December 2013 - part 3

[Holly1977]

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1740732-December-2013-part-2

Starting yet another thread as us chatterboxes have filled up 2 already!

Jucy, I'm so sorry to hear your news. Big hugs, wish there was something more I could say.

Frouby, if you're feeling crap just fuck the housework off, I do! It'll keep.

I'm scared and excited in equal measures about the scan on Friday. Looking forward to seeing bean and being able to get on with things. But obviously scared of getting bad news like Jucy... 2 days, 1 hour and 50 minutes to go!

My friend has offered to be a birthing partner too. I may well take her up on it, I suspect she'll be more help than OH. And as I'm planning on having a home water birth and OH has already invited his bloody mum (!) think it'll be good to have a friend there. I'm not private at all, have zero issues with people seeing me naked (as my neighbours will tell you) and she's seen me throw up enough times from our party days (though never shit myself to be fair) that I'm not too fussed about that.

Omg mum that sounds rediculous, its my third also and I still get treat like its my first, they don't listen to the hb at the 16 week appt here but my lovely midwife gave it a go anyway, I didn't have the heart to tell her i bought a Doppler and listen most nights
It was lovely of her to try non the less and I appreciated it.

I hope also they don't mess you about next week.

That's rubbish mumof2, you should get the same care if it's your 1st or 15th. I think it's a real post code lottery. Was talking to my colleague who's wife's pg and they seem to be having a very different experience to me in terms of scans, booking appointments etc.

I had my 16 week appointment this morning, bit of a waste of time tbh. It wasn't my normal mw as she's on holiday so it was a young slip of a thing and a mw assistant. I failed at the first hurdle not taking my notes or any pee. So they got me to pee in a tiny test tube then said I should take the bottle away and use it again! Err, no. She explained that they rent the room from the GP practice so don't have a clinical waste bin. Right, so it's not about saving the environment then, it's cos you don't have a clinical waste bin. I said I didn't want to carry a bottle of pee around in my bag so they said I could throw the pee down the toilet and put the bottle in the bin. Can't quite grasp the logic tbh. It's clinical waste so you won't put it in a normal bin, even though pee is sterile. But it's for me to do it? Okaaaay. I've never heard of people reusing pee pots and I'm certainly not about to start.

Anyway, all blood results are normal, bp was fine, urine clear and that was that. I was only in there 10 minutes. She didn't even mention anything about listening to the heartbeat and I didn't say. Nor did I say anything about how I've been feeling, just didn't feel comfortable with them at all and got the distinct impression they were on a tight timetable. The woman after me went straight in so I think they'd only allowed 15 minutes per appointment, which is a shame since we were 5 minutes late starting.

Anyway, I'll stop moaning now! I forgot to take the doppler home last night so will have a listen tonight instead. I've been meditating for the past 3 mornings and, this may be a coincidence, but I have been feeling a bit better, calmer. Or maybe the hormones are finally settling down. Who knows...

:) Hi everyone!

It's almost Friday!

Shhh, Queen, I'm working Fri-Mon so no weekend for me (in a boiling old peoples home) enjoys yours though!

Really hoping I get Froubys housework booster soon, it looks like my first shared house here at the mo, including the living washing up pile .....;(

I think its really unfair that they treat your 2nd/3rd etc births different, we are still just as concerned about the preg, I think i'm actually more worried second time round.

Holly, mine was a waste of time too. Not the issues you had, but I was given a pot at my 8 week appointment to reuse each time! My mw spent 10 minutes talking about what I can't eat. Think it would have made more sense to do that at 8 week app, seems a bit too late nearly halfway through. But what do I know?

That is ridiculous mumof2, it's such a pain in the arse to be heard sometimes isn't it?

I've had a strange thing this morning. I was really sick in the night and cramps started. Managed to sleep but woke up often. I still had cramps when I woke up, went to work (no blood, just pain) and got upset when I was talking to a friend at work. She got the first aid lady. I phoned drs. They said they couldn't see me, so to phone the antenatal clinic. I phoned them and they said they couldn't see me as I'm not 20 weeks so to go to a&e. I feel like the dr in a&e fobbed me off. Said its probably a bug. I said I know the the difference between stomach pains and crampy period type pains. I asked if I needed a scan. He said no. My mind hasn't been put at ease so I'm not really sure what to do!

