October 2013 - Countdown to D-Day!

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Nat it seems very unlikely that they will have missed something as they did so many different scans with lots of people looking at it yesterday, and they will have checked all the brain structures at 20 weeks too, but I completely understand your worries.

Nat I'm a worrier too and would be feeling the same so I can see exactly where you are coming from. However as orange said it's extremely unlikely they would have missed something especially as they rescanned you
thinking there could possibly be an abnormality, so they would be looking at the brain in a very detailed way. Why don't you call your midwife or the hospital today and query the cord blood flow and see what they say? X

Welcome Kiwee

I hope you are feeling a little better today ana

ana I've hardly put on any weight too and started out a healthy weight. and nothing at all in the last 10 weeks, but im measuring bang on so mw says not to worry, baby will be getting what he needs. its hard though when you cant see them and know they're ok!! hope you're feeling bettet today x

Morning all

Nat as everyone has said it sounds like they were very thorough - and they won't 'punish' you for not having a c-section and let you go overdue if baby needs to come out. Some for you x

I know the ladies who haven't put on much weight are worrying, but am . I put on 2 stone with DS which I was ok with, and was hoping this one would be similar, but weighed myself yesterday morning and am at 2 stone already . Damn those Feasts and Magnums!

I got all confused with how long I have left when talking to someone yesterday, then when I thought about it realised its just over 7 weeks until I'm due. So exciting. I can't wait until we all start popping out our babies!!!

Nat - thinking of you, I can imagine its v scary. Can I ask why you know you'd say no to a c section? Surely if its safer, it would be better to have that than risk him getting stuck and (worst case, obviously) be starved of oxygen as a result? I would push to speak to someone if you want to discuss today. Usually a consultant will call you back if you call the booking desk and explain.

Hope you feel ok today, ana and that you get some more reassurance, natalie.

I'm still really up and down with my attitude/perception to weight and diet. I've had food and weight issues in the past and this is a challenging time. On Tuesday, I met someone who gushed about how healthy and glowing I looked, that my bump was perfect and I looked wonderfully pregnant and not at all fat. Then on Wednesday I met someone who "couldn't believe I was only 7 months" repeatedly asking to make sure there wasn't two in there .
I really am trying to brush it off and just be happy and healthy, but it is very hard.

I went to my first antenatal (nhs) class yesterday, and it was really useful. But everyone else brought their partners (it was 1-3pm) and felt we'd made a mistake not getting DH time off to be there. I felt very alone and quite scared by the enormity of labor. Also, I was the only one there not to have experienced braxton hicks or colostrum. The mw told me to start breast massage to encourage it. I couldn't help feeling like a bit of a failure all round, stupid I know, but I couldn't help it.

Anyway, I'm off for another long, slow walk with dog, not because I'm worried about weight gain, no not at all .

Morning ladies! ana I'm going to echo what everyone else has said, I have Crohn's disease so from day 1 was worried that baby wouldn't be getting enough nutrients from me as I don't always have the nutrients I need! However I have been scanned 4 weekly from 20weeks and although our baby is small in comparison to 'average' (I hate that, every woman and baby are different!) the weight gain has been steady and by full term we will have a safe weight baby if that makes sense! Babies are fantastic at taking what they need from you and I have also continued taking the pregnacare tablets throughout the pregnancy but not every day- maybe every other or two. Please don't beat yourself up, I hope you feel better today x
nat I completely understand your worries I'm a natural born worrier as my dad says and I too go into overdrive.. But again echoing what the other ladies have said they have been thorough and checked with scans to give you and themselves the best idea of what's going on, I hope that you can grab some you time to relax and that baby's growth evens out at the next scan so you can deliver how you would like too x

Welcome to kiwee and any other newbies I've missed! This thread moves fast!

