December 2013 - part 3

[Holly1977]

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1740732-December-2013-part-2

Starting yet another thread as us chatterboxes have filled up 2 already!

Jucy, I'm so sorry to hear your news. Big hugs, wish there was something more I could say.

Frouby, if you're feeling crap just fuck the housework off, I do! It'll keep.

I'm scared and excited in equal measures about the scan on Friday. Looking forward to seeing bean and being able to get on with things. But obviously scared of getting bad news like Jucy... 2 days, 1 hour and 50 minutes to go!

My friend has offered to be a birthing partner too. I may well take her up on it, I suspect she'll be more help than OH. And as I'm planning on having a home water birth and OH has already invited his bloody mum (!) think it'll be good to have a friend there. I'm not private at all, have zero issues with people seeing me naked (as my neighbours will tell you) and she's seen me throw up enough times from our party days (though never shit myself to be fair) that I'm not too fussed about that.

I feel your pain Futter, I really want a cute little bump but I just look bloated and a bit chubbier than normal. Mind you I am a slightly more, ahem, cuddly lady than some of the other pregnant women I know.

Glad it's not just me getting a pain when sneezing! I shouted out at work after I sneezed the other day - got some funny looks. Hayfever is such a nightmare - keep sneezing on the middle of the night - DP not happy!

I'm jealous of all these bumps too - I want a bump! Have been eating continuously so have probably put on weight but no cute little bump.

There's nothing cute about my bump, honest! I look ridiculous for 15 weeks!

Morning all!
I feel the uterus pain too - well I hope that's what it is. I feel it more in the evenings for some reason.
So this morning I woke up with a very full bladder, and I figured before I got up I would try to feel for my uterus, and I felt a really hard ball about 2 inches below my belly button. But I read that's way too high for it to be my uterus right now because i'm just 12.2 weeks. Then I went to pee and tried again and it was gone... So I'm guessing it was just my full bladder??? but I've never felt something like this before. weird.

Also I'm ready to punch in the face the next person who tells me that when they were pregnant they found it really easy to not drink because they just didn't feel like it. After a long stressful day at work, on my walk back I pass a few pubs and I keep dreaming of stealing someone's drink from a nearby table and running away. Am i crazy? What I wouldn't do for a nice glass of cold white wine in the evening....

On that note, I am 25 hours away from my scan - I just have to get through the day.....

oh and I feel all of you wanting a bump... weighed myself this morning and still 0 weight gain...

Rose, you can have a glass of wine every now and then if you want to! From 12 weeks (same with last pregnancy), on a Friday night DH makes a big deal of going and selecting a really nice bottle of red, and I have precisely 2 units, whatever that works out as in ml. I look forward to that treat all week, especially as pre-pregnancy we'd just buy whatever was cheap!

Well, an hour till the 12 week scan and I keep throwing up, mostly due to nerves I think. Aieeeeeeeee, wish me luck! (And good luck to you froubylou!)

Featherbag I think you're right. It's one of our best friend's birthday on Saturday, and if all is good on the scan, I think I will allow myself a couple of celebratory sips. after 3 months with no alcohol, I think one sip will get me wasted!
I'm no alcoholic, but I like my daily glass (ok occasionally bottle) of wine. My mom's theory on the fact that I'm not gaining weight is that booze used to be such a big part of my diet and I cut out a lot of calories by not drinking. hm she knows me too well.

I've been getting a bit of pain when sneezing too, and also just random pains. I think some of that is because my constipation is back with a vengeance. I've tried to avoid using Lactulose because of the hideous farting but have had to the last 2 evenings with the expected results. Can't even use it during the day as I'm at work! The other problem is it makes me thirsty so I have to drink more which means even more night time trips to the loo. And sometimes the farting wakes me up too! I know drinking more water is good but then same problem re peeing in the night. Not sure fibre sachets are advisable because I have colitis so I guess I'll just have to put up with the farting. I actually don't mind so much but OH gets a bit shirty about it which I think is VERY unreasonable. Should I post about it in AIBU?! I'm told farting becomes almost uncontrollable later on so he's just going to have to get used to it isn't he?!

I'm jealous of people with proper bumps too, glad that's not just me. Was starting to think I'm a horrible person. When ttc I was jealous of all pg people, now I'm jealous of people who are more pg than me!

Went to pg yoga last night. It was amazing, can't recommend it highly enough. A bit hippy dippy I suppose but I like all that shit and it was just soooo relaxing, felt wonderful afterwards. Though all the "connect with your baby" stuff seemed a bit odd and I kept wanting to cry. I think because I STILL don't really think I'm having a baby. Really hope reality hits home at some point before it pops out! So yeah anyway if anyone's in my area, happy to recommend my pg yoga woman. If not, find someone local to you. Honestly, it's brilliant. 1.5 hours just for you and baby to relax and do some gentle exercises, all sitting or lying down. Mostly pelvic floor and arse.

Also went back to my proper yoga class on Monday which was brilliant. Bit frustrating as I'm not allowed to do a lot of the asanas but really enjoyable too.