So, any nice plans for those with a weekend? (Sorry merr)

merr

I'll have fun for the both of us....although weekends are full of toddler fuelled activities/family time and messy play...the result is always an epic disaster.

I love my son, I do. I generally just don't seem to like any of his friends or their mothers. I just wish DS could find ONE friend in our current neighbourhood whose mummy isn't 'soft' in the head and ridiculously competitive about everything. Since DS has ASD we are just happy to be included in activities, but sometimes I feel that we only serve the purpose of being the bottom line for comparison because DS isn't always meeting whatever milestones everyone else is trying to reach. 

I did meet a lovely lady a few months ago, who also has a DC with ASD; but I haven't heard back from her since our last play date and since I'm quite introverted I'll just leave it. 

It's Ramadhan...and although I don't really follow any religion, my DH seems to be in denial about where he stands. Every day he says he's going to fast, and everyday he eats double his usual amount. I think the idea of fasting makes him hungrier. What I don't like though, is how he pretends like he has been fasting when his parents call in the evenings.  I like the celebrations and family events generally, but the timings for this Ramadhan are super difficult. For anyone who may be observing Ramadhan, happy Ramadhan!

Well I'm sorry but I think it's ridiculous, no way am I reusing pee pots! And as my colleague pointed out, unless you wash it out properly, it's going to potentially contaminate the sample anyway.

Sorry to hear that Ganet, it sounds scary. Could you phone the GP and get them to refer you to the EPU? The first time I went I arranged it all on the phone, didn't even have to go see the GP. You could always say you have had a bleed, even if you haven't. (don't flame me guys!) But you will probably get a scan then which should hopefully put your mind at rest. And this probably won't help but for me anyway, bowel cramps and period type cramps often feel very similar. It probably is a bug but I'd want proper reassurance too in your shoes. Good luck!

It'd not really read everything, just dropping in quickly to say that Holly, you don't need a sterile sample for what they're testing for :) it's much better for the environment to reuse them, we do it at my surgery :)

I'm sure you'll be fine ganet, but that does sound scary :( hope you're feeling better

Aww Harry sounds uncomfortable--but what about pregnancy isn't? Do you think they could be round ligament pains?

Also, I've noticed that first timers take longer to look pregnant.

i don't remember if this is your first or not sorry for assuming. x

Sounds normal harry :) I've only just started to look really pregnant and I'm 20 weeks on Saturday (it's my first).

harry I've got all sorts of twinges and stretching pains. When I wake up with a full bladder in te morning my whole belly is tender. Tip from a friend on the round ligament pain when you sneeze is to raise a knee. Really works but a surprise sneeze standing up the other day still had me yelping in pain.

My new symptom is palpitations - feeling my heart in my chest and sometimes feels irregular. Looked on the web and its very common due to all that extra blood and the hormones. Still crap though as I'm pretty stressed at the moment so keeps feeling like panic attack. I miss my anti anxiety medication :(

Off up to the wonderful north this weekend to see family in law. I was going to stay home (main purpose of trip is for OH to go to event at the railway museum in York) but I'm such a basket case at the moment I can't be left on my own. I'd Just end up a nervous wreck. And it's also good as we get to go and scope out my sis in laws baby stash... It's the 4-5 hours in a car I'm not looking forward to.

P.s. I still can't see this thread anywhere on my threadsor on the boards. only through a direct link... Spooky....

congratulations harry! babies are the best.

Had my anomaly scan yesterday, everything looks perfect....thank god!

He says he wasn't sure he would be able to see the sex of baby (we had an envolope for him to write it inside) just in case we decided we wanted to know later on. I never looked away from the screen as he didn't know and then I thought hold on..............that is clearly a penis (have 2 boys and I know what it looks like on a scan) as soon as I saw it he asked for my envolope as he said he knew what it was now.........yeah so do I.

Looks like we will be having boy number 3
Haven't looked in envolope though as the assistant who bought it to us said that's not 100% mind so don't go painting any rooms or buying any clothes........what the hell!!!