I know we are all from different areas but just wondering if anyone on here is from Exeter? I have no one in my friendship circle who are mums or going to be mums so am feeling very cut off at the moment... Just wondered if any ladies are near and possibly feeling the same way we could arrange a meet up...?

haha bowlfull I dont thinl any of us can eve win wih how we feel about weight, we'll be worrying or feeling guilty no matter what!!
I've got 8 weeks left until due date and while im very happy that atm everything is in track for a natural birth I am secretly very jealous of people with cs dates, I wish I knew exactly when mine is coming! !

Morning all

nat how scary for you. At least you were able to get a specialist to do the scan though as they would pick more up than a normal sornographer would. Hopefully he will even out before birth. Have any of your other kids had big heads? Does seem strange but try not to worry, at least they will monitor you and there are no abnormalities or fluid.

lost yay on the house front. Stress isn't good in pregnancy! Hope you are getting settled ok

clap I feel your pain. I felt the same way in portugal in June so Greece in August must be ten times worse. It's so hard at this stage but at least you are getting quality time with ds and dp.

soup good luck with the scan. Hope your placenta is doing its job ok

welcome kiwi.

Another emotional one here. I am finding it really hard being away from ds these days and feel so guilty for working. I also had a small row with dh last night. It wasn't anything major but I ended up crying myself to sleep and crying the whole way into work and even crying at my desk...total overreaction but I just think I'm hormonal and feel like everything is on top of me at the moment. I don't work Friday's so at least today is my last day for this week. I am going to ask HR today to work from home 1 day per week for the last 4 weeks. I'm just done.

Anyway sorry to whinge...at least I know I'm not alone. Feel like I just want to go back to bed and cry/ sleep/ be alone in my own little hormonal world for a bit :)

I know how you all feel on the emotional / hormonal front. I am very weepy at the moment....

Shire - it gets better after the baby is here. I know exactly how you feel. I don't really talk about it in RL but I spent many years with bulimia then anorexia. I was hospitalised when I was 21 (finally!) and was only discharged from hospital monitoring / help when I was 25, so only 3 years before I had DD. I was "better" in that I didn't have an eating disorder anymore, but...

However, I can honestly say that DD arriving has been the magic cure. I really an totally, blissfully free if it all now. She was just so important, far more important than anything else had ever been, that the final lingering weight worries melted away. I gave myself 9 months before I even thought about my weight, and luckily for me, by that time I looked and felt good. Part of it is also that I never want DD to even come close to the way I wasted a decade of my life, so I am consciously positive about myself... And its habit in a way, so over time, I have actually come to feel positive, not just pay lip service...

Anyway, I know exactly how you feel... And it will get better.

Oh and Shire, I felt v focussed on weight when preg with DD, not helped by the fact that because of my history, I had to have blind weigh ins (ie I had to have back to scales and weight recorded in hospital notes but not mine) at every appt. And then I had all the "are you sure its not twins!" comments.... But as I said, it was much better once she arrived as she was so overwhelmingly the most important thing ever!

Natalie it must be very scary for you, and waiting to find out more must be very hard. FX all is well, and it just turns out to be an unneccessary worrying time. I think I get where you are coming from re the c section...... I would be scared of having one (to put it very mildly) and it would have to be laid on the line to me that this was absolutely what needed to happen for the baby's sake, before I would ever agree!!

Some of you ladies are very brave!

Sorry so many of you seem to be struggling atm..... I am actually feeling really well, apart from the odd bout of sciatica in the evenings.

Think I have pretty much everything we need for LO sorted now, just need to re arrange our bedroom this weekend to make room for it all, then I can wash it and put it all away ready

Morning ladies, hope those feeling rubbish have had a good night's sleep and have woken feeling a bit better. I don't think anyone can really know how we're feeling, even other pregnant women. Everyone is different. I personally am quite laid back about everything and try not to worry about weight gain. But I can understand those who do. You shouldnt let anyone make you feel bad. We're are all doing amazing things growing new humans :-)

good luck soup

Nat I think it sounds sensible to be prepared for your next appt. But hopefully you won't be using your hospital bag and he will have evened out so you can have your natural delivery. I understand where your concerns are regarding a c section. I would do everything to avoid it but definitely listen to your consultant.

