March 2014 - Thread 4 - awaiting our dating scans

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pram, I know you don't want to talk about what's happened anymore, so I will shut up about it, but if you do need to talk again we'll all listen.

I have also turned into a fruit bat, with my dh following my example, meaning that we got through £8 worth over the weekend! Blimey...

Good luck to those with scans soon; mine feels a long way off yet, as I haven't had my booking in appointment yet. It's this Thursday, so hopefully I will get a scan date soon after that.

Has anyone else started discussing names yet? Way too early I know, but a couple of possible names have come up in conversation, and I've been finding myself scanning names during the end credits of tv programmes to see if anything appeals!

Haha em yeah jk he is really excited bless him ! Has been long awaited though took us 2.5 years to concieve (we were just having sex) not timing or anything didnt go to drs either but was a long time!!

My pregnant friend found out her partner kissed someone on sat night drunk argh glad im not in her position :( how selfish x

Cant stop drinking Schweppes lemonadeeee

Hmmm apprentice if your scan is at 3, you probably wont get seen til 3.30, then 45 mins in the scan, then you probs wont get back to work til five (just embellush a little!), so ask if you can add the one hour onto.another shift another day?

Plus time for blood tests if youre having them x

Oh pram I'm so sorry to hear all this. For what it's worth, here's my tuppence and I'm only going on what I would do - obv I don't know you or him or the whole situation. But it's incredibly new and you'll be reeling right now so I don't think you should make any drastic decisions. I would take some time out - a couple of weeks or so. I would ask him to stay with a friend and tell him I'd talk about it with him after that. If I decided i def didn't want to be with him, at least I'd have that time to find out what my options were. You've still got time (I think - not really sure how social housing works) in your pregnancy to wait a couple of weeks.

Do you def want to leave him? Is he - apart from this massive betrayal, which I am in no way excusing - a good partner? Would this event be the kind of wake-up call that would force him to change? Is there anything he could do/promise to make you give him another chance?

For me I think only a sexual betrayal would be a staightforward sackable offence. I'm NOT excusing his behaviour in the slightest - he clearly has been a selfish cunt - and I too would be devastated and livid. But I'm just imagining if i found out my OH had done this I could also see a way through it - I suppose for me that would be seeking help or treatment, and insisting on all control of our finances for years to come. And he would have to be totally eaten up with remorse. All this only stands if he is fundamentally a good person though. If he's been a twat in the past, or you genuinely doubt his ability to change, or you've just totally fallen out of love with him then that's different. But only you know that.

I hope this doesn't read like I'm sticking up for him in any way. I'm not. Good luck whatever you decide - and lots of hugs xxxxxx

In other news - and sorry for very much TMI - but I'm massively constipated. I've only been going every few days and every time is like giving birth (I imagine). So painful, and requiring lots of pushing and calming breathing, but instead of getting a lovely baby at the end of it, I'm giving birth to the biggest, hardest poos (the Jason Statham of poos). It's got to the point where I'm too scared to go. Sorry, again, for TMI but anyone got any tips? Even All bran doesn't seem to help.

magpie, constipation is a bitch!! I haven't been too bad, but its definitely moving rather slower than normal down there... Truly heroic quantities of fruit and veg (apparently dried apricots work especially well) should be consumed, and another MNer has recommended linseeds sprinkled over cereals etc. You could try the local pharmacy, but don't let them give you cod liver oil, as its bad for baby (too much vitamin A I believe).

Lol at 'the Jason Statham of poos'!

Ps: I think that senna-based laxatives are also a no-no when upduffed.

Magpie I love it. Try prunes,kiwi and lots of water: make sure you are constantly topped up. . I know it doesn't help with going to the toilet every 5 mins but makes things a little smoother in the long run.

Apprentice - im totally with Mortified on this one. I have my first scan on 29 and taking a half day but only because work don't know yet. Otherwise its going to be an hour appointment and then another hour just to get back to work, and that's if they see me on time. Bang half a day gone.

