January 2014 (Thread 6) - The Lies and Truth of pregnancy..... Read on!!

[LittlePeaPod]

Lie = Your glowing vs Truth = Your sweating, freezing, puking and an emotional basket!

Lie = After the first trimester your ms will disappear vs The truth = It will be there in the second trimester and the third..... and probably after you give birth! Get used to it!

Lie = You don't look even look pregnant vs The truth = whatever, you look pregnant from space!

Lets see what we learn from the second trimester!

Hi everyone! Slowly catching up with all the news after being away for three weeks. Congratulations on all the scans! x

Congratulations on the scans! I think everyone has been moved forward so far haven't they ? I'm thinking they need to change the date measurements ha ha. We can't all be wrong!!

Yeah loads of us have mrsv & by almost a week in several cases!

Hi all, I also had wonderful scan today, both the sonographer and midwife really to their time with me, no rush with was lovely. I have also had dates changed to 16 Jan as am 12+6...can anyone tell me whether thate means i will be 13 weeks tomorrow or 12+7? Rosalux i think we are due date buddies. Blue...glad u are ok, very scary for you and horrid to be constantly one edge. Pod...what a disaster. If you can deal with all that whilst pg you can deal with anything!

stupid phone...apologies for the multiple errors

Horny, hot and horribly hormonal!!

Bit of a funky dream last night which involved an ex, whoops moving on

Horribly hormonal today. Have cried twice today, fully tears and snot. Had to call my aunt (mothers sister) and sob down the phone. My mother passed away some years again. She never saw me do so many things graduate university hugely unexpected, as i'm not an academic get married and have DD. Now we are having another major life changeling event and she's not here to experience it with us.
It makes me so sad. I'm a grown women, but I still need my mother. I felt like this with DD and I was fine, so I know I'll be ok once mini farmer arrives.

This is all due to my MIL being suitably unexcited about another grandchild (DH is an only child) so no other grandchildren arriving. When we told her at the weekend so just said,
'Oh but you'll come for Christmas, won't you?
'Well no, as I'll be 36wks and I won't be able to fly' - they live overseas.
Seriously who the fuck says 'Oh' when you tell them their will be a grandmother again.

This mad me so upset, esp as FIL parter, burst into tears and said it was the best news she's had in ages. Bloody families.

Anyway like I said....hormonal

So glad scans are going smoothly, 4 days till mine!

Forgotten what else has been said..need to re-read

Hi bluecarrot sounds like your bleeding was similar to mine. They couldn't see it on the ultrasound on the day it started but could 5 days later, apparently the old blood is easier to see.

Can I ask how long they have said for bed rest? They were a bit ambiguous when I left hospital and just said "take it as easy as possible". My midwife also asked if I was working (said no as SAHM). But I'm now concerned that I can't take things that easy with a 17 month old! On the other hand they seemed completely unphased at the latest scan so maybe it's not a big deal. Haven't had any more bleeding for a week now so I guess things are ok.

farmers sounds like my mil. When we told her we were pregnant with dd she said "what are you going to do about it?". She's slightly more enthused about this one (we are now married which I think has made the difference). But seriously, isn't the only acceptable response "congratulations"!!

Tarka and farmers- my MIL too. A week after telling her about DC3, she told DH she and FIL had needed a little while to have a think about whether this baby and the timing was a good idea. Like it's their business! Weeks later, I'm still ready to throttle her for that...!

I'm so grumpy at the mo- utterly wreaked and v grumpy w children and DH. Wondering how the hell I'll cope w 3 DC. Not helped by everyone I know agreeing that a third is madness. Thanks folks.

Evening all! Have been away for a week but see you've all been busy! Congrats to those of you who have had lovely scans, and lots of love to those of you having a worrying time.
Am still vomming most days and still on the meds (15 weeks now)... Really hope the glow starts soon. The pile of clothes that no longer fit is growing, although still just look fat. Parents are being very annoying, won't bore with the details- it sounds like other peoples parents and in laws are being equally frustrating! Still have lots of people to tell, and am crap at doing it and end up randomly blurting it out.
Hope everyone is doing ok... X

Hello hello!
Back from hols, just caught up with all the news - cannot remember a thing .
Hope everyone's well and happy and excited and looking forward to stuff.

I have to book my 16 week appointment at my GPs, since I will be 15 weeks on Friday - eek!

Holiday was good, but insanely hot (over 32 every day), and we did too much. I am def starting to show, but mainly my extra waist roll (above where bump could possibly be) is making me look v pg. It was lovely seeing DH's family and telling them though.
France, though. They don't really cater for pg women, do they? One menu was: Foie Gras a la maison, or goat's cheese, or salad with foie gras... I had to keep asking for well cooked duck (local speciality), and explaining that, no, I'm pregnant, not lacking in taste... FIL struggled to understand that Rocquefort (another local speciality) and rose wine were off the cards. He was v sweet about getting me water though.

