I'm hopeful all will be ok. If its not, I really want to avoid amnio and cvs (think its too late for cvs anyway).

I've never had a MiL. XP's mother died long before I met him. DP's mother lives in Turkey so I've never met her. Hopefully I will soon though. I'm sure she's a lovely woman from what DP says about her. He adores his mum.

Just back from a week in Cornwall and can't believe how far things have moved on here! Sorry to hear about some of the issues you guys are dealing with.

Also just back from my booking in appt which seemed to take ages and because it was on a sat I have to go back next week to do bloods which doesn't make any sense, why schedule an appointment if you can't do everything? But the midwife was lovely, just looking forward to my scan on the 5th. Also got my edd of 17th march which is exciting as didn't really know where I was.

Symptoms seem to be better just tired, hopefully a quiet long weekend will help! Anyone have nice plans?

Oh and on mil, I have a really lovely one but I know I'm lucky with that... Fil on the other hand drives me insane!

Jolls glad your man did a u turn. FX he keeps it up and doesn't do another!

Pirates hope you feel better after your afternoon off! Mmm bed.

working sounds spot on. It's so good for you, to interact with folks from different backgrounds, classes, etc. not only because it makes you see different perspectives and reins in the judginess, but also because people will probably, between them, have experienced virtually everything. So can give great advice.

I've just returned from the middle of Brum with shoes for DS. Foolishly ate a custard slice in the car on the way back and now feel sick. But I think that's my own silly fault for being greedy, not ms

Oh and Baldrick, so sorry about your test results. Make the most of being waited on, eh? Silver linings! And best of luck for good results in a couple of weeks.

Just got very confused...I have a dog called Baldrick. Took me a while to realise we have a lady here with that in her user name

Best of luck with the results Baldrick...just saw your post. It must be stressful.

Baldrick hope you get good news

I am so exhausted today. Slept for 4 hrs in the afternoon.

Working I asked for opinions, I can't expect everyone just to agree! I wouldn't expect anything less that a straight down the line answer from Pram, which I respect, harsh or not.

I am an introvert and don't really like attention, my MIL is the opposite and is going to want to tell/ show everyone under the sun and I'm not ready to deal with that yet. I know she will keep to my wishes but I just feel scan photos are very personal.

Slings, love slings, I already have a stornch wrap, a babyhawk mei tai, mya wrap ring sling and a patapum toddler ssc (like ergo), I am going to get a stretchy (like moby) too, they are so snuggly for newborns. If you are going from a bjorn I woild suggest a soft structured carrier like ergo or try a mei tai. Highly recommend your local sling library so you can try before you buy/get advice/demos. I babywear until about age two then they learn to walk for themselves!

F&T

Baldrick hope you get positive results soon.

Feeling rubbish today - seem to only have enough energy to see me through to lunch and hoped I'd be past this by now. Sorry - having a full on grumpy day.

Sorry to hear your going through that Baldrick, fingers crossed for a positive result.

So glad you could get an appointment Rosy. I feel pretty lucky to have just squeezed in to their week 10 offer, someone said on another thread it was ending next week.

I'm working abroad for the next couple of weeks so won't be on here too much - gonna miss this supportive vibe a lot! Wishing you all a nausea-free fortnight, happy, healthy relationships and above all positive results and baby bliss. Ciao for now.

Forgot to mention in case anyone is interested - during my scan at the Fetal Medicine Centre, we asked if they could tell the sex yet and they said no (obviously) but we can order a sex chromosome test with the Harmony Test for an extra £10 - it's not 100% guaranteed to get an answer though. Also that they could do the test and keep the result secret until we specifically asked for it. Got the impression they wouldn't have mentioned it if we hadn't brought it up though I might be wrong...

Coolhand, sorry you're feeling biz. Are you bilious still?

You going abroad on business or for pleasure, Edam? Safe travelling, anyway.

I am lonely and bored but very happy to have a baby in my tum-tum

edamame that must be the fetal sexing thing I was talking about! Science is mental !

F&T, you don't come across as an introvert; you sound confident and forthright. You can't always tell someone's personality on t'internet, I guess. If the thought of your MIL flashing your bits around makes you wince then take a stand. Surely she knows you're not comfortable in the limelight? How many children do you have and how did you tackle this previously? I hope she doesn't do your head in.

Just has XP here for talks, which was pretty pointless. He's not willing to withdraw his application for full residency unless I let him buy me out of my house, which he part-owns. And he doesn't see that this is blackmail. Sigh.

Oh FandT we don't have a local sling library. Very jeal of those who do!

I was going to go for the Boba 3G soft structured as I'm a bit nervous about the whole tying the sling thing (I am rubbish with anything that needs to be tied/wound etc). Watched a video on YouTube and it frightened me! The 3G is similar to Ergo but my friend liked it better than her previous ergo - think she found it more comfy but don't ask me why! It's suitable for newborns with no insert. You're tempting me to give a sling a try as well - which would you recommend for a novice like me? I'm also hoping if I baby wear I might avoid the double buggy!

Thanks Pram - yes bilious, tired, crappy and ready to start blooming now.

Lyra that is a nightmare. I presume you want to stay in the house and so it'll be the residency battle. That is the last thing you need now - what a dick.

A colleague from work texted me today to say congrats - she said she had noticed my bump yesterday and asked someone else who confirmed it. Guess I'm officially showing then.