October 2013 - Who is the least prepared?

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just made it in time for last post on old thread... i hope

I think I'm just going to have to sit down with my boss and tell him how I feel. The guy employed is completely the right person for the job, but the higher salary? It's a slap in the face. I think I'll question what responsibilities he'll have and if they differ from my own (although i know the answer!) and take the discussion from there. I do work in what is one of the most sexist industries so I'm not massively surprised they're paying a man more, but I thought better of my boss. He's in London tomorrow though so won't get a chance to discuss it until later this week.

Bloody hell ladies, a new thread and 149 messages, took me some reading all that but I think I'm all caught up now, exhausted!

roofio glad your feeling a little better. Everyone runs their family differently and what some people see as a must in a relationship, others dont. DH and I are completely separate too. A joint account would cause a lot of problems in this house! Its just what works for us. We dont have to justify any spending to each other. (I like spending ) Things are going to have to alter slightly once I'm on maternity as I wont be able to contribute what I do atm but fortunately my money doesnt drop too significantly as I only work PT anyway.

Umlauf so pleased you got your new flat sorted. Sounds like a massive load off your mind and you can start to relax now into the last trimester.

feminist I second the idea of putting moses basket in the cot. We did this with dd to get her used to her room before we moved her in there and she still had gthe comfort of her familiar bed. Other option is to wait to put the cot up until you need it?

Falcon Please dont let the programme upset you. You absolutely must put your mental health first. Dont know if its similar but my mum was concerned about me taking the anti sickness meds as I took them in my last pregnancy which sadly ended. I told her outright that without them I would probably die from dehydration so I firmly believe its just a risk you absolutely must take. I think theres a thread on here about taking anti d's whilst pregnant.

so pleased you are reassured natalie

Had another manic weekend with MIL here. That plus last weekend Im really feeling it. Also saturday I was really strggling with my back and right hip. It seemed to ''go'' at work and I ended up on a till for last two hours as I could barely walk. I had yesterday and today off but as we had more busy days I've barely rested so only really got tomorrow to do that before I'm back in work. Baby also seems to love beating me up from inside. He has stopped kicking and it feels like he's pushing to get out, very uncomfortable. I feel awful that I should be enjoying feeling him move but as he is on the go constantly I find it irritating and uncomfortable. How terrible does that sound. I didnt enjoy being pregnant with dd either and told myself that I would with this one as we were trying to get pg this time so it's what I wanted. (sorry natalie)

Having an early night tonight. Getting quite grumpy with the lack of sleep, rushing about and with dd also running a temperature on and off since last night a whiny 4yo is not helping!

Sorry for the essay, I think I should keep up better next time!

MrsO (I knew I missed something I wanted to contribute on) I think you should absolutely sit down with your boss and ask questions. It seems extremely unfair that your replacement should earn more. Are you returning to work? If so, then maybe you should state that you expect that salary when you do! I hope it goes well and you get some answers (and a pay rise!)

Oh god, that sounded like I didnt want dd, I absolutely did but she was more of a surprise baby then a planned one!

Hooray that your little boy finally gave you some lovely wiggles.
That sounds a bit off MrsO. What do you do?
Falcon you are doing what your doctors advise, that has to be what is best for your situation.
Congrats umlauf you must be very relieved.

Sorry MrsO, i meant a bit off that he should be paid more, not that you are going to speak to him! Cross post!
Are you in a job with a pay scale based on experience? Or is it all your boss' decision?

Hayle sometimes I find it uncomfortable and irritating too when it is constant churning, though most of the time very happy to see and feel evidence my little one is living around nicely in there.

Thanks Hayle and Caz I think I will keep the Moses basket in the cot at night and put it on a stand in the front room during the day. Don't think I could cope with not putting it up until after baby is born, way too excited!

Clapham I used to love the backstreet boys. I was hunting through all my CDs in the car earlier but I must have thrown their greatest hits cd away...favourite song "the shape of my heart"

Yep, it sucks, although I'm going to request that I'm paid more now though, not when I come back. Job titles mean nothing at my work but im supposed to be a manager and this guy "an advisor". It just doesn't make sense. He starts next Monday as my boss wanted plenty of time to do a proper handover and get him up to speed. No pay scales unfortunately - that would be too transparent and too much in the spirit of equality! Will keep you all posted. I really hope all the little girls that some of us are carrying don't have to put up with this crap when they're older.

MrsO27 you go girl! You are right about everything you said and I hope your company quickly remedies the situation by paying you what you deserve.

And I just bought reusable nappies! I used an ocado voucher to buy a pack of gnappies. It feels a bit silly to buy just a box of nappies but we've done our weekly shop and the nappies are worth enough money.

#Quit playing games with my heart ##I was singing it to ds1 other day. I LOVED BSB!
Going to be singing it all night now

Smitten. Don't panic about space. See my before pic of nursery on FB! Have you thought about where buggy will go on day to day basis? I car boot maybe?
Also we used our buggy carry cot as our Moses basket. Money/space saving tip for you.
Our baby clothes seemed to take over the place until I had a proper sort out.
I boxed up clothes in size order (don't just look at label! I had a 12-18 grow that was was sized wrong and fit him at 6-9!) you can then stack these boxes under the cot?
In each draw now I have boxes. One for baby grows. One for vests, then muslins. Makes it easy for DH to find stuff!

It's taken me months of trial and error to find best way for me. So don't worry.

