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March 2014 - thread 5 - Dating scans in full swing

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faithfulandtruthful · 22/08/2013 09:19

Stats thread Here

Link back to Thread 4 for anyone who misses it

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Beccadugs · 24/08/2013 21:18

Very jealous of those who are showing. I just look fatter than normal... I've gone a very weird shape!

Bought some maternity jeans in New Look today for £9 today in the sale! Despite lack of bump I can't fit into normal jeans anymore... They are super comfy!!

IceNoSlice · 24/08/2013 21:21

Lyra Sad. Have you had mediation etc? Can his trying to blackmail you be brought up against him?

Jolleigh · 24/08/2013 21:51

Lyra - horrendous behaviour from him. It beggars belief just how often people forget the value of common decency. Shock

PramQueen1971 · 24/08/2013 22:02

Th'usband just told me he is moving into a B&B next week and 'will be out of my hair' this weekend too. Why do I suddenly feel scared and lonely? Will I feel better when he's gone? Why isn't he fighting for me? I'm such a dick to be allowing these feelings Sad

IceNoSlice · 24/08/2013 22:06

Pram, you ain't a dick. You're a pregnant lady who's doing her damned best to do right by her baby, but who can't be strong every minute of the day.

It's probably worse whilst your in this house. When you get a fresh start in a place you've never shared with him it'll be better, I'm sure. Be nice to yourself this evening. And cry if you want.

IceNoSlice · 24/08/2013 22:08

Sorry, just to add, I'm off to sleep now (cos that's the way I roll on a Saturday night). Not ignoring anyone, just sleeping Smile

NoMaybeAboutIt · 24/08/2013 22:13

Not a dick Prammy. You're human. I think it's the fear of the unknown that is so hard. But you absolutely will be ok c

Jolleigh · 24/08/2013 22:15

Pram- do you have a friend you can stay with tonight? preferably not the sameone as last night! If he's not going to put some effort in he's definitely not worth it. That said, having a few days apart could do you both some good anyway. Gives you some breathing space and gives him a chance to realise what he's doing? If after that he still doesn't put some effort in, you're probably best rid.

As always, here if you need a chat. You did the same for me.

Flip the situation...if I'd posted something similar, what would yoy tell me to do? Thanks

rescoonetwothree · 24/08/2013 22:17

prammy you're bound to feel those things, its natural completely! and i am 100% with ice on this. you are doing what you think is right for you and the puppy and thats what matters! although i will say, men sometimes aren't good at fighting and sort of wallow and just give up, could it be that he just doesnt know how to fight? are you 100%? sorry to bring it up again tell me to shut up and i will!

lyra sorry to hear about the ex - is there any written proof of the blackmail, i would endeavour to get some by hook or by crook tbh, just to have it in your arsenal.

PramQueen1971 · 24/08/2013 22:31

Thanks, girls, so much. I'll admit that, if he were to tell me he wants us to be a family and will go to counselling and wants me to run the finances and will never do this again blah, blah, I would give him another chance. I think. But he thinks I'm unbreakable and that I will not bend no matter what he now brings to the table. Nevertheless I do not feel it is my place to approach him and tell him what he needs to do in order to redeem himself. I must let him go. He has betrayed me for a year. He did not stop once to consider we were going through IVF and that our future would be compromised with his gambling.

I will let him go. This is not my fault. Pity for him now is inappropriate and misguided. I will let him go..

PramQueen1971 · 24/08/2013 22:33

Lyra, I am thinking of you and am sorry to have no advice, legal or otherwise. Mediation sounds good but I can't see the self-absorbed bastard agreeing. I'm giving you a squeeze x

commsgirl · 24/08/2013 22:34

Pram Just echoing what others have said really but it's completely natural and completely allowed to feel like you are. Pregnant or not, it's a major life change.

Lyra Your situation with your ex sounds like a nightmare, sorry you're having to go through that.

Today I have eaten a normal sized portion of a proper meal that didn't involve any toast. Feeling major sense of achievement.

AbiBub · 24/08/2013 22:53

Hey

Sorry to hear there is a few of you going through really tough times with results and ex's and meany partners, thats tough going when you're not pg, let alone when you are!! I hoping that you all get to a good place soon and can continue on with your pg feeling more comfortable in more ways than one. Big hugs.

