Due in Jan 2007 part 2......the one where we stop worrying!!!

[LadyTophamHatt]

Here we go then ladies.....

Hooo-Rah!! 2nd trimester is just around the corner

Hi all!

Thankyou so much hattie for the advice and for starting off my sponsorship page If anyone else would like to sponsor me in my race for life, please see my earlier posting for the web page address...please, please, I am begging!!!

Feeling good today as it's lovely and cool here, although not warm enough for dd to play in paddeling pool, so am having to entertain her myself(dh playing golf...again). Found a local church that is having a summer fair...probably bring home a load of junk when I am trying to have a clear out though!lol.

Anyway, hope everyone is well.
jess
12 weeks 2day!

Thank you so much dragonhart for sponsoring me I have a very long way to go yet!

Skint ATM jess otherwise I'd add my name to the list. I'll be thinking of you at least (even though I think your mad!![mad])

Bloody annoying too as I've found a place that I can hire a dopler and can't afford it yet.

Dopler or feed the kids??

Good Luck for the run Jess. Very impressed with how much tax you get towards it from donations! (Put it in my husbands name so you could collect the tax in case you are wondering who it is!)

Has anyone got any tips on how to keep ds away from fire? We dont have it on ever but dont want him to play with it incase we are at someone else's and they do use it. We have been just saying NO and pulling him away from it but think it has turned into a big game now and he crawls up to it, pulls himself up on it, looks at me and says 'NO!'. Driving me mad as I am spending half my time pulling him away from it and the rest of my time trying to distract him! Pulling my hair out so any tips would be greatly appreciated!

Have had to put my maternity trousers on today as no trousers fit and it is too cold here for the summer skirt I have been wearing. Feels weird but had forgoten how comfy they are! Only problem is that due to being quite tall, there are only two pairs of trousers I can find with 36" inside legs -one pair of jeans and one pair of black trousers so guess that is my lot for the next 6months!

Hope everyone is begining to feel better. Made the mistake of telling afew people that I am feeling more normal now and all sympathy has gone! Had got quite used to the help.

Becks how is your dad doing?

Jessddibs - will sponsor you next week if that's OK, as my useless ex husband still hasn't paid my maintenance this month (which is due on the 1st, grrr) so until he does I'm a bit skint....£640 is a lot to be sat waiting for!! He really annoys me, I always end up having to ring him the day it's due to remind him to transfer it, this month I didn't and when I went to the bank the other day to draw it out of course there was nothing in there. I told him he can bring the cash with him tomorrow when he comes to see the kids!!

Loubie xx
12+0

Wow LTH, you did have a good moan didn't you I have to say I really know how you feel and with 4 kids arguing mixed with a PITA of a Dh I am dreading the summer holidays.
And our car has broken so we are very stuck for days out

I am feeling crappy today but don't know why and hopefully it will pass.

My house is such a tip but I can't find the energy to do it! Dh is hopefully taking the girls out so I can get stuff done

I really can't decide whether to hire a dopler or not. I know the scan was fine and everything is ok but the anxitey is still here because, and I know this sounds ridiculous but I had to really run for the train the afternoon after the scan...and now feel really paranoid that I've caused something to go wrong.
If i hire one and can't find the HB it'll send me over the edge I think!

It wasn't a huge distance to run, but long enough to make me really breathless and I've almost convinvced myslef that it's.....well....you know. Ended it all.

Would hiring a dopler be a bad thing in my current over-the-top paranoid state???

I'll be 14 weeks tomorrow.

LTH when do you next see mw?>IF it is at 16wks then no point hiring doppler plus it is £25 for a month which is a bit soft. However can understand the anxieties as have had them with all my pregnancies.

I'm seeing her on the 19th july.....

I'd only hire it for a month and would take it on holiday with me because I'm sure I'll stil fell anxious then too.

Hmmmmm.

I know it's just my paranoid mind because since the scan almost 2 weeks ago I have got bigger, there are no signs that anything has gone wrong, I still feel tired and my nipples are still unbelieveably sensitive (It was actually painful yesterday when I was cold and they do there "erecti-nippli" thing).

I just can't shake the paranoia. If I hadn't had to run I know I wouldn't be feeling like this....which is equally as ridiculous!

Sometimes I think using websites like this dont help...seeing things go wrong for others fuel the paranoia making you think any little thing can cause you to harm the baby. I used to get extremely paranoid about the fact DS just jumps on my stomach etc but when I went for my scan sonographer was pressing 100 times harder than ds jumps. Although I do have a lot lot lot of extra padding. Would send oyu mine but it would probably make you fret more as its very tempremental.