Don't know if I mentioned but our nuchal scan measurement was 1.1. Should be getting the combined blood results in the next few days. Must say I'm impressed with our hospital. They just book you in for the 20 weeks scan when you're there and were even able to offer me a 5.30 appointment so less stress getting there next time!

OH wants to find out the gender now and I must say I'm leaning that way too. Maybe it'll make it more real and my mum is just desperate to know so she can go properly mad in the shops. She has a properly serious shopping addiction, she buys stuff for people's kids she's never even met. So we all knew when this day finally came she'd go bat shit mental and if we know what flavour it is, she can really go for it. Plus maybe it'll make it more real for me knowing if it's Sebastian or Isabel in there. I just feel a bit embarrassed cos I was so adamant we wouldn't find out...

I declined the screening for down's syndrome (I'm having the baby either way and it wouldn't make the slightest bit of difference whether it had down's )which means the ultrasound tech didn't measure our lo's nuchal thing but I'm wishing I had asked now, I'm just so curious!

Aurora, just be glad it was only your sneezing waking him up! I woke up last night going "AAH FUCK" because my DP had elbowed me in the face while he was sleeping

Holly you could get the tech to write it down and fold it up or something, that way you would be able to not look if you wanted but it would be there if you really wanted, iyswim?

ccsays I know you'll be finished by now but good luck anyway!

Oh my god I am SUCH AN ARSE!!! Just sold all of my old maternity clothes on eBay to fund buying new stuff as I'm 2 sizes smaller than last time. Thought I'd transfer it to my bank account on way to the gym as the transfer takes 2 hours and I thought after the gym I could go on a shopping spree. I've only gone and transferred it all to the wrong sodding account! I've sent it to my old student account, which is still heftily overdrawn and I have a payment plan on. So I can't get it back, and now after all the hassle of selling and posting loads of stuff, I still have zero money for new maternity clothes. I'm having to wear yoga pants and DH's t-shirts when I'm not at work as nothing else fits, and now it's going to be at least another month before I can afford to buy anything. And the worst thing is it's my own fault, although I have no idea why PayPal reverted back to that account as the default, I haven't used it in nearly 4 years. I'm really, really gutted

Morning all! Scan went fine, but they weren't able to do the down's screening as the baby was upside down and no amount of star jumps (seriously) would convince it to move! Got a blood screening test at sixteen weeks though.

Also I just put it on Facebook saying I'd like to put myself forward for the new Doctor as I have two hearts. [geeky]

Glad it went well ccsays!

Aw Featherbag that's so unlucky :( I feel your pain with the leggings and dp's tops though. I can't afford to buy maternity clothes and I hate hate hate being stuck in leggings all the bloody time. I have a massive arse too so I must blind a few people when I go out in public.

Hi everyone, keep losing the thread as I access it from my phone!! The button on my work trousers would not close this morning so I've dug out my bump band... oh the relief Got it in Topshop during last pregnancy and found it great for the in-between stage of not being big enough for mat clothes but normal clothes getting too tight. We will be finding out the gender again this time, I loved knowing last time but this time wouldn't mind a surprise - however DH says he would like to know so we are going to find out hopefully at 20 week scan. I say 'hopefully' as I'm not sure what our hospital's policy is on letting parents know the gender. Some hospitals are a bit funny about it... Am sooo wrecked at the moment, poor DD is cutting her molars so we are having busy nights!! Chicken pox is doing the rounds at her nursery so we are on the look out for the spots at the moment, oh the joys!!

Featherbag what a NIGHTMARE!! Get a bump band if you don't already have one..

I am so jealous of those of you that have only put on 6 or 7lbs.. and even more jealous of those that have put on nothing. I am up to a stone now :(
Though I am 15 wks. Thankfully feeling well enough to not have to eat in circles anymore, so hopefully it will all even out.
I have my 16 (+3) scan on Sat of next week and my consultant thinks she should be able to tell me whether we're having a boy or a girl. YAY! I will be VERY surprised if it's a boy, I'm so convinced it's a girl.

holly

Me and DF are not sure about finding out the sex, so we are getting the tech to write in onto a piece of paper and seal it in an envolope we are taking, that way if we decide later we want to know, then we can open it together.

Morning all

WHOOP WHOOP WHOOP

Scan was brilliant. Little baby dancing around in there. Put me at 12+6 which gives me a new DD of 20/12 not that baby will know though lol. BF started filling up bless her. She doesn't have her own kids and no partner and is 40 now so probably missed her chance but shes heavily involved with my DD so will be with this one too I expect.

Futter, I haven't had the screening done either hun. The sonographer (is that what they are called?) did ask me about it and asked me why but not in an aggressive sort of way. When I explained that I wouldn't have any invasive tests done either way so no point being given a number he was lovely and said it was 100% the right way to be. But he did do a sneaky measurement in the Nuchal fold thing and said it was all absolutly normal and no reaosn for him to recommend any further tests so feel very reassured. I presume if they see something alarming (like a missing nasal bone or very thick fold) they would be obliged to point it out to you.

