March 2014 - Thread 4 - awaiting our dating scans

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All my girls names are a bit too zany for DP. He likes Grace. That's it. Every other name I come up with he hates.

I really Lavender, Willow, Brooke, Arabella, Mary & Rose.

We have no names for a boy. I don't think it's a boy though.

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One too many muches there, sorry

Thank you once again, ladies, for your support and a special thanks to muddling and magpie for lengthy replies (which made a lot of sense). Yes, Magpie, I'm still in love with him; he is everything I would want in a partner. Ironically, it was his 'selflessness' and work ethic which made me really proud of him He is witty, clever and worships the ground I walk on ...

Gambling wouldn't be a dealbreaker for me if we had different backgrounds: we are both recovering alcoholics and I won't tolerate him swapping one addiction for another. I can't have someone like that in my life. He plainly hasn't dealt with his demons since leaving rehab (we have been sober for three years) and that terrifies me. If I take away this 'hobby' from which he finds 'escapism' and 'a bit of excitement', what will he turn to next? Will he relapse and begin drinking? I would rather die than go back to where I've come from..

..maybe this is where counselling would be essential if I were to take him back.

Thats a lovely one too april soo hope i have a girl !!

And lol @ your OH my partner wants to call it his name too lmao i said no way i find it a bit weird!! X

P.s..my names are chosen: Walter for a boy and Queenie or Margot for a girl.

Loving the name talk! I'm totally stuck for boys names and if this one follows my pattern so far then it should be a boy!! Pattern is boy, girl, boy, girl....?!!!

I had my booking in this morn and midwife at hosp was really nice, she said as I'm classified so far as low risk then a homebirth will be fine!! So very pleased! I was nervous about going as I was worried about being judged for this being pg 5 like my doctor did but she couldn't of been nicer!

Not been constipated this pg but have been when taking extra strong pain killers in the past and it is awful! Dont eat bananas as they can app bung up the system!! Fresh oj? Figs? Prune juice?

Jk, I want to thank you, too, for your post last night. Great news you can have your home birth.

Frank, good luck today, love.

Great news JK.

Please go for Queenie Pramella

DH wants his name as a middle name, but we both love Teddy (Theodore) as a first name.

Girls on the other hand is a whole different ball game!!

Pram Margot is DHs top name too! Can't believe it's on your list, I don't know any.

Girls names are so much easier. Somehow the teasing potential for unusual boys names seems greater, and run of the mill names are just dull.

Now... Is anyone married to a super lovely first aid trainer?? Because I'm in training with one today and his wife is going for her 12 week scan at 2. I would love it it she was one of you lot!

I will go for Queenie, Marbie I adore Teddy but that's the name of one of my cats. How are you feeling right now, Marbs?

Hello loves.

Pram you've had some great advice and you are right to be concerned for swapping one addiction for another; I don't know much about addictions although god I miss the fags but post-rehab, did he continue counselling? It's obviously a really deep-rooted problem for him and he needs continuing therapy - it sounds like he really worships you and to have jeopardised what you had together signals a level of self-delusion that is almost beyond conscious betrayal. Again, like magpie I don't want to sound like I am trying to excuse his behaviour, but if you still love each other, I wonder if, after a few weeks of dust settling and proof that he really is getting help, there is enough true feeling and promise there to salvage a rewarding future together. If it did work out, you could look back on this awful time as the sharp shock he needed to screw his head back on properly. But if you decided to call it a day, crikey you sound like a really strong bird so I have no doubt you and bub would be absolutely fine. I really feel for you though because what a horrible situation to be in. xxx

Names Lorelei is lovely! But isn't the other character in Gentlemen Prefer Blondes (the brunette) the cooler one?! I don't remember her name. Not really got on the names thing yet although have a couple of ideas that I posted on FB a few weeks back. Mortified your DD1's name is our fav name for a girl! Reuben is also lovely but we know a few Reubens who I feel have "taken" the name.

