December 2013 - blue, pink, what do you think?

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Currently crying and eating a double decker because of our new sofa. Lovely thing was on sale from Laura Ashley ordered months ago. Turns up and won't go through our (perfectly normal) internal door frames. Possibility of levering the (stupid little plastic) feet off but then obviously no return. Delivery guy promised if DH ges home and we decide not to do that that we could return it.

Rang LA and told that is not the T&C. But they have agreed to take to back if we want but minus 25% and £60. Which is fair enough as that is their T&C. Delivery men must not be believed. So it's either lose £400 or risk hacking legs off, and if all else fails removing sodding door frame.

Grrrrr.

Nice to see everyone getting their mat leave dates through, got my last working day as November 3rd, got three weeks annual leave with mat leave starting officially on November 22nd.

Had a bit of a strange morning, I'm afraid I've been involved in an incident of dogmestic violence! I let my Mum's Staffy sleep in the bed with me this morning and when I woke up she got a wee bit overexcited and head butted me in the face, so I'm now sporting quite a nasty shiner!

Six months pregnant with a black eye; not one of my best looks

Ccsays... Poor u! That's did make me lol abit sorry! ..

Doesn't anyone else find the question 'are u going to breastfeed?' a personal question? I don't know why but I really do... Its like wtf has it got to do with you. Lol...

She the followed it with why can't ur partner get up in the night and stick a bottle in it mouth!? (charming) I said to her he will be working all day and needs a good night's sleep I don't mind doing nights feeds.. We agreed I'd do it in the week and he will do it at weekends.. Its called team work.

Moody mare lol... So get to work to find I'm on my own.And they've changed my shift tomorrow without asking me..

And being on my own I'm having to lift things and even just lifting jugs of water i can feel it pulling on my tummy... I really can't hack another 5 weeks of being treated like crap. Just don't know what to do... I'm thinking of going off sick but then it's the money worries... I've just really had it. :(

lady that's rubbish about your sofa- do you know if you definitely want to keep it? Then taking the feet off it could be a good option?

To those of you with nightmares- I had them in my last pregnancies (not this one...yet) I think they're just anxiety dreams and completely normal- not that that helps much when you're in terror each night! Maybe a bit of relaxation before bed will help? Or talking to someone if you have any specific fears?

And to whoever said they would not want to be stuck on a bed being monitored during labour- I so agree! For you first timers out there if there's one thing that increases the pain it's being stuck on your back on a bed! I will also fight to be upright/standing/on all fours so my labour is hopefully less painful and quicker.

And on the topic of getting ready for baby's arrival, we're now putting loft conversion on hold (well saving up) omg its so expensive!! So now the room that is the office will be baby's room. But we need to think of a solution for storing/putting household paperwork somewhere?!! Argh!

hello ladies, this is cryings DP here. she is having to stay another day or two in hospital as they're worried about bp and swelling and headaches she's getting now. my question is this, if it was you in there what could your partner do, say, or bring that would help? I'm worried sick but I just want to put her at ease. any suggestions?

Omg I'm such a stupid cow. Left some meat in the car all day...left a bag from food shopping in the car and didnt realise till now. What a waste!!!....I'm doing such forgetful stupid stuff ATM...

hi crying dp. Hope you are ok. And Try not to worry she is in the best place...

If I was there I'd make sure I'd have my phone charger...Lots of chocolate.. Magazines... Pack some toiletries and wet wipes.. Nothing like having a cool wet wipe to wash your face with in a stuffy hospital..

I'm not very good at this stuff... But as long as you are there to support her and give her a hug when she need one.. .. Try and keep both yyour spirits up..

Thinking of you xx

cryingsDP definitely bring her some home comforts, even if its just something as simple as fave PJs. Rub her feet & bottom of her legs to try and get some fluid moving around and make sure she's got those feet propped up on a couple of pillows! As stom says she is in the right place and they can keep a close eye on her. Make sure she's got the basics - shampoo, deoderant, toothbrush, hairbrush etc so she doesn't feel grubby on top of everything else. Then just keep doing what you're doing by just being there for her. Send her all our love & best wishes and fingers crossed she's out soon xx

Sorry must have posted at same time- crying dp as stom suggested. Hope she's ok and try not to worry- she's in expert hands.

