Due in Jan 2007 part 2......the one where we stop worrying!!!

[LadyTophamHatt]

Here we go then ladies.....

Hooo-Rah!! 2nd trimester is just around the corner

Me too LTH, I've got no energy as it is and the heat just makes it worse!! I'm so glad we're having winter babies, my daughter was born in September and it was pure hell being heavily pregnant through a long hot summer!

Another thing, am I being too sensitive or is it rude for people to say 'is it planned?' when I tell them I'm pregnant?? Just because I'm 38 and have 2 older children already (they'll be 15 and 13 when the baby arrives) does that mean people are OK to assume this one's an accident?? 3 people have said that to me this week and I was a bit miffed to say the least

Right I'm off to put my feet up and watch the England game

Loubie xx
11 weeks today!!

Loubie, I was PG with ds3 in that awful summer 2003...you know the one where we 100*c record breaking temps.
Being PG in that heat is what made hate it so much, I used to love the sun.

Yuk yuk yuk yuk not any more..

I was preg last summer too Loubie and my feet were so swollen that if you pushed your fingers into them the imprint stayed like that for ages. Like putty!! Everyone said how lucky we were to have a summer baby but it was just HORRIBLE being so preg when it was so hot. The night he was born it was 19 degrees here at 2.00 am when we went to the hospital which was pretty horrific too! Then trying to keep him cool after he was born was another nightmare. Def glad this baby will be a winter baby!

Agree on the inappropriate remarks about your preg being an accident, Loubie. I cant count the number of people who have said ALREADY! when we have told them we are preg again rather than congratulations like last time. Yes, already and we are really happy about it, we wanted our children to be close together! Pa!

Feeling more positive today. Tried all of my trousers and skirts and no pre preg clthes fit me so something must be growing in there!!

lol well can top you all was pg in that dreaded summer of 2003 as DS is oct 2003 and last summer..lol Glutton for punishment me

Hope everyont is ok...not a lot going on here..went shopping when the football was on but was still busy..littlies are ok but still cant find heartbeat with doppler which is now starting to scare me a bit but what can I do as if I tell mw she will just say I shouldnt be trying soo early..sigh

uh so know what you mean about inappropriate remarks

"Already, whoopsy"

grrrrrrrrrrrr piss off you moron

Lol, we have loads of remarks especially like 'What AGAIN!?!' And I am very quick to say things like 'Yes and we have THREE Telly's in our house!'

ROFL magnolia

Loving weather, sorry. Have moaned on here before about feeling cold ever since I found out I was pg, and so glad to see the sun.

Over the last week have suddenly developed a definite bump. People will start guessing soon - already under suspicion for ignoring free booze at work summer party. Scan on Wednesday, so I guess I can make it public after that.

morning all...well I am 12weeks today although still not feeling any more relieved..sigh.

I keep getting comments about having 3 soo close in age ranging from the not too bad "are you mad"
to the
"I guess you dont have a tv in your house then"
Also the " guess that was a hugeeeeeeeeee mistake then" people are so bloody rude it winds me up..we had talked about trying for no.3 yes it was quicker than we thought it would be but blinking heck what does it have to do with anyone else as we ask for nothing.

Grrrr....... people & their comments.... can sympathise with all of you on this one. What business it is of theirs how you plan (or not ) your family?! We had so much grief about dd being an only child that by the time we did change our minds & start thinking about having another one, we didn't tell any parents or so-called friends........still haven't told 'em yet either . After a couple of yrs of them going on about how dd would be so lonely growing up on her own, how cruel we were etc they finally left us alone. Took us quite a few yrs before we did start trying for no. 2.... and then it took us another 1.5 yrs to actually conceive! Unfortunately very few people seem to realise there is such a thing as secondary infertility . Still, we've finally done it so it's going to be a big shock when we let them know. Sorry, my rant over too!

Good grief, yes! I thought all the insenstitive, tactless, thoughtless and rude comments were bad enough last time I was pg, but it's worse this time and I've hardly told anyone yet! The worst is actually my mother who has made her disapproval at the small age gap perfectly clear and has basically told me I won't be able to cope. WTF?! There are 23 months between me and middle sis, and my mother already had 2 when I was born. If this baby is as slow as ds, there'll be 20 months between them. How much difference is 3 months going to make?! It's all very well - she thinks it's too soon, yada yada, she's made her feelings perfectly clear fromt he outset, but could she please stop going on about it, once was more than enough!