Rock poos oh god I've had this before! Lubricate your bumhole with vaseline. There's a sentence I didn't expect to type today. Other than that, dried apricots (but not too many!!) do the job for me! Steer clear from too much white bread/pasta etc until problem as passed (as it were).

JK great news on the HB. My midwife would love you, she is well into HBs and has MILLIONS of children herself!! I know she'll be talking to me about "next time" during this (final) pregnancy! What's your plan for the other kids whilst you're in labour? That would be my worry.

I love Teddy, but my cousin, who is 2, is Eddie so it's too similar. I definitely think this one is a boy. Short list so far- Rory, Joel, Noah, Sebastien (nn Sebby). Girls are Maisie, Isla, Holly. But I really don't think it's a girl.

Good luck to anyone having scans today.

pram I hope you are having a better day today.

Mummypig Maisie is lovely. Like you I really think this is a girl although oddly I'll be surprised either way!

Pram I think you are talking v realistically and sensibly about addiction. You understand the reality of it. If there is any way forward, counselling would be essential I think.

I am loving all the chat on names. We haven't had any names conversations yet but DH inevitably vetoes most of my suggestions. He always wants a sensible, straightforward name (sigh). I'm really liking your ideas though - hadn't heard of Lilia before and think it's really pretty. I cannot shake the feeling that I am having a girl. I said that to DH the other day and he just rolled his eyes at me.

Has anyone tried the baby name generator on babynames.co.uk? Some funny suggestions! Cindy Diamond? Kiva Patience?

If I had my way pirates dd would have been Maisie but dh won with Lily.

i get scared to say my names because everyone screws up their face at them lol I must admit, I was a serial offender at this until I became pg and no-one likes my names :) perhaps its karma for me

x0gawjus0x he is really serious about it too. My OH is called Christopher (Chris) and my cousins wee one is Cris don't start me on the spelling so if I were to entertain him there'd be three!!! Also my uncle and cousin are Ian, my brother and cousins wee boy are Adam (after my grandad though), and it drives me bonkers!!!!!

Mummypig I love Rory. My dog is Rory (well Ruairidh) and I wish we hadn't used it so I could have it on my list

Pram I agree with the other posters about counselling and having a break before making any final decisions, however, its completely up to you and you have to do what feels right for you and not what everyone says/thinks you should do. Hope it gets better for you soon x

Thank you, Pirate. This: it sounds like he really worships you and to have jeopardised what you had together signals a level of self-delusion that is almost beyond conscious betrayal resonates hugely and is how I am actually thinking myself. Do I want a man in my life who is capable of such self-delusion? The psychology behind gambling is the same as alcoholism and I won't tolerate it. I can't afford to be monitoring him for the rest of my life. I won't do it. This is why I attest that love is simply not enough. Loving me to death did not stop him betraying me.

Thanks, too, Coolhand & Mummy.

I'm off to buy mangoes. I do wish they only cost 50p

*Sorry about the italics fail

There's no way I'll be discussing names with anyone apart from you lot and DH until the baby is born. I'd be really upset if someone turned their nose up at a suggestion, but if its presented as a done deal ie 'this is our baby ', then I don't think people will feel able to comment if they don't like it! If they dare they will experience the full force of new mummy wrath...

I bought a mango on Saturday and its not ripe yet. I want to get at that bad boy!

justmuddling i havn't changed my choice, but now almost determined to use the name so i can say (just to myself lol) "haha get it up you!" lol i need help....

Hi all - wow - I've not been on since Friday and it's taken me all morning to catch up!

Pram your strength is amazing, as someone who had a dependency past I can totally get why you wouldn't want someone who just swaps one addiction for another.

I'm a bit scared to share our girls name, it'll completely out my, and it's very unusual.. When DP first mentioned it I thought "god no!" but it's really grown on me... to the point where we're using a shortened version of it to call bump already.

Boys names are easy as my family have a tradition of calling the first born boy Pieter, and DP's dad is Peter too, so it's a really easy choice.