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December 2013 - part 3

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Holly1977 · 05/06/2013 14:06

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1740732-December-2013-part-2

Starting yet another thread as us chatterboxes have filled up 2 already!

Jucy, I'm so sorry to hear your news. Big hugs, wish there was something more I could say. Flowers

Frouby, if you're feeling crap just fuck the housework off, I do! It'll keep.

I'm scared and excited in equal measures about the scan on Friday. Looking forward to seeing bean and being able to get on with things. But obviously scared of getting bad news like Jucy... 2 days, 1 hour and 50 minutes to go!

My friend has offered to be a birthing partner too. I may well take her up on it, I suspect she'll be more help than OH. And as I'm planning on having a home water birth and OH has already invited his bloody mum (!) think it'll be good to have a friend there. I'm not private at all, have zero issues with people seeing me naked (as my neighbours will tell you) and she's seen me throw up enough times from our party days (though never shit myself to be fair) that I'm not too fussed about that.

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NomDeClavier · 14/06/2013 12:36

Hope scans all go well today. I can't believe some of you are up to 16/17 weeks. That seems aaaages away. And reminds me I need to sort out MW appointments.

Mine was fine yesterday except they couldn't get the NT measurement so I have to go back Tuesday again. 2nd trimester scan is August 12 and pud had better behave because it's sandwiched on the one day we're here between visiting PILs and my parents! Still have 24/12 as the EDD...

For those stressing about no weight gain I have none either. With DS I didn't gain until 24 weeks, he was 8lb4 so not small by any measure! I know I'm not going to put any thing on my boobs cos I'm still BFing DS and the blood volume and tiny amount that is baby is probably offset by the fact I've not really wanted to eat half the time.

Roselau · 14/06/2013 13:04

Hi all! thanks for all the well wishes. the scan went really well. they actually just made me wait an hour and got me all the results of the tests / downs etc with the blood test results. all of it came out very good so we wont be going for further investigations.

baby was swimming around happily and technician was getting annoyed because she couldn't get it to stop moving. it was so cute.

we are over the moon and finally can tell all our friends. it is such a good feeling. i hope all of you still waiting on the scan get the same experience

doctor didn't seem worried that i have not yet gained weight. so i treated myself to another croissant and stopped worrying about it for the moment :)

xoxo

MrsShrubs · 14/06/2013 13:08

I was going to wait until buying things too Gannetgob but after the scan last week I got excited and bought 4 onsies! The MIL has been buying things in for the last month, everytime I see her she has bought something else - abc blocks (already!) a teething rattle, sleeper suits, shampoos, travel cot! It's safe to say as it's the first grandchild she has gotten a tad carried away. I might have to try and reign her in at some point though as there are things we'd quite like to pick out ourselves. Anyone elses in laws or parents this way too?

Hope everyone's scans go well today.

Roselau · 14/06/2013 13:21

mrsshrubs
my mil bought kiddie boots 2 years ago as my wedding shower present........ so she's been already buying stuff for the last 2 years (pressure, much?), and now that she knows i'm preggers, she's gone completely nuts

MrsShrubs · 14/06/2013 13:31

Glad it's not just mine then Roselau, I think yours is probably worse if it's been going on for 2 years! I get on with her really well and she's lovely but I think the excitement has most definitely gone to her head, which I can understand but I hope she doesn't take it too far and buy us a pram or moses basket or something without talking to us first. Babygrows and bibs and bits like that are great because you will fly through so many of them but there are things you'd like to pick out yourself.

froubylou · 14/06/2013 14:32

Wish my mum would buy loads of stuff lol. Shes not very well off and I think this will be the 10th grandchild so the novelty worn off by now.

Anyone who thinks their mums or MIL's are going to be a bit silly should suggest a shopping trip together to 'research' prams and stuff. That way they get to be involved but you can tell them which one you want. and if they offer to buy it thats fine as long as it is the one you have chosen. And if not at least they will have been involved and hopefully know a bit more about what sort of stuff you like.

And if anyone wants to send an overexcited granny my way who wants to buy things feel free lol. It is nice to buy things though I agree.

Glad all the scans went well.

Had my hair coloured today for first time since being PG. Its gone a bit ginger at the roots lol and it doesn't usually. Hairdresser reckons its the hair thats grown since I got PG that has reacted funny. I don't think its too bad TBH so am going to see how I get on with it over the weekend and if not happy she'll do it again. .

I want to start buying stuff too lol. But really need to sort out all the crap the 3 of us have littered around the house before I start buying for a 4th person!