Thansk Nemo.

Funnily enough i was thinking the same about the knowledge we gain from the WWW about pregnancy and other poeples experiences.
My MW siad similar at my booking in appt week ago "with each pregnancy you know more about the whole process and how things happen or go wrong and it ends up it just fueling the anxiety"

How very true that is.

I just need someone else to tell me that I'm being ridiculous....after all some people have no idea they are PG and do all sort of stuff only to find out at 4 months when they've been climbing Everest!

I should take notice of the title of this thread shouldn't I?/...after all I bloody started it!!

LTH - I thik you need a mix of perspective to go along with all that anxiety . I dont suppose you were sprinting aka Anasph Powell were you ? a little bit of exercise wont do you any harm - I'm still going to the gym 3 or 4 times a week and still running etc although I have stopped the abs crunches it makes me just a bit queasy to think about it. Pregnancy is a good excuse for a pot belly anyway !

I was unsure about getting a doppler afew weeks ago too LTH as my scan was sooooo far away (still 3 days to go!) and as someone else said other people's bad experiences had made me a little paranoid. Decided that I would not get one as I was partly worried about not finding a heartbeat and going into comlete paranoia and also my dh sat me down and told me to tell him how I was feeling. When I told him about the sickness, swolen and sore boobs, trousers not fitting and extreem tiredness he kind of convinced me that everything was going ok. Think we wait so much for the scans but as soon as you walk out of the room that uncertanty creeps back in. I am sure that running for the train was perfectly fine, and perhaps if you had not run for it you would worry about something else having caused a problem ( Iknow like Nemo I got so worried after ds gave me a mighty kick in the stomach as I was putting him down). Not sure if my ramblings help any as I am sure we will all worry no matter how much we are told to 'relax' and 'dont worry' until we hear that little cry (and perhaps not even after that!!) xxxx

just popping in to see how everyone was doing. Glad u all sound more positive even if u r all still just as anxious!

Not managed to read all the thread from when i was last in (too many posts and still a bit difficult) but wanted u all to know i was still thinking of you xx

Hey MoM...I was thinking of you today.
I was bathing ds3 and thought I must do a shout out for MoM and hey presto...here you are

I hope things start to get easier for you soon. Please don't feel that you can't talk to us about it though.

xxx

Coffeebeanz, you're right of course.
I used to love running at the gym so it's not totally alien to me and although I'm not anywhere near as fit as I was ( not by a long shot I should add) a 150mtre dash for the train isn't a 15mile hike up Everest whilst carrying a donkey. I was only carrying 1 shoopping bag infact

Dhart, I need a big switch on the back of my head to turn the anxiety off....don't suppose you know where I can get one at all??

Think I'll wait to see the MW and not hire a doppler. Dh would think I was mad and would prooably moan anyway. Miserable sod.

(we're a talkative bunch aren't we, nearly 350 posts and this thread isn't even a month old!!)

Aww thats sweet of u to think of me! Have been reading, just not feeling like i could post. Am doing ok for now but taking a day at a time. Feeling i should be "over it" by now tho...hmmm.

btw, give ur DH a kick up the bum from me

Sorry LTH, but if you find one, i'll have one too!!

Good to hear from you MOM. xxx

Am I the only 10 weekpg woman that is having terrible trouble with indigestion/heartburn/reflux etc etc
It's soo painfl and nauseating that it has kicked off my panic disorder and I'm havingtrouble looking after my children
please tell me I'm not alone

I had my booking in with my midwife on Wednesday and she has made me more anxious than ever! I told her about the blood that was seen beside the baby on my first scan and thought that she would be able to reassure me, she did say that it is quite common and that its probably from implantation but she also said that she could'nt guarantee that it could'nt cause a problem. I was telling her about how shocked i was whwn i had 2 missed miscarriages in the past and she said that at least if that happened again then i would'nt be so shocked because i already know about the blood!! Don't know what to think now. I have my 12 week scan this Friday and i'm really dreading it.

Where i live the maternity part of the hospital has been totally downsized in the past few years and a lot of women have had to travel 20 miles to the next town to have there babies, my daughter being one of them due to the fact that her baby was premature. Anyway because this is my 5th baby abd i've had no problems with delivery in the past i just assumed that i'd be fine to have my baby here. When i asked my MW she told me that its unlikely and that i will have to travel to Dundee, she said that because this is my 5th then there more risks, that sometimes the uterus doe'snt contract so well and there is more risk of bleeding. So now i have something else to worry about.