Back to work tomorrow, and telling the boss soon - I think he might lose it. I hate him, though, so I don't care. We've gone through two members of staff since he got promoted, and with me leaving for good mat leave and the other member of staff (small business) leaving soon because we all hate the cuntpuffin, he will be up shit creek, where he belongs. Horrid, aren't I?

Totally with you all on clothes being too tight. Jeans are loose on thighs, but tight on belly. Gah. I ordered a whole stack from ASOS though, should be waiting for me at work!

Apparentlychilled- you are not alone with the judgemental comments in your expanding family. I am on dc3 and everyone is making comments like ' oh ur brave' 'wow how will you cope', including the stuck up judgmental (cuntpuffin) estate agent who showed round a house last week who took great pleasure in telling my husband and I how crazy we are and that she "just has the one" because that's enough.
And I've had 2 people say to me god you barely look old enough to have one , let alone 3. Some people are so rude .

Ps - but it IS madness haha

Tarka - my first bleed was 2 weeks ago today, second was on Monday late afternoon and then one starting early this am.

I was told after second bleed no sex or exercise for at least two weeks. Bedrest ( except washing and a few mins walk every hour or two) for at least a week.

Today he said all were at least two weeks.

I'd say for you, sit as much as you can, try not to lift your DC and don't feel guilty about a bit of extra tv for Dc either. Anyone else about to help you a few hours or day or anything?

Thanks blue

I did a week of pretty much bed rest and I'm sure I can manage no sex or exercise for another week!

I'm I the only one being celibate? I just don't fancy it and also don't want to risk anything happening. I know they say its ok but I'm not sure. I might feel differently later on but my dh is expecting no sex until after baby is here!

We did it once and two days later i had a massive bleed so I'll admit I'm a bit reluctant. The first few weeks of pregnancy we were recovering from ttc , then I got "evening sickness".

We're still doing it now I feel better. There's no reason not to (unless you've been medically advised not to, obviously!).

mrsv did it once the other day as suddenly horny, but afterwards I got horrendously paranoid and couldnt stop crying, so dont think will be doing it again.... Its definitely a personal choice, unless been medically advised not to. Its toi bloody hot to do anything at the moment anyway!

We did it once but I had a bleed and the mw said probably best to abstain for a bit. Also I agree with sultanajo in this heat, I can't stand being hugged let alone shagged.

I am so pissed off this morning. There is yet another festival in the village, (this time the ulster-scots dalriada) and for the last week there have been overzealous villagers/the council up at 7 tarting the place up loudly. Quite likely, there'll be something for the 12th on tomorrow, the festival for the Ulster scots this weekend and a village fair for which the whole street has been closed on Monday. That's my peace and quiet shot to hell for the next few days.

Well they couldn't do the CVS again yesterday, so now I must wait for an amniocentesis on Tuesday. Must admit to getting thoroughly fed up with it all, all the joy has just gone out of this pregnancy. To top it off my retching is getting worse, even taking my meds and looking at my toothbrush in the morning sets me off. And don't even mention the puppy's poop! Thankfully he usually only goes in the garden, so I don't have to look like a complete idiot!

Sorry to hear some of you ladies are having troublesome bleeding, that must be really worrying.

Nearly the weekend!

Hi all, sorry I've been AWOL. We're supposed to be going on holiday tomorrow but DH is suicidal (literally, he's been mentally ill for a long time and it's gotten really bad) so don't know what's happening. I feel like it's my fault I can't help and he's just so sad

extra that sounds awful. I'm sure it's not your fault. I'm not too sure what to say

What are his MH team doing, extra?

extra it's not your fault at all. My DP suffers from depression (has done since he was a teenager) and when they are on a down swing very little can bring them out of it. Have you got family around? Or a gp that's familiar with his history?

keskiviiko I'd plan something nice for the weekend and do some online window shopping for the little one in the meantime.

Hope my story of complete absent mindedness will cheer you up.
I lost my kindle and I've been having a massive tidy and clear out of the house. I thought I had binned it, put it in a 'for charity' bag or put in the washing machine by mistake. I can't imagine how I looked to the neighbours rooting through the recycling. It turned up on my DSs bookshelf - turned out he had thoughtfully tidied it away for me. Also realised I had treated myself to a new handbag online, to collect in store and had forgotten to pick it up. Luckily they'll keep it for me but I was in tears at the thought I had finally gotten myself something lovely and I had let it slip away from me through sheer stupidity! DS and DP are giving me a wide berth atm.