Thanks ladies. Visiting isn't untill 8pm so I'm sitting here wondering what to do with myself. It's difficult because there is nothing I can do to make her better. I just have to watch her being terrified. I'll pop to tescos on the way to the hospital and grab wet wipes and chocolate. Taking her her teddy panda bear she always sleeps with as I know she hates hospitals. I'll let her know you lot are thinking of her.

Ooh and maybe take her pillow.. Nothing beats your own pillow...

Your doing a fab job! Keep smiling xx :)

Ooh a pillow sounds like a great idea. I'll charge my ipad for her and make sure there are some films on it too. You're allowed ipads in hospitals right?

Crying's Dp - I would have thought so, maybe ask about whether you need to put it in flight mode while in there? I'd bring her some headphones too. Send her our thoughts and well wishes

I just rang the hospital to check the visiting times and asked about the ipad. It's fine just can't have wifi turned on apparently. She's doing okay according to the nurse, but is a bit quiet and upset.

Im sure she will be better when you arrive with your goodies for her...

Send her big hugs from all of us xx

crying dp very sweet of you to come on here and ask. send her our best wishes.
take her anything that will distract her so if trashy mags or things like sudoku are her thing then maybe that. films are a good idea.
and lots of snacks including things like fruit which I always crave in hospital as everything seems so stale and airless.

cryings dp hope she's ok, I think everyone said it all, I like my own snacks when in hospital too. Magazines and ipad are brill to have.

Tell her were thinking about her and hope she's ok

Xx

The sofa is in! I repeat the sofa is in! Feet removed and put back on (even though they aren't meant to come off) and literally not even a millimetre to spare.

Best line ever from DH:

'Well that's not the last thing that will have to squeeze through a small gap this year...'

Yay so glad you got it in lady! Now relaxx lol..

Haha i think dp may be right :)

Hi cryingdp - I thought your message was lovely and definitely a wonderfully kind thing.

I would bring ipod/music player/tablet/laptop with some music, books and films. Hospital can be loud places and some entertainment is always welcome. Some hospitals have a decent wi-fi connection which she can take advantage of!

A decent pillow that smells not of hospital is always nice.

And always, you doing all this, visiting and thinking of her is probably the nicest thing too!

Hurrah for sofa lady!

Sorry- maybe too late but for me would def be earplugs as a hospital essential..

Hope they let you out soon crying!

Very kind of you to pop in and keep us updated, Crying's DP! Hope she's feeling a bit better today and enjoyed the goodies you took to the hospital?

Fantastic news about the sofa too, Lady! Nothing worse than being robbed of the opportunity to start nesting at this stage!

And thanks very much for the kind words hetsto - Luckily I haven't had any cramps since that night but I did wake up from the most awful nightmare last night.
Typical, as I was reading everyone's posts about bad dreams yesterday and was thinking about how I hadn't had any in ages!
Woke up feeling absolutely terrified, my heart was pounding and poor little man must have been disturbed by the sudden peak in blood pressure as he was wriggling around all over the place. Feeling a bit weird today as I keep having really vivid flashbacks to things that happened in the nightmare

hi everyone. cryings DP here again. just wanted to say thanks for the advice. she has less swelling this morning and the headaches are not as bad. still got a bp that won't behave though. I took her everything you guys suggested plus a slice of cheesecake I saw in tescos. she loved it! anyway, thankyou all for the tips hope you're all doing well

Crying and Crying?s DP - so sorry to hear you?re still hauled up in the hospital, but as others have said, it?s so nice of you to come on here and update us and ask for tips on what to take into the hospital. Just being there and being supportive is the biggest and best thing you can do! I?ve got everything crossed that the temperamental blood pressure settles down soon, take care!

Excellent work on the sofa LadyMedea and I loved your DP?s comment! Your post made me laugh I?m afraid ccsays, hope the shiner is going down now though.

mumoftwoboysS, I?d really like to avoid constant monitoring during labour too if possible! I?ve been told I?ll probably have to have an epidural relatively early so that they can perform an emergency c-section if we get into difficulties though, so an active labour might be out of the question. ?That is if I?m allowed a vaginal birth at all. :( Having said all that, they were both head down at the last scan, so hopefully they?ll stay that way! Ah well, as long as they get my girls out safely I can probably put up with most things.

Itsliz, the nightmares must be catching! Sounds grim, try to focus on happy/busy things today to take your mind off it. Hope tonight is a better night?s sleep!