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March 2014 - Thread 4 - awaiting our dating scans

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MTBMummy · 13/08/2013 09:40

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Dabarai · 18/08/2013 20:54

So sorry Pram, sounds like you are doing a right thing. Get out as soon as you can, sadly it is not worth to stay with him. :( Hope you are getting all support you need. Flowers

FrankelInFoal · 18/08/2013 20:55

Oh Pram I'm so sorry Sad

liberuna · 18/08/2013 20:59

Hey pram
Dont feel bad about missing him we all saw a good side in the people we were with otherwise we wouldn't have been with them in the first place. Point is you're not going to miss the crap stuff he's done. You know what's best for you so keep going strong.

Mortified - glad you ok

Symptoms - bloated as hell due to constipation and same stabby pains which im not sure aren't due to indigestion urgh. Anyone else having trouble sleeping?

PramQueen1971 · 18/08/2013 21:26

Your lovely posts are making me cry and no, Ice, nothing any of you will say in support can be inappropriate. He has just apologised. I was crying my eyes out and he stood there and kept saying sorry over and over and over. It's abysmal because you are waiting for an explanation; an excuse that will never come because he simply does not have the answers. That is the core of the shitness. I can't even rage at him because my letter was devastatingly brutal and to the point and said everything I could ever want to say. I'll be okay, though, because this too, shall pass, like evry other anguished period in our lives; the beauty is that it will pass Smile

PramQueen1971 · 18/08/2013 21:28

..could you tell that Smile was actually a pained grimace?

NoMaybeAboutIt · 18/08/2013 21:36

Prammy you are so very brave. That is all x

RaspberrysAndIcecream · 18/08/2013 21:37

Hugs to u pram. Xx

IceNoSlice · 18/08/2013 21:51

Bedtime for me. DS has some horrible molars coming through on the top, and has been waking twice a night for the last week. Last night he was wailing like he was in agony Sad Sad at 3am. Thank you Calpol, only thing that seems to help.

So signing out, but just to say hang on in there prambo. There's a lot of love in the (virtual) room for you.

apprenticemamma · 18/08/2013 21:59

Just catching up before going to bed. Wanted to echo others' sentiments pram , your dh has betrayed you hugely, but what an amazing woman you are despite your anger and hurt to keep focused on the future. Whether it's gambling or alcohol, whether we call it addiction or bloody great problem, it leads to such cowardice and selfishness in others. Angry . Take care x

Teddybear4 · 18/08/2013 22:14

Oh Pram, what a shit time you are having. Please look after yourself.

PramQueen1971 · 18/08/2013 22:34

I am really touched by all your kindness. I'm really fortunate to be able to talk to you about this stuff but I'm not going to dwell on what is going on here. I know you don't mind listening, and it's so very lovely of you, but I need to zip it. I will be okay.

Frank, you need a bloody scan time! Good luck with that tomorrow.

Ice, your poor, poor son Sad

I'm really craving mangoes and I've eaten the last one today. So delish! In fact, all fruit and veg is really 'doing it' for me at the moment. I think the palate-rinsing properties of fruit is helping with that Alsatian-shat-in-my-mouth taste some of us seem to be having. Silver linings and all that...Smile

JK10 · 18/08/2013 23:56

Hey pram sounds like u are staying strong and trying to stay positive. So sorry to hear what's happened, a friend of mines husband was a terrible gambler and would say he was out visiting his mums but secretly betting their money away. It all came to ahead and since then all of his money gets paid into her acc and she gives him a very tight allowance to be sure that he can't gamble. It works for them and they now have 2 kids and been together 12 yrs. but even today she still has to budget the money due to the issues in the past. I don't know how she does it really but guess that was her choice. So heart breaking when everything u had turns out to feel like a lie. However u have such a special little bubba growing inside of u that actually u hold all the cards, when u hold your baby for the first time your love will be so overwhelming that nothing else will matter. Whatever u choose to do reg. your fella your future is still gonna be amazing. Sorry for rambling but emotions, pregnancy and relationships are such hard work and if you are sure in your mind tgat u want out then do it, but if there is any niggling doubt then time apart and space to think and are there ways around things then take your time in deciding so there are no regrets. pram just tell me to shut up!!