PistachioTruffle · 14/06/2013 15:10

My sister was so excited when she found out that she got us a really cute card and two sleep suits, it was so sweet of her! My mum has bought a little hat and cant wait to find out what it is so she can get more, and PIL have offered to buy the pram, which is really kind of them. I'm similar to Frouby though, we need to clear some space before we start bringing more stuff into the house! I think otherwise buying in earnest will start after the 20 week scan, though I want to get it done quite soon as I don't fancy battling Christmas shoppers with a huge bump!
I could never be one of those people who breezily says 'oh, I just bought a pack of sleepsuits and nappies at 39 weeks, I didn't see the point in doing it before'. I need to be organised Grin

FluffyDucky · 14/06/2013 15:34

Hi all. We had our amnio test this morning and got very bad news sadly. There is something very wrong with our baby, there is a lot of fluid around the brain, bowel and ribs and it is not going to survive, although there is a heartbeat at the moment. Apparently this often gets detected at 20 weeks when there is no heartbeat. We had the test done and will get the results on Tuesday to find out a bit more but we are likely going to have a termination as I could miscarry tomorrow, next week or next month, they just don't know.
It could be downs, a chromosome problem or a virus that was somehow transmitted. For some reason my bloods that were taken after the booking in never made it to the lab for the virus checks etc so they have done them again.
We are both really numb and pretty cut up, the consultant and midwife were amazing. Just got to get through the weekend now and Monday.
x

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Holly1977 · 14/06/2013 15:38

I caved and bought an adorable hungry little caterpillar 4 piece set from TK Maxx. Was in there buying stuff for my goddaughter's 1st bday tomorrow so couldn't resist! Also randomly bought my friend who I'm seeing tomorrow something for her wee boy. The thing I bought is for 3-6 months but it was too perfect to pass up. It's made my mind up though, I'm going to find out the gender after all. Make way for a massive u-turn! Thing is, there's not that much gender neutral stuff out there and buying baby clothes is just too much fun, it's really cheered me up today after being on a bit of a downer. So yeah, that's decided. Might let OH stew for a bit longer and see if I can get him to give me any massages or do any other favours as incentive to "change my mind". And yes I am evil, I know. Serves him right for giving me a hard time for farting!

I think my mum will probably buy us the big stuff like bedside cot, pram etc. I have no problem with this though would obviously like to be consulted ideally. Though not if it means spending more than a couple of hours shopping with her, she's a nightmare!

Congrats on the good scans everyone, we'll all have had them soon.

Am planning a major pamper session tonight as I'm feeling a bit frazzled with work and some other stuff. Normally on a Friday I'd get stuck into a bottle of something alcoholic but as that's no longer an option, a Lush pampering session will have to do.

Oh, I also bought a teddy bear "for the baby" definitely not for me and won't be in bed with me tonight or anything

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Featherbag · 14/06/2013 15:41

Oh Fluffy, I'm so, so sorry to hear your news. I don't know what else to say, but I'll be thinking of you.

yogafan · 14/06/2013 15:47

Oh fluffy, I am so so sorry to hear that. I would love to give you a hug right now, I hope you and your DP can take the time you need to process this and be there for each other. Be kind to yourself. Life can be so cruel, but there will be brighter times around the corner. Sounds like you gave a rough week ahead of you, come here for support as much as you need, and have you been directed to any other groups for info/support for women who are going through similar? Big big hugs for you, I am so sorry xx

kyz1981 · 14/06/2013 16:01

Fluffy, so so sorry to hear your news. you are in my thoughts xx

TakingTheStairs · 14/06/2013 16:03

fluffy I'm so sorry. It must have been very difficult to hear that news.
xxx

violetbean · 14/06/2013 16:28

Fluffy, I'm so sorry. I hope you have lots of support and can give yourself some time to grieve. Thanks

Thinking of you.

b0nker5Mum · 14/06/2013 17:24

So sorry fluffy, take care of yourself...

xx

NomDeClavier · 14/06/2013 17:48

I'm so sorry fluffy :( I can't imagine how you must be feeling now.

Do look after yourself and take it easy - don't feel guilty about just blocking the world out while your process it all.

I hope the bloods give you some answers and the hospital staff continue to be supportive and helpful.

mumoftwoboysS · 14/06/2013 17:54

fluffy I'm so sorry, how awful to have to go through this. You said amnio, I tried looking back through the posts but couldn't see, did you have a scan that showed up something previously then? So sorry, is this your first? It sounds like you're just very unlucky Sad take care of yourself and don't think for one second anything you have done could have caused this (us women are good at putting blame on ourselves) it sounds like just one of those unfortunate things that is out of your control. Take it easy and make sure you take all offers from friends/family to help you through this

13loki · 14/06/2013 17:55

So sorry fluffy

Roselau · 14/06/2013 18:42

fluffy I'm so sorry to hear your news. It's so sad. Take care of yourself xo

PistachioTruffle · 14/06/2013 18:55

Oh Fluffy, I'm so, so sorry. Take good care of yourself. Flowers

Dasie · 14/06/2013 19:32

Fluffy that is such very sad news. I hope you have lots of support and your loved ones around you to help you both get through this. x

Futterby · 14/06/2013 19:48

So, so sorry to hear that fluffy Flowers take good care of yourself Flowers x

2Labradors · 14/06/2013 19:58

fluffy I'm so sorry to hear your news. Take care of yourself x

merr · 14/06/2013 20:25

Fluffy, I've tried to type something about 5 times, but just can't find the right words.
Take care of yourself and your dp, I hope you get some answers. x

froubylou · 14/06/2013 20:54

Oh God Fluffy. How shocking and awful for you. Biggest, biggest hugs to you and your DP.

I don't know what else to say other than be kind to yourself and your DP and make sure you get all the help you can get. xxx

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