Got a growth scan at 28 weeks so guess we will ask again then

Had all my scans at this hospital and they've never said that about sex of baby before, I'm all confused now.

Harry for a first pregnancy it sounds about right that you're only just starting to look pregnant- my sis in law hardly looked pregnant at around 24 weeks! I, on the other hand, this being my third, already look around 24weeks at only 16weeks! The skin/muscles just expand much more easily from previous stretching! (And I've had those stretching pains- painful when I got up the other day after sitting-a made me gasp in pain) also had palpitations in previous pregnancies so don't worry it's just another side effect/symptom!

Congrats alyssa sounds pretty certain that you're having a boy then! I guess they can never be 100% till baby makes an entrance. I think 3 boys, dynamics wise with siblings will be easier. I'm thinking if I have a girl she may feel left out as my boys play together so much and are so close. But either way I'm sure they'll all play together at some point! Are you happy with this revelation?

We're not finding out at our scan but I'll be looking at the screen to see if I can tell!!..

I'm definately happy mum as I love little boys and don't really know what I'd do with a girl, plus it would've been first girl on DF side and I can only imagine the arguments about spoiling etc which future mil already admitted she would do.

DF is still clinging to the hope I'm wrong i think( since we never actually got told and its me saying boy....... But I'm right lol)
He looked quite gutted and that made me really sad as to me a healthy baby is all that matters

Yeah I think I'd like a girl for the reasons that it would be nice to have someone to do girl stuff with when they're older but there's no guarantee she would be a girly girl and like doing the same stuff as me anyway!! A more completely superficial and shallow reason would be for the lovely clothes but on the plus side I'd be able to save money if it was a boy by using hand me downs!

And the spoiling bit worries me - read an article in DM about a woman who had 3 boys the a girl and she turned out to be a complete spoilt little brat! (Strangely she attributes this to some kind of devil-like personality trait rather than her parenting!!) I'd rather have a lovely easygoing boy over a high maintenance girl any day!

I can see how DF's reaction could make you feel sad- a healthy baby is first and foremost what's important. I find any initial disappointment vanishes as soon as baby is born i was secretly hoping for a girl second time- but when my dark haired brown eyed boy appeared it didn't matter any more.

Music I'm so glad everything went well, tale your time with your recovery and I hope you're back to fighting fit soon!

Whoever mentioned the snotty discharge, if you do find out what it is, can you tell me please as I seem to have it too now!

The stretchy pains aren't too bad for me second time round, although first trimester was much more painful! Getting some movements now, but only very mild and very irregular. 19+1 today.

I look 'proper' pregnant now, but not in my uniform so people who don't know at work get quite a surprise in the changing room at the end of a shift, when the bump's at its most enormous! I ended up being designated 'runner' for emergencies yesterday - had to run not a very large distance carrying equipment, managed the run fine but the bottom of my bump was SO painful afterwards! I'll not be doing that again!

Stuck in is morning waiting for Crazy Health Visitor to come do DS's 2-year check

Morning ladies!

I'm going for my anomaly scan this afternoon!! Very excited and nervous all over again! I'm 19+6 today. We are determined to not find out if its a girl or a boy as we are both happy either way but I hope my willpower holds out!

Hope you all have a speedy Friday and a lovely weekend

So tired of being sick still every other day especially when I'm at work, silly hormones! Am I the only one still suffering with MS?

harry I'm having those stretchy pains & twinges too, some are quite mild and some are sharp

Good luck dasie i hope everything is ok.

Yeah I wanted a girl second time too mum and I was the same when my blue eyed black haired little bundle popped out

I guess we BOTH if I'm being honest wanted a daddy's little girl for him as I've got 2 mummies boys lol and the pink stuff is soooo cute but I have 2 nieces so ill just have to take force them to go shopping with me lol.

This is definately our last baby, I'm getting too old for this
How about you mum, any more?

On the up side, every since yesterday I'm getting kicked very often now, its like he's saying yes I'm in here lol

Anyone else suffering with headaches? They seem to only affect me at work (work

Argh stupid iphone!

..On a pc all day. Has recent eye test too :s

Will mention it at my 16 week appointment today..