Sorry to moan so much but i have been so anxious about this pregnancy and just getting fed up with feeling so ill every day, although if i did'nt then that would be another worry for me.

Its nice to hear that all the scans seem to be going so well.

Tracey.

Kaylasmum - what an insensitive m/w you've got! I wouldn't worry too much - at this stage there's only a very very small chance of something going wrong. My mum had 8 babies and didn't have any problems with any of them!

I can't remember who was asking but I'm starting to get heart burn/acid reflux too - it's horrible isn't it? I find a glass of milk helps. I'm trying to steer clear of gaviscon, it used to make me really sick when I was having my daughter, I think it was the slimy texture...yuk!

I've been and used my Boots Parenting Club vouchers this morning, and with all the offers combined we bought £65 worth of stuff but only paid £26 and got £7 worth of Boots points too - what a bargain!

This is what we got -

Boots Mediterranean skin soothing bath cream (free)
2 more Mediterranean bath products (buy 1 get 1 free)
Boots Baby Head to Toe wash x 2 (buy one get one free and double points)
3 boxes of pregnancare tablets (buy 2 get 1 free and 200 extra points)
Big tub of Simple nourishing body cream (200 extra points)
Big tub of Botanics 5 minute hair mask (free)
No7 Uplifting night cream (free)
Boots baby sensitive head to toe wash (free)

Because the stuff we paid for came to over £20 we got an extra 200 points on top

So if anyone hasn't joined yet, it's well worth it!! In the next lot of offers they send you, if you buy a pack of Huggies nappies you get a free changiong bag. Worth keeping at the mother in laws or in the car even if you get one to match your pushchair.

Loubie xx
12+1

Wow Loubie! I joined boots yesterday after the advice and can't wait for the pack to arrive! Good excuse for some retail therapy! Pamper stuff and acessories seem to be my forte at the moment!

Have felt very down and nervous today, which I am trying to force myself into thinking that it's all in my mind. But have been experiencing period like pain both front and back and feel negative, I am hoping that it is just because I have my dating scan tommorow that I am feeling like this...it's at 9.45am so will post back as soon as poss.

Trinityrhino- I also find that milk is good for heartburn, but also you mentioned your panic disorder...I suffer panic attacks, and am starting counciling this week to try and get to the bottom of the trigger for them and some advice hopfully on treating them. I had them as a teenager and they have come back with avengence. Just wondered if you had any advice on dealing with them, if this is the same prob you have or if you want someone to discuss it with I am here

Also, mumofmonsters, I think it's lovely that you still pop in to catch up with all our moans and to see how we are all doing. I don't think, to be honest, that you ever 'get over' a mc, and it will always be part of your life. I had a mc 10 years ago now and still think about 'what if', I quit my job at the time and layed on the sofa for a whole 3 months when it happened to me. I do not feel 'upset' now when I think about it, I have learnt that things happen for a reason and that whether it is your 'fate' or mother nature playing a role, life goes on. Things really do get better with time, but talk to someone and get help if it all feels too much. I wouldn't advise locking yourself away for months on end like I did.x.x.

Kalusmum, your midwife sounds horrible. I suppose that some of them think they have 'seen it all' and forget just how stressed we all get.

Trinity- def another candidate for heartburn here whenever I eat! Had it last time but just for the last few months. Everything seems to be happening earlier this time!

Jess - I have been having similar sounding pains too, but when I rang the midwife about it she said that it is prob just due to stretching pains. It didnt reasure me much but I have my scan this week too (tue) so maybe it is just worrying about that too!

Loubie - I joined too after what you said yesterday about parenting club. Think you sould get some commision from boots lol!!

Jessdibs - I get period type pains all the time, and like you I was really worried it meant something bad had happened and was dreading my 12 week scan, but everything was fine, it was such a relief! Now when I get them I remind myself it's my womb stretching to make room for the baby and it doesn't seem so scary then.

MoM - sorry, forgot to say earlier how lovely it was to see you back, and that you're still thinking of us. I had a m/c last January and it truly is one of the worst things that can happen to you, but it does get easier I promise you.

Right, the footies started, I'm off!

Loubie xx
12+1

Hey...I think....maybe....not 100% sure...but I think I possibly felt the baby move last night.

twice before I went to bed while lying of the sofa and once when i work up in teh night with raging toothache.