I think the worst comment of all was from my MIL (who I used to get on with great) on xmas day... she actually said to my daughter's face that "the reason mummy doesn't want any more babies is because you were such a whingy baby" . Ok, so she didn't know how badly I actually did want a second child & how hard it was trying to deal with secondary infertility, but to blame it on my little girl?!?! Grrrrr..... And poor dd1 had been asking & asking why she couldn't have a little brother or sister... and MIL made it seem like it was her fault

Sorry, still ranting! Here's to some happy posters on Monday morning!

Morning!

Never thought I would say this, but I am so happy to be at work. Air conditioning is going full blast, so I might never leave. Maybe I'll bring my sleeping bag in and spend the night....
Sorry to all of you who are suffering through the heat, it was 32 deg here yesterday and I spent the day feeling like a dehydrated slug.

People keep asking me if it was planned too because DP and I aren't married , what makes people think they have the right to ask that?
Glad the scan went well Becks109

hello all mums to be!

Been a busy time for me so havn't logged on for a little while. Have finally caught up on all the gossip! Am agreeing with everyone who is not loving our hot,hot summer! I am finding the lack of summer clothes a major issue. All my denim mini's and shorts are out the window now, and my vest tops are to clingy and small. I just want some lovely floatty skirts or dresses, but can I find any cheap enough and to fit me?!?!? I don't really want to spend much money cause it won't be worn in a few months time and hopefully not next summer either! Think I am gonna have to bite the bullet and spend a pounds on a bigger size, can't find any maternity summer wear anywhere!?! I just want a denim skirt at least, so then I can wear it in the winter to with tights and boots...Clothes were never an issue first time round as I worked full time and have to wear a uniform. Any ideas, advice anyone??? Gone past the waist extention stage!

Had my midwife booking in appointment this week and it is the same lady that I had 6 years ago with dd1, was very happy cause she is lovely. But..have been told that I have got to be under consultant care at the hospital due to the fact that I had advanced pre-eclampsia first time round and am at risk of having it again...boo hoo. Have managed to get a dating scan though, so thats good. I am hoping that the consultant will just give me some advice and refer me back into my midwife's care. Fingers crossed. Anyone else had pre-eclampsia?? What care/advice have you been given??

On a high note, my tierdness seems to be subsiding (actually managed to catch up on ALL my washing and ironing this morning!!) and the sickness doesn't seem to be as bad. Fingers crossed that I will start 'glowing' soon!

Jess
11+2

I want to glow

I still feel like crap

trinity
9+2

Hello all - have had no internet access for 2 weeks, it felt like my right arm had been cut off! There's a lot here to catch up on isn't there?

Really sorry to hear your sad news, indignatio.

Pleased to hear good news from other scans and reports of tiredness subsiding etc.

I had my dating / nuchal scan last week which put me at 12+4 (I thought I was 11+5). Nuchal measurement was 1.9mm and baby's length 63.5mm. Baby was very active and it took ages to get the measurements for the nuchal test done - which in a way was good as we got to look at her (got a feeling it's a girl, no idea why!) for about 15mins. Also, am convinced I can feel 'flutterings' already - is it my imagination or is it possible at this stage?

The odds for the nuchal scan based on age were 1:235, but this has gone up to 1:795 after the test. Scanographer and consultant seemed to think this was a good reult but I'm not sure now having read most people on here reporting results of 2000+ ???

Anyway, nothing else to report, just wishing the tiredness would go away. I don't suppose it's helped by the weather at the moment, but then again I'd be moaning if it was raining - some people are never happy

Afternoon all. For some reason I'm feeling a bit better today. I'm sure it's only temporary!!... I'm going to try and wade through my enormous pile of ironing while I can! It's much cooler here today, overcast, which is better for getting ds to sleep. So I shall watch Andy Murray and iron the afternoon away, wow my life is soooo fun-filled I'm still losing weight, but I'm going to have to start wearing fat trousers again as my stomach is so bloated. People at work keep asking me what diet I'm on; I'd love to tell them

well...I can say I'm finally glowing

However it's because I'm radiating so much heat that I'm glowing red...a little like this ---->...atm I'm sitting at the PC with my feet in a bowl of cold water.