Feathers what a nightmare hun. I've done stuff like that before and you really could bloody cry. Is there any chance you could ring paypal and ask them to recall the payment? Might be worth a try if you do it today.

Ccsays, glad all went well at your scan too. Not long now for yours feathers xx

Holly, I was in denial all way through with first PGy. Though I knew and accepted I was pregnant it was a shock and I think I just blanked it out. You'll get used to the idea but make sure you do enjoy this PG too. I feel like I missed out on some of mine.

And the farting thing. I'm at it too lol. OH very shocked and disgusted that I do fart. But its tough. I wouldn't mind if he held back but he had a stoma fitted 18 months ago (long story) so in effect, farts through just left of his belly button. So no need for anyone to be prudish in our house lol. With regards to the constipation now I'm over 12 weeks I think its the prenatal vits that make me backed up. Am going to miss a couple of days to see if that gets things moving now we don't have to worry so much about the first 12 weeks and the folic acid thing.

If we are all constipated it will slow us down eating and digesting food properly which will mean that all the vits in the world we shove down our necks won't make any difference if we aren't absorbing them properly.

I'll probably miss 2 days and shit my pants lol. /emo/te/9.gif

Dunno what that random link is?

I'm 12 + 6 too, froubylou

Amazing news on the scans ladies! i can't help it, i need to get the nuchal done. i just need to know. i'm so bad, i would probably do the invasive test as well even with the risks. I just don't like uncertainty.
Anyways, let's hope it's a non-issue. scan is 20 hours away and this has already felt like the longest day of my life.

on a side note - any thoughts on where to get a proper maternity bathing suit in London? my boobs, which are already large, have gotten way bigger (we're talking 30G) so none of my bathing suit fit even with no weight gain. I have a really small frame so it's really hard to find anything even when i was not pregnant. I would like something that will stretch to last me the summer - a one piece preferably. Any ideas?

wow, lots of catching up to do so sorry if I don't mention all personally.

but Roselau I got my maternity swimsuit from Mamas and Papas and it's washed really well through 2 pregnancies and I'll be using it again. Not sure re big bust tho as I'm the opposite!!

Finally got some shorts! Found some in Matalan, good cheap ones (a tad on the short side) with stretchy band and tie. Now looking at the forecast in France, thinking I probably won't need the bloody things anyway!

question about maternity/bump bands- are they to cover your tum if your t-shirt is too short or to cover the top of trousers etc? Ive never used them before- do you use them so you can undo buttons/zips on trousers but cover them up?

annoyingly I've got 3 pairs of maternity jeans but all are over the bump ones so i've got nothing that I can wear in this inbetween stage, so it's either buy an under the bump pair to wear for a month or so or have my zip undone which I think it going to look pretty unsightly?? And the risk of showing the world my knickers...

great news on all the scans!! So happy/jealous 3 1/2 days to go for mine!!....

Just came back from our 12 week scan, alls good. Baby was really wriggly moving around loads and took ages to get measurements! Sonographer had me turning on my side, to try to make baby turn the way she needed.. Eventually had to empty my bladder to get the measurements. Such a lovely feeling to see it all on screen. Now the wait for the screening results!

Lovely news on all the scans and tests :)
Definitely considering one of those maternity bands to put in my jeans, having to undo top button when sitting down is a right nightmare! Never even thought of them till reading the bounty mag this morning (which, by the way, is scary! All these things to consider when buying prams/cots etc is just too much!)
16w appointment next week to get bloods done & hopefully heartbeat :D

Mumof2, the band things are to cover up and keep closed the tops of trousers that you can no longer fasten. Much less of a faff than bobbles and extenders. Apparently they're also good for when your bump gets big as a support. But yes I suppose they'd be good for that too. Unless it's the EXACT same colour as your top though, you'll be able to tell. Have you tried folding the over bump bit down on your jeans? That seems to work ok as long as you've got a long baggy ish top on. Under bump jeans were the best thing I ever bought and I flukily got a pair of like £4 on ebay. Worth a try.

Fabby news on the scan Frouby, congrats!

The annoying thing is that he farts loads and they stink. Which is fine, everyone farts and shits, even the queen. What bugs me is that it's one rule for him and one rule for me. Oh well, he's just going to have to deal with it cos it's only going to get worse. I suppose it doesn't help that I make such a big thing about it when I do fart but it's often SUCH a relief I can't help but groan with pleasure!

Must say I'm not enjoying pg too much at this point, it just feels like a big restriction on what I can do for no reason. I know there's a reason, obviously. But for whatever reason my brain can't come to terms with the fact I'm having a flipping baby so I just feel put out at all the things I can't do, eat and drink! Maybe I need to start knitting. Or maybe all the connecting with my baby at yoga will do the trick. Fuck knows! I cried at an advert the other day about mums or something and freaked out about the fact I'm going to be a mum! I think I still see myself as a carefree 21 year old rather than the responsible (erm..!) 35 year old that I actually am, or should be anyway!

Didn't know the pg vits can cause constipation, bloody hell. Right, giving them a rest for now. Thought they were pointless after 12 weeks. I eat a balanced diet, I don't need more vitamins imho.