Been sick again today, and have been feeling rough as poop, and seriously contemplating starting to take the anti sicknesses prescription I have from docs, but also really dont want to. Any tips or advice? 9weeks today and fed up with feeling like poop!!

AbiBub · 24/08/2013 22:55

Yayh comms, glad you've had a better food experience! ! How many weeks are you? :0)

LyraSilvertongue · 24/08/2013 23:27

Thanks again for your support.
I just realised I probably shouldn't say any more on the subject on here. He's been known to stalk my internet posts (even printed out my private messages on another forum after I stupidly left myself logged in) and he knows I've used MN a lot in the past. Have to play it safe from now on.

Now to catch up on the thread...

LyraSilvertongue · 24/08/2013 23:37

Pram, I agree with what greymoose said about him giving up because he doesn't know how to fight. He sounds like a pretty weak person but correct me if I'm wrong. But I agree with you that you shouldn't have to tell him what to do to make this better. You're not his mother. He needs to man up before he lets everything slide away.

PramQueen1971 · 24/08/2013 23:41

Lyra, I feel you are right. Thank you.

PiratesMam · 25/08/2013 08:17

Morning all. Smile

Lyra sorry XP is being such a bellend. It must be hard for your DP too - how does he handle it? He sounds lovely (DP obvs not XP!).

Abi what meds did you get from docs? I had cyclizine last time and took it when I couldn't keep anything down as I was so worried about keeping my folic acid down. I probably took it for 2 months, from about 9 weeks. Didn't do any harm at all. It didn't stop me feeling a bit sick but it did stop me chundering all the time!

comms well done on the whole meal! Maybe you're through the worst!

I had a really rough day yesterday - went bathroom shopping for our forthcoming extension but had to run out of the shop heaving.... Feeling a bit better this morning, just had frosties in bed whilst DH feeds LOs downstairs. Am seriously making the most of him being here this weekend - he's gonna want to go back to work for a rest poor sod.

Awful nights sleep as our smoke alarm started beeping at 2am. Why do their batteries always run out at night?!Hmm

Edamame · 25/08/2013 08:32

Hi Becca, I'm... er... 'showing', look about 5 months. Unfortunately I reckon it's all constipation Blush
Aw, thanks Pram, it's all work but that's gonna make the next 2 weeks fly by.
Have a good couple of weeks all Smile

MummyPig24 · 25/08/2013 08:45

At the beginning of the day I look normal, by bedtime I look 6 months pregnant! I'm kind of torn between wanting to look pregnant, not just fat, and not wanting anyone to guess until we are ready to tell.

It's pouring with rain today and the house is an absolute tip so it looks like I will be doing some hardcore housework. If I can get off the sofa.

PiratesMam · 25/08/2013 09:20

Am not going to make it out of bed this morning - the frosties have just made a dramatic reappearance Shock. If I carry on like this beyond tomorrow then I'm getting me some cyclizine. DS (4) is starting to worry about me poor lamb.

And we're out of pop tarts!!!!!!!!!!

OwlinaTree · 25/08/2013 10:04

Mummy24 I an the same, look big by end of day. Alas as Edamame says I think that's a factor.

LyraSilvertongue · 25/08/2013 10:05

Pirates, DP has to cope with it all too and it's not easy. XP told him a lie about us sleeping together (as if! I find the man utterly disgusting!) but luckily DP knows what he's like and didn't believe him. It does put a strain on our relationship though. I'm sure XP would be delighted to hear that Hmm

Sorry you're still so sick. I haven't thrown up for week's now but I do get occasional queasiness.

In other news, my lovely friend who had twins a couple if years ago is lending me her Doppler so I can listen in any time I want. Cue panic when I can't find the heartbeat...Grin
She's dropping it off today Smile

LyraSilvertongue · 25/08/2013 10:06

Week's? Stupid iPhone autocorrect is forever ruining my grammar.

commsgirl · 25/08/2013 10:07

Abi I'm 10 + 5. Feel awful again this morning but at least I got a break!

Pirate You're really having a rubbish time aren't you poor thing. Hope it gets better for you soon.

Housework for me too today when I make it out of bed!