January 2014 - thread 5 - getting excited as we all start getting 12 week scans and move into our second trimester....

[LittlePeaPod]

Here we go again....

Vatta thanks.. Starting to worry about tht now.... When will the worrying end...

Good luck to everyone with any today and hope those with sickness have minimal bouts of it today!

Those with spotting just keep an eye on it and def call if u are worried.

Why am I prodding my boobs so much today. Why are less sore and less hard lumpy boobs a sign for me to become a loon and randomly prod them at my desk. Roll on 1st July to get out of this 1st trimester madness! And onto trimester 2 madness lol.

Why do I have this inability to write the word scan properly in any of my posts. This time I just missed out the word completely. Good luck again to those with SCANS!

I suspect we'll be worrying every single day until we have our babies to be honest! I've had anxiety problems in the past so am really trying to stay calm but it's easier said than done.

Vatta, you're probably right... Every time I have a good scan and get a bit comfy it takes me less than a week to start stressing again. Tsch.

Good luck with booking in today humpty, hope you have a lovely midwife!
sultana I am 12 noon on fri. You? Counting down the hours. Although I'm kind of convinced something is going to go wrong at some point. If all ok at scan then I will either develop some horrible preggo condition, or have a terrible labour, or something will be wrong at birth. It's not so much that I'm worrying all the time, just that I'm resigned to not being so lucky that everything will go ok. But I think old age has given me a comfortable resignation that whatever shit life throws at me, I will get through it! Girl power lives on !
Have a good day all x

I hate to tell you, but the worrying doesn't end! My youngest child is 12 and I still worry.

MrsAVB mine is at 9.45am. You sound like me! A couple of my friends have had a really easy time of it and I said to DH "that won't be us - can't see me being that lucky to have a 5 hour labour that just slides out...." If I do it will just be a nice surprise, but if I don't I have prepared myself....

Extra I am the same - I get comfy for about a day after a scan then the worrying starts again!

Pod the measurement is the fluid at the back of the neck. They then combine this with the blood results and your age etc. and you then get your risk result....

Toby yes, the fact that I will never stop worrying about it from this moment on also worries me! . No wonder the grey hairs are coming through thick and fast!!!

Good luck to everyonen with appointments comeing up, and fantastic news about scans! My 12 week (where by my calculations I'll be 13) is on 2nd July, I've never wanted time to pass so quickly!!

Me and the oh had a terrible row last night, in which he has accused me of all manner of things, and said that he hopes the baby isn't his. A fantastic start I must say.

Sarah. Are you ok? What a cock!

Thanks Sultanajo and yes ladies you are right... The worrying is never going to end now.... Ha ha

SarahJayne. I am shocked and applaud that your OH would think that never mind say it. What on gods earth would make him say that? What a nasty twat! How are you? I would be so hurt! and hugs...

So I bought my first baby book as recommended by my SIL who used the tips with her first... It's called 'The New Contented Little Baby Book' by Gina Ford......

I don't think we're allowed to mention GF on Mumsnet pod

Sarah what an arse! has he been like that previously or is he freaking out about the baby (not that that is an excuse).

Enjoying really... Why? Is she hated on MN? Ooopppss

Pod - GF book, just be careful... There's useful stuff you can take from it, but for most people (and their babies) sticking properly to her insane rigid schedules is a recipe for misery or PND! That said, broader points are sensible

Thanks so much everyone. I'm not ok in the slightest but there's not much I can do. It's all just so childish, especially when I'd never do anything of the sort and he knows that. And you're right, he is 100% twat, amongst other things!

I don't think it's that he's freaking out, hes just took a tiny argument and completely blown it out of proportion, and started saying things like that.

(The woman is a lunatic who's never had her own children so to be taken with a pinch of salt!)

Oh Sarah, cross posts - hope he comes home very apologetic and all is sorted xxx

Omg and my post in brackets refers to GF, not you!!! Haha

I just googled GF vs MN and read about the lawsuit. Doesn't surprise me as MN can get heated. I must say my SIL stuck to her advice in the book and her little boy who is now three is perfectly well adjusted, loving and has a very close relationship with both his parents... And SIL didnt have PND or get depressed. She swears buy it and is using it with the second baby. I guess it's one of those each to their own situations... Take what you want out of it and leave what you don't want.

Anyone on the hated MN black ball list that I should be aware of?

Sarah, that doesn't sound good. If he's saying things specifically designed to hurt you, he doesn't sound like a very nice person in general.

I didn't think you meant me Extra although it wouldn't be the first time someone called me a lunatic. . Ha ha ha

I am nt surprised you are nt alright SarahJayne. The is no excuse for that kind of hurtful behaviour...

I think GF is like any parenting method - it will work for some and not others, depending on the personality of the mother and (this is important) the baby. Like extra says, it can lead to feelings of failure when a baby doesn't take to a particular routine or method, but in reality it's just because it doesn't suit them.

Buckets of salt needed! I feel the same way about strict BLW, strict puree weaning, strict attachment parenting etc etc etc. Go with the flow is the best advice, but would make for a very short and vague book.

That's really sensible Enjoying, do what's right for you and baby... What does BLW stand for? That's a new one for me...