Clapham yy to drinking plenty. Hope your dh is doing all the running about after ds :-D

lost congrants on the house. It's lovely when things fall into place.

Ana please ignore everyone's comments... no one is a perfect size for their weeks. I think people feel like they have to make a comment regardless of whether you wanted one of not. Glad you're being looked after by dh. I think he will secretly know your not deliberately being mean.

I am counting down the shifts here as I have 10 left, it's all starting to become as so real. I'm starting my mat leave at 36 weeks but have two weeks holiday to take so finishing at 34. I also have dd starting school full time on 9th Sept so wanted to make sure I was there to take her and pick up.

Can't remember who it was that said they felt guilty taking the time off before but if your body needs it then I would go for it. Could you take unpaid leave at the end to extend it?

I now have his moses basket so just some bedding/blankets/nappies and wipes to get and everything for my hospital bag. I know they're doing a collection at work so going to use it for something that I would see aS a treat And not a necessity if that makes sense. Maybe split between me and baby and get something nice to wear post baby or book a Post natal massage as I remember my lower back being quite sore after having dd.

Sleep hasn't been too bad for me until last fee nights. I went to the loo 5 times in 4 hours last night! On the plus side my hips aren't as painful as they have been.

Sorry for the mammoth post, I wrote one the other night and lost it and now there's more to catch up on

I'm feeling crap about my weight gain, i feel so ugly. I currently have gained just over 3 stone and have 9 weeks left. I'm so worried it'll never come off and I will look like this forever. I had weight issues too legally, probably not helped by the pressure of my job (working with all pretty thin girls) however in recent years i have also chilled out somewhat.

Welcome new ladies to a very chatty bus.

Nat I hope your next scan is better and clearer. Completely different but with DC1 I was told at 32 week scan that part of her measured 28 weeks and parts measured 36. Think they said she had big long arms and short legs and a tiny head think monkey baby but she was pretty in proportion by time 40 weeks came. Hope this us the same for you.

I had a mammoth 13 hour sleep last night and still feel rubbish this morning. Phoned in sick to work as have zero energy. My bump has dropped so at least I can breath, can't shake the feeling that something's not right but DH says I am being neurotic

Oh and Ana, I really feel for you too. Because of my history I get a bit paranoid now about not wanting to lose weight. Mainly because I fear that if I lost lots, I'd be tempted to artificially keep it off, but also because I am v aware now that my "natural" weight is slim already. My normal bmi is about 20/21 and slipping below 19 would be a danger zone for me in that I fear (prob unfounded now as I really am chilled about it all these days) it would be triggering (a bit like an alcoholic having a drink!). So I really worried when I lost over half a stone in the first trimester and have since been v careful to eat/drink properly.... Hope you're feeling better today.

I've put on around 2 stone most of which seems to be on my thighs which isn't great since I've been living in leggings that aren't too flattering at the best of times.
It's all Dp's fault he brings me bars of chocolate and desserts every day.
I'm really hoping that breast feeding and stress are enough to get the weight off.

I need to into town today shoe shopping in preperation for all the dc going back to school on Wednesday but my left hip has been really sore the past while so I'm dreading it.

legally I'm the same on the body front. I had bulimia for 10 years and am convinced that I struggled to conceive ds1 as a result. Having ds1 massively helped and in trying to conceive I learnt a new found respect for my body. I found letting go of a very regimented diet and exercise routine last time was tough but this time I have been far more relaxed. Being pregnant is great for being able to eat any food guilt free though :)

flyer I put on 4 stone with ds1 and 3 of those stone fell away within the first couple of weeks. The final stone required work that I never got the chance to do as got preggers again. I've put on less this time and although I'm looking forward to being fit again, I think I'd be happy being a bit heavier than before at least for a while. Be kind to your body after all it has done.