Also if lo is going to be in your room and you have little storage space. Get a shoe rack from ikea it hands in your cupboard. So you end up with some shelves. I had sections for baby grows. Vests. Cardigans. Muslins. Bed sheets. Blankets and mittens.
I think this is ideal if you have hanging space as baby clothes are fiddly to put away. I'll put images on FB tomorrow. And I'll go find a ikea show rack image online.

www.thisnext.com/item/9BE70312/IKEA-Clothes-shoes-organizers

I know I come across really "I did this, and I did that" advice giving type person. But I just feel like I'd always ask ppl (granted in RL) their advice and experience and they were reluctant to give ideas. So now feel like I want to share everything just in case it helps someone.

##before you tear us apart##i should have known from the start###

Just been listening to everybody on YouTube, backstreets back alright. Classic tune reminds me of my early 20's

Argggh! Pregnancy insomnia strikes again!

Went to bed at 9.30 because I was so tired and still awake! At least it's given me a chance to catch up on the thread. :)

I haven't bought anything for this baby yet, though I have a car seat, moses basket and cot from my other 2, though I'll need to get new matresses at some point. Could also do with a new pram. I got a Mama & Papas pilko pramette thing which is actually still going strong after 6 years of heavy use, but it starting to look a bit battered. Actually I also have a double 3 wheeler thing, which would be perfectly usable, though the baby is facing away from you. It didn't really matter before when there was a toddler sitting on top and you couldn't really see them anyway, but think I might be able to spend more time looking at this one!

Does anyone have tips about slings? I have a baby bjorn, but was wondering about getting a fabric one.

The baby has been really active tonight and keeps kicking my bladder, which is part of the reason I can't sleep.

Anyway I'll stop rambling to myself...

Hope everyone is sleeping well and enjoying their exciting dreams (you know who you are )

I've had wakes weeks of sleeping like a well behaved baby and the last few nights I've woken up like 5+x for a wee- rediculous!

I'm a bit like u in that sense haylebop I hated my pregnancy with dd and promised myself id enjoy this pregnancy more which to be fair I haven't moaned as much as last time lol mainly cos I haven't been in as much pain

We need to sort out space too for all our baby stuff ATM it is literally all crammed in a toddler sized wardrobe

Can't remember who was having problems with pay at work but I hope you manage to sort it!

You guys are making me feel old - BSB were waaaaay after my time... it was all about Kylie and Jason in my day

MrsO good luck with sorting out pay, seems ridiculous if he is being brought in to do the same work (or less) than you. Wonder how your boss could even attempt to justify that.

Been at the hospital for the last hour and a half, had reduced movements since yesterday afternoon and woke up at 5am in a massive panic. Typically baby has kicked more since I've been here than it had in the previous 24hrs. Heartbeat is fine, but I have white blood cells in my urine so they sent it off for tests as it could be a sign of infection. Not sure why I'm still waiting here, heard some screaming ladies down the hall... For once I actually wish I was at work! I'm so glad I came in though, feel much better. Was a bit of a wreck this morning, didn't help that DP is in East Sussex camping. He called at 6 when my alarm usually goes off and I could hardly speak. Oh well, think panic is over now- naughty baby!

just checking in. so glad naughty babies are both fine natalie and feminist
and mrso thats awful about work. Let us know how you get on.
My DH has had a similar situation at work recently (not in relation to sexism) but he was at risk of being made redundant and had to apply for his own job along with everyone else at risk and someone else has been given it and been offered more money! Wouldnt be so bad if they werent demanding that DH stay in the role until the new person can start in August. Thankfully he has been offered another job but hes really hurt by it and am struggling to know what to say. My only experience of work, is in the NHS and waitressing nothing like the cutthroat world that business and banks seem to be

forgot to say Congratulations to umlauf so glad youve got somewhere sorted to live and are feeling so positive. Now you can look forward to the joys of moving

Another rainy day here so looks like a soft play day for me and the youngest. I get so bored sitting there while dd is off playing that I end up just ordering stuff from the cafe and stuffing my face the whole time.

I'm not sure what to do about storage either. Baby will be sharing with youngest dd at some point but her room is quite small. I'm wondering if I can fit a chest of drawers I to the built in wardrobe. The cot bed we've ordered has a drawer underneath but that won't hold much.

Is anyone else experiencing kicks so low that they feel like they're right in the cervix. It's the weirdest feeing.

MoN how old is youngest dd? Cos I was considering a mid sleeper type bed for my dd so her chest of drawers etc could go underneath it as opposed to next to her normal bed Etc so that creates more room? Trouble is dd will only be turning 3 and bump is due and I think she's possibly a bit young so I'm gunna hold off until space becomes a major issue x

So glad your feeling re assured feminist its horrible when babies deviate for the usual isn't it! Other than the few kicks I had yesterday evening this baby still isn't really moving but I'm gunna give it a few more days as he's obviously just laying in a position that doesn't allow me to really feel anything x

"Is anyone else experiencing kicks so low that they feel like they're right in the cervix. It's the weirdest feeing."

Yes I am! Very strange indeed.

My pelvis was sore again last night after teaching dogs so I think I might have to stop soon :(
It wasnt helped by laying/sleeping on ds's floor for 2 hours between 2 and 4

I really liked those 6 nights of sleeping through that he gave us, they seem to be gone now :(

She'll be 5 at the end of October. That does sound like a good idea. They can be quite expensive though. I think I'll have a look and talk Dp into it when he gets home.

Who mentioned kylie and Jason? That's too spooky, was reading yesterday that it would have been Scott and Charlene's silver wedding anniversary this week. WTF! How old does that make u feel now (anyone too young to remember who they are, please keep quiet )?
Thanks for the support ladies. Just spoke to my boss on the phone, couldn't discuss specifics with him as am in an open plan office but have said I need to speak to him 'one to one' this week about the new appointment. I think he knows I'm not happy!

MoN we bought dd a cabin bed from ikea. It's blue and wood coloured but we painted the blue bits red and the wood gloss white. Loads of storage space underneath and quite a reasonably priced bef