March 2014 - thread 5 - Dating scans in full swing

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12+5 and still retching...

Jolleigh, fingers crossed the change in attitude lasts.

We definitely haven't thought at all about any purchases and won't until nearer the time. My mum's always been a bit superstitious about buying things for babies that aren't born yet and I think that's rubbed off on me a bit. Although obviously I realise that you need certain bits of kit before it arrives.
One of the first decisions once we've had the next scan will be whether the cat has to move out of his bedroom! He is currently very much the centre of attention so he is going to get quite a shock...

I am in Leeds so Manchester doable!!!

working I'm in Wakefield :)

Joll Has he hit his head?? Glad to hear it and I hope it lasts for you.

Joll sometimes they need this kind of short sharp shock. DH used to be like this in the early days of our relationship but a couple of make or break moments early on sorted him out. He's a diamond now. Hope you're not too puffy-eyed this morning!

I've been in bed all morning, retching and dozing. DH downstairs with the kids, they are all watching telly. If only it wasn't raining, I could have sent them all to the park! Feeling so rough.

Think I'm also panicking about the scan on wednes now, and likelihood of Down's etc. The stress probably isn't helping me feel human, I just want wednes over and done with now! I wasn't at all worried and it hit me this weekend!

12 weeks today

Jolls, great news about the epiphany. Don't feel you can't talk to us if he reverts back to being a moron x

F&T, you asked for opinions about your MIL's desire to have a scan picture: I think it's mean to refuse and I don't understand why you would be precious about it.

I stayed at a friend's house last night who I haven't met in years. I immediately regretted it upon arrival. The walls and beautiful furnishings were thick with the stench of cannabis and, although she smoked it out in the garden I felt ill with it. She is also in the throes of a new relationship and she and her beau couldn't wait to get to bed last night and were at it (albeit it quietly) this morning. Ugh. Made me almost miss th'usband

Pram - uncomfortable much?? Not sure what I would have done in that situation.

I'm flat out today. Between the exhaustion and nausea I'm definitely staying in bed. The DP is actually in the middle of packing downstairs up for the move (shock horror!) without my help.

Pirates - hopefully that's the case here. Wish it didn't have to come to quite so close a shave before he got the message. I genuinly meant it when I told him to leave.

comms - I very nearly hit his head for him

Just looking into the screening tests now...scary stuff. Nothing like lots of medical jargon to make a girl suddenly nervous.

Jolleigh, glad your DP has finally woken up and seen what a twat he's been. I hope it lasts and he doesn't revert back to the toddler tantrums.

Pram, sounds very uncomfortable.

I'm currently lying in bed being very lazy. Might get the laptop out and watch episodes of One Born.

The boys are with their dad till this evening and DP has gone to work so it's just me for most of the day. I should do some housework but I know I won't

Pirates Sorry you're feeling rubbish. Wednesday is so close now, you've only got to hang in there for a few more days x

Pram Sounds awkward. Are you staying there any longer?

Just catching up! Sorry to hear about all the man-trouble people are having
It's been a hellish week here, as my Downs risk came back high, so we've come back from holiday for a CVS, and I'm now having a couple of days being waited on hand and foot, which is nice! We should get the initial results back on Wednesday, then it's another couple of weeks for the full results to come back.
I'd be up for a Bristol/Bath meet up

jolleigh, I'm pleased that your man seems to have woken up to his behaviour. As pram said, do feel free to vent on here, if he presses that reset button again.

pram, how horrible! I hope you get your house back to yourself soon.

Comms, yes, I am back home now. After hearing their not-entirely-discreet shagging I told her the stink of her house was knocking me sick. I said it nicely and she was perfectly shamed understanding. She is a lovely girl and, notwithstanding the stench of weed and lurve, it was nice to get away for a night.

jolleigh I'm so glad to hear your partner has done a 180 and I hope it lasts.

Feel so sick and tired today. There's loads I should be doing but I just cannot be arsed. We are watching walking with dinosaurs. Ds is crying because I made spaghetti hoops on toast and he didn't want that. It's stone cold now and I'm getting fed up of his noise.

My husband is driving me spare. I had ms with ds1 until 22 weeks and same with ds2. This time I have no actual vomiting but just the constant swell and loads of dizziness. I am finding it worse to be honest not to even have the relief of being sick. It just seems to rise and spend ages at that awful bit where you are just at the point of fetching but then I just can't even make myself sick.

If he says once more 'there must be something they can give you'. No, love, this is normal and people with severe hyperemesis can have nothing. I am a bit about it as he was never like this with the other two but I am struggling much more in a way that impacts on him as when he's here I really need him to mind the boys. Basically he just wants me more functional for him and never gave a monkeys the other times when I was feeling pants and managing it better.

Retching

Ah Pram don't be harsh on FandT, in pregnancy everyone has moments of being precious about really stupid crap. I'll also wager that where MILs are concerned it's always more about the relationship dynamics than the surface details. A very normal friend of mine went ballistic about her MIL buying a teddy for her son, she spoke about it like this toy was laced with heroin at the very least. Hormones and relationships with MILs are a toxic mix.

Haven't had a chance to catch up yet but just wanted to say thank you to Edamame - I have booked in for the cheapo Harmony test at the FMC. First test on Friday - eeek! Nervous but excited. I never would have been able to afford it if Edam hadn't said about the offer - so thank you, thank you!

How cheap is "cheapo"?

I evidently don't do enough baby research yet. But I don't have my booking in appointment until Wednesday so I'll let myself off.

What's a harmony scan?!?!

Working, thank you for reining in my judgyness..I needed that. I guess I don't understand the MIL dynamics as I don't have one (OH's mum ran away when he was three), plus my IVF baby has been the centre of attention since conception and I'm bloody loving the pride and excitement coming from my family members. They could blow up my scan photo to the size of a house and stick it on Blackpool tower and I would be okay with it

Lyra, 'cheapo' is £180 compared to the usual £300-plus cost of the Harmony test.

Here's some info on it, Jolls

Yes, £180 instead of the £400-£900 that other places quote. But the £180 also includes a viability scan and a nuchal scan as well as the Harmony blood tests - whereas usually its £180 just for the nuchal scan. So I think its a pretty good price. And you get free hot chocolate and about a million free pictures of the baby which sweetens the pill somewhat