Having said that my thighs disgust me at the minute :)

One thing that surprised me with ds1 is that after all the fluid lost and baby, I still had a bump that looked about 7 months pregnant for a few days after the birth. I remember my fil saying "I thought you'd had the baby.." (slap) but rest assured it does go down in it's own time and I was glad to see Kate Middleton still had hers when leaving hospital.

In other news, my parents have offered to buy the pram! Woo hoo. Feel bad as they bought the first pram too (Bugaboo camelion) which wasn't cheap and just over a year later they have offered to buy the Donkey. Feel bad that I've picked one of the most expensive prams but also delighted as we don't really have the money for it :)

Jelly - at monkey baby!

Warlin you are very lucky - I will count myself lucky if I get a couple of babygrows from my parents .

It's very brave of your ladies sharing your experiences with weight and eating disorders, and it's lovely to hear how having your babies has helped with them. Flyer, please don't worry about the weight gain. I may have put on a stone less, but was overweight to start with so at 5ft 3 and weighing in at a hefty 13.5 stone I look like a fricking weeble!

I do think that so many of us get stupid comments from people about 'are you sure it's not twins', 'gosh you are big for xx weeks' simply because the birth rate is so low in UK, so people aren't really used to seeing pregnant women not because I look like a weeble

Agreed bowlfull! The day I had about 4 "sure its mot twins?" comments with DD, I had been referred for yet another growth scan for measuring 8 weeks too small!

haha warlin ive got the opposite problem, I was being dead good and picked the cheapest pram to save money and pils have offered to pay for it now and I wish I'd picked a more expensive one haha!!

Haha Roofio my parents offered to buy our buggy, I'd already agreed to buy my friends bugaboo, it was £300 so a bargain, my mum was chuffed it cost her so little! I went home last week and she has 2 big plastic storage boxes full of clothes, bibs, vests, socks and muslins. First grandchild so I thinks she's a little excited to say the least.

Yeah I got upset to dp last night about my weight and he was lovely and reassures me that growing a baby is hard work and it'll drop off after

Thanks, ladies

I had a little cry on my long walk, but have returned in a much better frame of mind. My issues have always revolved around control (you should see my old training diaries - reams of numbers; cals in/out, heart rate, distance, time, speed, elevation...you name it, I monitored it ) and, after Tuesday's walk, I had been contemplating getting out some of the old gadgets and 'just' setting myself the target of five miles a day...
I can see that that is not a path I should be taking again.

I need to take comfort in the fact, despite the physio's dire warnings, that I am still mobile and relatively pain-free at 30+ weeks. I need to embrace my bump, enjoy my food and gain a thicker skin when people feel the need to comment! I suspect this attitude will be a work in progress...

Try not to worry about the weight. If we're that bothered about it now we'll definitely be bothered enough when we've had the baby to get back into shape. Hopefully it should drop off at first to help us out a bit and taking the baby for some fresh air and a walk in the buggy is a good excuse to get a bit of exercise.

I've been eating possibly the worst diet of my life. All I want to eat is high energy crap, I've gone mental on Butterkist Sweet & Salty popcorn in the last week or so. Sigh. Oh, and all I want for meals is pizza and crumble and cream for pudding. I would have been staring at myself aghast a year ago if I saw how bad I was going to be eating. I used to be neurotic about making all my meals from scratch and not eating any crap.

I've put on 2 stone so far (29 weeks). To be honest I thought I'd have packed that on by 6 months so I'm quite pleased, let's see how the next 11 weeks pan out. I'll probably blow up like a blimp!

I feel like I should put a disclaimer that I've been from 16 stone to 10 stone and then up to about 13 stone in the two years before I got pregnant, so I'm really annoyed with myself for not eating healthier, but I guess we should just enjoy it while we can, only 2 months to go before we'll be back on the daily diet grind.