I raelly bloody hate this weather

I agree LTH, it's way too bloody hot to be pregnant, even only 11+ weeks! Like someone else mentioned (sorry, I can't remember who and I'm too hot and bothered to scroll back!) thank god for air conditioning at work! DH keeps wanting me to have time off work as I'm so tired and run down but I'd rather be there nice and cool than mooching round a sweltering house any day! And he'd still expect me to have all the house work done and tea cooked when he got home so no thanks!

One thing he's agreed though is that we can have an ironing lady She's marvellous, she came for the first time last week (although there was so much for her to take she asked if we minded if she took 2 days doing it rather than 1!!)

Has anyone else started feeling flutterings down below?? I'm sure I can feel something every now and then, but it's surely way too early for it to be the baby moving? I'm 11+2 now, but I've definitely been feeling something, and it's too low down for wind I think....

Anyway, I'm off to put my feet up - DH has taken the kids to a cricket match (I went one week and nearly dies of a combination of boredom and hayfever, never again!)

Loubie xx
11+2 (scan on Thursday, getting dead nervous now....)

Loving the aircon at work too.... wish we could have it at home!

Hattie2, we must be similar ages (nearly 35 here) as my starting odds for downs were nearly the same as yours. After the nuchal, mine were adjusted to 1:1200 ..... so a bit higher than yours, but nowhere near the 2000+ that others have been reporting. Your odds are still really good - my hospital would only offer further tests if results were 1:250 or below.

Loubie, I've also had flutterings for the last few days - very early as I'll only be 14 wks tomorrow, but definitely the first baby movements. I've also been having a few sharper pains as if baby has been sitting on a nerve or something. Can't wait till the proper kicks start

Jessdibbs, I had pre-clampsia 1st time round too and am also under the same consultant that I had 5 yrs ago. She didn't seem very positive that I wouldn't develop it this time round too. So will be monitored very closely from 28 wks. Last time I had to visit the maternity daycentre 3+ times per week from 28 wks... got to hear the heartbeat everytime plus got a few extra scans. But hoping I'll need less appointments this time round, especially as my job now is a long distance from the hospital. When do you have to go back to see the consultant?

Hope all bumps are doing well - thank goodness for elasticated floaty skirts..... nice & comfy in this heat

Ok, Ok, can all the people at work who have air conditioning please stop rubbing it in for us at home who only have a pathetic fan, sweltering at home!!! HOT HOT HOT!! Thank goodness that we are only afew months gone!

Tummy feels enormous. I had forgoten how horrible this stage is for clothes as you are still at the stage where you might just look fat. I have one skirt I can wear in this weather so it better change soon or I will be pretty stinky!

Have told afew more friends now and they have mostly been really positive so it has made me feel better after all the 'was it an accident' coments. Begining to seem more real noe and I thought I felt flutterings too but assumed it was too early. Maybe not!!

Hattie - glad scan went well.

By the way - does everyone know about the stats thread. I dont know how to put a link on my message and too hot to work it out! LTH think you did it last time - help!

Loubie and saltcod - I'm defintely feeling movements of some sort. Maybe it's not all in my head if you are as well

\link{http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=2290&threadid=179648&stamp=060609084153|The stat thread for you, Dragonhart}

actually....it's here

morning all!

Saltcod- My next appointment will be after my 20 week scan, then they are going to decide how to monitor me from there. They never mentioned the odds of me getting it second time round, just said it was routine practise to monitor?!?! I so hope that it doesn't happen again, I ended up in hospital for 2 weeks at 34 weeks and had an emergency induction at 38 weeks after having to visit the hospital everyday for bloodpressure and bloodtests. My bloods changed which meant it had advanced to attacking my liver and kidneys. It was scarey and stressful and the last thing dh needs is looking after dd1 and having time off work (he's self employed, so doesn't earn if he's not working!). Am going to try and stay calm though..mw said that stress is a major factor in triggering it.. It's annoying because I am just worrying now. It's not as if you really feel ill either, so easy to over do it, it is so frustating. Fingers crossed for both of us, and anyone else in the same boat, that we do not have to experience it again.x.

Jess
11+3