Gawjus hope you feel better

Names wise, me and OH joked about names when we first met. What do you guys think of Lorelai for a girl?

Lib I love it but can only see Marilyn Monroe in Gentlemen Prefer Blondes. DH won't humour me on any unusual names, DS was very nearly called Phoenix but the other half was too heavily influenced by negative comments so has a very normal, top-10 name.

Lib I have lorelai on my list too!!

I am constipated too. I'm never constipated. I drink loads of water and man mad for fruit and veg at the moment, so don't know why it's suddenly started! I don't think the extra progesterone supplements help though

Rock
Ooh hadn't even thought of that but actually makes it more appealing. (Please note haven't seen movie but is now on my list of things to do) like theater, musicals and Marilyn.

A friend reccomended shouting out some potential names in the middle of a supermarket. To see if it sounds silly when you say full name out loud.

Gawjus JK
I love the bump talk but you're right its the only physical reminder they can connect with, apart from us going on about our bodily functions

My friends boyfriend did the same, and their relationship only lasted another 6months (no children involved). Hows your friend handling it?

DH wont discuss names til he knows whether its a boy or girl.

I am gettibg big 'Girl' feelings so havent considered boys names yet. If im being brave, DD2 will be Olive. My safer name is Juliet.

Both lovely Mort!! We have strong boy feelings!!

Lib I really like it. However it doesnt make me think of Marilyn, but it makes me think of the baddy in the Mentalist (mmm Simon Baker). She's very pretty and clever though. Just a psychopath!

Rock I love both Olive and Juliet.

Anyone having a scan today?

I think we've got Gawjus and Dabarai tomorrow and HotCrossPun and Lyra on Wednesday... Good luck all!

My current favourite girl's name is Cecily. I love Lydia as well, but that was slightly spoiled for me when I heard the most Bristolian woman in the world screech it at her child in the park. God, I'm such a snob...

DH suggested Reuben for a boy, which caused much glee for me, cos I was thinking of that one too! He quite likes Cecily as well, although was wondering if it was too pretty! As though we'd go ' no I'm sorry darling, that name is just too nice for you, so we shall call you... Gladys'

No decisions to be made till we've looked through a few books/websites etc though, but I'm very relieved that we appear to have similar tastes!

Thats good Just theres no compromise when one of you likes Persephone and the other one wants Keisha

DH likes short simple names (dd1 is Meg), but I do like more feminine names like Florence. I know he wouldnt even entertain that though!

Lovely names Just!

I think I'm more adventurous than DH with names!

Magpie I feel your pain. Mines was so bad (10 days without going etc) I went to the Dr. I changed my vitamins to just folic acid and vit-d which helped, i am hoping that no bloods show i need iron and got prescribed a lovely laxative from the Dr to help. I try not take continuously, but when I hit day 4 im guzzling that stuff down.

Question for everyone else, soes anyone get pains when the pee, on both sides, like really sore pains?

Lib it reminds me of the Gilmour Girls i was completely addicted to that series and i love it :)
Rock love Juliet :)

I have a shortlist of 4 names for girls, which I think DH and I are agreed on, but for a boy we are or I may be up shit creek with out a paddle. I have 3 names I like but one would be shortened, which I don't want so in the process of scoring it off in my head as i type and DH had 1 name. His name. thats it. end of dicussion. I really really really don't want that however he is adamant....how will i get round this if we have a boy? I am hoping after witnessing the birthing process he'll feel sorry for me and give in lol!!! I have suggested giving the DC a middle name and calling it by that as opposed to DHs name, but he said...God help me :)

Lovely names! I love so many girls names Lilia is lovely so is Lyla or Aliya Mya love all names ending in ia haha oh only looking at boys names and refers to bump as 'him' or 'he' who knows haha x

x0gawjus0x I used to work with a girl in Ireland called Lelia. I had never heard of that before and thought it was lovely x

Girls' names are so much much easier to find! Why is that?? Every time I have a little hunt on the web for names I always look at girls' names, hardly ever at boys'. They just seem more interesting to me somehow!