JK10 · 18/08/2013 23:58

Just to add pram um making no excuse for his behaviour as its been disgusting, was thinking of your feelings.

JK10 · 19/08/2013 00:01

ice hope he settles ok. Teething is the worse!

frank good luck with the chasing!

I had my daughters hello kitty themed birthday party today in the garden, all went well but v tired now! I've got my booking in in the morn so be interested to find out if they will let me have a homebirth!!

x0gawjus0x · 19/08/2013 07:02

Is anyones oh talking to/kissing their bump or am i just with a looney? Went out together sat for meal i had jacket potato with bbk pulled pork and cheese with a laaarge salad yum yum then went to cinema to watch grown ups 2 :) love adam sandler!

Rang in sick yday, cant wait for scan tmoz to tell them why ive had so many days off they must be getting fed up of it now.

marmite and philidelphia on toast this morning i think! X

SoSurprised · 19/08/2013 07:08

x0gawjus0x best of luck with the scan! I am still awaiting my scan date sighz

apprenticemamma · 19/08/2013 07:22

quick scan question. As mines at 2.40 next Mon, and I work till six should I take annual leave half day. I know I'm entitled to time out for hosp appts but not gonna wanna return to work afterwards however the scan turns out. Shock Saving annual leave like a mad woman for next year..

apprenticemamma · 19/08/2013 07:23

gawjus that's cute. It's never real for dh till bump appears :)

x0gawjus0x · 19/08/2013 07:28

Oh thats no good suprised ive already got my 16 wk one booked!

hope everythin goes ok tomoz :(

yeah i spose its sweet emma haha x

Rockchick1984 · 19/08/2013 07:33

Apprentice depends on your employer - if they are generally relaxed can you offer to work the hours back? If not then definitely take half a day holiday.

Dabarai · 19/08/2013 07:38

Apprenticemamma - My scan is at 3 pm, I am working also till 6, so my manager agreed that I can take part of the afternoon as doctor's appointment (which you are entitled to take) and the rest of the time as annual leave...

NoMaybeAboutIt · 19/08/2013 07:39

Aprrentice can you work from home? My employer is great. As my hospital is a 4 hour round trip from work, I either work from home for the day or take the afternoon off, as by the time I was back in work it would be the evening!

How you feeling today Gawj?

My only respite from the nausea is the first 2 hours in awake, so that's almost up. It normally starts by the time I sit down at my desk Sad

Hope you get the go ahead for your home birth JK!

lumpylumps · 19/08/2013 08:17

pram what a twat. You poor thing but like everyone has said, whatever happens you are strong, you have the most precious little thing growing inside you and you've got an amazing exciting future ahead of you. It's his loss!!!

I've got a real fruit craving too. Not the veg, that makes me want to puke all warm and mushy but fruit, fresh and juicy straight from the fridge. Yum yum!!!

mimili · 19/08/2013 08:28

gawjus no its not just your oh. Mine is talking to bump every evening. Sometimes its 'fact of the day, other times its how much he already loves bump/bumpette, but some days its tips on 'how not to upset mummy' usually using an example of a hormanal outburst earlier the same day!Hmm Blush

JK10 · 19/08/2013 08:29

Thank u no I'll tell u how goes later! Really hope the nausea clears up soon for u!

Gawjus that's cute! He must be v exited by the sounds of it!!

apprentice how far away is your hosp from work? Is there any way u can call in and say the apps are running late? I've had to wait upto 3 hrs for a 12 week scan before at kings then it's taken a good 1hr 30 for all the tests they do, then wait for the results! Think I'd wait and see how it pans out at hosp and if need to blag it a bit then I'd do that! I wouldn't wanna go back for like 3o mins or something!

dab good luck with scan!

loopy good luck with gp!

Hope I haven't missed anyone!